Super self-control: not being a slave to habit

Chapter 1 Preface
Before reading, please do an experiment with me: try to put your arms around your chest and see which arm is on top?Then try the opposite direction (changing the up and down position of the arms) to hug once.Feels weird, right?But if you fold your arms in opposite directions like this for a month, you won't feel so weird anymore, and you will unconsciously fold your arms in opposite directions.Incredible result, right?

This small move is not as simple as it seems on the surface, and the process of change involves a contest between willpower and habit.At first you find it weird because this opposite-hand fold goes against your established habits, but under your conscious guidance, your willpower demands that you keep doing it, and your old habits give in. Yes, when you unconsciously hold your arms in the opposite direction, congratulations, you have formed a new habit.

What is a habit?
Generally speaking, we can use a simple definition to explain: a habit is a person's behavior tendency.In other words, a habit must be a behavior, and it is a stable, even automatic behavior.

Man is a habitual animal. Whether we like it or not, habits are always pervasive and permeate every aspect of our lives.According to surveys, 90% of people's daily activities come from habit and inertia.When you think about it, most of our daily activities are just habits!

Habits have a great impact on a person's attitude towards life, way of thinking and behavior over the years.It can carry you to success or drag you to failure.

Thankfully, your willpower is stronger than your habits, so you can change them.Iago once said: "What kind of person we can become depends on ourselves. Our body is our garden, and our will is the gardener of this garden. We can plant nettles and sow seeds Lettuce; you can grow hyssop or white star incense; you can grow unisexual herbs, or you can divide a variety of herbs; you can let it become barren land lazily, or make it fertile soil through diligent fertilization. Change The power of it all lies in our self-control."

What is self-control?
Self-control refers to the quality of will that can fully consciously and flexibly control one's emotions and restrain one's words and deeds.The will to persevere-this is not only the ability to get what you want, but also the ability to force yourself to give up something when necessary.

A passionate text written by the famous psychologist Leland can provide evidence for this statement: "A person who is determined to cultivate and improve his willpower will gain incomparably great power. This power can not only completely control a person's mind spirituality, and the ability to reach heights of the mind never before possible—a time when intelligences, talents, or abilities that a person never imagined they could possess become reality.”

This kind of power is powerful and can be said to be invincible.The stronger this power is, the more control you have over your behavior.If a person is not good at self-control, if he is not good at regulating and controlling his behavior, if he cannot restrain his impulse and passion, he cannot effectively control and master himself.

A habit is a set of programs in the brain that are working, and the power to make conscious adjustments to the programs is self-control.If self-control can adjust habits well, this program can be optimized very well, and then a very good mental model can be formed to guide you to a different path.

Let us use willpower to get rid of those bad habits, control those good habits, and truly become the masters of the habits, not the slaves of the habits.

(End of this chapter)