Listen to a psychologist tell a story

Chapter 152

Chapter 15, Verse 10 Don't sigh over the broken coffee cup?
The past cannot be admonished, but the coming can still be pursued. ? ?

A psychology teacher once took out a very exquisite coffee cup to the students in a class. When the students were praising the unique shape of the cup, the teacher deliberately pretended to miss it, and the coffee cup fell on the concrete floor. debris.At this time, the students continued to express regret, but this regret could not restore the coffee cup to its original shape.Then, the teacher said earnestly: "In the future, if irreversible things happen to you in your life, please remember this broken coffee cup. The past is over, don't feel sorry for the broken coffee cup, don't worry about the broken coffee cup Cry over spilled milk! Life cannot repeat the past years, time flies, and it is too late to regret. The only thing you can do is to learn from the mistakes of the past, and don’t repeat them in your future life.”?
Mind walk?

Regret is a kind of punishment that a person pays to himself after wrong choice and wrong behavior.This kind of punishment is purely psychological, but when it develops out of control, there will also be physical self-harm and even suicide. ?
When a Harvard psychology professor told his friends about what happened to him in class, he was still quite emotional. ?
yes!In life, flowers bloom for a season, everyone wants to have no regrets in this life, and everyone wants to do everything right.But this is just a beautiful fantasy.It is impossible for people not to do wrong things, and it is impossible not to take detours. Therefore, don’t regret if you miss it. ?
Knock phobia?
Fear can only keep us bound in a self-woven "cocoon" that separates us from success. ? ?

Because York is often rejected by customers, he gradually suffers from "knocking phobia".To this end, he went to consult the most famous psychology master at that time.After clarifying the cause of his fear, the master said: "Suppose you are standing outside the door of the customer who is about to visit, and then I will ask you a few questions."?
"Please ask, master!" "Excuse me, where are you now?"?
"I'm standing outside a client's house." "So, where do you want to go?"?
"I want to enter the customer's home." "When you enter the customer's home, what do you think the worst situation will be?"?
"Probably kicked out by customers." "Where will you stand after being kicked out?"?
"Just—stand outside the client's house!" "Very well, isn't that where you are standing at the moment? The worst result is to return to the original place, so what is there to be afraid of? !”?
After listening to the master's words, York was pleasantly surprised to find that knocking on the door was not as terrible as he imagined.From then on, when he came to the customer's door, he was no longer afraid.He said to himself: "Let me try again, maybe I can succeed, even if I don't succeed, it doesn't matter, I can still gain a valuable experience from it. The worst result is to go back to the original place, and I have no loss." ’” Later, York finally overcame his “door-knocking phobia.”Overcoming his fear, he excelled in sales that year and was soon promoted for his outstanding performance. ?
Mind walk?

Bradwin, a professor of psychology at the University of Ottawa, believes that fear becomes pathological when it intensifies to a certain extent or deteriorates.Just like York, the objects of fear have special environments, people or specific things. Whenever they come into contact with these fear objects, they will have strong fear and nervous inner experience.When you have fear, you should learn to guide yourself from time to time, and realize that the reason for this kind of psychology is mainly caused by your own subjective ideas. In this way, the fear will gradually disappear. ?
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