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Chapter 151

Chapter 15 Section 9 How much is face worth?

How much is face worth, why bother to "suffer for face"? ? ?
When Bessie was in her first year of university, she had only 5 rubles a month for living expenses, which should have been enough, but she often felt short of money.Sometimes classmates invited her to parties, and she had to say "yes," and it was hard to say "no," even if it meant missing her lunch the next day. ?
This morning, her aunt invited her out to dinner.In fact, Bessie had only 20 shillings left until the end of the month, but she felt that she "couldn't say no"! ?

Bessie knew of a decent little café where you could get lunch for three shillings a head.That would leave her with 3 shillings to use until the end of the month. ?
"Well," said my aunt, "where are we going? I never eat too much at lunch, one is enough. Let's go somewhere better!"?
Bessie led her in the direction of the little café, when suddenly her aunt pointed to the "Elegant Cafe" across the street and said, "Isn't that nice? That looks nice."?
"Well, well, if you like it better than where we're going," said Bessie.She can't say, "My dear aunt, I don't have enough money to take you to that luxurious place, it's too expensive, and it costs a lot of money." Because she's thinking, "Maybe it's enough to buy a dish." of."?
The waiter brought the menu, and her aunt looked at it and said, "How about this?"

It was a French-style chicken dish, the most expensive on the menu: 7 shillings.Bessie ordered the cheapest for herself?vegetable--?Only 3 shillings.In this way, she has 10 shillings left over from the money used at the end of the month.No, 9 shillings, because she had to give the waiter 1 shilling! ?

"Madam, is there anything else you would like?" said the waiter, "We have caviar." "Caviar!" cried her aunt, "ah! wonderful! may I have some?"?
Bessie couldn't say, "Oh, you can't, then I'll only have 5 shillings to use until the end of the month." So she ordered a large order of caviar, a glass of wine, and a chicken.She had only four shillings left, which would buy her bread and cheese for a week.However, she had just finished eating the chicken when she saw a waiter passing by with a cream cake. "Hey!" said her aunt, "those cakes look so good I can't help them! Just a small one." There were only three shillings left. ?
Then the waiter brought some more fruit, which she must have eaten.And of course some coffee, especially after they had such a good lunch.No la!Not even the 1 shilling for the waiter. ?
The bill came: twenty shillings.Bessie put twenty shillings on the plate, no tip from the waiter.Her aunt looked at the money, and then at Bessie. "Is that all your money?" asked the aunt. ?
"Yes, Aunt."?
"It's kind of you to treat me all to a nice lunch - but it's so silly."?
"Oh, no, aunt." "Are you studying languages ​​at university?"

"right."?
"Among all languages, which word is the most difficult to pronounce?"?
"I have no idea."?
"It's the word 'no'. As you grow up, you learn to say 'no'—even to people very close to you. I knew you didn't have enough money to go to this restaurant, but I want to You have learned a lesson, so I kept ordering the most expensive things, and watched your face—poor boy!" My aunt paid the bill, and gave Bessie a present of five shillings. ?
"My God!" said the aunt, "this lunch nearly killed your poor aunt, and my usual lunch is just a glass of milk."?
Mind walk?

Excessive love of face is a manifestation of extreme vanity. After the generation of vanity, people can only "suffer for face".Actually, why bother?Learn to let yourself be at peace, learn self-esteem and self-respect, have self-knowledge, and pursue the true beauty in your heart, so that you can live a chic and comfortable life without being burdened by external things, why not do it! ?
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