Change until the world gives way to you

Chapter 10 Confidence, even if you are not perfect (1)
You are the only you; you are different; this is where our confidence comes from: Recognizing that God calls us to take control of our own destiny when the bright future is uncertain, this is where we must trust ourselves: Recognizing Everyone has the value of their own existence and the light revealed in their incomparable personality.We can unabashedly say to ourselves "You're awesome!" That's the compliment we desperately need to say to ourselves right now...

everyone has a short tail
"No gold is pure, no man is perfect" must be a proverb you have heard many times since you were a child, but do you know the specific meaning of this word?

Pure gold refers to pure gold. "Gold has no pure gold" means that there is no pure and pure gold in the world. It is a metaphor that there is no perfect thing in the world, and it is also a metaphor that one cannot be required to have no shortcomings or mistakes.no one is perfect.This is a famous saying that has never changed through the ages.We should keep this sentence in mind at all times, and use it to prove ourselves, others, and everything, and at the same time, we should constantly urge ourselves to constantly improve ourselves.

Let’s take a look at the story of the little mouse Agger first:

Little mouse Ag has been unhappy.The reason why it is sullen all day long is that when it was very young, it was chased by a cat and almost died.For this reason, it feels that its ability is too small, lives at the bottom of the society, and lives a life of "everyone screams and beats", so it is very envious of the cat that flaunts its power and is full of air.

Finally, a great opportunity has arrived!That day, when Age was walking in the woods, he heard a weasel tell his companion that there was a magic tube on the mountain of XX, and all he had to do was get through the tube if he wanted to become something.

Age was overjoyed, and hurried to the mountain of XX.Sure enough, a big tube was placed on the corner of the mountain. "I want to be a cat, I want to be a cat," Agger said while slipping into it.When it came out, I found that I had really turned into a cat!Excited Age just wanted to shout long live when a dog pounced on him, scaring Age to the point of pissing off, and managed to escape.

"No, it turns out that the cat is not the most arrogant, it is afraid of dogs!" Thinking this way, Agg got into the magic tube again and turned himself into a dog.But just like the previous time, before it had time to be happy, a ferocious wolf scared it into trembling.Needless to say, Age turned into a wolf again.At this time, the hunter appeared again... In this way, Age changed back and forth, and finally got his wish and became the king of the land.elephant.

Just as Ag held his head up and felt good about himself, he suddenly felt itchy in his nose and it became more and more difficult to breathe.Oh, it turned out that a little mouse got into its nostrils.Elephants are afraid of mice!Thinking of this, Ag quickly got into the magic tube again...

Everything will not be perfect, but everything will have its advantages and disadvantages, which is the greatest reliance on our survival.Instead of being unhappy about some shortcomings, it is better to think about how to use your strengths to make up for them.In addition, all things generate and restrain each other, contentment is king.

See, each of us will have such and such deficiencies.Insufficiency itself is not a big problem. I am afraid that some problems will not be recognized at all, and as a result, my future will be ruined unconsciously.When we cannot get a normal promotion, when we cannot get the salary increase we want, when we cannot get better interpersonal relationships, and when we cannot be accepted by the new company and the new environment, we must carefully consider what is wrong. Problems have affected our development.

People have strengths and weaknesses.A person's ability is multifaceted. If one aspect is strong, another aspect will be relatively weak.A successful person is to find his own strengths and give full play to it.If you can't see your own strengths, focus on your own shortcomings, and compare yourself to others' strengths, then you will naturally be inferior to others, and you will have inferiority complex, which will hinder your own strengths and abilities.

Everyone will gradually discover their own deficiencies. For example, you will find that you lack a healthy body, you will find that you lack a good family background, you will find that you lack money, you will find that you are not good at interpersonal communication, and you lack friends... All of this may hinder your development, but no matter what, don't lose your confidence.You can have nothing, but not without self-confidence.

I once read this sentence: If you lose money, you lose half; if you lose your health, you lose half; if you lose self-confidence, you lose everything.Maintain your confidence at all times, whether it's sunny, rainy or pouring.Be confident when you are going well, and don't be discouraged and lose confidence when you are frustrated.

President Lincoln of the United States once said: "A person who has no outstanding shortcomings has no outstanding advantages." Indeed, a person without obvious shortcomings will be able to do things in a stable manner, but he will have no personality and naturally will not There will be outstanding advantages.

Many people are too cautious when thinking about problems and doing things, and they pursue the perfection of things too much. They don't know that it is because they are too cautious and pursue perfection that it affects their work efficiency.These people have too high demands on themselves, which not only makes themselves unhappy, but also makes it impossible for others to relax with them, because others will have a kind of pressure because of this.In fact, a person does not need to be too harsh on himself, nor does he need to pursue perfection, because there is no perfect thing in the world, including people.Flaws are always there, and accepting them is tantamount to accepting yourself, accepting reality.

One should face up to one's own shortcomings, but pay more attention to one's own strengths.Because only in this way can we have a comprehensive and complete understanding of ourselves, and it is also more conducive to making use of our strengths and avoiding weaknesses, and increasing our self-confidence.We must admit and bear in mind the fact that no gold is pure and no one is perfect.If you haven't deeply understood this sentence, please keep it in your heart now.

More than ten years ago, there was a girl who was good at studying, but she was arranged to teach in the primary school in this village because she failed to enter the university.Because he couldn't explain the math problems clearly, he was kicked off the platform by the students in less than a week.Mother wiped her tears for her, and comforted her by saying that some people can pour out a stomach full of things, and some people can't. There is no need to be sad about this. Maybe there is something more suitable for you waiting for you to do.

Later, the daughter went out to work.He has worked as a weaver, market manager, and accountant successively, but they all gave up halfway.However, every time the daughter came back depressed, the mother always comforted her and never complained. At the age of 30, my daughter became a counselor in a school for the deaf with a little talent in language.Later, she opened a school for the disabled.Later, she opened chain stores for the handicapped in many cities. At this time, she was already a boss with tens of millions of assets.

One day, the daughter asked her mother, when she failed repeatedly a few years ago and felt that her future was bleak, what made her have confidence in herself?

Mother's answer was plain and simple.She said that if a piece of land is not suitable for growing wheat, you can try to grow beans; if the beans do not grow well, you can grow melons and fruits; if the melons and fruits are not good, sprinkle some buckwheat seeds and it will surely bloom.Because for a piece of land, there will always be a kind of seed suitable for it, and there will eventually be a harvest that belongs to it.

For a piece of land, there is always a kind of seed suitable for it.Everyone is looking for their own seeds before they work hard but fail.We are like pieces of land, whether it is fertile or barren, there will always be seeds belonging to this land.You can't expect lilies to bloom in the desert, nor can you expect solitary green bamboos in the pond, but you can sow grains on the black soil, and scatter lotus seeds in the mud. As long as you have confidence, what is waiting for you will be It will be rice-colored and lotus-scented.

For those still looking for seeds, the road is long and arduous.Maybe the future is bleak and there may be many setbacks, but as long as you firmly believe that you are capable and have perseverance, then you will definitely find your own seed at a certain moment and a certain place.It may hide in the crevice of the cliff, or it may hide in the deep mountains, but once you find it, it will bring you good harvests.Because this kind of seed is born and grown for you, and the process of searching teaches you to cherish it.

Nothing is difficult in the world, as long as you are willing to climb.Whatever you do, what you lack is a heart. No matter what difficulties you are facing, as long as you have the heart, you will be able to reach the top of a thousand mountains in your life. Just reach out and touch it. The clusters of white clouds in the nine heavens in front of you can let people let go of the wings of their hearts, and let their boundless thoughts and lofty ideals fly freely in the universe and sky.

Believe in all the beauty in the world and all the sincere feelings that are worthy of nostalgia in your heart.I believe that I will be able to have the most precious and most worthy of care and cherishment in the world.I believe that all my hard work will not be in vain, and the sweat of hard work will not flow in vain.

I believe that all the people in the world who have a kind heart like myself can also give us more beauty at the same time.I believe that there are too many beautiful landscapes in the world, which can make people's breathing so rapid and moving in an instant.I believe that in this june day on earth full of colorful love, people will not only be able to give themselves superficial visual and sensory beauty enjoyment when they see it.

Believe in your intuition and feeling, in this beautiful and colorful world, in addition to colorful and refreshing flowers, there are also green trees like pines and cypresses, like a branch quietly, uncontested with the world. In the land, the lilies blooming on the cliffs where the birds are extinct, actually have a refreshing fragrance, and the unique flower family's unique beauty and return to nature.

Believe that you can do it.No matter what you do, no matter where you come from, no matter how light the boat is, it will eventually sail to the north, south, east, and west.Believe in yourself, as long as you still have a good wish in your heart, you will be able to burst out the infinite vitality in your life from the softest corner of your heart.

The lofty ideals and goals of life are actually on the horizon not far ahead, waiting for people to pursue.I believe that at this time, they are waiting for people to explore their mysteries together with the delicate and fragrant flowers.

Waiting for people to carefully uncover it, like fog, like rime, like smoke, like people's paper-pasted screens to keep out the cold.Gently touch it with your finger, and the bright light in the room is like the sunlight penetrating through the gaps in the branches of a towering tree. In this way, in an instant, it fills the entire green path in the garden without hesitation...

You with a short tail are also important

Obama mentioned in his opening speech:
"Each of you will have something you are good at. Each of you is useful, and it is your responsibility to yourself to discover what your talents are. Education provides you with the tools to discover your talents." Chance."

Only by believing in your own importance can you firmly believe that you will succeed.

Affected by the economic crisis after the war, the number of unemployed people in Japan increased sharply, and factories were also in a recession.A food factory on the verge of bankruptcy decided to lay off a third of its staff in order to revive it.There are three kinds of people among them: one is a cleaner, one is a driver, and the other is a warehouse manager without any skills.These three types of people add up to more than 30 people.Talk to them and explain the layoff intention.The cleaner said: "We are very important. Without our cleaning and a clean, beautiful, healthy and orderly environment, how can you devote yourself to your work?" The driver said: "We are very important. How can so many products be sold quickly without drivers? Go to the market?" The warehouse manager said: "We are very important. The war has just ended and many people are struggling with hunger. Without us, wouldn't the food be stolen by beggars on the streets!" The manager felt that what they said was very meaningful. It makes sense, we weighed and decided not to lay off staff, and re-developed the strategy.Finally, the manager hung a large plaque at the gate of the factory, which read: "I am very important."

Since then, when employees come to work every day, the first thing they see is the four words "I am very important".Both front-line workers and white-collar workers think that the factory attaches great importance to them, so they work very hard. This sentence mobilized the enthusiasm of all employees. A few years later, the company rose rapidly and became one of the famous companies in Japan.

There is no distinction between high and low in the world.A bee may be insignificant compared to an eagle, but it spreads the pollen that makes nature colorful.

Never underestimate yourself.At critical moments, do you dare to say "I'm important"?Try to say it, and your life may turn a new page.

A teacher teaching in New York decided to show her students how important they were to show them a thumbs up.She decided to adopt a method I advocated, which is to call the students to the podium one by one, and then tell everyone how important this student is to the entire class and to her, and then give each person a blue ribbon with a gold ribbon on it. The words read: "I am important."

Then the teacher wanted to do a research project for the class to see what kind of impact such an action would have on a community.She gives each student 3 ribbon pins, teaches them to go out and give others the same thank you ritual, then observes the results and reports back to class a week later.

A boy in the class went to a neighboring company to find a young executive who had guided him through life planning.The boy pinned a blue ribbon to his shirt and gave 2 more pins, then explained, "We are doing a study and we have to go out and give the blue ribbon to thank the respected people , and give you extra pins so they can perform the same ritual of gratitude to others. Next time, please let me know the result of this."

A few days later, the young executive went to see his boss.From some perspectives, his boss is an irritable and difficult colleague, but he is extremely talented. He expressed his admiration to his boss for his creative talent, and the boss was very surprised.The young executive then asked him to accept the blue ribbon and allowed him to fasten it for him.The surprised boss readily agreed.

The young man pinned the ribbon on the boss's coat just above the heart, and gave him the rest of the pin, and asked him, "Can you do me a favor? Thank you for giving me this ribbon too." It was given to me by a boy who is doing a study. We want to continue this ritual of thanks and see what it does for people."

That night, the boss came home, sat next to his 14-year-old son, and told him, "An incredible thing happened today. In the office, a young colleague told me that he admired my Creative talent and sent me a blue ribbon. Come to think of it, he thought my creative talent was so respectable that he even pinned the 'I'm important' ribbon on my jacket and gave me extra I have a pin so that I can give it to someone I thank and respect, and when I drive home tonight, I start thinking about who to give the pin to? I think of you, you are the person I want to thank."

"I'm ashamed that I didn't spend a lot of energy to take care of you and be with you when I came home these days. Sometimes I would yell at you because your grades were not good enough and the room was too dirty. But tonight, I just want to sit here and let you know how much you mean to me, the most important person in my life besides your mother. I love you, boy."

His child was very surprised. He began to sob and sob, and finally cried uncontrollably, his body was shaking all the time.He looked at his father and said with tears in his eyes, "Dad, I planned to kill myself tomorrow. I thought you didn't love me at all. Now I don't think that's necessary."

You are very important, never deny yourself because of a setback or a failure.

(End of this chapter)