Mind Control and Distraction: Mind Control Techniques for a Lifetime

Chapter 10 Be the master of emotion, not the slave of emotion (1)
Anger is a sign of yourself being an emotional slave.
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Erica Joan
heal the scars of your soul
In recent years, the medical cosmetic surgery industry is in the ascendant and developing rapidly.You can see all kinds of plastic surgery advertisements in various media, such as canthus opening, nose augmentation, breast augmentation, face-lifting injections, and so on.The payment method for cosmetic surgery is more flexible, and can be paid by mortgage, and some even promise free correction or refund if you are not satisfied.However, we found that while most plastic surgery patients wake up refreshed and more satisfied with their bodies, the disappointment and frustration before the procedure does not go away.

Some patients go to the plastic surgery hospital to repair their physical scars, but some patients have psychological scars that always exist in their hearts and imaginations.I began to study the correlation between the two very early on.Decades have passed, and many psychologists and I have gained a relatively in-depth understanding and understanding of psycho-cybernetics.Although things have changed, the original conclusion is still valid today.

As a doctor, an MD, I've done a lot of facial cosmetic surgery and remodeling.I seem to have made great achievements in giving lectures and visiting various places, but I am still curious about some magical mechanisms of the human body and have never stopped exploring.Like "scar".The formation of scar tissue is actually a manifestation of the body's self-protection.Our body will make the injured part stronger during the recovery period, so as to avoid future injury as much as possible.For example, a shoe that doesn't fit well, when you first put it on, you will feel that the friction makes you painful and sensitive, but over time, the uncomfortable part will form a callus to protect you.Similarly, when people are hurt emotionally, they will form a "pimple", a "scar" in their hearts for self-protection.We are likely to become numb and hard-hearted, rarely respond to the outside world, or lock ourselves in a thick emotional protective shell.

Do a complete revision surgery on the scar
Initially, the formation of scar tissue in people's bodies was a gift of nature.However, in today's society, scars, especially those on the face, have brought us endless troubles.For example, burn scars on your face will make you scary and make people afraid of you; scratches on your face will make you look like a vicious person, making you difficult to approach and avoid; scars on the corners of your mouth or eyes, It may make you look stern and look fierce; some scars will make you laugh or stare coldly and lose confidence, etc.Obvious facial scars will subtly and unconsciously change a person's personality and even the trajectory of life.

The original intention of nature to give you scars is to allow you to form a hard protective layer so that you will no longer be hurt.But in today's society, a physical wound is far less painful than a scar.Obvious scars on the body surface will make it harder for you to be accepted by society and be excluded in various ways.Here, scars become weaknesses, not wealth.

In the war years, the scars on the retired veterans were their medals and glory.But nowadays, it may be a tool used by gangsters and hooligans to show off and scare people, which is annoying.But now, we can use surgery to repair wounds and eliminate scars.Patients can regain their original appearance through corrective surgery.At the same time, after scar repair surgery, many patients will change their personalities, become optimistic and confident.The important thing is that they can reintegrate into society as they are and start a new life.This whole new life is obtained indirectly through scar revision surgery.What really plays a therapeutic role is the elimination of social wounds, the repair of emotional damage and damage, and the rebuilding of patients' self-confidence.However, many people have built up a lot of scar tissue on the inside.These are not real physical defects, and no skilled surgeon can repair them with a scalpel.

Break free from the shackles of emotional scars

Many people have not been physically traumatized, but have emotional scars on their hearts.In fact, the adverse effects of the two on human character are the same.These people have been hurt or hit in the past, and in order to prevent the same hurt in the future, they have a thick callus, an emotional scar, to protect themselves.However, these scars not only cannot protect their hearts and resist the re-attack of the person who hurt them in the first place, but may also make them repel others thousands of miles away.Once an emotional wall is established, no matter whether it is an enemy or a friend, it is difficult to pass through.

There's this story: A kitten was wandering in the kitchen when it happened to land on a stove that had just been used and hadn't cooled down.Howling, the cat fled the stove and ran away to groom and nurse its paws.Since then, not only will the cat never go near the stove, but he will never even step into the kitchen again.

Building emotional scar tissue inside does to a person what that scorched patch of fur does to a cat.If the same shock and similar predicament have been experienced repeatedly, the affected person will not only avoid exposing himself to the same situation, but even resist the whole field that may expose him to the similar situation.I once advised a good management cadre.In the past, his bosses and superiors kept him in a sea of ​​meetings.Every time he meets, he is just an ordinary participant, not a decision maker, so he has been very quiet.This person has many meaningful insights and ideas in his heart, but he keeps them in his heart every time, and even if he says a little, he will not get everyone's approval.But in fact, many colleagues think that he is an elm lump with no idea, and they don't understand why the boss would hire such a person.

The truth is this: From elementary school to high school, as long as this person is called up by the teacher to answer questions in class, he will stutter severely, so he is ridiculed by his classmates.So he was very inactive in class, hiding his best performance from others.This is the first scar in his heart.Later, he had his first marriage.Both his ex-wife and ex-mother-in-law were rather domineering and domineering people, who always directed and controlled him in all aspects of life, making her always a weak person in marriage.From the very beginning of this marriage, he adopted an evasive attitude of "keeping his opinions in his stomach".This became his second layer of scars.

In the past few years, as a member of the community neighborhood committee, he often participated in community activities and discussions.In community activities, he found that there was always a resident who had a serious disagreement with him.The other party's influence in the local area is much greater than him. He is arrogant, arrogant, domineering, and has a good eloquence.No matter what point this guy puts forward, the other party can completely deny and attack him, and encourage others to deny him.In the end, in the general election of the community, he was not re-elected as a member.This incident became the third layer of scars in his heart.

Today, his predicament at school, his previous marriage, and the neighborhood committee are irrelevant.He is in a brand-new environment, has an authoritative boss who supports him strongly, and others will listen carefully to his opinions with full respect.This new environment was different from the past, so he could have re-expressed himself.Let the image of a smart, capable, and promising manager that was not shown before cease to exist in this new environment.

use soil, not cement
How can this dude scrape away all the inner scar tissue, free his mind, and restore his confidence?The use of mind control can completely solve his problem.

What it means to be a plastic surgeon is that this job requires me to master the ability to sculpt facial contours, noses, jaws, and many other models in clay.I like to use a scalpel to sculpt and adjust the clay sculptures until they are exactly as I imagined.Materials like clay remain soft and malleable throughout the sculpture process, allowing the sculptor to continually adjust and modify them.But if cement is used instead of soil, once it is formed, it cannot be modified unless it is smashed and restarted.Many images in our minds are actually made of "mud".No matter how tired, old, scared, or deeply traumatized you are, these images can be adjusted and recreated to fit your imagination and bring you new feelings.

Abandon excessive self-protection

In most cases, scars are an excessive self-protection. While protecting, they also make you more vulnerable in other ways, and even cause greater damage.If we set up an overly self-protective wall in our hearts, it will block you from friends, colleagues, and relatives, thus losing many opportunities and gaining more pain.The whole person will become lonely and unable to communicate with the real "self".

Using mind control techniques, they hand you a magic scalpel to remove psychic scars, infuse you with vitality and power, and remove the emotional scars that hinder your self-image and cause you trouble.However, there is a risk that must be taken in doing so: You must suffer the pain of the operation—disappointment, confusion, mistakes.But as long as you have firm belief, the emergence of these small storms and bumps will not stop you from achieving your goals above all else.

Emotional scars affect everything
Layer upon layer of psychic scarring threatens and leaves your self-image vulnerable.When you encounter a new environment, these scars will often jump out and automatically check in, telling yourself that this feels familiar and that you will be hurt again.In this way, a vicious circle of constantly avoiding, retreating or always actively fighting is formed.

In some situations, the behavior of a survivalist who uses avoidance to cope with changing circumstances is inappropriate or even counterproductive."Emotional surgery" is necessary to free a wounded self-image from such behavior.When performing surgery, don’t recall every injury you have experienced from childhood to adulthood. You can only recall past successful scenes, construct your own glorious journey, and create a good new image.Once the new self-image is accepted, the old scars are automatically excised.Be sure to be "goal oriented" and think in terms of your goals, discarding clichés and bad memories.

Emotional Scars Are One of the Leading Causes of Juvenile Delinquency
Research on mental illness shows that although some juvenile offenders seem very independent, like to boast about themselves, brag about how much they hate authority, and behave arrogantly, their hearts are actually very fragile.Behind every hard shell hides a sensitive and fragile heart that wants to be cared for.However, they resent getting too close to others, especially adults, they are unwilling to trust others, and they are particularly defensive.This mindset stems from previous hurts they have suffered from people they trust and who are important to them.Therefore, they tightly closed their inner world, refusing to hurt and caring at the same time.To further prevent harm, they tend to be aggressive, whenever they get the chance, to drive away those who really love them and can help them.

In recent TV shows, such problems are often highlighted: some rebellious teenagers do not obey discipline, and children in their teens learn to curse and abuse others, play truant, abuse parents, drink alcohol and even use drugs and steal.Then the program team and their parents will send problem teenagers to "training camps" managed by militarization, and sometimes they will be locked up forcibly.After a few weeks of so-called "training," many children change dramatically.While this approach has been controversial, there is ample evidence that it has positive, long-term effects.If this does work, let's ask why it works.From an early age, these teens develop layer upon layer of scars that lead them to surrender positive control over their self-image to negative feelings of failure and, in the process, to transfer arrogance, goodwill, and self-importance. Fighting and aggressiveness are brought into full play.The training methods of these training camps are relatively cruel, and measures of forcibly interfering with their behavior will be taken-this is a helpless and hopeless measure, which is like an extremely sharp psychological scalpel.This confrontational, coercive approach is needed to heal hard, stubborn psychic scars.Most of the juvenile delinquency phenomenon is a concrete manifestation of the serious emotional frustration, impaired willpower and emotional loss of juveniles.

Take a good look back at your life. Have you experienced disappointment after time with those closest to you?Have you found that one after another colleagues and classmates make you hate?Whether you choose to run away or attack in this situation, it shows that you have emotional scars in this place.

We want to prevent feelings from being hurt again

There's an adage that goes like this: "The way to get out of a hole is to stop digging." Yes, the first step in reviving a wounded heart is to stop piling on more new ones. scar.We can do this.You should carefully analyze why you respond to certain stimuli, strengthen your rational thinking, and make yourself more mature inside.These can help you not to produce new scars.Just as you can boost your immune system by adjusting your diet and exercising, you can also strengthen your emotional immune system in a few ways: 1. Open your mind and overcome your fears

Some people are as narrow-minded as a needle's nose, and if others neglect him a little, he will feel that he has been greatly hurt.You must have met such people in school, business or social circles: they are very thin-skinned and very sensitive, and you must always be vigilant when getting along with them, lest you offend them by saying the wrong thing or acting inappropriately.

The so-called "the speaker has no intention, the listener has the heart", this "willing" person is a person with relatively weak self-esteem.Anything that hurts us is seen as a threat to our self-esteem.People with healthy self-esteem see some non-existent emotional attacks as a fleeting moment, but people with weak self-esteem will be miserable by it.People who think they are "undeserving", doubt their abilities, and have low self-esteem are prone to great jealousy.Such people doubt the value of their own existence and are filled with insecurity. They often feel that their self-esteem is threatened out of nothing, and they tend to exaggerate and overestimate the potential destructive power of threats.

Everyone needs a certain amount of emotional resilience to protect themselves from real or imagined threats.Strong and open-minded people will not feel threatened by small dangers, while narrow-minded people are just the opposite.So, let yourself become more broad-minded!
2. Develop a healthy and strong self-image

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