12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 6 Zhang and Relax (2)
In his speech at Tsinghua University, Yu Minhong, president of New Oriental Training Group, explained his understanding of "self-improvement and social integrity" from another angle. He said: "I think there are two concepts of 'self-improvement'. The first is to strengthen oneself, Secondly, while strengthening yourself, you need someone to help you and grow together with you. Of course, you must also remember to help each other and give back to the society. , but not the patent of Tsinghua people, it is applicable to every young man with aspirations...Of course, we can choose to live a comfortable life, no one forces you to go to Tsinghua University, no one forces you to get high scores in exams, this world will never There is a choice. There will be pain to move forward. No one does not say that the college entrance examination is painful, but why do people choose to move forward in pain? Because people are looking for a certain point in the future. This point may be a point of happiness or a point of achievement. Willing to pay now. This is what distinguishes us from animals. Humans are willing to work harder today for the future. Why are we willing to endure the pain of today? It is because we know that if we don’t pay, the future of life will be more painful. Happiness Forever is a point, and struggle and pain are a line, and the point can only be reached by walking the line."

Just as Yu Minhong said, "Constant self-improvement and social integrity" are not the patents of Tsinghua people. The "Book of Changes" is the beginning of the entire Chinese civilization. Any descendant of the Yellow Emperor who is not willing to be mediocre should operate like the sky and bear like the earth. Use "self-improvement, social virtue" to guide your direction and inspire your own steps. , Living up to its historical mission.

4.Only by letting go of the burden can we go further

We won't think too much, let go of the burden of the defending champion, we will have more opportunities, and we can go further!

——Li Bo (Head Coach of Tsinghua University)
My cousin is a good summarizer.When I was in middle school, one summer, my mother and I went to my grandma's house to help cut wheat.At that time, wheat harvesters were not used in the vast rural areas, and everyone could only carry forward the true qualities of working people, and cut wheat with sickles under the scorching sun.At dinner in the evening, everyone chatted while eating, and everyone said that today is really tired. Yunyun, my cousin interrupted: "I don't think anyone is as tired as my aunt (my mother). She shouted tired while she was working. After shouting all day, I must be more tired than others!"

The life of modern people is roughly like this.People may not all be like my mother, crying tired while working, but people will think about other things while working, such as success, such as after success, such as what to do in case of failure?etc.

There is no doubt that thinking about things like this can be tiring.Not only is it tiring, but it is also a drag on your career.

The British philosopher Qiuston said: "The reason why angels can fly is because they have a light attitude towards life." Regarding things and things, if we can't be chic and light, then the more we want to control things, The more it will control us in turn.

Success is the craziest thing, and failure is the most frustrating thing.The longing and obsession with success is itself a huge and negative influence.In other words, the more people want to succeed, the more difficult it is to succeed.People who are more afraid of failure are more likely to fail.

Many people have heard the legend of "Yi shooting nine suns". In fact, there really was a great archer named Hou Yi in history.But even a sharp archer like Hou Yi, once he bears the burden of his heart, he will not be able to perform at his original level.For example, once, King Xia asked Hou Yi to shoot an arrow target made of animal skin, and said: "If you hit the target, you will be rewarded with 1 taels of gold; if you miss the target, you will be deprived of your fiefdom." After hearing this, Hou Yi said, He suddenly became tense, his face turned red and then pale, his chest heaved and heaved, and he couldn't calm down no matter what.He drew the bow and shot two arrows in a row, which didn't even touch the edge of the target.The king of Xia asked the ministers what was the reason, and one of the ministers explained: "Houyi usually shoots arrows with a hundred shots. Today, he was hurt by the emotion of worrying about gains and losses. The rewards and punishments set by the king became his burden. Therefore, he His performance is very abnormal. If people can get rid of the emotions of worrying about gains and losses, ignore heavy rewards and heavy punishments, and train hard, then no one in the world will be worse than Hou Yi."

Success is because of attitude, and failure is also because of attitude.This is most evident in sports stars, here is just one example:
Han Yuzhen was a famous table tennis player in my country in the 70s and 16s, and was recognized as a master in China at that time.At the 1962th World Table Tennis Championships, she and Li Furong won the mixed doubles runner-up.However, such a promising player directed the "self-mutilation" scandal that shocked the world at the time before a major match, which not only discredited the Chinese table tennis world, but also marked his own sports career and even his entire life. marked by tragedy.To this day, her approach is still not understood.It was October 10, when the Chinese table tennis team visited Japan for the first time. In the first match in Nagoya, Han Yuzhen teamed up with teammates Liang Lizhen and Wang Jian, and they defeated the Japanese team, the three-time champion of the World Championships, and got off to a good start. .However, one night before the second game, she was so nervous that she couldn't sleep. The desire for victory and worry about failure made her throw away the rackets of two teammates, cut her own wrists, and lied Call someone an assassin!Why is she doing this?It turned out that he was afraid that Wang Jian would surpass himself.Han Yuzhen also admitted that she always had this kind of worry. Long before entering the national team, she once secretly hid a teammate's racket in the water tank.

Because this incident seriously affected the image of the Chinese table tennis team, Han Yuzhen was immediately expelled from the national team.But after returning to China, she was in surprisingly good condition, winning many battles as before. In April 1964, Han Yuzhen also won the women's singles and women's doubles championships at the National Table Tennis Championships.In order to give her a chance, the national team recalled her.But in the Beijing Eight Nations Invitational Tournament not long after, she was defeated by herself again - her opponent, Naoko Fukatsu, had never beaten her, and after the start of the game, Han Yuzhen played two games in a row, but in the third game, Naoko Fukatsu caught up by a few points At that time, Han Yuzhen's confidence began to waver and gradually collapsed. As a result, she lost three games in a row and lost the game.

There is such a legend circulating in the market: During the competition, Chinese coaches often say to the athletes: Come on, you will have a house if you win!The American coach said, come on, you don't lose anything if you lose!There is no need to pursue the authenticity of this legend, but the truth is worth pondering for everyone.That is, people should not have too much utilitarianism.Even in order to succeed, you have to maintain a sense of balance.The ancients said, "A man should act with a clear heart." We have worked hard and struggled, and it is enough to have a clear heart.Furthermore, "There is no clear ambition unless you are indifferent, and there is no long-distance unless you are quiet", and you can't hold back your crazy mood. How can you endure loneliness and pursue diligently in this bustling world of feasting and feasting?How can you calm down and deal with the right and wrong on the road to success?What do you use to comfort yourself who failed again, and then continue to embark on a new journey?Don't worry about success, it will come naturally when it comes.Too much entanglement will only affect our normal performance.Only by unloading the mental burden can you better grasp the essence of things and the law of success.

5.Let the chasing pace stop

A happy life is like a sugar cube that lures children to take medicine, and more like an electric rabbit that lures dogs to race in a dog park.A few minutes or a few days of pleasure have earned us a lifetime of suffering.We hope it will come, we hope it will stay, and we hope it will come again—these three sentences summarize the entire history of human endeavor.

——Qian Zhongshu (modern famous writer, literature researcher, graduated from Tsinghua University)

I once read such a small article in Yilin magazine:

In Australia, there is a prairie called "springlook", where the grass grows particularly fat, so the sheep there grow very fast.Whenever the flock develops to a certain level, the flock that walks ahead will be able to eat grass, while the flock that walks behind can only eat "leftovers" and cannot fill their stomachs.As a result, the flock of sheep in the back will run forward desperately, and the flock of sheep in front will naturally not be far behind. After eating the grass in front of them, they will also run forward desperately.In this way, the flocks of sheep are unwilling to lag behind in order to compete for food, and a very spectacular scene is formed on the grassland. The flocks of sheep chase each other and keep running in the same direction.But at the end of the grassland was a cliff, and the flock of sheep ran to the edge and couldn't hold their feet, so they jumped off the cliff involuntarily.

The pursuit of innocence, the guilt is greed.

Sheep jump off the cliff because they can't control their feet; human beings fall into the abyss because they can't control their hearts.

In today's society, batch after batch of people are tied to the chariot of desire by themselves, willingly put on the legendary red dancing shoes, and dance wildly in this material world, unable to stop.Work, career, money, power, favor, future... One by one, one by one, one by one, urges us to run wildly, occupy all our space, exhaust all our time, but never finish the day.

It is true that people cannot have desires, otherwise they will have no motivation to move forward; but people cannot have greed, greed is a bottomless pit, and you will never be able to fill it.

Life may be a one-way street, but pursuit is not.The road of pursuit should have a return journey, otherwise why should we pursue it?

(End of this chapter)