How can I chat?

Chapter 7 Details, Details, Still Details

Rules for impromptu drama performance: Please provide details that allow the other party to refer, respond, and advance.

Great improv performers are very good at telling stories.

Bad performers just tell pre-planned stories and wrap them up too quickly, leaving the audience to imagine.They just recite dryly, and it is difficult to arouse the interest of the audience.It's like giving a lecture on the seahorse, how fascinating the seahorse is.Such performances are very boring and unresonable.One can even see that the performers are just going through the motions, not telling a story at all.

On the other hand, a great impromptu drama performer will always observe the audience's expressions, pay attention to the audience's reaction to his every sentence, feel the emotional atmosphere of the scene, and then tell stories based on the emotional changes of the audience.

So, how do they cater to the changing mood of the audience?Through details, details, and still details.

The details allow the audience to emotionally integrate into the story and be personally on the scene, allowing them to recall the past and have deep nostalgia.It is the wonderful details, such as the breath of the characters and the feel of the book, that bring a story to life.

To tell a good story, you need to be as specific as possible about the details.If you include specific details in your story, you can make the listener feel like they are there.You ask the audience to imagine themselves in a specific time and place.You are reshaping "reality" as they perceive it, and the power is amazing.You invite them to share a legendary journey, and there, you wield great power.

The worst part is that people who are not good at chatting are like the average improv performer who ignores details.They try to influence each other only through the story itself.As everyone knows, an excellent story is like a wonderful drama performance. It also builds the framework of the story through vivid details and mobilizes the audience's emotions in the process of telling the story.

the details are the key

Why are details so important to good communication?Because through the details, it is easier for people to grasp the key points.

In a story, people can judge which part is more important by how many details are described.Mastering this law is crucial, because we can make the story achieve the desired effect by emphasizing the important points.Also, the more details that go into the key parts, the better people can understand the whole story.

If you want to talk about something with someone, you can tell the other person what is important by describing it in more detail.So the other party will also feed back more details, even without realizing it.Which details to pay attention to, and which details the other party may accept or ignore, is entirely up to you.

All stories have a purpose and a direction.And the better the story, the clearer its purpose.Nine times out of ten, the main idea of ​​the story is presented in more detail than part of the theme in less detail.

Detailed narratives can mobilize the audience's emotions
Someone who can chat can engage the audience emotionally.They make audiences laugh, angry, sad, and amazed—their ability to control other people's emotions is a force to be reckoned with.

For example, you mentioned a detail, which is a certain song from a certain era.Chances are that someone will recall something related to the song and become more interested in your story.

People who are great chatterers use details, jokes, and narratives to engage each other emotionally.In contrast, people who are not good at chatting just blah blah blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.People who listen to the story will also feel that the story is not interesting.People will definitely not like this kind of confusing and boring chat.

The difference between them is like: Some people say that they went skiing on the weekend, which was very fun, while others said that they went skiing in the mountains with their brothers who hardly knew each other on the weekend, and almost knocked down two skiing children.The former describes a dull and boring picture, while the latter sounds much more interesting. I bet you will never be overwhelmed by such a conversation.

There is never such a thing as too much information.Share every little detail because that makes you a very interesting person.

practise:

Ask someone how their weekend was.If they had a lackluster weekend, ask them what they did on their happiest weekend of the past year.

The other party is likely to be eloquent.At this point, you can secretly count how many details they said.

When they describe a passage with a lot of detail, try to get them to expand on it.Are they more excited?Next, ask them to expand on the part that doesn't have as many details.Did they just get on with it without caring?

Through the details, you can easily understand what the other person really cares about and is excited about.Let this help you improve your chat skills.

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