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Chapter 6 Ethics (2)

In the matter of filial sons, relatives are the most important thing, the first is the intention, the second is the commitment, and the second is the common destiny.If you share fate, your relatives have unspoken ambitions, which cannot be inherited;Or say: "A lot of thoughts can be pushed to this point?" Said: "Those who serve relatives are those who take pleasure in relatives as their business. Those who take pleasure in relatives as their business will breed those who have nothing to respect. It's just this idea. How many relatives do you have?" Will, can't you recognize it all day long?"

Or ask: "If you work with one person, there is no one who is not jealous, why?" He said: "People have different talents, sexual behaviors, appearances, and speech. Those who work must please those who can serve me, and hate those who cannot Me. Those who can do things are happy, but those who can’t do things will be neglected. It’s my lack of opinion, and the other can accomplish things. How can I not be jealous? If I’m jealous, I’m not in love with each other? I’m in love with each other. Misfortune? Therefore, those who see sparseness are jealous, and they are jealous of themselves; those who see joy are also jealous, and they are jealous of themselves." "But what can I do?" Respect, think of harmony and forget each other, why is there jealousy? Fate is for peace of mind, fate is for peace of life, anti-self rather than others, why is there jealousy? This is what people who enter the palace and court should know and also."

When a filial son serves his relatives, he must not be calm, solemn, dull, majestic, tired, sick, sad, or angry.

The sons and daughters were born into rich and noble families. They were more than nineteen years old, arrogant, lazy and promiscuous, and they did not make much progress.The ancients called it "feeding", saying that sweet food and good food are used to raise the flesh and blood, dogs and hogs.Gentlemen of this generation are ashamed to see it, but the other side is full of ambition and praises others.The crime of father and brother is so great!

Men and women are far apart, even fathers and daughters, mothers and children, brothers and sisters, and sisters, also have the subtle rituals of distinction.Therefore, men and women eat different food at the age of eight, and children and women serve uncles and aunts, which is also a courtesy.It is not far away, but the most strict etiquette of a man and woman in the secular world, when it is affected, it quickly hides it; secondly, husbands, brothers and wives avoid each other, and besides, there is nothing to avoid, and it has become chaotic.Even uncles and sisters-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law's wives take it for granted that they ridicule each other, isn't it more common?I don't know, the ancients were far away, and they stopped at giving and receiving without being close, not avoiding and hiding, but men and women were very involved, and apart from wives and concubines, everyone should be suspected of giving and receiving at a distance.Those who love rituals must be discerning!

As for sons and wives who serve others, before they become fathers and brothers, don't let slaves and maidservants serve, because of their arrogance and laziness.It is a blessing for life to work hard on that day and to humble you often.Otherwise, it is to kill it.Foolish parents, arrogant and extravagant children, you must know.

Greetings, greeting waiters, not the sick; asking the sick is not for the sake of peace.

The system of mourning clothes is based on human feelings and also establishes worldly teachings.Therefore, there are those who lead and those who push away, and those who push away, do not use the words "en" and "yi".And there are many unknowns.A gentleman who is philosophic and conversant must have some insight when he is in charge of production.Ni Gu is not philosophical.

When the relatives are gone and the relics are in sight, it is better to keep them instead of not being able to bear to see them.

(Xi'er) Yun: "The gate is one foot higher, and the arrogance is one foot lower. Huashan only gives way to the sky, and is not afraid that no one will go up."

The place to speak cautiously is the family; the people who should speak cautiously are the wives and servants. This is the source of chaos and the root of misfortune and fortune.People often ignore it, sad husband!
The door can be entrusted to the father and brother, but the loss of morality and reputation is not what the father and brother can shelter; the birth can be left to the parents, but it is not the reason for the parents to seek illness and risk.Those who are children of others must not know.

The abuse of the stepmother and the jealousy of the first wife have been regarded as haters in ancient and modern times; while the former son is unfilial and the husband is unruly, they are willing to ignore it.The bias of the world is too long!There are no traces of the mother, but because it seems to be suspicious; the name of the father is used to slander for no reason;Indulge in the sexuality of adultery, but favor the green silk; take the prestige of the city and society, and insult Huangli;Only the son is filial to the husband, and then the stepmother and the first wife have nothing to say to the in-laws!Resident officials must know.

Qi cuts things with a knife, so that those who are uneven will be consistent.In a place where family favors win, there are many affections but few righteousness, private affairs are easy but public affairs are difficult, if everyone does what they want, there will be no limit.Therefore, the ancients regarded parents as strict rulers, and the family law should be dignified, covering the symptomatic treatment.

In the boudoir, if the word "li" is missing, the world will be turned upside down.Hundreds of misfortunes, death and family ruin, all started from this point.

Parents, the king of the family.The first one makes people love and respect him, and the second one makes people fearful, so it is called Yan Jun.The bottom makes people slow, the bottom makes people maim, and the bottom makes people hate.Make people slow, but there is no one who is not in chaos; make people mausoleum, there is no one who is invincible; make people hate, there is no one who is not dead.Alas!Why is the Qi family so small?Today's people are all anxious to cure their lives, but the way of family harmony has not been taught for a long time!
In the generation of children, they often watch his fists and fists, tight and precise, and there must be fear when he moves, and surprise when he speaks. It is unknown when he is a child.If you make it happy and suitable, you will kill it.This is what foolish parents should know.

Wouldn't it be nice if the person in charge kept his mouth shut and rolled his tongue, his face was flushed and his back was sweating, and he would still be stabbed endlessly?However, it is so mean!Therefore, when a gentleman attacks others, he does not exhaust his faults, but he must implicitly use the shame and fear of Xu people to make them rehabilitate, which is interesting.

Bent wood and evil ropes, stubborn rocks and evil attacks, and words of reprimanding goodness, one must not be careless.

Grace comes from the nature of human feelings and cannot be forced.However, etiquette is decent, and it is still possible to blame others; kindness comes from the root of the heart, but instead of responsibility, it is lost.Therefore, thin favors can be tied to make them thick, and kindness and separation can be tied to make them strong. Responsibility and hope for each other breed deep grievances.Between father and son, brothers, and husband and wife in ancient times, they all took responsibility for making flesh and blood enemies.

Song Ruyun: "The patriarchal law is clear and the family morals are upright." Is it only the family morals?To bring order and chaos in the world, we must always let it go.In the universe, there is nothing that does not belong to each other and is not governed by each other.A person's body is connected to four limbs, and one limb is connected to five fingers; trees are connected to trunks, branches are connected to branches, and leaves are connected to branches;
The spikes are used to control [He Zun], and the [He Zun] is used to control the grains, covering the same root and vein, and they are united into a body.This is the art of doing everything in one move, and it is the key to governing the world.The son of heaven governs the six ministers, the six ministers governs the Jiumu, the Jiumu governs the counties, the counties govern the township, and the township governs the eldest son.Deeds should be obliged, favors should be disseminated, teachings should be propagated, and rules should be supervised.Then the husband will not work at the top, and the bottom will not be chaotic, and the government will be easy to carry out.Since the patriarchal system was abolished, each person is his own body, and each family is governed by his own government. They are like flying catkins and flying sand, and they are not connected to each other. As a result, the upper labor has no essentials to support, and the lower has no veins. We know that enlightenment is easy but hard to achieve.Therefore, if the patriarchal law is established, all good things will prosper, and if the patriarchal law is abolished, everything will be relaxed.Or say: "The eldest son is cheap, weak, young, and disrespectful. How can he rule the clan?" Said: "The ancient patriarchal system is also like feudalism, and the descendants are the eldest. , and the powerful can see the eldest son like a mouse, but the fish and flesh are lonely and weak. Who will control it? If there is an eldest son, he should establish a head, and the eldest son should be the eldest son for generations; For the sons, Xu respects his power and saves each other's losses. For these two things, if the clan members listen to them, there will be a department responsible for them, and discipline and law are easy to implement."

The way to be responsible for goodness is not to make them have what I don't have, and not to make them have nothing to own. This is why the ancients valued their friends.

"My mother is holy and good, and I have no one to make people." A filial son must not know;

Above the scholar-official level, there are ancestral halls, official bedrooms, and guest seats.Ancestral hall: There are Zhaifang, Shenku, where the ancestors of the fourth generation live, where the relics of the ancestors are stored, where the descendants stand and worship, where the utensils for sacrifices, tripods, and toilets are displayed, and the music in the hall is listed. The master's circle of ups and downs.Bedtime: For auspicious ceremonies, the concubine who is forbidden by birth will be moved; for inauspicious ceremonies, the coffin will be stopped, the dining table, incense tables, clothes and crowns in front of the coffin, the place for crying and laying down day and night, the display of bed curtains and other utensils beside the coffin, The mourning times of the five clothes, the crying positions of men and women, the guests hanging outside the hall and the sacrificial utensils are listed here.The guest seat: the place where the funeral will be moved to the coffin, the twists and turns of the crown ceremony, the place of marriage between men and women, and the feast of the guests.These three institutes all have two ranks and ranks.The former residence is rather shabby, but the place of the four rituals is definitely not shabby.Recently, I have seen famous people, some of whom have high-quality Qing Festival decorations, such as revolving horses, knees, and rope-pivot urns. I admire them very much, and I love etiquette more than I love names.Therefore, you can do what you can, and you don't think you are too rich, and you dare to sue those who are above the doctor.

It is not enough to be ashamed of observing etiquette, but it is shameful to resist it.What is there to be ashamed of?
There is nothing more harmful to the family than the humble and the young, each of whom indulges his insatiable affections, and the one who does what he wants but does not restrain him.It is rare to prohibit these two evils and cause family disharmony.

Just take one word to do it, which is the principle of "building the heavens and the earth without conflict, and questioning the ghosts and gods without any doubt". What's more, you ask about divination, and you believe in the fate of the stars!Or say: "To seek good fortune and avoid evil, the way to protect one's life." Said: "When the ruler's father is in trouble, and the ministers die loyal and filial, is it possible to seek good fortune and avoid evil?" Don’t you know the righteousness and reason?” He said: “When there is something to do, it is necessary to judge the time and the situation, and the situation also seeks knowledge and insight, how can it be evil in the prophecy Yin and Yang family’s pursuit?” It cannot be done by force." Said: "A gentleman's peace is righteousness, so follow the principle of righteousness, and not follow the principle of righteousness. Wealth, honor and profit will be paid to the sky, and advance and retreat will be determined by oneself." Or say: "When you are helpless How about it?" He said: "This also depends on the truth. If you are sick, look forward to it and go away. The way of Bian Que should be like this. If it is an instant, there will be no life. If you get a good prescription by chance, you still rush to pour the medicine. A filial son is kind. Sun Zhidao should be like this."

I sincerely say that not only the outside world, but no one should say anything in the family;

(End of this chapter)