The Psychology of Microexpressions: Psychological Strategies in Relationships

Chapter 1 Preface
As a psychological term, "micro-expression" can reflect a person's inner reveal and cover-up.People express their inner feelings to each other through some expressions, and the different expressions and actions people make will "leak" other information.A normal expression generally lasts between 1/2 second and 5 seconds, and there is a process of starting and turning.The difference between micro-expressions is that the duration is shorter, generally only 1/25 second to 1/5 second.This look is often associated with deceit, be it good or bad.When people try to cover up or deliberately conceal certain psychological activities, the true inner thoughts may be expressed through micro-expressions.

In life, we have to deal with others almost every day, because everyone's temperament and psychology are different, and because of the drive of interests, many people wear masks to hide themselves when interacting with others.This makes interpersonal relationships more complicated.

If we don't know how to read people, and don't grasp the principles and measures of dealing with others, we will be controlled by others in interpersonal communication, and even fall into the traps and traps of others, causing ourselves to suffer huge losses.

The famous body language expert Joe Navarro once talked about such a thing: Once he attended a banquet, a guest said that his children had found satisfactory jobs, and he was very happy.But Joe noticed that his face was sullen as he said these words, and his jaw muscles were visibly atrophied, which made him very suspicious.The guest's wife later told Joe privately that his children were barely getting by and that their jobs were not ideal.

According to research by physiologists, human beings have very well-developed facial muscles and can make various expressions.The ancients once said: "The body follows the heart." Whatever we think in our mind, our face will make a corresponding expression. It can be said that the expression is the drawing board of thinking, and we can observe a person through some small facial movements.

Therefore, from a person's speech and behavior, observe people in detail and invisible, you can easily bypass the dangers in life and avoid obstacles everywhere, so that you can calmly integrate into this society and become the master of your own life By.

Interpersonal relationship refers to the interrelated social relationship formed by communication among social groups. It belongs to the category of sociology and often refers to the general term of interpersonal relationship. Schoolmate (classmate) relationship, teacher-student relationship, employment relationship, comrade-in-arms relationship, colleague relationship, leader and led relationship, etc.Human beings are social animals, and each individual has its own unique thoughts, backgrounds, attitudes, personalities, behavior patterns and values. However, interpersonal relationships have a great impact on everyone's emotions, life, and work, and even have a great impact on organizational atmosphere, organizational Communication, organizational functioning, organizational effectiveness, and the relationship between individuals and organizations are all greatly affected.

Everyone who wants to achieve any success must first learn to deal with interpersonal relationships, and must deal with interpersonal relationships well.Especially in today's society, the speed of social development is getting faster and faster, and interpersonal communication is becoming more and more frequent. If we can't handle interpersonal relationships well, we may encounter a lot of troubles.

So, how can we handle interpersonal relationships?Now, more and more people have introduced the knowledge of psychology into the field of interpersonal communication. We think this method is feasible and very good.On the surface, communication is communication, psychology is psychology, and the two seem to have no intersection.But in fact it is not the case, there are inextricably linked between communication and psychology.

Theoretically speaking, people will naturally produce some kind of behavior in the activities of mutual connection and interaction—communication, and the psychology that directly bears the effect of communicative behavior—here, we call this kind of psychology “communicative psychology” .There is a relationship of mutual promotion and mutual restriction between communication and communication psychology.All communicative behaviors will not only promote the development of communicative consciousness, but also regulate communicative psychology; similarly, communicative psychology is not only the result of communicative behavior, but also can affect the effect of communicative behavior.Communicative behavior reacts on communicative psychology, and communicative psychology causes some abnormal communicative behavior, which is in line with the law of people's psychological activities.Facing the relationship between communication and communication psychology is very beneficial to improve our communication efficiency.On the contrary, if we separate the two, our communication efficiency will be greatly reduced.

Therefore, we must pay attention to communicative psychology in our daily communicative activities, and use some communicative strategies and psychological skills appropriately to improve our communicative efficiency.So, what is a psychological strategy?How should psychological strategies be applied?What is worth noting about the application of psychological strategies on different occasions?That is the question this book will answer.This book has no boring technical terms, and is an easy-to-understand and highly operable "psychological inspirational book".

Based on the internal structure of interpersonal relationship, this book expounds in detail the principles of interpersonal cognition, interpersonal impression, interpersonal charm, interpersonal conflict, interpersonal communication, and interpersonal communication from the perspective of psychology with specific, delicate, agile, and meaningful brushstrokes. It integrates rationality, applicability, culture and literature into one, and there is no lack of philosophy and literary talent, which is intriguing.

Relying on the basic knowledge of psychology and using psychological analysis as a breakthrough point, this book breaks apart the obscure psychological concepts that have a great impact on interpersonal relationships, and attaches vivid stories without losing practical significance. To illustrate, it is practical and interesting at the same time. It is a popular psychology book suitable for the general public, suitable for people of different ages, genders and cultural levels.

I sincerely hope that this book can help you solve many problems and troubles encountered in interpersonal communication.

晓鹏
April 2014

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