Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 30 Release your personality and find the half-acre field you are good at (1)
If you want to never face failure, don't do anything.
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Albert, Hubbard
everyone has a personality

Personality makes a person seem attractive, but it is also a mysterious thing.Personality is easy to identify but hard to define.Rather than saying that personality is acquired from the outside world, it is better to say that it is the embodiment of a person's heart.

What we call "personality" is actually an external evidence that we are a unique individual self with God, a bloom of our true heart, or what we call "true to you" I engage in full, free expression."This "true self" in everyone is very attractive, it is like a magnet.It allows us to have a powerful impact and influence on those around us.We sometimes feel that we are somehow connected with a destiny-like existence, and it also influences us unconsciously.On the other hand, a hypocritical personality is disgusting and annoying.

Why does everyone like babies and think babies are cute?It's certainly not because of what babies do for you, or what babies know, but because they are innocent in their appearance and nature.Newborn children have "positive personalities", and there is no falsehood or hypocrisy in them.They use their own words (of course, most of the time it's jijigji or crying) to express the truest emotions in their hearts.They say what they want to say.Emotionally, babies are honest, they don't lie and hide.This just confirms that psychological adage - "be true to yourself".They have no doubts or insecurities about self-expression, and they are not introverted at all.

Babies can attest that all self-inhibition is learned from the Ziwu image and not inherent in the self-image.

There is a lively personality locked in everyone's heart

Everyone has that mysterious thing we call "personality."

When we say that someone has a "good personality," we are really saying that they have unleashed their inner creative potential and are able to express their "true self" freely.

"Bad personality" is similar to "introverted personality". "Bad personality" refers to a person's inability to express the innovative ability that is inherent in himself.They locked it up, shackled it, and threw away the key. The word "inhibit" literally means to stop, hold back, prohibit, restrain, and people with "introverted" personalities impose limitations on themselves in the process of expressing their true selves.It is for this reason that such people are afraid to show their true selves, afraid to be called their true selves, so they lock their true selves in an inner cage.The manifestations of inhibition can be described as varied, such as shyness, timidity, hostility, embarrassment, excessive guilt, insomnia, nervousness, irritability, difficulty getting along with others, and so on.

Frustration can appear in virtually all aspects of us and is a behavioral expression of inhibited personality.True, fundamental frustration is the inability to be "ourselves" and allow the true self to be properly revealed.But this most basic setback can have a negative impact on everything we do.

Excessive negative feedback is actually inhibition

The science of control has given us a new perspective on introverted personality, showing us the way to disinhibition and free expression, and showing us how to free our imprisoned soul from the cage.

Negative feedback in the servo mechanism is really tantamount to criticism.Negative feedback is all about telling you, "You're wrong, you're off the right track, and you need some corrective action to get you back on the right track again."
However, the real purpose of negative feedback should be to adjust our own reactions and the way forward, not to make us stagnate.

If the negative feedback plays a more appropriate role, then the missile or torpedo will respond appropriately to those "criticisms", and as a result, it can correct the wrong course of advancement and make itself move in the right direction.As we said earlier, the route will show a "zigzag" shape of the curve.

However, if the servo mechanism is overly sensitive to negative feedback, then overreaction will naturally result.Instead of continuing toward the goal, it goes in a sideways "zigzag" or simply stops itself.

The servo mechanism that exists in our body works according to the same mechanism.We must have reasonable negative feedback before we can act purposefully, find the right target and move towards it, or attack the target under guidance.

In fact, negative feedback is always saying, "Stop what you're doing or the way you're doing it, and do something else." stop.Negative feedback isn't saying, "Whoa! Stop!" It's saying, "What you're doing isn't right," not "You're not doing it right."

However, when negative feedback is excessive or our servomechanism becomes overly sensitive to negative feedback, the result is not a reasonable adjustment of the response but a complete suppression of the response.

Excessive negative feedback equates to inhibition.When we overreact to negative feedback or criticism, we can easily come to the wrong conclusion that our current course is wrong or that it is off course, or even that every step we take forward is wrong .

Hikers and hunters often park their cars near obvious landmarks, such as a particularly tall tree that can be clearly seen within a radius of several kilometers, and they can find their car through the tree.When preparing to drive back, the traveler starts looking for a large tree (the "target") and walks towards it.On the way, sometimes the tree would slip out of his view, but the route of travel had been checked back and forth by comparing the direction of travel with the location of the tree.If the path is 15 degrees to the right of the tree, then the traveler's forward behavior should be wrong.So at this time, he had to correct his course immediately, and then walked towards the tree again.

However, many of us often come to some stupid conclusions.When there are signs that our expression has strayed off course, can't find markers, or is "incorrect," we erroneously jump to conclusions that self-expression itself is incorrect, or that success (reaching the goal) tree) is not correct for us.

Excessive negative feedback has the effect of disrupting or completely suspending correct responses, which we must not lose sight of in our minds.

stuttering is a product of inhibition
The development of stuttering is a good example of how excessive negative feedback can inhibit and prevent us from responding correctly.

Perhaps most people have never been soberly aware of the fact that when we speak, we listen to our own voice through our ears and "monitor" the pitch, volume, etc. of the voice, so as to receive negative feedback data.Why is it difficult for totally deaf people to speak well?Because they have no way of knowing whether the sound they are making is screaming, shouting or some meaningless syllables. "Deaf-mute people" are often unable to speak because of deafness, and people who are congenitally deaf cannot learn to speak at all without professional guidance.Temporarily deaf due to a bad cold or an ear infection, if you try to sing, you may find yourself unable to keep up with the accompaniment, or to sing along with others.

So, negative feedback itself is not a hindrance or hindrance to speaking.On the contrary, it enables us to speak more correctly.When learning a foreign language, the teacher would suggest that we record our pronunciation on a tape, and then listen carefully and compare it, as a way to improve pronunciation, enunciation and other skills.By doing this we discover errors in our speech which we had not noticed before.Only when we can clearly see what we did wrong can we fundamentally correct and overcome it.

However, in order for negative feedback to be more effective in helping us speak better, it must: first, make it autonomous or subconscious; second, negative feedback should function freely or automatically when we speak; Third, responses to feedback should not be so sensitive as to be inhibitory.

Stuttering is likely to occur if we subconsciously over-demand our own pronunciation, or if we have practiced how to avoid mispronunciation in advance, instead of truly speaking and responding freely.

If the stutterer's excessive feedback can be slowed down a bit, or if these responses can occur spontaneously instead of being anticipated, language skills can improve quickly.

Videotapes provide a very helpful means of feedback for those working to improve their communications.Chiropractors and dentists sometimes record videos in which they explain their treatments and procedures to patients, and have counselors act as disbelieving patients.Then replay the video repeatedly for study.Professional salespeople also practice in this way.Moderators, speakers, politicians, and their speaking directors all take the same approach.By watching the golf swing recorded on video and doing some analysis and discussion, golfers can be given better guidance.Similarly, athletes in sports such as football will repeatedly watch videotapes after games or training to help them improve their athletic performance.It is only by watching the videotaped study that one can get rid of every error and shortcoming, and it works very well when the observer makes "course corrections" with the full attention of the observer.

One thing that many people, and many trainer-coaches, don't fully appreciate about this feedback, and watching and analyzing the performance seen on videotape, is to identify, focus on, and remember the positive performance of the athlete, rather than always. Stare at negative performance.This is relatively more important and more useful.

We must be careful not to overemphasize a shortcoming in the video so that the servo mechanism will subtly accept it as a goal.Maybe you can recall this when you're reminded of that old mental illusion: ask someone to close their eyes for 1 minute, and have them mentally picture only a pink elephant in boxer shorts dancing on roller skates.Which mental image will dominate the mind?When we ask, don't make a "pink elephant" for yourself, and don't let your mentor make it for you, but improvise while imagining.

Being Excessively Self-Critic Can Make You Worse

Dr. Cherry of the United Kingdom published an article in the British scientific journal "Nature" and said that he believed that stuttering was caused by "excessive monitoring".To test this theory, he fitted 25 people with severe stutters with headphones.With the effect of headphones, when these people speak, the sound from the headphones drowns out their own voices.When these testers were asked to read aloud a prepared passage under this condition (no self-criticism at this time), the testers' speaking performance was significantly improved.Another group of testers with severe stuttering received "read-to-read" training, that is, let a person read a certain article or voice on the radio or TV, and the testers tried to keep up with his rhythm as much as possible, trying to "imitate the former's speech".After a short period of practice, stutterers can easily follow and read, and most of them can also speak normally and correctly under this condition.Because under this condition, no one criticized the slow progress of the testers' language skills, forcing them to speak naturally, or forcing their speech to be synchronized with the "correction" process.Further training in follow-up skills can enable stutterers to "learn" how to speak correctly at all times, thereby announcing to their inner psychology that the "truth" ("I am a stutterer") they believed before is actually true. invalid.

Once the excessive negative feedback or self-criticism is removed, the inhibition disappears and the stutterer's performance improves.Once there is no worry, and there is no excessive worry before speaking, the ability to express will immediately improve.It also provides a valuable clue to finding ways to unhook or release locked-in personalities and improve performance in other areas.

Corrective Feedback for Mental Routes

Carnegie's success course has taught many business giants, including the famous Lee Iacocca.Iacocca later encouraged thousands of others to take this course.In addition to countless professional salesmen, executives, pastors, and social activists, many professional speakers have changed from awkward, nervous, shy, and stumbling speakers to confident and persuasive speakers. Top speakers.It's almost become a standard in the network marketing world for the pent up.Some people have always insisted that they can't do business, can't speak well in public, they always think that they can't mature, emerge and finally transform into dynamic and eloquent salesmen.Before their studies, they were so nervous that they couldn't even hold the microphone steady on stage.

Under such circumstances, why are there so many transformations and success stories?How are they all achieved?

Under such conditions, the client's experience can provide a useful feedback (what we might call smooth course-correcting feedback).Because of this kind of feedback, the parties can have the opportunity to test and challenge the beliefs that limit them without burden and full of confidence, allowing their repressed personalities to shine in the sun little by little, making them The ability to discover where their "true self" is and ultimately demonstrate that their self-image is more powerful.In such an environment, the client is more induced than forced to express himself.So every little bit of progress and success they make is usually cheered and celebrated.Only by acknowledging the positive aspects of performance will the course correction feedback be balanced.When they make mistakes, there is absolutely no group of "wolves" jumping over and shouting "I will tell you how to do it-you can't do this!" People who are ashamed like a monkey's butt will also get applause and encouragement.In this safe and secure environment, they would rather take risks to improve themselves than withdraw and isolate.Often in such situations, they quickly discover that their "I can't" beliefs are self-imposed limitations rather than real limitations.

don't be overly cautious
Do you thread it through the needle?If you've had this experience, and if you're new to threading a needle, you might have noticed that you have to hold the thread rock-solid and firmly before it reaches the eye of the needle and you try to thread it through the very small opening.And every time you try to put the needle through the narrow opening, your hand will tremble inexplicably, preventing the needle from going through.

A similar result occurs when trying to pour a liquid into the neck of a narrow-necked bottle.Your hand pouring the liquid could have been perfectly controlled until you were trying to achieve a smooth pour; however, somehow, you shook and trembled a lot afterward.

Such a situation is called "purpose tremor" in medicine.

A similar thing happens to a normal person who tries too hard or is "too cautious" to avoid making mistakes in achieving a certain end.Under certain pathological conditions (such as injuries to certain parts of the brain), purposive tremors may become very pronounced.For example, a patient with purpose tremor may be able to keep his hand steady when he is not trying to do anything.But if you ask him to insert a key into a door lock, his hand will zigzag back and forth, shaking constantly, and the distance can be as much as 6 to 10 inches.He might be able to get the pen firmly in his hand before he intends to sign it.But when it came time to sign his autograph, his hands shook uncontrollably.If he feels self-conscious, or even becomes more "cautious" in order not to make mistakes in front of strangers, he may not be able to write his name at all.These people can get rid of this dilemma through certain relaxation technique training.Through relaxation exercises, they can learn how to free themselves from excessive effort and focus on goals, and place less emphasis on not making mistakes or avoiding failure.Excessive caution (or eagerness to not make mistakes) is a form of excessive negative feedback.In the case of the stutterer, because the stutterer is too anticipatory of possible mistakes and too concerned about not making them, the result can only be inhibition or worsening of his performance.Excessive caution and anxiety are a related pair, and they both have to do with being too mindful of possible failure, too concerned with doing things wrong, and too consciously emphasizing getting things right.

Henry Ward Beecher said, "I don't like these hard, precise, perfect men, who keep their mouths shut in order not to say the wrong thing, and never practice it in order not to do the wrong thing."
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