12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 5 Zhang and Relax (1)
1.don't be too busy

Character determines my success.My character is very hard, I will try my best to do something, even if I don't succeed, I will not be depressed.In life, I am happy 95% of the time.No matter what happens, as soon as I go back to my room, I can sleep until dawn. I have never suffered from insomnia since high school.

——Yang Lei (Managing Director of Pilot Capital, graduated from the Department of Mechanical and Electrical Engineering of Tsinghua University)

It is said that in ancient times, there was a big businessman with an eccentric temperament. Every time he had a dispute with someone or got angry, the businessman would run home at a very fast speed, run around his house and land three times, and then sit on the ground and pant heavily.

Decades passed in a flash, and the businessman gradually became old, but he also became the richest person in the area.But whenever he argues and gets angry with people, he still does the same thing—running around his house and land three times.

"Why did he run around the house and the land three times when he got angry?" People were very confused.But no matter how others ask, the businessman just doesn't open his mouth.

Until one day, the merchant was very old, and his house and land were too large.He was angry again that day. He leaned on a cane and walked around his land and house with difficulty. It took him a whole day to walk three times, and then he sat on the ground out of breath.

The grandson who had been running around behind the businessman begged, "Grandpa! For your body, you can no longer run around the land when you are angry like before. Also, can you tell me why you run around the land when you are angry? The land ran three laps?"

This time, the businessman revealed the secret that had been hidden for many years.He said: "When I was young, whenever I quarreled, argued, or got angry with people, I would run around the house and the land three times. While running, I thought that my house is so small and the land is so little, how can I be free and angry? As soon as I think of this, my anger dissipates, and I continue to work hard."

The grandson asked again: "Grandpa, you are the richest person here now, why are you running around the house and the land?"

The businessman said: "I still get angry now. When I am angry, I run around the house and the land. While running, I think that my house is so big and the land is so much. Why bother with a poor man? When I think of this, the anger disappears. "

Don't worry about whether this story is true or not, just look at the truth:

We always discuss life, discuss life, what is life and life?In fact, it is the passage of time.Franklin said: "When your time is up, your mission is over." But most people in life have run out of time and their mission is not yet over.Their mission was forcibly ended when there were still too many regrets.But who can blame this?God will not give anyone one more second. When we have a lot of time, we don’t know how to cherish it. We waste it on Zhang’s parents, Li’s family, gossip, and idleness. God can’t violate the laws of nature and let us How wronged is he to make a fortune with idle articles, and become a big weapon with idleness!
Instead of being idle, do something more meaningful.

Some people say that time is money and time is benefit.In fact, time can only be transformed into money and benefits with those who know how to cherish it.For some, time is a torture.

There are a lot of people in life who seem to be born to be angry. They get angry this time and that, and they never forget to be angry even in their dreams!For them, life is about being angry.They not only torment themselves, but also torment others.There is no doubt that this is not a problem with life, and it is not a problem with those who so-called irritate them, but a problem with themselves.

The great philosopher Blake said: "The hard-working bee has no time to be sad." My wife who didn't take a philosophy class that day also had a sudden inspiration one day and said: "Honey, I know you are very busy. You are so busy." There is no time to be angry, but please take some time out of your busy schedule to explain to me: why am I always upset?"

The answer is simple: Anyone who finds himself distracted all the time has nothing to do with which to devote himself fully.Life is a constant race against time.A busy man has no troubles, unless he is busy looking for troubles.

There is a koan in Zen Buddhism: Dazhi, a disciple of Foguang, an eminent monk in the Tang Dynasty, returned to his master after 20 years of studying abroad, and asked Foguang with concern: "Master, how have you been doing in the past 20 years?"

Fo Guang said: "Very good, very good. I preach scriptures, write and write every day. I swim in the sea of ​​Fa like a fish. There is no life in the world that makes me happier than this. Every day, I am busy and happy. "

Dazhi said: "Master, you are getting older, you should spend more time on physical and mental cultivation."

The Zen master said: "It's late at night, go and rest. We'll talk about it later."

In the early morning of the next day, while Dazhi was still asleep, there were bursts of chanting and the sound of wooden fish in Buddha Guang's room.Throughout the morning, Foguang took the trouble to guide and speak to the believers who came to worship the Buddha, and talked about the Dharma.When it was almost noon, when the conversation between Master and believers came to an end, Dazhi took advantage of the gap and asked: "Master, you have been so busy every day after we have been separated for 20 years. But what do I think?" Won't you grow old?"

Fo Guang chuckled: "It's not that I'm not old, it's that I don't have time to grow old."

"There is no time to grow old" actually means that there is no old concept in mind.Confucius said: "As a human being, he forgets food when he is angry, forgets worries when he is happy, and does not know that old age is coming." If a person is pursuing a career, he can even forget about eating and sleeping.The happiness obtained in the process of pursuit can also make people forget other troubles, and even entering old age and approaching death, there is no time to think about it.It is not difficult to understand that scientists such as Newton and Einstein, who are familiar to modern people, often forget to eat and sleep to find out the truth.They love their work and regard it as the only pursuit in their life, and they have reached the state of selflessness.This is the highest state of life, even "I" can be forgotten, how can it be possible to pay attention to and care about some insignificant little things?
2.Find something to do when you are bored

Philosophy is the economics of life. If you learn philosophy, your life will become very efficient, and you will not spend time on those trivial troubles. You know what you want and what you don’t want. This kind of life is more refreshing and more pleasant Envious.

——Fu Peirong (Dean of the Department of Philosophy and Director of the Research Institute of National Taiwan University, who gave a speech at Tsinghua University)

There is a proverb in India: The house is empty to a man without children, his heart is empty to a man without friends, all directions are empty to a fool, everything is empty to a poor man.The "emptiness" mentioned here refers to the emptiness and boredom we often say, and it is also what netizens call "emptiness, loneliness and coldness" and so on.

I have quite a few boring netizens.As soon as they calm down every day and want to earn some manuscript fees to support their family, they go online, and they will shake you as soon as they come up: "Handsome guy, let's talk!"

"What are you talking about?" For the sake of calling us a handsome guy, I had to reply.

"Whatever, I'm bored anyway. How about we talk about the end of the world! Do you think the Mayans are reliable? If they are reliable, I won't be reviewing for the final..."

I was speechless when I met such a boring person.

If you are bored, find something to do.

Why are people bored?The first is that he has time to be bored.I don't know about others, but I don't have time to be bored at all.My time is always in a state of not enough, I have too many manuscripts in my hands, pressing and pressing, pushing and pushing, how can I have time to be bored?

People who have something to do are not bored. It is not difficult to find examples in life.For example, some middle-aged and elderly people who have just retired, when they were working, they used to eat delicious food and do whatever they want, but when they suddenly retire, they always feel that life is boring, and they feel that the world does not need themselves.In fact, everyone has to turn around if the earth is missing. The key is to know what you need.

We should find ways to get busy and enrich ourselves.If you are retired and don’t plan to contribute to the society, then learn a musical instrument, or learn painting, calligraphy, etc. If you learn something interesting from these things, you will be busy for a while. You are busy.If you don’t like this, just read books, you can’t finish reading all the books in the world in ten lifetimes.It doesn't matter if you don't like reading, you can take your grandson, walk the dog, raise flowers, or go to the chess and card room if you can't, but you can't just stay at home and think wildly.

But being busy doesn't necessarily cure boredom.For example, a friend of mine is so busy every day that he gets up at [-] o'clock in the morning and rushes to work, and works overtime in front of the computer after midnight at night. It stands to reason that he would not be bored, but on the contrary, in his words: "There are always thirty or so days a month when I don't want to go to work, it's so boring!"

A pastor in the West once said: The happiest thing in the world is to do what you like and make money from it.My friend, no doubt, was doing a job he didn't like.In fact, letting a person do something he doesn't like for a long time, the inner feeling is far more than simple boredom.No matter how successful a person is, as long as he doesn't like it, his feelings can only be depressed, even sad and unfortunate.Tsinghua once had a negative example-Liu Haiyang, the writer Bi Shumin mentioned him in a speech at Tsinghua: "He applied for Tsinghua University, and he filled in the major of biology. His mother changed it to computer, and he changed it back. His mother changed it back for him. When he wanted to change it again, his mother said that if you want to change it again, I will tear up the volunteer form. I am also a mother. I think Liu Haiyang’s mother’s move is very fierce, powerful enough Yes, the pressure on Liu Haiyang is also huge..."

But that doesn't mean we have to change careers and do what we like.It is impossible for God to take care of everyone.Many times, what we do is simply out of our control.But what you need at this time is not to change your career, but to change your mood and improve your adaptability.Qian Weichang, a famous scientist and the father of modern Chinese mechanics, once said: I don’t have a major, and what the country needs is my major!It's not just an adaptation, it's a great sentiment.

American success master Dale Carnegie also said: "If you can't find happiness in your work, then you can't find it anywhere else." Carnegie also told a very interesting story in the book:
When Alice came home one evening, she was exhausted.Headache, back pain, she was so tired that she didn't even bother to eat, she just wanted to go to bed.After repeated persuasion from her mother, she reluctantly sat down at the table.Suddenly, the phone rang and it was her boyfriend who asked her out for a dance.Alice's eyes suddenly radiated light, and her spirit instantly cheered up.She rushed upstairs quickly, changed into her beloved sky blue dress, and rushed out of the house like a gust of wind.At midnight, Miss Alice, who was supposed to be tired more and more tired, came back. Instead of feeling tired, she was so excited that she couldn't sleep.

Carnegie concluded: Why was Alice so exhausted a few hours ago, and so refreshed a few hours later?Is she really that tired?affim.But the cause of fatigue is not the fatigue of work, but the boredom of work.We have to learn to love our work.

It’s not enough to just love our work, we also have to learn to love our whole life.There is no shortage of workaholics in modern society, but people who can coordinate work and life just right.The ancients said: "The east corner of the lost, the mulberry elm harvested." However, the situation of modern people is often "the mulberry elm harvested, and the east corner lost".We are busy making money and pursuing material things all day long. Our homes made of steel and concrete have all kinds of entertainment equipment, but once we stop the work at hand and want to enjoy life, we always feel that there is something missing. What, lost something, I always feel very empty in my heart, life is like a pool of stagnant water, lifeless, life is like a meal without salt, tasteless.When friends sit together, they don't talk about anything except their interests. Even the partners who share the bed and fight side by side seem to be drifting away and becoming strangers.All of these are because we pay too much attention to things outside of us, but we desolate our spiritual home.

So, no matter how busy you are, don't forget to take care of your heart.Let your heart be enriched, and your life can be truly enriched.

3.Run like the sky, bear like the earth

Tsinghua has cultivated us to work hard, cultivate a sense of responsibility in order to realize our ideals, and cultivate our ability to execute and innovate. Such a will has influenced many Tsinghua people.Including the current Internet industry, there are many Tsinghua people and Tsinghua teams who have the same spirit. "Continuous self-improvement, social integrity" is very simple to say, but it is not easy to do it, especially when we leave Tsinghua University to do things in the society, we are faced with the pressure of fierce competition. Feel it as a form of support.I feel that what Tsinghua has given is a steady stream of power, and I hope that after leaving Tsinghua, I can still use it to guide myself at all times.In terms of brand, Tsinghua is a brand, a strength, an innovation, a responsible brand, and a very good education for us.

——Wang Leilei (Chairman and CEO of Kongkong.com, graduated from the Electronic Engineering Department of Tsinghua University)
Wang Leilei is a graduate of the Electronic Engineering Department of Tsinghua University in 96.After graduation, he successively worked in China Great Wall Computer Software Company and Shantou Yifeng Futures Brokerage Co., Ltd., and later founded Beijing Yinchengzhi Technology Co., Ltd., and later joined TOM.COM Internet Group as the general manager of TOM China Operations.According to netizens, he had two almost legendary stories during this period:

Once, Wang Leilei was attending an event and ran into some acquaintances at the scene. He went up to shake hands and say hello to everyone.When he stretched out his hand to one of the women, the other woman raised her head and said helplessly, "Lei Lei, why don't you even know your mother?" It turned out to be his own mother.Whether it was because he was too hasty at the time, or because he hadn't come home for too long, that he failed to recognize his mother all of a sudden, outsiders don't know.

Another time, Wang Leilei's mother came to the office of TOM Company.She told the company staff who received her: "Nothing, just haven't seen Lei Lei for a long time, and I want to see him." It was the busiest stage of TOM's online listing process at that time, and Wang Leilei was not in the company.After waiting in his son's office for a long time, he didn't see him back to the company. Finally, the mother had to go home with a stack of the latest photos of her son.

Wang Leilei is a well-known filial son in the industry.In his own words, his greatest wish is to make his parents and those around him live a better and happier life.However, many times he can't do it, because for parents and relatives, having time to accompany each other is the happiest thing.

This is the feeling of a successful person, and it is also the price that must be paid for success!It is also a price that many unsuccessful people are unwilling to pay.

Ten years ago, I was still working on a construction site. One day after get off work, we sat and chatted together. An older worker asked a younger worker: What do you think about your life?The other party replied: My wish is to be able to eat well, drink well, wear well, marry a beautiful daughter-in-law, and have a lot of money, but I can't make it hard.The older fellow from the same country joked: It seems that you can only rob the bank.

There are not a few people in the world who have similar thoughts.Not long ago, a research institute in the United States pointed out that according to the survey, at least 75% of Americans confessed in the survey that they had thought of robbing a bank.

Although these people are just thinking about it, it is by no means a good phenomenon.Regardless of whether it will lead to an increase in the crime rate, at least it will cause a person's mentality to become negative.The ancients said: "Heaven moves vigorously, and a gentleman strives for self-improvement." In other words, if you can't strive for self-improvement, you can't be called a gentleman, you can't be a gentleman, and if you can't be a gentleman, you can only be a villain or a bad person. A philistine.

"Constant self-improvement, social integrity" - this is the school motto of Tsinghua University.According to Mr. Zhang Qizhi, a famous historian and professor of the Department of History of Tsinghua University, the lesson started from Liang Qichao, one of the four mentors of Tsinghua University.Professor Zhang said: In 1914, Mr. Liang (Qichao) gave lectures at Tsinghua Academy (the predecessor of Tsinghua University) for the first time. He started from the book "Yi Zhuan" and focused on the Qian hexagrams in the 64 [-] hexagrams. Hekun hexagrams, in which Qian hexagrams refer to "heaven", talk about the operation of the sky, the spirit of the sky, that is, "heaven is moving and healthy", that is, the sky is constantly running, and nature is constantly running.What should that person do?Correspondingly, a gentleman keeps forging ahead with "continuous self-improvement".What does the Kun hexagram refer to?It refers to "earth". What are the characteristics of the earth?All houses and trees are on the earth, and people and all sentient beings are also on the earth. The earth contains all things, so the hexagram Kun is "geography Kun".What should a gentleman do?A gentleman "carries things with great virtue", and his morality and knowledge are very thick, just like the earth carries all things on his body.After the lecture, Mr. Liang said, that’s all for today, and I would like to give you two sentences, one is “self-improvement”, and the other is “good deeds”, to encourage everyone, these two sentences are very good as a motto.Later, these two sentences became the school motto of Tsinghua University.

(End of this chapter)