Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 15 Put your energy into trying to make yourself happy (2)
Instead of continuing to reinforce habits we don't want to keep like "being late," we should say to ourselves "Quit them! Next time I will..." Then we go back to the problem of being late and think how many times we have Say to yourself "Why am I always late", get rid of this habit now, and replace all unhelpful thoughts with positive thoughts, that is "I will definitely not be late tomorrow, I will overcome this problem, I will do it" .

Although this cannot immediately transform bad habits into good ones, as long as we interrupt harmful thinking in time, it will be removed from our minds.At the same time, we also need to have a dialogue with the self-image in the subconscious, and repeatedly affirm the positive content, so that you become the subject of "self-hypnosis"-the authoritative source.However, such a replacement may not be immediately possible.Then we have to train ourselves to really do this. First of all, we really have to catch those behaviors that are not beneficial to you and have no positive effect, and then think about it repeatedly to understand that the impact it may have on you is not what you think. need.Then try to remove them from your brain, remember to be thorough, because they may come out at any time to interfere with the positive attitude you have finally developed.If you can do this, then naturally your built-in automatic failure mechanism will stop working and your automatic success mechanism will take its place.At this point your self-image will be getting the message that if we're constantly being told to "knock out" then it's pointless for us to run the thought.At this time we have to pay attention to some other issues.You see, all the time we stop having an underlying and sophisticated dialogue with our self-image.Every conversation repeats our practice and becomes proficient.At this time, you might as well try to re-establish a source of authority for yourself, or find yourself someone who wants to gain a sense of identity from him, and tell yourself repeatedly that this person will support your positive mode, then your automatic success mechanism will be will run more smoothly.

Try to kill those negative thoughts

Maybe when we watch movies, we have seen many such plots: a sad girl writes a diary every day, and the diary is full of sad things that make her sad. One day, she suddenly decided to burn the diary.Quietly watching these sad pieces of paper flying in the flames, knowing that they have disappeared.Or there is such a plot: the child who lost his love, cried bitterly, and then took out the photos with the lover who abandoned him, looked at them carefully one by one, and then tore them all up and threw them away.Some people may say that such behavior is naive and undesirable.But we have to admit that when you do, it does help you get rid of some negative thoughts.Writing down sad details, or looking closely at memories that upset you, is actually crystallizing negative emotions.Eliminate them, and watch them be eliminated until they are completely gone, and the negativity in your mind will be greatly reduced at this time.Coincidentally, in fact, many artists and businessmen will use such small methods to get rid of their inner troubles.These artists and businessmen are not dreamers. They are neither naive nor stupid. On the contrary, they know how to dissolve sadness.We can also use this small exercise to help get rid of negative thoughts: imagine yourself writing all the negative thoughts on a piece of paper, then crumpling the paper, tearing it into pieces, lighting it up, and letting it disappear without a trace.

happiness comes with a price

The price of happiness is that you sacrifice your suspicious attitude, cynicism, and out-of-date habits.These things don't do you any good, at most they make you feel safe.

In "Robinson Crusoe", Robinson was forced to live on a deserted island because of a shipwreck.After exploring the entire island, he discovered that it was incorrect to place the bivouac where he landed.Compared with the place he chose to set up camp at that time, the other side of the deserted island is closer to food and safer. It is easier to build a living place, and there are many other advantages.As a person living on a deserted island, he understands that choosing a good camp is very important, but although he clearly understands these principles, he is too lazy to implement them.

We can't allow "too lazy" thoughts to develop and imprison our self-image.When something doesn't work, we have to try something new right away.When we carefully observe and think about concentrated choices, rational thinking will help us find better options.At this time, it is best for us to start re-examining our initial choices and start trying new solutions.You know, we are not trees without opportunities to choose, rooted in the soil and let the rain and wind blow, but people with rational thinking.Maybe you will be lazy like Robinson Crusoe and unwilling to move your camp, but you must know that it is completely possible and very reasonable for you to do all this now.

The same is true for happiness. We can choose a way to obtain happiness more easily, and then move the root of your current unhappiness.A person once said that I didn't achieve anything until I was in my 50s, and I was immersed in depression and self-doubt every day.The books that would have led me to success have remained unpublished due to my laziness.My life is filled with depression and frustration.But that's not all, the most painful thing for me is the headache, I often feel dizzy and even lose consciousness.This severe headache comes at least twice a week, and there is nothing I can do about it.

Dr. David James, a famous American psychologist and philosopher, once mentioned in his works how to focus on meaningful and positive thinking, while ignoring the anxiety in the brain as much as possible .At that time, his works did not receive widespread attention and were regarded as nonsense by everyone.But now we re-examine, since these ideas have emerged, it must be available for experimentation.I still remember that he once said such a sentence: Why don't we give up our thoughts and concerns about evil and darkness, and get more good thoughts?Know that good, happy life experiences are far more important than those thoughts.These theories seem a bit obscure and esoteric even now, but if we want to realize what our soul really needs, we must first fix it, otherwise it will only get worse and worse.

I don't think anyone yearns for an evil and dark life.So I started a little experiment, and I decided to limit the time of this experiment to less than a month, because I know that any useful theory can fully show its benefits in a month.During this month, I began to exercise some conscious control over my thinking.For example, if I think back to the past, I will consciously let myself only think of the happy things that happened in the past, the time when I was a child who played carefree and played happily, gave a successful speech in the school auditorium for the first time, and my favorite girl dates, first-time dads, and more.In the process, I intentionally pay attention to the details that make these happy things happen.I made the most of these memories, while deliberately ignoring the things that made me down and failed in the past (our memories are like this, good and bad, success and failure are equal), and then I started to think about the success I will achieve in the future, Maybe such an idea would be ridiculous, but I did it.A month passed quickly, and judging from the results, this training was obviously useful.

Then Dr. David James talked about the scientist who was plagued by headaches and how to solve them without drugs.And how to make yourself feel better, or more confident, he said: Due to the ever-changing thinking, my life has undergone many changes from the inside out.These transformations surprised me even more than my inner transformations, but these changes, I knew very well, were all inner changes.Because our minds can control our actions.For example, some authority figures treat me with great admiration and respect, which is what I crave in my heart.One day I was contacted by one of these highly respected authorities and, to my shock and delight, he asked me to be his second-in-command.My abilities and talents have been put to good use, which laid a solid foundation for me to work independently in the future.So I worked even harder, and it was precisely because of this that this authoritative person cared and supported me even more.All this is because of my hard work at this moment, because my personality has changed, and I started to struggle for work. Before, no one even wanted to look at me.Thinking about the changes I have gone through, it seems that I have stumbled into a correct life path, and the thoughts that I regarded as enemies before have begun to serve me.

Dr. David James's work belongs to the period of the New Thought Movement, is very old, and I think it is now out of print.But his practices and methods still have very important enlightenment significance for us now.Because all his theories are based on his own research and practice.In other words, he once had a strong skepticism about the work he was about to start, and it was this view that brought him back to life.

A successful inventor must also invent happiness

Edison used to practice the method of "awakening happy memories" every day, and he was successful.Specifically speaking, his method is to let himself recall the happy memories of the past from time to time, just like lifting dumbbells will exercise his arm strength. Often recalling happy memories is a kind of psychological exercise. After a period of time, he has amazing things happen. Variety.His imagination and mobility have been greatly improved.

If you follow this method to continuously strengthen your happy self-image, and practice it for a period of time every day, I dare you to guarantee that you can change your life.

Learn to develop the habit of being happy

Self-image and habits go hand in hand, and changing one changes the other.Habits are really the clothes our character puts on.Habits do not happen by accident, nor by accident.We have habits because they suit us.Habits align with our self-image.When new good habits are consciously formed, self-images emerge to replace old habits and develop new patterns.

Many patients feel intimidated when I mention changing habits to change daily behavior.They mistake "habit" for "addiction".An addiction is when you have to do something, but doing it makes you withdraw and have a bad reaction.But habits are not like that, and habits can be good.

Habits are some of our responses, things we use automatically without thinking and making decisions.Unlike addictions, these habits can be modified, changed, or overturned by going to the trouble of making a conscious decision and then practicing and implementing a new response or behavior.

Mental control training small method:
Under normal circumstances, we don't need to be taught that when we put on slippers, we put on one first and then the other.Because it has become a habit.So you'll be wearing your shoes this way tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, and beyond.Now, you have to have a clear consciousness in your brain: I want to change the way I used to wear shoes, and wear shoes in another way, remind myself all the time, not to forget.So when you wake up early the next morning, the thought will be in your head to remind you that you will put both feet in slippers at the same time, or use some other method.At this time, your thought has become a hint, a signal for you.Reminds you to change old habits.When you put on your flip flops, you silently say, oh, I did it, I started the day in a new way.So that you have learned to make conscious decisions about things, you can do this by doing the following exercises:

1. I want to be as cheerful as possible.

2. I will be more friendly in my dealings with other people.

3. I want to be less critical and more tolerant of other people's shortcomings, mistakes and mistakes.I try to think as brightly as possible about their behavior.

4. To the extent possible, I will act as if success is inevitable, as if I have become the person I want to be.I'm going to act and feel like that's who I am.

5. I will not allow my subjective opinion to influence the facts in a pessimistic or negative way.

6. I will practice laughing at least three times a day.

7. No matter what happens, I will react as calmly and intelligently as possible.

8. I completely ignore all pessimistic and negative "facts" that I can't change and don't let them enter my head.

simple?Yes.But each of these habitual patterns of behaving, feeling, and thinking has beneficial and positive effects on self-image.Put them into practice, for 30 days.Test their strength and see if feelings of worry, guilt, hostility decrease, and confidence increase.

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