Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 38 Distraction Technique Training (1)
Be brave enough to look forward instead of focusing on the past.
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Brooke

Distraction - not paying attention to the tangles in the mind

Now is the time to look forward bravely, and I mean focus on the future, and stop dwelling on the past, dwelling on the right and wrong of the past.Once you decide to look forward, don't look back, the past is the past, it doesn't exist at all.Let it go, it's pointless to think about it.No matter what happened in the past, even if it had a great negative impact on you, you were very regretful and entangled at the time, but now that you think about it, those emotions are of no help at all, and cannot help things in any substantial way.In fact, there is nothing that can turn back time, and constant recall and thinking cannot change the past facts. Your current entanglement and sentimentality can only affect your current mood, and have a bad influence on your present and future.For example, if you have been hurt and cheated in a relationship, and you meet this person later, you will appear tense, anxious, and even worried about being hurt again.So you will naturally close the door of your heart.This not only affects your present, prevents you from expressing yourself freely, but even affects the views of bystanders on you, which directly affects your future interpersonal relationships, so the best way is to let go of the entanglements of the past and stop Worry about the past.Once you decide to let go of the past, you start to judge what to do next. .I have met many people who break through the crisis and get rebirth will choose the latter, because they will forget the past and restart their lives through the crisis.To do this, the past and present must be forgotten.No longer spend time and attention to magnify sadness and unhappiness, hoping to return to the same peaceful life before.They will meet the new life through changes, be full of confidence, and face the future calmly.

First, the relatively "safe" road.Find ways to deal with the current crisis, then do your best to restore the old life, and learn the lessons to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future.But in doing so, we often face some irritating situations. For example, a peaceful and peaceful life is very cumbersome, and an ordinary life is often easy to get bored, so it is easy to fall into a state of life without goals.Then you will feel empty and helpless inside.Although we cannot deny that such a life avoids accidents, it is safe.Second, I call it "awakening".After completing the process of awakening, let go of the past completely, and let yourself start learning and growing from now on.Unfold a completely unfamiliar new environment, a new world, and bring something back to life.If you choose this path, it is very likely that miracles will be created and your life experience will be richer.Third, the road between the above two, it makes you hesitate, but always reminds yourself not to retreat.After the accident happened, you didn't go back to your old life, and you didn't start a new life, but you lived in between.Maybe you want to start a new life, but fear of the unknown is holding you back.You always recall your previous life, but you know that that kind of life is too ordinary and not what you want at all.So you can only be in between and face a dilemma.This choice should be the most confusing path of the three.It can make your life difficult and complicated.You will feel great confusion and fear from this.But I have observed that many people choose to take the third path-maybe they don't realize it themselves, but they just feel that life has become difficult and unhuman.In fact, the attitude of life itself towards them will not change.It's just that they have hard thoughts about the perception of life.Because they know that they want to change their lives and reject the previous life, but they are helpless in the face of the future life.At this time, they may try to get help from the outside world.It is not difficult to imagine that there are many reasons why people take the third way, but the common thread among these reasons is fear.They are afraid of letting go of the past, of falling into an abyss they never knew, of making mistakes out of ignorance, of what others will think of them, of how stupid they might look, of getting nothing in the end... so much so that they Strong enough to stop you from moving forward.But if we think about it carefully, is it because we are always trying to control the outside world that we are so afraid of the unknown world?
Yes, the reason why we are afraid is often that we are too strong and hope that reality will be carried out according to our imagination.But then again, fear and worry are normal.Since the dawn of time, it has been impossible to completely eliminate fear, but why not try to change the way you think about it?Try to think about not holding back when you feel scared, but motivating yourself.Here, I would like to share Susan's story with you: Susan experienced a serious car accident. After she was out of danger in the hospital, she still couldn't wake up.In other words, she may become a vegetable.It wasn't until a week later that she slowly opened her eyes. The family members were worried about her and feared that she would do something bad.At that time, she wrote in her diary: "I love dancing, but I may never stand up again in this life; I like singing, but I can no longer play the piano in the southeast corner of the living room; I still have a Lovely son and a beautiful daughter, but maybe I won't be able to watch them walk into church. I can't believe it for a long time after I come to my senses, or I thought I was dreaming - sooner or later these will go away because I woke up right away. But the sight in front of me and the real pain told me that it was all real. I cried every night in the hospital, and I wet one pillow after another. I often thought I was afraid that my The tears are about to flow, but the pain still cannot go away with the tears. These days are really hard."
Susan, who was in deep pain, still underwent rehabilitation surgery. She continued to write: "I started to motivate myself. Every time a setback or a major event occurs, it will stimulate the huge potential energy in my heart. I will let my husband, My kids see, I am not knocked down! Rehabilitation is as brutal as it is. After 13 surgeries, my body is immobilized in a rack. Arms and thighs are so sore that I lose my senses. After this I will continue to stay in the hospital for half a year, and then I can go home, of course, in a wheelchair. But that should be much better than now. Whenever the pain is unbearable, I will silently say in my heart, I must persist Stay! I will succeed!" At the same time, Susan's family also gave her great support and encouragement, and I believe God was moved by her strength.Two years after the car accident, Susan actually got out of her wheelchair and began to walk independently.In addition to the physical changes, Susan said that her heart is also different from before. She said that her life has started a new journey and has a new goal.Many people were shocked by her miracle, and she was very happy to share her experience with us.She told us that the real success is not what you do when you are smooth sailing, but what you do when you are in a trough.I'm missing my left arm now but at least I can walk so I can still get around and at least I have a handicapped seat.I can't jog now, I can't swim, but I have a new life that I never thought of before, and I think it's great now!I really like Susan's story.When the tragedy came, she didn't feel depressed, despaired, stagnated, and didn't think about restoring her original life, but chose to welcome a new life.I asked Susan, have you ever thought that if you didn't drive out in the snowy weather, you would not have encountered such an accident? Have you ever regretted it?Susan said, no, I don't think so.You know, if it weren't for that car accident, I wouldn't be where I am now.Perhaps Susan's answer is surprising, but it is not difficult to see that Susan has learned to let go of the past and open a new door for life.This is the first step in rebirth.

Attention reduction - think about what you should eliminate

In the week before Christmas, your mom will make sure you get your house packed.At this time, when you pack box after box, will you be very surprised that you have accumulated so many things in just one year, and some of them even forget what they are used for?At this time, I tend to be full of regret in my heart: why didn't I spend some time to sort out these things before, and get rid of those things that are not used.But now that they have accumulated, it is too difficult to clean them up all at once.After you tidy up everything out of breath, you must say silently in your heart: You must develop the habit of cleaning up at any time in the future, and get rid of unnecessary things, so that you will not be as tired as you are now.

The same is true of life. Isn’t our life journey actually a process of accumulation?In this process, you have accumulated sorrow, joy, success, failure, wealth, status, emotion, knowledge and so on.These memories are like the things in our room, they should be cleaned up at any time, and the unnecessary ones should be eliminated immediately.Give yourself 2 minutes, think about whether you are busy working and studying every day, often exhausted at the end of the day, and have no time to clean your soul properly?The cleaning of the mind is actually to count the inventory of your brain and understand what information is stored in your brain. Some of them will affect your life if you don't clean them up and eliminate them immediately.Just like a refrigerator, if you don't throw out the spoiled food, the original fresh food will be stained with bad smell, and even affect the operation of the refrigerator.We will experience many "exits" in our lives, and we almost have to clean our hearts anytime and anywhere.Whether it's studying, going abroad, changing jobs, getting married, having children... every turning point, we must discard the old self and welcome the new self.To do this, you must do a good job of cleaning your mind.

However, the reason why we often fail to clean our minds is probably because we are too busy and tired, so we don't have time.In addition, sometimes we don't know enough about the "inventory" in our brains, because we don't know whether these memories will come in handy one day after we lose them, so we dare not throw them away.Facing the unknown future, we often don't know what we want in the future.Yes, mind cleaning is inherently difficult and a struggle.But we must know that our life will go through many turning points, so every cleaning will not be the last.And you don't need to ask yourself to do a one-time cleaning - that's a bit too wasteful experience, what you have to do is to clean a little at a time, just make sure that the "stock" in your brain will not affect your progress .Often we habitually impose all kinds of things on ourselves, no matter what information, useful or useless, as long as we have them, we seem to become more confident and fuller.As if having more of these can bring us one step closer to success.

But this kind of thinking often makes us sleepy and confused.Because accumulation is not the only solution to problems in life, sometimes you try to use "subtraction", but it is easier.So the so-called subtraction means letting go and eliminating.At any time, too much backlog in the mind will hinder the normal display of our talents.In this way, we often unconsciously suppress positive thoughts.Therefore, do a timely cleaning of the mind and get rid of some useless things, and a peaceful and stable state of mind will come.

Focus on decompression -- relax your mind, everything will be fine
What does it mean to relax?It will become a habit in our daily life and make everything easy.If nervousness is your habit, it is like a balloon that is inflated, and every slight wave in life will become a steel needle that punctures the balloon.

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