150 Wisdom Stories to Build Good Habits

Chapter 10 Be independent, don't be a parasitic vine (1)
Inventory of Bad Habits
No matter what you do, you need someone to accompany you;
Don't use your brain when encountering difficulties, and ask your classmates for advice;
No assertiveness, what others say is what;
Rely on parents, can't wash clothes and can't cook;
The inertia is relatively strong, and there is never a sense of crisis...

Today is an era of survival of the fittest and the jungle of the jungle. If you don’t become independent and rely blindly, you will be eliminated by the society. Therefore, before the habit is finalized, hurry up to be independent and become self-improving.

"Train him to be president"

The father of former US President John F. Kennedy paid attention to the cultivation of his son's independent character and mental state since he was a child.Once he drove a carriage and took his son out to play.At a bend, because the carriage was going very fast, JFK was thrown out suddenly.When the carriage stopped, the son thought his father would come down to help him up, but the father sat in the carriage leisurely and smoked a cigarette.

The son called out, "Daddy, come and help me."

"Did you hurt from the fall?"

"Yes, I feel like I can't stand up anymore." The son said with tears.

"Then you have to insist on standing up and climbing back into the carriage."

The son struggled to stand up by himself, approached the carriage unsteadily, and climbed up with difficulty.

"Do you know why you were told to do this?" asked the father.

The son shook his head.

My father went on to say: "Life is like this. You fall, get up, run, fall again, get up again, and run again. You have to rely on yourself at any time, and no one will help you."

Since then, the father has paid more attention to the cultivation of his son, such as taking him to participate in some big social activities, teaching him how to greet and say goodbye to guests, how to talk to guests of different identities, and how to show his spiritual outlook , temperament and demeanor, how to strengthen your beliefs, and so on.Someone asked Kennedy's father: "You have so many things to do every day, how can you have the patience to teach your children to do these trivial things?"

Unexpectedly, John F. Kennedy's father said amazingly: "I was training him to be president."

good habit gas station
People have to live on their own, and they must live on their own. At different stages of life, they should try their best to achieve the level of self-reliance that should be achieved, and have a corresponding spirit of self-reliance.This is the fundamental basis for contemporary people to gain a foothold in society, and it is also the cornerstone for forming their own "survival support system".Because people who lack independent personality and self-reliance can't even control themselves, can they still talk about development and success?Even if the "pre-endowed status" provided by your family environment is in the cloud country of heaven, you must first descend to the mortal land, climb up from the ground up, and develop the ability of self-reliance with your whole life.Because no matter what, you will eventually enter the society alone and participate in the competition. You will encounter a living environment that is far more complicated than family life, and difficulties and situations that you cannot predict may appear at any time.You can't use your "survival support system" at any time, but you must rely on your tenacious self-reliance to overcome difficulties and keep moving forward!Therefore, young people must not rely on them, and develop a good habit of independence and self-improvement.
Stick to your own path, the consequences are not so bad
Over the years, Ma Yun has always given people the impression of a madman who "especially insists that he is right".And his behavior comes from the fact that he once insisted on saying "Yes" to himself to succeed, and the other part from being persuaded to make a very terrible mistake.

In 2000, Goldman Sachs and Softbank invested US$2000 million in place, and Ma Yun was determined to do a big job. Alibaba spread its stalls in Silicon Valley and South Korea, and rapidly expanded its business in London, England, and Hong Kong, China.

But the crisis of management appeared immediately, and those world-class elites under him began to instill their own theories and methods to Jack Ma.A colleague from Alibaba’s R&D center in Silicon Valley said that technology is the most important thing; another vice president from a Fortune 500 company based in Hong Kong told Jack Ma that developing towards the capital market is the most important.

They are all elites' remarks, and they all make sense. Jack Ma is beginning to be undecided. "50 smart people sitting together is the most painful thing in the world." Ma Yun said later.At this time, Alibaba, which was only established for one year, has become a multinational company with employees from 13 countries.

That was the era when Nasdaq was in trouble, but Jack Ma couldn't make up his mind about the future development.Alibaba is in a precarious situation, and Ma Yun has to regret his trust in those elites.

Ma Yun chose to believe in himself again. At the end of 2000, Alibaba launched the "return to China" strategy, followed by global layoffs.

Many years later, some people commented that Ma Yun's action directly saved Alibaba.

Ma Yun has also summed up this. If he had insisted on his own path before, the consequences would not be so bad.

good habit gas station
Whether it is work, life, or study, we often follow the crowd and follow what others say. Over time, we lose the ability to think independently, and thus lose the ability to create.

You must know that if a person loses himself, it is the greatest misfortune in the world; and if he loses his autonomy, it is the greatest trap in life.Red orange yellow green blue blue purple, we should have our own world and unique colors.Believe in yourself, create yourself, is always more important than prove yourself.We will undoubtedly play "our own cards" and show ourselves bravely in front of the turbulent and ever-changing world.We should be like stars, lightning, like birds out of their nests, decisively and unscrupulously declaring and displaying to the world our abilities, our demeanor, our tolerance, and our talents.

blacksmith godson
Once upon a time, in Bangkok, Thailand, there lived an old blacksmith who was famous for his exquisite craftsmanship.

The son of an old blacksmith is very lazy, and every time his father persuades him to learn a craft, he always finds an excuse to refuse.To make matters worse, he also made a group of drinking and meat friends, spending every day in taverns and casinos.

The old blacksmith really had a hard time worrying about his son.

One night, the son got drunk again outside and stumbled open the door.

The old blacksmith said angrily: "Look at you, you are so virtuous! Listen to me, starting tomorrow, you have to make money to support yourself. As for how to make money, it's up to you! As long as you don't steal, don't rob, It’s fine if you don’t break the law and don’t violate your conscience.”

The son suddenly sobered up most of the wine: "Huh? I want to make money by myself? But I don't know how to do any work. How can this be done?"

The old blacksmith said firmly: "I don't care. It's okay if you want to spend a lot of time, but I don't have so much spare money for you to squander!"

The son's temper is not small: "Hmph, what's so great about it, at most, he will be a coolie."

Early the next morning, my son was ready to go out and look for work.But he has never done serious work, how easy is it to make money?At this time, the mother came, and she quietly gave her son a copper coin, and said: "Son, if you think it's too hard, don't do it, go out and find a place to spend the day, come back at night, and give it to your father. Just say you earned it yourself."

This is right in the arms of the son.So, he went to hang out with his friends for a day.In the evening, he pretended to be exhausted and went home, and handed the coins to his father.

The old blacksmith took the copper plate without looking at it, and threw it into the blazing fire.The son was stunned, but he didn't dare to say anything, he could only watch the copper plate fall into the fire...

The old blacksmith said coldly: "I know, you didn't earn this copper coin yourself. Hmph, I expected you to be useless, but I didn't expect that you are still so spineless."

The son was stunned, how could the father know?
At night, my son lay in bed, tossing and turning, unable to fall asleep.Thinking about his father's words and his usual actions, he secretly made up his mind to make some money by himself to show his father.

The next day, he got up early and was ready to go out again.His mother walked him to the door and said, "Your father is too shrewd. This time, everything can only depend on you."

The son said firmly: "Don't worry. This time, I will work honestly and earn money back."

This time, it took three days for the son to come back, and his face was full of tiredness.

The old blacksmith looked at his son who seemed to be falling apart, and asked, "Did you make any money in the past three days?"

"Look, it's all here." The son held up three copper coins like a baby.

"En." The old blacksmith nodded, took them, and threw them into the fire again.

"No!" The son jumped up like crazy and rushed to the stove, but it was too late...

He shouted to his father in despair: "Do you know how much I sweated because of them? For the past three days, I have been chopping firewood, carrying water, and washing dishes in the restaurant day and night; sawing wood in the wood shop." ;Even... Even, I went to another blacksmith shop to help others forge iron. Now it's good, you threw it all into the fire!"

The old blacksmith patted his son on the shoulder and said, "Now you understand how hard it is to make money! Last time, I threw the money into the fire, and you didn't say a word, so I knew that you didn't earn the money yourself." , otherwise, how can the hard-earned hard-earned money be ruined by others?"

The son understood what his father meant.From then on, he got rid of his bad habits and became a hardworking craftsman.

good habit gas station
The father used the method of throwing money into the fire to burn it to tell his lazy son: people only cherish what they have earned hard.The gains for nothing will eventually be squandered, and the wealth earned with your own hands will be cherished when you shed your own sweat.

Only by relying on yourself will you have great success. Look at those outstanding people around you who have achieved success by relying on others!You are the pioneer of your own destiny, so teenagers should develop the habit of independence from an early age, and not be a "parasite" for parents or others.

father's painstaking efforts

In an island country in the Mediterranean, farmers are dedicated to growing grapes.There was a hardworking farmer who worked diligently in the vineyard every day. The grapes he grew made the sweetest wine, and his vineyard was famous far and wide.

But the industrious farmer has a heart problem, that is, he has four useless children.They are very lazy, and no matter how much the peasants educate them, they will never work.Because they don't have to worry about eating and drinking, they develop the habit of eating and being lazy.And because there are many brothers, when it is time to work, they always push each other.

Finally, the farmer was too old to do farm work.He fell ill in bed and couldn't get up.Seeing his painstakingly cultivated vineyards go barren day by day.

The farmer knew that he was going to die soon, and he had been thinking about a question: how to make his sons understand the principle of getting rich through labor?Anxiety made his condition worse.

One day, a friend of the farmer came to visit him, and this friend gave the farmer a good idea.

The next day, the farmer called his four sons to his bed and said to them, "I am going to die soon, and I must tell you a secret. In our family's vineyard, I buried several chests of treasure, and it In..." Before he finished speaking, the farmer died.

After finishing their father's funeral, the four sons began to search for treasure in the vineyard.

The vineyards were overgrown with weeds as the farmer had been ill for days.In search of treasure, the sons set out with tools.The eldest son took a shovel and started digging from the center of the garden. The weeds were all removed, the soil was dug deep and loose, but nothing was found.

The second son took an ox, put on a plow, and plowed the whole garden from beginning to end, but also got nothing.

The third son carried a hoe and dug in the four corners of the garden. He dug extremely deep, and finally punched out the spring, and the clear spring water moistened the entire vineyard.Those vines that were about to dry up began to turn green again.But the third son did not find the treasure either.

The fourth son was also dispatched. He used both an iron pick and a shovel, but still nothing.

Although the four sons did not dig the treasure, they turned the land in the vineyard soft and flat, and with the springs drilled by the third son, the grapes in the garden grew vigorously, and the harvest was even better than previous years.

The grapes were ripe, and the four sons transported the grapes to the city to sell, and met the farmer's friend on the way.He felt very relieved when he saw the cart full of grapes, and told the farmer's four sons: "Actually, the farmer didn't bury any treasure in the garden. The treasure comes from hardworking hands."

The four sons finally understood their father's painstaking efforts.

good habit gas station
The ending of this story is very interesting. Although the four sons did not find the treasure, they got better grapes than in previous years, and finally understood the father's good intentions: having hardworking hands is equal to having infinite treasures.

Habit determines destiny.

Relying on fantasy is worse than relying on your own efforts
Little Haima had a dream one day, dreaming that he owned seven gold mountains.

(End of this chapter)