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Chapter 5 Ethics (1)

Among the great love species in the universe, men and women rank first.The sage king does not want to cut and straighten it, nor can he cut and straighten it.Therefore, it is necessary to understand it, to treat it with the etiquette that it cannot be violated, and to punish it with the law that it will never be forgiven, so that even if it is tolerated, it will be peaceful and long-term.Saints are not as urgent as they are, so father and son, monarch and ministers, brothers, and friends in the five relationships should be honest and honest, thick and thick, lest the affection be thin.But the same relationship between men and women is the sage's painstaking effort, so the difference begins with the husband and wife.There is no difference with it, but it is different from it, and if there is a difference, are you willing to confuse it?The meaning of the saint is deep!It is the thoroughfare of life and death and the head of great chaos, so it cannot be careless.

A mother's beloved son has no intention of using love, nor does he know how to use love. If he is thirsty, hungry, and hungry, how can he force it?The son's love from his own mother is also, if it is said that he deserves it, he is accustomed to it naturally, like Xia Gedong and Qiu Ran, how can it be attributed to it?As for the kindness of the stepmother, there is virtue and embarrassment.When the former son received kindness from the stepmother, he was moved and praised.

In a family, if you want to respect the elders, you should rule the family.If you look at the elders and disrespect them, how can you respect him?To get it, you must learn from your elders.

As for the son of man, when it comes to caring for relatives, the heart is the top priority, and the body is the second; the bottom is, the body is not cared for;

A filial son is a relative, with courtesy and humility like a servant, and affection as soft and gentle as a child.

Eating food with relatives, but not persuading; giving advice to relatives, discussing but not admonishing; serving relatives, being harmonious but not arrogant.If your relatives are ill, worry but not sad;

Serving sickness, worrying and not eating, it is better to work hard to add meals, so that the body cannot serve the sickness, which is a great disobedience. Those also.

Above the imperial court, the rules and regulations are set and the subjects can abide by them, which is the rule of the court; the ministers and officials, and the officials of all divisions have their own laws, which can be followed, which is the rule of the official; , each in order, unchanged and not chaotic, is called daily life; eating and living, moving and speaking silently, choosing the right one, keeping it and not losing it, is called daily life.If it is regular, it will be ruled, if it is not regular, it will be chaotic. There is no one who will not be defeated.

If the rain is too moist, it will be a disaster for all things; if favor is too good, it will be a disaster for courtiers;

If the heart is happy, the will will be smooth, eat more and not hurt, the blood and qi will be harmonious but not depressed, and the body will be healthy without disease.Therefore, a filial son is to his parents, and he works all day long, lest something unpleasant happen to his parents.They don't stir up trouble at home, and they are extremely guarded against external conflicts. Regardless of rich or poor, high or low, ever-changing, good or bad, they just focus on pleasing relatives.The word Gai Yue is the first heart-to-heart formula for relatives.Even if you are unlucky and have had a relative, you must also work hard on the word Yue.A few remonstrances, accumulation of sincerity, patience and attention, and persuasion and strategy, have their own magic effects.It would be a great displeasure to be straight-up and arguing to the extreme, and to abandon it to increase one's anger.Therefore, it is said: "If you don't follow your relatives, you can't be a son."

Suburban society, the great virtue of repaying the birth of heaven and earth is also. However, there are disasters and disasters, and there are prayers for success. The ruler is benevolent when it is private land, and the people are loyal if they are public land. They are not too disinterested in seeking blessings or avoiding disasters.The children and grandchildren worship their ancestors in order to pursue their filial piety, and their own grandparents, because they have this body, say: "Rely on the blessings of the ancestors, so as to enjoy the rest of the celebration." , The heart is sad and thoughtful but has nothing to express, so the sacrifice is recommended to express my love." He said: "I am poor and humble enough to provide Shushui, and I can't catch the food today, and my heart is sad and beyond the reach, so the sacrifice is recommended. "Do you want to bless me because of the vacancies of wandering souls?Seeking blessings is no longer the heart of a gentleman, but with the establishment of a meal and the diligence of worshiping, asking for blessings for the ancestors, is the heart of benevolence, filial piety, sincerity and respect really so?Don't seek profit, don't blame others, don't expect them to be grateful, although it is the same for others, let alone my ancestors? The sacrifice of "Poetry" must speak of blessings, and the poems of "Chuci" are especially so, how can it be used as a lesson?I have only taken from the two poems "Cai Fan" and "Cai Ping", and I have done my best to achieve the sincerity and respect of my descendants, which is not as good as him.Knowing this way, everything in the world should do what I should do, disasters, welfare and harm, all will be done by myself, and the heart of human affairs will be cultivated and admired outside, and the thoughts of stopping to do it will be forgotten.who?It is clear about sex and has nothing to hope for.

Friends and Dao are extremely related, so they are tied for five with Junfu.The achievement of virtue and karma in life cannot be achieved without friends.The king acts with the law, and he who governs me; the father acts with kindness, and does not punish the good; the brother, Yiyi, does not want to hurt love with grievances; the wife is in charge of internal affairs, and must not follow each other; , there is a suspicion that can be avoided in the end; as for the strict teacher, he is reserved and restrained, and there is no way to see it;But husbands and friends, with each other day and night, are neither like a teacher who comes in and sees sometimes, with no suspicion of affection and courtesy; nor like father and son brothers' words.If a virtue is lost, friends will blame it; if karma is ruined, friends will blame it; beauty will reward and persuade each other; And enter the realm of the gentleman.Those who are friends depend on the four relationships.Husband!It has been a long time since Si Dao died.

Speech is frivolous, be gentle with others, regardless of the good or evil of things, treat those who obey me as kind friends;Tiptoes and ears, claiming to be confidant; clapping knees and shoulders, slashing necks indiscriminately.Everyone is trapped in the villain and doesn't know it, but it's sad!It is that those who are opposite to each other complement each other, and those who see opposites benefit each other.Confucius made friends by saying, "Straightforward, understanding, and knowledgeable."These three friends are all those who are not attached to me, so they are called Yi.Therefore, it is difficult to have the three friends, and it is even more difficult to be the three friends.Between heaven and earth, no matter where the world is, whether it is a gentry, a gentry, or a grassland, if you have a good friend, if you are like-minded, you will live a happy life.

The elders have discussions, but they only listen to them, and they have no direct relationship;This is the way of humble youth.

Yang calls its goodness to please the other's heart; yin nourishes its evil to please oneself.Under the blue sky and white sun, there is such a custom of ghosts and ghosts, what a pity!
The ancient saying: "Jun's gate is farther than ten thousand miles." It is also called love separation.Is it only the king's gate?Father and son have different hearts, and the family is far away thousands of miles; brothers are divorced, and the family is far away; husband and wife are against each other, and the same bed is far away.If love is united and aspirations are connected, thousands of miles away, it is like living in the same family and sharing a couch side by side.It can be deduced from this that they do not know each other at the same time, and it is the same for the gods who have been in touch with each other for thousands of generations.It is knowing that separation and reunion is in the heart period, not in bowing.When you meet with your heart, you will meet most in the world: Yao and Shun for monarchs and ministers, Wen Zhou for father and son, Kong Yan for teachers and brothers.

The word "separation" is a serious problem for human feelings.Therefore, monarchs and ministers, fathers and sons, husbands and wives, friends, and acquaintances between superiors and superiors must remove the separation. If this word is not removed and there is no resentment, there is no such thing.

The House of the Benevolent: Father and son are happy, husband and wife are happy, brothers are happy, children and servants are happy, and the atmosphere of the family is harmonious.The family of the righteous: father and son are dignified, husband and wife are dignified, brothers are like wings, children and servants are dignified, and the atmosphere of a family is like chestnut.A benevolent person wins with kindness, and his flow is harmonious and harmonious; a righteous person wins with strictness, and his flow is also sparse and ungrateful.Therefore, the home of a sage is also based on benevolence, supplemented by righteousness, in harmony with his feelings of harmony, but not broken by his defenses, that's it.It is well-organized and strict, and the city is deep and deep, so there is a distinction between men and women!Although the saint dare not forget with his family.

The father lives in the mother's death, the mother lives in the father's death, and the life of the living is the most important.Therefore, a filial son does not worry about the living with the dead, does not harm the general with small details, abolishes power without obscuring the scriptures, does not harm the truth with fame, and hurts relatives without completeness.What is more valuable than a filial son is the heart of relatives.

The world cannot be without a king for a day, so Yi and Qi are not Tang Wu, Ming Chen Dao also.It's a big deal in this world!Otherwise, chaotic ministers and thieves will follow one after another, and it will be difficult to be a king.The world cannot live without people for a day, so Confucius and Mencius are Tang and Wu, and they understand the way of the king.The greatest fear in this world!Otherwise, tyrants and rulers will follow one after another, and it will be difficult for the people.

The sage is proud of Juelu's favor.The saint does not take this as a detriment.The imperial court puts more emphasis on persuasion, but I despise it to show superiority.Therefore, although the saints are not proud of Jue Lu's favor, they are not disgraceful. They emphasize the power of the emperor to show the importance of the power of the emperor in the world. This is the way of ministers.

The son of man is kind, pleasant, and graceful. When he grows deeply, he raises it regularly. Let his parents be cold and iron, and thunder and anger. God, where did the slander come in?What is the reason for the suspicion?The second thing is to be respectful and cautious. Kui Kui and fasting chestnuts are the most respectful and cautious, so Gusou also agrees.Gentleness shows others loveliness and dispels parents' wrath; respect and prudence shows others dignity and arouses parents' compassion.The so-called accumulation of sincerity to move people is also called nurturing and paying tribute.The merits of Geiger's marriage are only harmony, deepness, speed, and embarrassment, and those who are not pure and filial can't.You can still force your ears to be respectful and cautious.Now, the Son of Man, with his indifferent looks, indolent personality, arrogant nature, and anger at offending his parents, is neither willing to redeem himself, nor is he extremely arrogant.That is to say, there are usually warm and happy sons, but when their parents are unhappy, they are also stunned, or they are suspicious and vent their anger; or they have no intention of venting anger and do not avoid suspicion; ominous.Are the parents unkind?This is the law and precept of lonely officials and evil sons, and the wonderful way of firm will and benevolence.

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