Change until the world gives way to you

Chapter 18 A Good Image Knocks on the Door to Success (1)
Take off your suit and the tired look on your face.Put on a beautiful new outfit, and at the same time, please bring your smile to make others warm and make yourself happy; please continue to open your chatterbox and let us all know what kind of friend you are; if you don’t mind, You can share your profound knowledge and profound insights with friends around you.At this point, you have positioned yourself with a confident image...

give yourself a confident appearance
A person's appearance is the first impression we give to an appraiser, and a person's appearance is also a natural expression of a person's psychological state. It is closely related to a person's ideological cultivation, moral quality, life sentiment, hobbies, and emotional responses.Therefore, we can also regard it as a manifestation of quality and accomplishment.

Carnegie said, "A good first impression is the ticket to success."

Indeed, people unintentionally always associate each other's clothing, appearance, and appearance with one's status, identity, and self-cultivation, so they should look decent on different occasions, especially in social occasions. Giving people a vulgar and humble impression, and disheveled clothes, muddy leather shoelaces, crooked ties, etc., are also disrespectful to others.People always unintentionally associate each other's clothing, appearance and appearance with their identity, status, and self-cultivation.

When first arriving in a new environment, everyone will feel nervous and unfamiliar because of the lack of understanding on both sides.If you can pay attention to your appearance at this time, you can make your colleagues have a good impression of you and make you from passive to active.

The Regional Economist, the quarterly publication of the Federal Reserve Bank of the United States in April, published an analysis by the St. Louis Federal Reserve Bank based on the results of various previous studies or surveys.The report shows that people with good looks are more likely to hold high-paying jobs and get promoted than ordinary people.

Research analyst Christy Engelman and economist Michael Oyang are the authors of the analysis.They analyzed possible links between appearance and income based on the findings of several previous similar studies or surveys.Their conclusion: Tall, slender, and beautiful people earn more than average-looking people.

A study cited in the analysis showed that if the average-looking person's income was used as the baseline, the income of the less than average-looking person was 9% lower than the baseline; conversely, the income of the better-looking person was higher than the baseline 5%.Another study on the relationship between weight and income showed that there was a large income gap between obese and standard-sized women, with the latter 17% higher than the former.Similarly, the height of the head also affects the amount of income.For every 2.5 centimeters taller, their income increased by an average of 2.6 percent.

Although the analysis reports of Engelman and Oyan did not point out that people with bad looks must be discriminated against, or people with good looks must be popular, but they still revealed such a rule, that is, appearance Nice people usually "take advantage".

Many people pay more attention to inner beauty than outer beauty.In fact, there is a certain relationship between inner beauty and outer beauty.When a person changes on the inside, his appearance will also change.Because a person's behavior is in the final analysis the external presentation of his inner activities.Moreover, a changed appearance can also have a counterproductive effect on the inside, contributing to a greater change in the inside.This creates a positive virtuous circle.Morita's psychotherapy theory and method, which originated from oriental thought, attaches great importance to the change of appearance, and even believes that the change of appearance is the prerequisite for inner change.In Morita's treatment theory, he will even ask patients to force themselves to do something to make their appearance and environment appear clean and tidy, and their behavior appear organized.After slowly agreeing with such an external image in the heart, the chaotic heart may become peaceful.

A person should be well dressed and well behaved.As the saying goes, "a man depends on his clothes, a horse depends on his saddle". Clothing has a great influence on a person's appearance. Most people know another person from his clothes.Especially for office workers, clothing itself is a weapon, which reflects your personal temperament, character, and inner world.As for the texture of clothing, it doesn't have to be too noble, as long as it can achieve a neat and straight effect, it's fine.Also, hair should be cut regularly, and the hair should not be too long or messy.Cut your nails frequently so that no dirt is left.Paying attention to your appearance is not only a kind of self-confidence for yourself, but also a kind of enjoyment for others.

In interpersonal communication, we always have the feeling that when we have a good impression of someone, we will speak highly of him and will cooperate with him again in the future.On the contrary, if the other party does not leave a good impression on yourself, you will feel unhappy with him, or even disgust or talk about this person with your friends, you will show dissatisfaction with him.This is the importance of a person's image.We leave a good impression on the other party, which is actually the beginning of success.A good image usually leads to later success.Establishing a good image plays a vital role in our work and success.

Here is a good example:

Xiao Zhang is an enthusiastic and lively girl who works hard and works hard.But her development in the company is not as good as other colleagues.She felt aggrieved, but couldn't find the reason, so she confided her troubles to her good friend Xiao Li. Xiao Li thought for a while and said, "Well, I'll look for you in the office tomorrow."

The next day, Xiao Li came to Xiao Zhang's office. It was a spacious and bright office. There were about a hundred people in it, all busy on the desks. Mixed with the whispered discussions among the staff, everything seemed orderly.

But there was a person by the window that attracted Xiao Li's attention. She was sitting sideways on the work chair, resting her chin in one hand and thinking.Wearing a stylish camisole on the upper body, and a pair of cropped jeans underneath.This outfit should be very fashionable on the street, but in this tense workplace, why does it make people feel so uncoordinated.After the person turned around, he saw that it was Xiao Zhang. She still had beautiful makeup on her face, which made her look very fashionable.

Seeing Xiao Li coming, Xiao Zhang hurriedly pulled him to the reception room to sit down, and asked her if she could see the reason.Xiao Li smiled and said: "You, the bad thing is this outfit. Do you know how I felt when I saw you just now?" Xiao Zhang looked very surprised: "What kind of feeling do you have? I look like this Isn’t it good?” Xiao Li said bluntly: “Don’t you think you are like a girl who is hurt by love and is sad? How can people trust you when they see you like this?” Xiao Li Zhang felt aggrieved: "Am I worrying about a business of the company? Don't they know?"

"It's all caused by your image!" Xiao Li said bluntly, "Look at other people, the men are all wearing neat shirts and trousers of a single color, and the women are all wearing elegant skirts. They give people the impression that they are shrewd and capable. What about you? Wearing casual clothes and makeup on your face, how can you look like a clerk? How can others dare to trust you? How can your boss entrust you with important tasks? What? Who can you blame if you can’t get a good development?”

Xiao Zhang looked at his colleagues who were too busy in the office, and then looked at his own attire. He also felt that it was not coordinated enough, and his face blushed unconsciously.Later, Xiao Zhang paid great attention to her image, and she was quickly promoted and reused.

Although this is a very common conversation in the office, through the conversation between Xiao Zhang and Xiao Li, we have been able to understand that a person's image is the person's business card. In work and study, our dress, demeanor All determine whether we are suitable for the current environment, and only when we fit with it can we be noticed.The average person usually categorizes others based on initial impressions, and then draws inferences and judgments about the person from this system of categories.Interactions between people and the establishment of interpersonal relationships are often based on judgments formed by impressions of others.Establishing a good image can often add points to yourself and play an excellent role in promoting your success in handling affairs.

Remember this rule of thumb: making a good impression doesn't mean you're good-looking, stylish, or smart-looking.In the final analysis, what others think of you is not as important to you as you think, and only by making the other person feel happy can you add points to yourself.

If you want to make yourself have a good image, it is actually very simple. You may wish to pay more attention to the following aspects:
(1) Words and deeds should be civilized and polite

When you first meet others, you must pay attention to language and avoid swearing. Otherwise, others will think that you are too uncultivated.At the same time, be polite to people, talk about etiquette, and so on.

(2) Be sincere

In interpersonal communication, people hate the hypocrisy and insincerity of others to themselves.When you're dealing with a guy who's always duplicity, you don't like him.When dealing with people for the first time, you should seek truth from facts and have a basis for what you say, and don’t talk about it. If you shouldn’t say it, try not to say it.This is especially important in your first encounters with businessmen or bosses.

(3) Pay attention to dress and grooming
People's clothing and appearance are very important. Wearing clothes that match one's work and temperament will lay a good foundation for successful work.

Of course, a person's image is not completely reflected by the appearance of clothing, it also needs a kind of temperament highlighted by your whole person, otherwise, we will also lack connotation due to overemphasis on appearance.The above three points are just simple requirements. In the specific working environment, we still need to explore by ourselves, what kind of image positioning is suitable for us, and what kind of attire is suitable for our position.As long as you make the people around you feel happy, then your image can be shaped in this way.

As mentioned earlier, the appearance modified by clothing can only be a corpse without a soul. Only by endowing it with an inner soul and an aura exuded from the inside can people be deeply attracted.So, what is the most important temperament of a person?

Specifically, civil servants should give people a serious appearance, a capable appearance, and a waiter should give people a friendly appearance... Regardless of your identity and position, I believe that a confident appearance is the most important thing for everyone. necessary.Only with your head held high and full of vigor, as a bystander, can we believe that you are a person who can do things and do things well. Only in this way can your working environment and interpersonal relationship be further improved.

At the same time, attention to personal grooming has a positive effect on one's self-esteem and makes one feel happy in every situation.You can imagine that there must be a big difference in your mentality when you are dressed in tatters in public and when you are neatly dressed.

This question stumps many people.But the answer is simple.That is: Better spend double the money on one high-quality dress than two mediocre ones.Please memorize this answer and practice it.

Appearances are a great letter of introduction.

What you wear will show others what is inside of you. Make sure you dress so that it conveys the feeling of "here is a very important person, he is really important, and we should also value him".You should let others see your strengths, and you should create a perfect image.

Giving people a "good-looking" first impression will help you on the smooth road to success.

When we describe a person we like, we often use one word: "Excellent appearance!"

It is impossible for people to live in isolation. If you want to stand out in society, you must obtain the approval and help of others.All successful people, without exception, have unique insights into their appearance, and use their appearance to leave an extraordinary "first impression" on others.

It is conceivable that if a person who has not bathed for a long time and emits a foul smell will be shunned!A person who smells bad in his mouth and still has to get close to the other person to "get close" when talking with him, how terrible it will be to avoid!How can a person who is unkempt, sloppy, and covered with oil and dirt all over his body make people frown!

Admittedly, there are many so-called artists around us. In order to express their so-called personalities, they wear dirty hair shawls, collars with layers of grease, and don’t wash in March. Humanoids can never become artists in the true sense. The art masters we have seen, such as Xu Beihong and Mei Lanfang, all pay great attention to their appearance.In the world, true masters of art are seldom unkempt.

If you want to be a successful person, no matter which class you belong to or what occupation you are engaged in, if you neglect your appearance for the sake of your so-called personality, then your efforts will be difficult. Be accepted by people because people are repelled by your grades based on your looks alone.Unless you're like Van Gogh, but Van Gogh was only honored many years after his death, so you should be able to learn some lessons from that.

Pay attention to your appearance and give others pleasure from your image, which will help you to move towards success.If you think that your rough appearance is a kind of beauty, then your "beauty" will become a kind of "beauty" that will be eliminated today and in the future.You'd better tidy up your head and face now, modify your clothes, don't show people a sloppy look, and learn to show your appearance.

What you think is what you really will be.If you dress as if you are inferior, you are inferior; if you think you are small, you are small.Therefore, let everyone see your elegant and well-fitting clothes, so that your thoughts and actions will be elegant and charming.

We're often told not to judge a book by its cover, and it's certainly true.However, even if we do not judge others by their cover, that does not guarantee that others will not judge us by their cover.Therefore, it is still necessary to pay attention to your appearance.Sometimes, just because you don't pay much attention to your appearance, you may miss a great opportunity.A friend of mine told me that he made a mistake the first time he went for an interview.When talking with the other party, everything went well. Finally, before leaving, the other party told him in a suggestive tone that he should pay attention to his appearance when he went to other formal occasions in the future, and not be too casual.It can be seen that appearance is still very important.

Of course, the appearance image is not limited to your clothes, but also includes your hairstyle and the jewelry you wear.The most important of these is your mental outlook.It is difficult for a frail and sick person to give people a healthy and upward image, so at the very least, you should exercise regularly to maintain a healthy body.Then there is your spirit. A person with a bright smile is far more approachable than a person who is expressionless and indifferent.

Please pay attention to your appearance image, although this is not the most important factor affecting your development, it is undeniable that it does have a great influence.If you haven't realized this yet, change your mind now.Being slovenly is not a bad thing for great people, but we are not, at least not yet.

How to convey your self-confidence to others depends on whether you meet the following requirements:

(1) Neat dress and appropriate attire;
(2) Steady steps and pleasant smiles;

(3) Smooth conversation and affirmative eyes.

Do these three points, your friends and colleagues have already started to like and agree with you, then what you have to do is how to make yourself more acceptable, and then you can turn passive into active and make the best use of the situation.

bloom your smile
Some people laugh because they are satisfied;

Some people laugh because they are moved;

(End of this chapter)