Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 9 Empty yourself and control the amount of filling in your heart (2)
To be more specific, after you have determined your goal, you must start to complete a "mental image" in your mind to realize it, from small meals to business negotiations, all five times.

[-]. Focus only on the present moment
Before doing anything, you need to consciously establish a goal, evaluate its feasibility, and make a plan for each step.But it has to be at the right time and place when doing it.At other times, just focus on the present moment, and remember to remind yourself "don't consciously worry about tomorrow".Because your innovation mechanism only works on the current situation, it can't even work on the next second, the next minute.Let alone tomorrow or the future.You do need to plan for tomorrow, but you don't have to live in tomorrow or in the past.The creation mechanism is produced by the information you are currently receiving, so it only works on the current environment and situation.rather than any other time and situation.Everyone will plan for their future and prepare for tomorrow.This is normal.But there's no point in worrying about tomorrow or the next second that's just around the corner.Paying attention to the current event, carefully understanding it, observing it, accepting all the information it can receive, this is the only thing your innovation mechanism can do.It will still work that way tomorrow.

My friend Mr. Colin is a busy businessman, and he doesn't even have time to taste a table of dinners prepared by his family.Once we met at a really nice restaurant and he ate the food in front of him very quickly.When the waiter brought the next exquisite food, he still finished it quickly.He told me that he has so many things to do that he doesn't have time to enjoy the food.God!The nutrition he takes in like this is no different from taking pills. I think maybe some people are really busy to this point.But I have to say that there are two problems with the way he treats meals: first, he does not think that he is enjoying food, tasting food, and reuniting with his family, so he cannot appreciate the taste of every food and how hard his family is .So he can't enjoy some food pleasure that others feel.Second, his reasons appear flashy, because he does not have the enthusiasm, prudence, and effectiveness that a businessman should have.In other words, if a person is always running as fast as he can, with no rest in between, he is actually not capable of maintaining the best condition.That is to say, his gaze does not pay attention to the present moment, and he does not fully devote himself to the current events and conditions.So even though he is always busy.He still doesn't maximize his intelligence and talents.

Sometimes, it is better to learn to decompress and slow down for yourself mentally, and enjoy the present life to the fullest, then you will be much happier, and your work will become easier and more enjoyable.

Here's how you can try to connect: While leaving a place, try to recall and describe everything you just saw, as detailed and precise as you can.This can strengthen your observation skills, so that you will automatically slow down for yourself and stay in the current place for a longer time.

3. Try to do one thing at a time.

In addition to the chaos that can be caused by emotions such as nervousness, rush, and anxiety, another important reason is the preoccupation with several things at the same time.This is a very bad habit because it is very unreasonable.A student reading a book while having a meal; or a businessman thinking about the week's affairs while processing documents are bad habits subconsciously attempting to double-task or multiple-task.In fact, this habit, far from being helpful, can be very harmful.In fact, almost everyone does not realize that this is a bad habit, and even always thinks it is a good habit.When we are anxious and worried about the large number of jobs in front of us, these emotions are not caused by the jobs themselves, but by our mentality of trying to multitask.Maybe it's just a fleeting "I might be able to do this all at once" thought.The reason why we are nervous and anxious is because we are facing the impossible things brought to us by our subconscious mind.So to be successful here, it is inevitable to do a lot of useless work, which makes people more depressed, and the result is naturally unsatisfactory.In fact, it is better for us to try to let go of our fast pace and try to do one thing at a time, even if it is just a simple little thing.Recognize this truth, and then convince yourself that doing so is beneficial.Naturally, we will no longer force ourselves or try to do a lot of things at present.Instead, focus all your attention and experience on the one thing you are doing right now.When completing tasks with this working attitude, we will naturally feel relaxed, and we will no longer feel anxious and nervous, so that we can concentrate on thinking to the maximum extent.

There are many similar examples in our lives, such as basketball games, you should have seen the player who catches the ball stop the ball passed to him.And at this point the commentator will say, "He's running before he catches the ball" or something.In other words, he did not focus his attention and experience on the process of stopping and finishing the ball, but feared that members of the opposing team would steal the ball.What he thought was that the only thing he could do was get the ball and walk away, so we saw her move her body ahead of time and move away from the direction of the pass.In psychology, this attempt to multitask is described as "multitasking."Through the above statement, in fact, for almost everyone, all the time, this kind of thinking is undoubtedly meaningless.In any learning process, we must first think about whether the object of our imitation and learning is the people or the leaders.The truly successful people are actually better at focusing and breaking through the things in front of them one by one, rather than trying to multitask at the same time.Just like many company employees will appear very busy, they often call to complete their work while driving and eating.But you definitely don't see a successful boss doing this.The truth is, they are better at finding a place where they can focus 100% while getting work done, rather than driving and eating.Even though many mediocre company employees will be interrupted by phone ringing, SMS notifications, and emails in various places in their lives, what I know is that any successful manager will never allow such disordered and flustered situations to happen.

learn from the hourglass

Dr. James Gordon Gilch, who in 1944 preached a theory called "Achieving Emotional Balance," became a classic of the era.With years of experience in counseling services, Dr. Gilch pointed out that problems such as mental breakdown, worry, emotional tension, and anxiety are an adverse psychological reaction to many things at hand.He looked at the hourglass on the table and was inspired.An hourglass can only pass through one grain of sand at a time, just like our brains.Our brains can only fully focus on one thing rather than several.In other words, it's not the things themselves that get us into bad moods, but our attempts to accomplish many things at once.

According to Dr. Gilch, it is precisely because many people develop false mental images of their obligations, responsibilities, and blame that they become rushed, anxious, and burnt out.There are times when it seems like there are dozens of different things to deal with, dozens of different problems to solve, and dozens of different stresses to take on.No matter how busy life is and how chaotic our surroundings are, such mental images are completely meaningless, says Dr. Gilch.Even at the busiest moment, we are just overwhelmed at that moment, but we must be clear that all problems and tasks come one by one in chronological order, and they will automatically become "a file". in front of you, because that's the only way they're going to show up.If you want to make these things easier and obtain a correct and appropriate mental image, it is better to imagine an hourglass in your mind, with a lot of sand in the narrow mouth, and the grains fall in order.Wrong mental images can bring anxiety and anxiety to the emotions. Similarly, with such correct mental images, the emotions will become balanced and peaceful.

I also have a method, which is particularly useful for patients with such psychological problems, and my thoughts also reflect the above-mentioned viewpoints from one aspect.That is, your automatic success mechanism can help you automatically complete anything, any job.Imagine yourself as a machine, and type all your problems and tasks into this machine, just like we use the keyboard to input text when facing a computer, then your success mechanism will respond appropriately to what you type, and it once Can only handle one thing, like our computers.If you try to mix the three questions, or programs, into the computer, obviously you won't get the results you want on the computer, and it may even cause the computer to freeze, just like our nervousness.So treat our brain like a computer, don't try to give it a lot of things at the same time, it will break it.

You can use the hourglass as a mind control exercise:

Keep an hourglass by your desk so you can see it when you look up, and write the words "one grain of sand at a time" on its face.Tell yourself to leave the problem for the next day.No, this is by no means avoiding the problem, on the contrary, it is very beneficial for you to solve it.Just imagine, you are exhausted physically and mentally tormented by certain problems every day, but you are not making any progress.If you keep thinking about it, the only result is to make your mood worse.In fact, it is better to take the problem out of the brain, give yourself a little space, and postpone the time to make a decision.Tell yourself "sleep and talk about it tomorrow." Because we know that the innovation mechanism will work efficiently and even get twice the result with half the effort only when your consciousness is not disturbed by too many emotions.When you are fully relaxed and ready to sleep, the innovative mechanism will eliminate the interference of consciousness and enter the best working environment.At this moment, the innovation mechanism starts to work.Many people who are engaged in creative work are well aware of this. Thomas A. Edison's wife said that his husband has a habit, that is, every night before going to bed, he will preview the things to be done tomorrow in his mind.Sometimes he will make a list of the tasks he wants to complete and the problems he wants to solve before going to rest.Rest and sleep are not to avoid problems. We need to know that it is just a short pause to relieve fatigue and prepare for the next work with more energy.Joseph Rothman says that when he gets stuck on a problem, he gets up in his office, stretches, or simply takes a nap.Sometimes he would think of a brilliant idea in his sleep and help him solve the problem.

Learn to relax yourself during work. Through the psychological training method we mentioned earlier, I think you have learned how to induce yourself to relax physically and mentally during rest.If you do this exercise every day, you will become more and more proficient.At the same time, you will remember from the bottom of your heart the wonderful relief you felt at this moment.In this way, a relaxed feeling and state of mind will naturally begin to operate while engaging in any day-to-day tasks.As you work during the day, take a moment to pause and reflect on how you felt when you relaxed.Recall every tiny feeling in your arms, legs, back, neck, face at that time.At this time, form a mental image: lying on the bed, or sitting relaxed in a soft and comfortable chair, to help you regain the feeling of relaxation.Or repeating in your head "I'm feeling more and more relaxed" can also be very helpful.You might as well contact like this several times a day, you will easily master the ability to relieve fatigue and deal with difficult situations, as long as you persist, you will be shocked by the powerful strength you have formed.By relaxing yourself and maintaining a relaxed state of mind, you can free yourself from an overly anxious, worrying state of mind.And these mindsets face up to the stumbling blocks that prevent your innovation mechanism from functioning well.When you practice relaxation training on a daily basis and make it a habit, you don't have to consciously practice it every day.And at this moment your innovation mechanism will also be running very well.

easy success

Many people still think that easy success equals success for nothing.Such thinking is absurd.But "get something for nothing" has been a derogatory term since ancient times, and people believe it is a stupid idea.Everyone is more willing to see a person enduring tremendous pressure and pain in order to achieve some achievements, and then they will willingly believe and applaud him.But if you also think that you have to endure a lot of stress and pain to be successful, then your thoughts are likely to limit your beliefs and make your life more unhappy.

I have mentioned terms such as innovation mechanism and automatic innovation mechanism many times in the previous article.What I want to tell you is that many jobs seem very difficult and seem to require you to grit your teeth, rack your brains, and endure great pressure and pain to complete, but in fact, these mechanisms are fully capable of helping you complete your work , and in a completely stress-free state.Once you realize this, you have to guide it, trust it, and let it go.

A sage told us never to tell others what to do, but only to tell them what to do.That way, their creative talents will surprise you.I would say the same thing, you have such a relationship with your innovation mechanism, it is completely enough to tell it what to do, and its unique creativity will surprise you.We might as well think about this matter from two perspectives of macro-management and micro-management.Think about the managers we have seen working at the grassroots level. They are all meticulous without exception. They have a large group of people at their disposal, but they never leave some small and trivial matters to their subordinates. Microscopically manages every process and detail of the work, and often puts "afterthoughts" on subordinates.Although these grassroots managers work hard, they have little chance of promotion.They may even quickly become gray-haired, because they are under several times the pressure of others physically and psychologically.But what a really mature and well-developed enterprise or unit needs is a person who knows how to authorize his subordinates to do it defensively. He only needs to express his intentions and goals accurately, and then find the most creative candidate from among his subordinates.This is the macro manager, obviously he is necessary for the development of an enterprise.

The same principle applies to our brains, and I recommend that you stop micromanaging your own automatic innovation mechanisms.It's unnecessary, and sometimes counterproductive, to nitpick about every detail.All you have to do is express to it as precisely as possible what you want to achieve.

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