moan

Chapter 38
There is no happiness but no suffering, that is, father and son do not protect each other, let alone the people?There is happiness but no suffering, that is, Rong and Di are on a blind date, but what about the people?

People in the world, when they hear about other people's faults, they like to talk about them and talk about them; when they see people's mistakes, they both cover them and hurt them; when they hear people's praise, they are happy and exaggerate; Hide it, and search for it.Think about it, is this idea a gentleman?Is it a villain?

The troubles that are seen at first sight are startled by the fools; the disasters that come gradually are overlooked by the wise.It is terrible to be ignored by the wise by the fool!
It is a selfish and deep-rooted idea to talk about human feelings only looking for the weak, saying that the human heart only thinks about the evil side, and I am a villain at home.The nobles of the ancients always sought to make no faults in their faults. This is a matter of long-heartedness and great virtue. Scholars ponder over it and have their own taste.

People who say they are good are happy, and people who say they are wrong are angry.One's own good and evil, one's own true knowledge, waiting for disaster
You can't deceive others when you lose.When people talk about the body, they are happy, when people say that the body is weak, they are angry. When they are sick, they feel alone. When they die, they can't deceive others.

When a great minister returned home, his family was not as good as when he was an official. He said quietly and unhappy: "The world is so hot and cold, how can people be embarrassed?" Hua is my business. You take it for granted when you love wealth and honor, and you hate poverty and lowliness as a misfortune. How can you be as cold as this, and lament the world?"

Don't be confused by knowledge, don't be foolish by using wisdom, don't be humiliated by seeking glory, don't be as small as you are big.

The two disagree with each other, and if they don't break the family, they just turn around and let their own mistakes, which will be of great benefit; the two are self-righteous, and they don't stop talking at each other, and they just say good things to others, and they are infinitely happy.

Take all the good names on yourself, and put almost all the bad names on others, this world is sympathetic.I don't know that these two thoughts have earned a bad reputation, so it's better to let the good lead them.

It is evil to reveal one's own beauty, and it is especially evil to share one's own beauty. What's more, is it true that someone else's beauty steals someone else's beauty?Our party quits it.

Those who observe righteousness and propriety are considered arrogant by today's people; those who work and flatter are considered humble by today's people.The world-renowned public officials call themselves Confucianists, and they are confused and blame each other without realizing it, which is ridiculous.

Love others with virtue and make others hate, and people love me with virtue and hate them, both of them are fools.

Where there is nothing known, there are all knowable people but ignore them, which is called blind;

In the world, there are three ways to harm people's hearts, and there are four important ways to destroy people's temperament. Those who are not bad in this place can be said to stick to it.Junmen, the Liqun of scholar-bureaucrats.Gongmen, Lixu's Liqun also.The gate of the city is also a thoroughfare for merchants.Hanlin, the Ministry of Officials, Taiwan, and the province are the four important roads.

Those who have the Tao are the true self in everything.

The laws and regulations of the imperial court cannot be humane, the world's fame cannot be humane, the sages' principles cannot be humane, other people's affairs cannot be humane, I have no power and cannot be humane.With these five people, everyone is safe.The gentleman is cautious.

The acquaintance of the ancients is also blatant and sincere.If you don't say anything, you don't doubt it first; if you say it, you don't worry about it.Today's relationship with people is also, be careful to hold your breath, hide your meaning and decorate your face.If you don't say anything, you will be suspicious and fearful; if you say something, you will be in danger.Alas!A gentleman with a bright heart and a bright heart, but with whom to share affection and talk about the liver?Alas!He also shows people with light, and traps people with opportunities.

The gentlemen of ancient times did not treat patients with what they could; today's people treat patients with what they cannot.

In ancient times, people with similar reputations got each other, and people with similar reputations today are jealous of each other.

There is no better fortune than no misfortune, and no misfortune is greater than seeking blessings.

Words come before deeds, fame comes before reality, and food comes before food, all of which are shameful to a gentleman.

Two regrets are always unresolved grievances, two beggings are always in disagreement, and two angers are all disasters.

If you have no talent and don't allow yourself to be capable, you will harm them; if you do evil and evil others do good, you will slander them;

In times of adversity, the heart lives in peace; in times of poverty, the heart lives in wealth;If you look at health from deep valleys, health from disease, and nothing from accidents, you will always be in peace.

I am not afraid that there will be no spring and stone heart in the morning market, but I am afraid that the heart of the city will be moved when returning to the spring stone.

Accumulating prestige and accumulating kindness, both are disasters.The disaster of accumulating prestige can be saved, but the disaster of accumulating kindness is hard to save.

After accumulating prestige, one point of leniency will bring peace, and two points of kindness will bring joy; after accumulating kindness, if one does not increase it, it will be regarded as thin, and if it is only a little less, it will be regarded as resentment.If you are very kind, you will be poor, and if you are poor, you will be unsustainable;If it cannot continue, it will not advance, and it is bound to retreat.Therefore, retreating with prestige is a blessing, retreating with kindness is a disaster; advancing with kindness is a blessing, and advancing with prestige is a disaster.The saint is not Jin En, but also fears disaster.It is easy to solve the wet salary, but it is also difficult to solve the dry salary.Jin Enye, the saint, has the infinite affection of his lover, and the slight power to adjust human affection.

Everyone knows that less is worrying, but not more is worrying.Only the wise worry more.

It is easy to observe the evil and the good, but it is difficult to observe the evil and the good.

There is a sense of human nature, a sense of physics, a sense of things, a sense of situation, a sense of changes, a sense of fineness, and a sense of broadness.All of these cannot be combined, but the knowledge of changing events is difficult, and the knowledge of broadness is precious.

The way of a sage is not to frighten others, but it does not seek to please others.There is no limit to human affection, but it is not only that it is not, but it is also impossible.Therefore, a gentleman is only reasonable.

Although those who give to others have nothing to do, but I always ask for it carefully, this is called nourishing and giving; although those who repay me are endless, but I often dare not take it, this is called nourishing and repaying; .

Those who attack others are five points too evil, and only attacking him three or four points, not only does he have remaining fear, but he also wants to persuade him, which is enough to stop his argument.If you hit five points, you've already hurt your body, and I can't save it.If there is more than one point, it is the capital for self-explaining. He gets five according to one, and I lose five if I am greedy for one.This statement is also the great precept of being responsible for the family.

See the benefits and move forward, see the harm and retreat, the same merit is dedicated to oneself, and the same fault is blamed on others. This villain is constant, and the husband's shameful behavior is also.

Let him be less evil, but I will be honest with you, then those who are less evil will feel ashamed, and the more affectionate you will be.If because of slack evil, but also repay evil with slender evil, then the other and I are the same, and we have to listen first and foremost. When will we explain it?This is the behavior of a mediocre man, but a gentleman can't help it.

There are six ways to forgive others: either his knowledge is not in place, or his hearing is not true, or his strength is not enough, or his mind is suffering, or his spirit is neglected, or his subtle thoughts are there.First of all, if you don't follow the six forgiveness orders, if you don't change the teaching, then you will be guilty.Therefore, a gentleman teaches others and then blames others, considers others and then angers others.

Straight friends are rare, but I refuse to hide their sensuality; there are many sycophants, and I take the attitude of flattery.Alas!It is also difficult not to fall into evil every day.

Flogging, stick, apprentice, flow, and death, these five are the laws of a villain; propriety, righteousness, integrity, and shame are the four laws of a gentleman.A villain who violates the order of Jin will be punished by Yousi, and a gentleman who violates the order will be punished by public opinion.Although the punishment is excessive, the villain is not afraid, why?Not the most appropriate punishment; slander and attack, a gentleman is not afraid, why?It is not a theory of impartiality.

Insufficient affection and writing with words, the words are not amiable; lack of sincerity and writing with appearance, the appearance is not trustworthy.It is because the truth is precious in the affairs of the world, and the truth cannot be concealed, but the words and appearances seen are amiable and trustworthy!
Possession, advantage, technique, and speech, these four are also the enemies of justice.If you are popular, you will be justified, if you are bribed, you will be justified, if you are clever and insidious, you will be justified, and if you do bad reputation, you will be justified.Those who are lucky enough to be falsely accused in the world are no less than fifteen, and they are so generous!
The sage only works on the human relationship, and his human relationship only works on the unspoken and the unspoken.

Beauty begets love, love begets sex, sex begets play, play begets arrogance, arrogance begets arrogance, arrogance begets death.

Ritual is the rule of saints, but love is not the rule of saints.A sage gives birth to etiquette because of emotion, and a gentleman gets affection after seeing etiquette.Everyone regards rituals with respect to rituals, but they don't know their feelings. Therefore, rituals are vain texts in the world, and those who worship the truth want to abandon them.

When people have nothing to cherish, the dignity of a ruler and father cannot make them strict, the majesty of a cauldron cannot make them fearful, thousands of words cannot make them articulate, even a saint can't do anything like that.The sage knows this, and every time he raises his dignity, he considers his selfishness, so that he doesn't care nothing.

Those who call people Yan Zi, who are all unhappy, forget their poverty and humbleness and die; call people Jie, Zhou, and Robber Zhi, and those who are not angry, forget their wealth and honor and live.The same is true for those who like good and evil and evil, but being a human being belongs to the same category as Jie, Zhou, and Bandit Zhi. Why hate the name but love the reality?
The relationship between flesh and blood in today's people is endless, just because you can see that you and I know each other too well.

The sage's etiquette is based on the consideration of human feelings, not by brushing them.The heart of a sage does not follow the convenience of human feelings, but once it is easy, one person, and then the world is not easy because of it.Therefore, the sages dare not be sympathetic to the urine and act in harmony with the world, and favoritism for a moment will harm the world forever. Those who act in favor of human affection are because they are pleasing to human affection.

The kindness of good people and the evil of wicked people are not too difficult.It's not so painful to love the good of oneself and hate the evil of oneself.

If there is sincerity, there is no intention, if there is no intention, there will be no trace, and if there is no trace, people will not doubt it.

As soon as I set my mind on it, it will follow the mark naturally, and when I make the mark, the two will doubt it, and if the two doubts, then both things seem to be true, so the intention will do great harm.Three or five-year-old men and women talk and laugh in the market all day long, men and women do not dislike each other, and those who meet them are undoubtedly like men and women.The kindness of the stepmother and the kindness of the first wife cannot be taken away from oneself, and people may not take it away to believe it, so it is because of the intention.

One person transports one pot, and the movement is sick, one person transports three pots, and the movement is late, and two people share ten pots, and the movement is late, and compared with each other, the number of these four people is equal.If the affairs of the world follow their own convenience, it is enough to help things, and there is no need to make them one by law, because human feelings will inevitably suffer.

The former kings were not bitter, so they got sick because of me.

In human feelings, if there is something to say but the intention is not certain, and if there is something but the intention is not certain, if it is not forced by the situation, it is bound by decency.Those who are kind to others should recognize their unspeakable feelings, so as not to make them suffer from words and things.The reason why this saint touches people's hearts is that people are happy to die for it.

The more you understand the human relationship, the more interesting it is, and the more you play with physics, the more interesting it is.

Don't be afraid of emotion, just be afraid of love.The world is chasing love, and all love is also.

The danger of human feelings is extremely serious.As soon as the officials were corrupt, Shangguan wanted to talk about it but let it out, Biyang offended him by other things, and the Shangguan avoided suspicion, so he didn't dare to talk about it.

"There are two or three moral friends who miss each other after a few days. They think of worldly thoughts. When they say goodbye, they feel close and close." Yu said: "Your words are very interesting. The taste is quite different, but the true taste is not deep enough. Confucius, Mencius, Yan, and Si, have we ever been connected in our life? Only when we recite and recognize it, it is like talking to each other day and night, like a family and a father and son relying on each other. What? Once in a thousand years, there is a body of thousands of miles. After a long time, there is no other and me, who is separated and who is united, who is close and who is estranged? If we meet each other, kind thoughts will arise, and if we disagree, but desires will grow, what will be the benefit of life?"

Get sick on weekdays, but blame it once.It originates from the viscera and seeks effect on the fur.The exhaustion of Taicang is also the responsibility of the poor.Yilin was blamed for the collapse of the building.

People in the world, when they hear that people are good, they are always jealous, and when they hear that people are evil, they are always happy. This is also a person who forgets the principles of heaven and makes people want to do whatever they want.What Confucius hated was called the evil of people; what Confucius liked was the goodness of people.How can we have another heart.

When people want to move, the first thought is the hottest, and it takes a long time to do it.In the movement of natural law, the first thought is the most courageous, and you will do it when you need it, and you will stop after a while.

Ordinary people do bad things, at the beginning they can't bear it, then they can't bear it for half, then they tolerate it, then they are peaceful, and then they are happy.hoot!As for the joy of being unkind, then the conscience dies.

Hearing people's goodness and covering it up, or writing to slander his intentions; hearing about people's faults and spreading them, or spreading his crimes with many branches and leaves.All of these are offended by ghosts and gods, and our party abstains from them.

Forgiveness is a good reason, it depends on what the thoughtful person is thinking.Those who are lustful forgive others for prostitution, those who love goods forgive others for greed, those who love to drink forgive others for drunkenness, those who love ease forgive others for being lazy. and also.Therefore, those who forgive must not be judged.

The heart is afraid of two or three, and the love is afraid of one.

Don't do your own business, and ask others about your own pain.

Hugh will be troubled and ask for love, but if you don't have love, you will be troubled.

There is no room for profit calculation, and disaster prevention is unexpected.

(End of this chapter)