Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 16 Mind Control Training (1)
There is no psychology that is not self-made, and there is no emotion that cannot be controlled.
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taylor howard

Mentality management - feeling bad is just a normal psychological reaction

Cry as much as you want, it's okay, everyone will experience this.Not only that, but learning to shed tears is very important.

I remember my first investment failure in my 30s, a real fiasco.I called my Aunt Judy.Aunt Judy has experienced many setbacks. She has undergone five operations before she was 16 years old, and one of the operations damaged her lungs.But then she became a very popular actress, singer, and even became the premier motivational speaker of the time.She asked me with concern: "How are you feeling now?" "I'm fine, I never thought I would be so calm." I replied. "Cry if you want, scream if you want," she continued, "you need to let go." "Yeah, it seems like you should, but it's weird, I don't want to cry at all right now, why?" Really It amazes me why at this point I don't feel like crying at all?What exactly is going on?Can I let go of some now and get ready to fight for my next investment?If so, I must be superhuman!
"Cry if you want to cry, scream if you want to scream, remember not to suppress yourself at this time, dear." Just as I was thinking, I heard her voice from the other end of the phone. "But I can't cry, and I don't know why, I just can't cry." I replied. "Then don't suppress yourself when you want to cry, you must cry at that time." She told me.

I hung up the phone and cheered myself up silently in my heart. I told myself that I am fine now, nothing at all, why am I crying?I don't want to cry at all, I'm ready to make plans for the future.A week later, I seemed to be awakened suddenly. I curled up in my small room, crying loudly, my eyes were swollen like a ball, and my voice was hoarse.The tears couldn't stop flowing for a long time.All kinds of sadness, back pain, and despair rushed over me.I felt angry, hopeless, and even resentful: "Why am I like this all of a sudden?" I thought about this question over and over again. In my memory, I have never been sad.When I finished crying and went to the street, I felt much more comfortable in my heart, and this feeling came very suddenly.I think it's because I consciously indulge my feelings, I allow myself to experience that anger, sadness and disappointment, in fact, I even welcome them.

Growing up, we have always heard our parents' warnings, "Don't cry, be strong!" So we always seem to regard crying as a negative behavior.We also learn to start suppressing these "negative feelings" consciously or unconsciously, and never release them.In fact, this approach is very bad.Suppressing your emotions doesn't help the situation in the slightest. In fact, it can make your negative reaction to the situation worse, and the sadness will become more specific and real.

In fact, suppressing an emotion is amplifying its effect on you.At this time, some people will say, I let myself focus on other things and become busy, and it will be fine.That, my friend, is another form of avoidance, and avoiding your inner feelings only prolongs those bad feelings.If our emotions are released, we can cry when we want to cry, and yell when we want to, we will leave more space for ourselves in our hearts, let our thinking become clear, and our hearts return to peace, so that we can truly do our best for ourselves. Start to plan in the future and continue to work hard.Diverting attention to other things is actually just a common misconception.In fact, knowing the bad emotions in your heart has a very powerful therapeutic effect in itself.Those who try to divert attention from painful feelings seem to believe that negative energy begets more negative energy, a vicious cycle that never ends.Yes, negative energy does attract negative people and events.But if we think about it carefully, which one is worse in comparison?Do you release the negative energies formed the moment something happens, or do you keep them suppressed for years and invite more negative energies?You see, if you keep suppressing or avoiding your emotions, you will unknowingly generate more negative energy.Suppressing emotions may make you feel good in the short term, but let's take a long-term view, suppressing emotions can have a devastating impact on your life.In other words, if you don't know how to deal with these emotions correctly, these emotions will be like your shadow, wherever you go, it will follow you.You can't see its existence, but it does exist and affects your life.

It's better to learn from the girl in the movie and write a diary.Recording life and the resulting emotions every day is a very good way to release emotions, just like a dialogue with yourself.In the process of writing a diary, don't explore what you are writing, just write what is in your mind at the moment.Don't make up, don't question, don't criticize.Follow your true thoughts, write casually, and let the pen in your hand become the baton of your brain.If you get to the point where you want to cry, go ahead and cry.Feel the pain truly, experience every detail of the painful smile, let all the pain, sadness and anger suppressed in the heart surface, and then release.Remember, there is no right or wrong with your feelings, it is just your reaction to things, so don't judge or judge it.

Sometimes, when you feel desperate, there is nothing more comfortable than a good cry.Don't be ashamed of this, you are not alone, there are many people like you.In fact, when in danger or embarrassment, most people feel lonely, helpless, and feel that they are the most unlucky ghost in the world.I was on a radio show once, and when I had just finished telling my tale of bad luck, I thought the audience would call in, and she laughed and said, "Don't get me wrong, but I'm glad to hear your story, I didn't expect There are other people who have the same experience as me, and it turns out that I am not alone, so I feel so much better!" I also laughed.Indeed, many people have encountered such a situation, thinking that everyone else in the world is very happy except themselves, and only themselves are the most pitiful, feeling that they are completely isolated.But the fact is that everyone has their own misfortune, whether you believe it or not, whether you know it or not, there are actually many people in this world who are much more miserable than what you are going through.

Of course, knowing I'm not alone doesn't seem to make a difference in reality either.But there is no doubt that it changes your perspective, allowing you to look at these setbacks more calmly and more easily through this storm.If you want to know more people who have the same experience as you, and hope to get some psychological support and comfort, there are many clubs and organizations that can help you.Now, more and more countries in the world have set up similar psychological mutual aid organizations. They bring together people who have experienced lovesickness, exchange experiences and experiences in facing setbacks and difficulties, support and comfort each other, and overcome difficulties together.You can also do a search online and you'll find the closest psychic support group, but you may not like it that much.But as long as you find another way that you like, knowing that you're not alone, that you're not the most unlucky hapless person in the world, it can make things easier for you.You must know that some successful people in our eyes may not only have the same experience as you, but may even be more unlucky than you, but the reason why they are very successful now is that they have learned the best way to deal with their feelings.

I think many of you have heard the saying, "The more you try to repel something, the harder it is to conquer." The more you try to fight your destiny, the more it will turn against you.Want to end it all?beat it?The best way to do that is to learn to surrender and accept reality.Because reality is real and you have to accept it.You can feel frustrated, helpless, even fight and curse because of it, but it doesn't change the fact.Acknowledge that the reality is that sometimes it is unfair and unjust.But no matter what, you can't change reality.Sometimes ideals also lose their power. When you want to realize your ideals, you have to confront and struggle with reality, and you direct and prolong the pain that reality brings to you.Like you, many people have chosen to fight against fate and reject reality.But you can also choose to accept and surrender.Then such a choice will naturally make a big difference in your life.

Imagine that you are walking in a crowded street and suddenly a group of people walk towards you, and now you cannot continue walking in the direction you were going.So will you choose to fight against this group, or choose to go in one direction with them first, get rid of this crowded street, and go your own way?Obviously the former is very laborious and not necessarily successful, while the latter is much less laborious.However, we must first explain that the "surrender" to reality and "acceptance" of reality here do not mean giving up belief.In other words, it is to learn to stay awake and not let the brain stay in chaos for a long time.Don't lie to yourself, or fight like hell, but recognize the truth and accept it.Those who know current affairs are Junjie.With this mindset, your perception of your surroundings will improve dramatically.

So to speak, you are taking a shortcut to happiness that is easier and more accessible.As long as you learn to accept the reality, you will become more sober and face the world more calmly.So that you can find a solution to deal with everything faster and more accurately.Having said so much, I remembered a real event that happened to me not long ago, which vividly experienced the above point of view, and it is an excellent example of learning to accept reality.This conversation seems to have happened yesterday, and the reason why I remember it so clearly is because it happened so suddenly that I forgot our previous conversation.I just remember that it started like this: my uncle called me to him and said to me, "Honey, I have something to tell you, but you must promise me first, and you must not panic after listening." "Okay, no problem," I looked into the eyes of this kind elder who loved me since I was a child, and said with a smile, "I definitely won't, what's the matter?" "Promise me first, please? Promise me , you must not be frightened, okay?" the uncle repeated.

"Okay, I'm sure I won't be scared. Uncle, you are not a slow-talking person. Come on." I thought it was a little funny. "I have pancreatic cancer." "…"
My heart sank and I couldn't believe what I was hearing.Pancreatic cancer?How far away, but now so close.Soon I began to try to convince myself, don't be nervous, my uncle is not yet 50 years old, he always likes to make jokes to make me happy.But looking into my uncle's eyes, I instantly understood that he didn't lie to me, and my heart almost jumped out.I just can't control my emotions.Close your eyes and say to yourself calm down, calm down, you promised your uncle, you must be calm.

Two weeks later, my uncle had an operation.On the day of the operation, I sat beside my uncle's hospital bed, holding his hand and quietly waiting for him to wake up.While waiting, I started writing in my diary.Recalling my uncle's attitude towards the serious illness these days shocked me, and I wrote in my diary: I don't know how to stop my tears, and I don't know where to start.I am sitting at the bedside of my dear uncle, who loved and accompanied me when I was young, and has just had pancreatic cancer surgery today.But his attitude shocked me, yes, I didn't expect him to be so positive and optimistic at all.I have never met such an optimistic cancer patient. I watched him being wheeled into the operating room at 8 o'clock in the morning, and he even had a calm smile on his face.He even joked with me yesterday, I held him up and he asked me if I looked better in a hospital gown.He put his hands on my shoulders and asked me with a smile: "Honey, do you think I'll look more majestic wearing a top hat?" I laughed and couldn't help feeling sorry for him, you know It was a major operation and none of us knew how it would turn out.Having said that, even if he succeeds, he will still have to undergo another two and a half years of chemotherapy, and his hair may fall out. How can he be so relaxed?But in fact, my uncle has always maintained a calm, optimistic mood, and even a little joy.

I find it a little strange, very unbelievable.Others may think that his appearance is very weird, and his reaction to the same cancer patient seems very abnormal.But then I thought maybe he was just pretending to be relaxed so that his family wouldn't worry so much about him.Or he doesn't want to show his weak side in front of others.But he did, and he was successful.During this period of time, I have been thinking that maybe my uncle is running away.His optimism and lightheartedness seemed odd, even to the point of making me feel very uncomfortable.Sometimes I want to remind him that you are facing cancer, what happened to you, are you too nervous?Don't you know what reality you are facing?But I got myself under control and I chose to support him.During these days, I found that my uncle is very calm, everything is so easy, he knows exactly what he is facing at all times, and he is not running away from reality at all.

Later, I accidentally saw my uncle's notebook.My uncle said this: Maybe anyone in this world will fall into despair and pain when they receive a cancer notice, but I regard it as a gift from God.Maybe I was terrified at first, but I soon realized that cancer wouldn't scare me so much as long as I learned to use it as a channel to help me transform.

I vividly remember my grandfather suffering from cancer and dying a painful death.I was also terrified for him at that time, but even in the most serious pain, life seemed so fragile, but he still released the light of humanity, unwavering.

He recorded this in his diary: When I was about to get dressed and get up as usual, I suddenly felt a severe pain in my upper abdomen, and I was stunned, "What's going on?" Uncomfortable, I calmed down quickly, and a voice appeared in my head, "You know what's going on." I lay quietly on the bed, looked at the ceiling, and asked myself, are you afraid of death?No, I am not at all afraid of death.On the contrary, death is a regression for me.I looked around and suddenly felt a huge sense of peace and relief.I don't have to worry about these things anymore: the dust on the ceiling, the carpet, the noisy neighbors, the phone bill...of course I still have to deal with these things, but I obviously don't have to worry about them anymore.Thinking of this, I started to smile instead.The heart is surrounded by a great peace.I can be completely liberated, completely let go, and I don't have to worry about these trivial things in life anymore.Since nothing can be changed, what I have to do now is to accept it all and live in the moment.Now I feel like I am born again, every moment is a new beginning, and I can choose everything anew.These days, I have always maintained an optimistic and cheerful attitude towards life, and I have thoroughly accepted the reality.I told myself repeatedly that everything in life was out of my control.But there's one thing I can control, and that's my state of mind.I began to calmly follow my inner instructions and only make immediate decisions.I choose to be optimistic, I choose to laugh, and I choose to stay away from those who pity me.I began to try to care for everything around me, and everything seemed to be reborn.At that time, I realized that the world is really friendly to me, and I will have what I need.It's not too late.I smiled at the world, and the world began to show a smiling face at me.My heart is more and more happy, which fills me with sunshine and gratitude.Compared with such a huge transformation, the pain of cancer is not worth mentioning.Of course, even so, there will be some unpleasant things in life.Just like before, I was hurt and in tears.I feel these pains very clearly, but I no longer try to avoid them.This new attitude prompted me to start thinking that if I want those bad emotions to disappear, I might as well replace them with gratitude.I began to learn to be grateful for everything. I am grateful for the teachings I received, the doctors who treated me, and the patients who encouraged me.My heart is full of peace and I believe that everything will be fine.My doctor is not only very skilled, but also very caring about me.I embraced it all and said to myself, why not take this as a fun trip?Why think so badly about things?The reality is that, we change in the house.So why not look at it from another angle?How about making it more fun and relaxing for everyone?I started joking around with my doctors and nurses during these days of treatment, trying to make everything seem easy.I did it, and reality became simpler and more interesting.Even when I entered the operating room, I sat up and thanked everyone and smiled at everyone.I never felt alone and hopeless for a moment.The surgery went very successfully, an hour ahead of schedule, with no surprises, no stress, no pain.Of course, this is all within my expectations.

(End of this chapter)