The Psychology of Microexpressions: Psychological Strategies in Relationships

Chapter 5 The psychological code hidden behind the behavior - the psychological strategy in body language (1)
people who like square bags
People who like square or rectangular bags are usually more fragile and have not experienced any setbacks.When encountering difficulties and setbacks, they are easy to compromise and give in.When no one is speaking, only the mouth is moving.When people speak, they need to use most of the facial muscles, which is also the basic reason for various expressions.And many times, even if other people don't speak, we can also see his inner world from the other person's eyes and expressions, whether it is joy, sadness, or worry... In addition, his inadvertent movements are also revealing Sell ​​his heart!
The secret behind different smiles
Laughter is often considered a sign of happiness and joy.However, there are different secrets hidden behind many smiles.Some smiles come from the heart, some smiles are just playful, and some smiles are bitter... How to tell the difference?We can distinguish each other by certain features of their smiles.

Laughter is a very common action in people's daily life, and psychologists regard laughter as one of the oldest ways for humans to communicate with others.However, there are different ways to smile, and people often cannot understand the true meaning behind it.It's like when you walk into the mall, the waitress immediately said in a standard tone: "Welcome!" A beautiful smile appeared on the corner of her mouth.However, how many people can tell whether this smile is a welcome from the heart, or a professional performance?As a result, many people are at a loss in front of other people's laughter.In this regard, psychologists have made incisive explanations. They believe that different forms of laughter show a certain aspect of human personality, and are the expression of human emotion and the reflection of personality.Here's how they interpreted the different laughs.

belly laugher
Most of such people are open-minded and rarely hide their true emotions. They laugh when they are happy, and vent their inner emotions by crying when they are unhappy.They are usually very individual and rarely go along with others, which shows their straightforward character.But because of his straightforward character, he often offends people easily.In social situations, they often run into a wall because they can't understand hypocritical greetings.Most of them are more upright, never dislike the poor and love the rich, and they are a type of people worth dating.

people who always smile quietly
Most of these people are relatively introverted, and rarely expose themselves in front of the public. They often have their own small private world, where they can think calmly, like everyone is drunk and I am sober. Look at the people and things around you with an extremely calm gaze, then make your own analysis and judgment, and finally make your own decision.They are very good at hiding themselves, and they will never confide their feelings to anyone easily.

man who likes to laugh
The character of this kind of people is very consistent with their laughter, which belongs to the wild type.In the eyes of ordinary people, they look relatively indifferent, even a little dull, but once they are stimulated to laugh, they will laugh wildly.Such people, although they will be indifferent and not enthusiastic in front of strangers, but they have a completely different attitude towards their friends. They value friendship and are willing to sacrifice themselves for their friends.Therefore, many people are willing to make friends with them.Of course, there are certain conditions for them to make friends, not just anyone can be their friend.Therefore, if you have such friends in your life circle, you might as well try to walk into their hearts. Once you become friends, it is a rare wealth in your life, and you should cherish and grasp it.

person who often laughs and tears
Laughing tears, because the range of laughter is too large.People who often laugh like this tend to have a richer emotional life, with love and compassion, and are willing to help others without asking for anything in return.Such a person has a positive attitude towards life, and has a certain degree of enterprising and self-motivated.

people who like to laugh
This type of person is informal in character and generous in action.But hot and cold, when encountering unsatisfactory things, he immediately ignores them, and is easily misunderstood by others.In contact with people, you can display your business talents.In the service industry, there must be some performance.They belong to the action group. Once a decision is made, they will immediately put it into action, act quickly and decisively, and never procrastinate.

man who smiles cautiously

The character of this kind of people is very similar to their smiles, and they are always so cautious in dealing with others.Most of them are introverted, traditional and conservative, and they are inevitably shy when interacting with others.This type of person also likes to talk about others behind their backs.They generally have no lofty ideals and goals, and will spend their lives in mediocrity.

People who laugh when they see others laugh
Such people tend to be cheerful and emotional, and their moods fluctuate greatly, often changing with the environment.

They are full of compassion and have a positive and optimistic attitude towards life.

People who like to cover their mouths with their hands and laugh

People who cover their mouths and smile are often shy. Most of them are introverted, and they are more common in women. If men are like this, they will feel a little sissy.This type of person will not easily confide their feelings to others, and is very wary of others.

people who laugh intermittently

This kind of laughter seems to be rare in life, but in business occasions, such laughter is commonplace. Although people are laughing, they feel fake and cold.This kind of person is often more realistic and practical, with extremely keen observation skills. Through other people's words and deeds, you can get a glimpse of other people's inner world.Then, do what you like, find out the weakness of the opponent, wait for the opportunity to attack, and finally succeed.

Therefore, when a person smiles at you, you must read the real meaning behind the smile, not every kind of smile means friendliness.Normally, when a person smiles from the heart, there is a corresponding movement of the mouth muscles, the eyes are squeezed up, and the eyebrows are slightly lowered.As long as you pay a little attention, there is still a way to distinguish whether a person is genuinely smiling or fake.When a person smiles, the corners of a person's mouth rise toward the eyes.

At this time, the facial expression is relaxed, comfortable, and full of emotion; a fake smile, which is often called a "skin smile", is a kind of flattering smile, or it is called a "polite smile", The corners of the mouth are pulled toward the ears, but there is no expression in the eyes; when a sneer is made, the muscles of the cheeks pull the corners of the mouth toward the ears, thereby giving the face a mocking expression. Expressing contempt for others, this sneer is more recognizable than a smirk.After understanding these, in future communication, through the smiles accumulated on other people's faces, you can let yourself grasp more initiative and opportunities in communication.

Fantasies like to rest their chins on their hands

Few people consciously think about the real meaning of many seemingly simple body language in life.For example, it may seem normal for a person to lean against the window with his hands on his cheeks, but we seldom delve into the heart and character of the other person.What this section discusses with you is the action of "hands on the cheek", and we must know that we can learn a lot of information behind it.

When a person is in good spirits and in a good mood, it is not easy to put on the "hands on the cheek" posture, because this posture is a substitute behavior, using one's own hand instead of the mother's or lover's hand, in order to express one's desire Get a hug or comfort.Therefore, people who pose in this way often represent dissatisfaction and preoccupation in their hearts, dragging their cheeks and immersing themselves in their own thoughts, so as to fill the emptiness and troubles in their hearts.

But people who do it often don't know it, and they probably never knew they liked it.As for the reason, they have no way of knowing.

Carefully observe the people around you who love to rest their chins on their hands, and you will miraculously find that such people have a common characteristic, that is, they are very fantasizing.

Likes to rest their chin on their hands when chatting with people

When chatting with other people, there will often be some unexpected and interesting topics popping out of their mouths.If you find that the other person is resting his chin on his hands and listening to you boringly, it means that he finds the topic of chatting very boring, and your discussion content has no way to attract him at all.In other words, he is not in the mood to listen to your speech at all, but is thinking about his own affairs, hoping that this kind of chat will end quickly.And if it is your lover who is chatting with you, it means that he is very tired of the boring chat in front of him, and I hope you can give him a warm and warm hug!

On weekdays, I like to rest my cheeks with both hands

If there are some friends around you who are very used to resting their cheeks with their hands on weekdays, it means that this person is often absent-minded, dissatisfied and empty with life, and likes to imagine that he can find happiness somewhere.However, everyone around me knows that if you want to grasp happiness, you can't just rest your chin on your hands and fantasize about it, and never put it into actual action.Therefore, sitting on the sidelines is the best portrayal of this type of person.When falling in love with this type of person, he will have a strong desire to be loved, always pray for more love, and it is difficult to get satisfaction, and he will always be in a state of dissatisfaction.

From another perspective, this kind of people likes to immerse themselves in the world they weave very much, and often have some unrealistic romantic ideas, so they feel that their actual life is uncreative.People with this kind of personality are mostly gentle girls who love to act like a baby and need to be cared for at any time.However, if you are in a relationship with such a person, you must not spoil her too much. You must pay attention to the scale of "love" and it is wise to meet her needs appropriately.

If you have read this article and find that you often perform chin-supporting actions in your daily life, in addition to self-examining whether this behavior is a reflexive action caused by emptiness in your heart, you should try to enrich your life as much as possible. Let yourself return to real life from the edge of fantasy, try to improve your body language by adjusting your mentality, and add more practical colors to your life instead of blind fantasy.

Deliberately challenging people often put their hands on their hips
We often see people making hands on hips, what is the meaning of this action?Some observers refer to this move as "all ready," the pose of a successful person, because it shows that the person involved is determined to achieve a set goal, or is prepared for something.

In life, we often see situations like this: children are arguing with their parents with their hands on their hips, athletes are waiting for their events to start, boxers are in the locker room with their hands on their hips waiting for the sound of drums and gongs to start the next round, two bickering red Eye-catching people are arguing with their hands on their hips, and so on.In these situations, as long as you pay a little attention, you will find that they all assume the same posture, that is, "hands on hips".This gesture signifies protest and aggression.

Some observers refer to this move as "all ready," the pose of a successful person, because it shows that the person involved is determined to achieve a set goal, or is prepared for something.Men also often put their hands on their hips in front of women to fully demonstrate their masculinity.But psychologists believe that this pose is still full of "challenge".

Hands on hips, expressing opposition

The posture of hands on hips can allow our body to occupy more space. At the same time, the protruding elbows are like weapons, which can deter others and prevent others from approaching or passing through their own territory.When animals are fighting or courting the opposite sex, they will also adopt postures that make their bodies look more majestic. For example, birds will vigorously shake their feathers, fish will inhale a large amount of water to make their bodies swell, cats and Dogs will try to puff up their fur, and so on.For humans who do not have these characteristics, when they feel fear or anger, they can no longer prove the stalwart of their bodies by erecting their own hair like humans in ancient times, but they can still convey such a message by putting their hands on their hips. Signal.

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