Change until the world gives way to you

Chapter 11 Confidence, even if you are not perfect (2)
Only when you affirm yourself and think that you are important, will you have self-confidence, and every successful person has a huge energy hidden in his heart. Self-confidence is the catalyst for success in life. It can enable you to eliminate difficulties and strengthen yourself. The power of success, thus releasing great energy and wisdom.

Let's see, is there any successful person who is not good at being confident?Confidence is a good psychological quality. British scientist Emerson said: "Confidence is the magic weapon for a person to succeed." If you look through the dictionaries of successful people throughout the ages, you will find that every successful person takes self-confidence as a ladder and walks towards career the brilliant.Li Bai is confident that "I am born with talents that will be useful", while Mao Zedong, facing the passing Xiangjiang River, shouted the heroic words of "Ask the vast land, who will control the ups and downs".This is the pride of a great man, and what kind of self-confidence is this!

Are you a confident person?Are you able to maintain this belief at any time: I will never give up on myself, I will be able to succeed, I am very important!

Self-confidence can not only stimulate your potential, but also enable you to still have hope in the face of adversity, so that you will not bow your head despite hardships, and continue to move forward for your dreams.Self-confidence can not only inspire oneself, but also infect others.

I once read such a story: a little girl borrowed something from a strange middle-aged man, and the man asked the little girl how did you know that I would lend it to you, and the little girl didn't know what to do.However, she didn't leave, she still stood there, smiling, looking at the stranger with confidence, her eyes were filled with sincerity and confidence.She didn't move, and finally the stranger lent the little girl something.A confident person not only gives confidence to himself, but also to others, especially in times of emergency and crisis, a confident person is everyone's pillar.

Su Shi wrote about Zhou Yu in "Nian Nujiao Chibi Nostalgia", "Thinking of Gongjin in the past, Xiao Qiao was married for the first time, and she was majestic and heroic. Feather fan and scarf, while talking and laughing, the mast and scull were wiped out." During talking and laughing, Cao Cao was destroyed. Master Wan Xiong, how confident and calm this is. It is precisely because of Zhou Yu's self-confidence that he infected all the generals and soldiers, and they worked together to resist Cao's army.Mao Zedong once wrote a poem "No matter how the wind blows and the waves hit, it is better than strolling in the courtyard". How admirable and fascinating this spirit is.

No matter when, no matter where, don't lose your self-confidence.

Everyone wants to be successful because success means many good things, success means many needs are met.No one is willing to live a mediocre life by currying favor with others, and no one is willing to be forced to do things.But not everyone believes that they will succeed.

There is nothing magical or mystical about the power of faith.The process by which confidence works is simple: Believe in the "I can do it" attitude, which produces the ability, skill, and energy necessary for success; whenever you yourself believe "I can do it," You will naturally think of "how to do it".

Many successful people have self-confidence because of success, but succeed because of self-confidence.

In space exploration, if there is no great belief that "we will conquer space", those scientists will not have such great courage, interest and enthusiasm to continue their research.Belief in success is the driving force behind all great books and new discoveries in science.Belief in success is a basic, necessary ingredient that those successful people possess.Believe that you will succeed, actually believe, and you will be able to succeed.

A celebrity once said such a sentence, he said: "Confidence is half the success." This is equivalent to when you do something with full confidence, you will inevitably achieve the effect of "doubling the result with half the effort".Yes, this sentence is indeed full of philosophy. On the road to success, self-confidence is an indispensable tool for you. It can help you walk through uneven roads, and it can help you remove the thorns that hinder your progress. .

Many people who have failed in their careers will always find countless reasons and excuses for failure.For example, they will unintentionally say: "Honestly, I didn't think it would work." Or "I felt bad before." Or "I'm not too surprised that this failed." Sad.” Most of them adopt a try-and-see attitude instead of a firm determination to succeed and a firm confidence that they will succeed, and they end up failing.

There was a young man who, after three months of trekking through mountains and rivers, finally found a wise man who thought about it day and night.A man in a cabin deep in the mountains.

The young man stepped forward and knocked on the door: "I have come from a long distance, just to figure out a question: how can I become a real hero?" The wise man said in the room: "It's too late now, come back tomorrow!"

Early the next morning, the young man knocked on the door again.The wise man said: "It's too early now, I haven't got up yet, come back tomorrow!"

Early on the third day, the young man knocked on the door again.The wise man said: "Now you are too late, I am going to do morning exercises, come back tomorrow!"

When the young man knocked on the wise man's door for the sixth time, the wise man said again: "I'm going to rest, come back tomorrow!"

The young man got angry and said loudly: "Every time you push three times and four four times like this, when will I become a real hero?" After finishing speaking, the young man kicked the wise man's door and rushed into the house.

The wise man looked at the angry young man with a smile and said, "I have been waiting for six days, just waiting for you to open my door. To become a real hero, you must first dare to break the doors that separate you from yourself. Hidden behind a door. Your actions this time have proved that you have taken the first step towards being a hero."

Not believing in yourself is a negative force.When you disagree or doubt in your heart, you will come up with various reasons to support your doubts.In the subconscious, it is already doomed to fail, coupled with the low desire for success, it is not surprising that it has led to failure.Human beings are products of their own minds.Therefore, we should have high standards, improve our self-confidence, and go to high places persistently and confidently.Your confidence must not only exist in your heart at all times, but also be able to express it externally, because others often judge us by our external performance.Whether our confidence can work for them depends on our behavior.

You have to learn to face up to others, the eyes of a person can reveal a lot of information about him.When someone looks you down, doesn't your gut tell you "What is he trying to hide? Why isn't he looking me up?..." Not looking up to someone usually means I feel inferior next to you, or I Fear of you, or guilt.These are all bad messages.Looking squarely at others is tantamount to telling others that I am honest, aboveboard, and not guilty.Such a person will gain the favor of others and be easy to get close to.

A successful person is only because he has always had confidence in himself, and this confidence accompanies them through ups and downs and adversity.And people who think they are incompetent will accomplish nothing throughout their lives, because they always deny themselves intentionally or unintentionally.

Tell yourself: I am important!

operate to your advantage
To be tolerant of your short tail, of course you have to show your long tail, so as to give yourself basic self-confidence.

The little rabbit was sent to the animal school. It liked the running class the most, and always won the first place; what it disliked the most was the swimming class, and it was very painful when it took the swimming class.But the rabbit father and rabbit mother require the little rabbit to learn everything, and they are not allowed to give up.The little rabbit had to go to school dejectedly every day. The teacher asked him if he was worried about his poor swimming. The little rabbit nodded, hoping to get the teacher's help.The teacher said: "Actually, this problem is easy to solve. Running is your strength and swimming is your weakness. This is good. You don't need to take swimming lessons in the future, and you can concentrate on running."

Scholars have found that humans have more than 400 advantages.The number of these strengths itself is not important, the most important thing is that you should know what your strengths are, and then you should build your life, work and career development on your strengths, so that you will success.

There is an old Chinese saying: As long as you work hard, an iron pestle can be ground into a needle.It is said that as long as you persevere, you will be successful.But those who have read the fable above may realize that the little rabbit is not material for learning to swim at all, no matter how hard it works, it will not become a good swimmer; on the contrary, if it is trained well, it may become a running champion.

To be successful, you must "develop strengths and avoid weaknesses."The researchers found that despite their different paths, all successes have one thing in common, that is, "developing strengths and avoiding weaknesses".Traditionally, we have emphasized making up for shortcomings and correcting deficiencies, and use this to define "progress".In fact, when people spend their energy and time on making up for their shortcomings, they have no time to take care of strengthening and giving full play to their strengths; what's more, anyone's deficiencies are much more than talents, and most of the deficiencies are irreparable.

The story of the little rabbit is very exciting, but it is difficult to accurately grasp it in real life.How do you know if you are a rabbit or a duck?
A very simple way to know who you really are.For example, when you see someone else doing something, do you feel a sense of calling in your heart - "I want to do this too"; when you finish something, do you feel a sense of satisfaction Or a sense of comfort; you're very quick at doing certain things, and you're self-taught, which is an important sign.When you do a certain kind of thing, you don't do it step by step, but do it in one go, which is also a signal.

Many people will find that they need to learn when doing many things, and need to constantly correct and rehearse.But when doing other things, it is almost spontaneous, and you can do these things instinctively without thinking. This is your advantage.

If you don't have some kind of advantage, but you insist on holding on again and again, hoping to turn your weakness into an advantage, this is sad, because it is impossible and the cost is huge.Run if it's a rabbit, or swim if it's a duck!
Einstein received a letter from the Israeli authorities in the 20s, inviting him to become president of Israel.Einstein was a Jew, so it would be a great honor for ordinary people to be the president of Israel.But to everyone's surprise, Einstein refused.He said: "I have been dealing with objective matters all my life. I lack both natural intelligence and experience to deal with administrative affairs and treat others fairly. Therefore, I am not suitable for such a high-ranking official."

The great writer Mark Twain once ran a business. Not only did he lose all the manuscript fees he had worked hard for for many years, but he also owed a whole lot of debt.His wife Oliji knew that her husband had no business skills but a literary talent, so she helped him muster up his courage and cheer up his spirits, and he went back to the road of creation.Mark Twain finally got rid of the pain of failure and established brilliant achievements in literary creation.

The trick in life is to discover your own strengths and manage your own strengths.That's what Franklin meant when he said, "A baby is a waste if it's misplaced."In the coordinate system of life, if a person stands in the wrong position and makes a living with his shortcomings instead of his strengths, it will be extremely difficult or even terrible, and he may sink in permanent humbleness and frustration.Therefore, it is very important to recognize your own strengths and strengths. Even if it is not very elegant, it may be a great wealth for you to change your destiny.The same is true for choosing a career. You don't need to consider how much money this career can bring you or whether it can make you famous.The important thing is that you should choose the career that best enables you to do your best and make the most of your character and strengths.Arrange yourself in a suitable position and manage a colorful life, just like Einstein concentrating on scientific research and Mark Twain tirelessly writing.

Your life is the real value!
And the premise of all this is to maximize strengths and avoid weaknesses.

A Spartacus boy's kite was blown to the top of a small tree by the wind.

The child's mother said to him, "Son, you can take it down with the sword in your hand."

So the boy raised his sword, but he couldn't reach it, so he had to jump up, but it didn't help.The child pouted and complained to his mother that his sword was too short.

The mother smiled and said to the child: "Son, if you take a step forward, won't the sword grow?"

The child took a step forward, waved his sword lightly, and effortlessly knocked down the kite.

Although the sword is short, the distance can avoid the shortness of the sword and help it grow.In doing things, you must be good at making use of your strengths and avoiding weaknesses, and be good at using your own advantages.

Foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, strengths are advantages and characteristics, which are things that others lack or do not possess.The reason why you are not someone else is because you have advantages and strengths that others do not have or are not as good as yours. Of course, you also have shortcomings and shortcomings.The giraffe cannot go through the door opening to eat the grass outside, and the sheep are not tall enough to eat the leaves on the trees. They all have their own shortcomings, but the giraffe sees its own advantages, that is, it is tall and can eat the leaves, and the sheep can also see To its own advantage, although it is not tall enough to eat leaves, it can go through the door opening to eat the grass outside.Both are heroes, Zhuge Liang will not fight Guan Yunchang, and Guan Yunchang will not fight Kong Ming.Face up to your own shortcomings, discover and use your strengths, so as to face up to yourself and see your abilities clearly, so that you can put yourself in a correct position, and you will not be arrogant because of self-confidence and overestimation. Self-abased.All things have their strengths and weaknesses, and making use of their strengths and avoiding their weaknesses does not mean ignoring their weaknesses.

The unfortunate little boy lost his left arm in a car accident and became disabled, but he really wanted to learn judo, which is difficult even for able-bodied people.After studying everywhere, a judo master finally accepted him.But in the three months after entering school, the master was only willing to teach the little boy one trick repeatedly.Finally, the little boy couldn't help but asked: "Teacher, I have been practicing this move for several months, should I learn other moves?" Unexpectedly, the teacher shook his head immediately: "No, you just need to use this move One move is enough." The little boy felt aggrieved, but because he believed in the master, he continued to practice obediently.

Three years later, the master took the little boy to participate in the competition, and saw that the opponent was tall and strong, and the thin and disabled little boy was very scared.At this time, the master encouraged him: "Don't be afraid, you will succeed, the master has confidence in you." But no matter what, the little boy was still full of doubts.

Unexpectedly, the final champion turned out to be this little boy with no left arm and only one move. This result surprised the little boy himself. "Why is that, teacher?" the little boy asked the master.

Seeing his bewildered look, the master explained: "There are two reasons: one, this is the most difficult move in judo, you have spent several years practicing it, and you have almost completely mastered its essentials. Two, as far as I know, the only way to counter this move is to grab your left arm."

Disadvantages are not necessarily disadvantages in any situation. We try to maximize our strengths and avoid weaknesses, or create opportunities to turn our disadvantages into advantages, and we will be able to stand out because of our disadvantages.

But what needs to be emphasized is that when we talk about avoiding weaknesses, we don’t mean avoiding one’s own shortcomings, but to face up to one’s own shortcomings.A smart person will not hide his "shortness", because this will lose the more precious thing, that is integrity, and people without faith will not know what to do.

(End of this chapter)