Li Yinhe talks about sex

Chapter 54 Men eat more potatoes than women

Men have a stronger sex drive, a greater interest in sex, and a greater need for the number of sexual partners than women.Aboriginal people believe that this is why men eat more potatoes than women.

There is a general impression that men have a higher sex drive, a greater interest in sex, and a greater need for number of sexual partners than women.This impression has been confirmed by a number of empirical studies.To cite two examples: One is a survey of 3500 Americans aged 18 to 59 in the developed-society United States.Surveys show that American men have an average of six sexual partners in their lifetime, while women have an average of only two.Another example is a survey of primitive tribesmen in the 20s, which found that men in a tribe called the Ennis "big" masturbated more and were more interested in sex than women. The classic description of the phenomenon, the famous sexologist Kinsey said something like this: Among people all over the world, men need more sexual relationships with different partners than women.

So, why is there such a difference between men and women?Different societies and cultures have given different interpretations.One theory is that the consequences of promiscuity are different for men and women.Because a woman has to think about caring for her offspring for the first few years of their lives, she must pick the best mate, and male promiscuity increases her chances of leaving offspring.Another way of saying it is: the reason is that in a sexual relationship, men are after quantity and women are after quality.There is another saying: women's sex is always connected with emotion, but men can accept sex without emotion.Among the various theories, the one of the Burakumin people is the most interesting: the aborigines believe that the reason for this difference is that men eat more potatoes than women.

There are also various evaluations on this phenomenon: some people think that men are superior to women because of their stronger vitality than women; Because her morality is better than that of men; some people seem to be impartial, and they say that since the difference between men and women is determined by biology, the respective needs of men and women should be fully met—they find the basis for polygamy from here.

In my opinion, there are three main points in this matter: one is the fact, the other is the reason, and the third is the evaluation.

Let's look at the facts first.Are Men Really More Sexual Than Women?Just having a sexual partner for a lifetime can’t prove this point. Maybe it’s because a man is too lazy (from a certain moral standard, it means bad conduct) and there is no physiological basis for it.Since sex brings pleasure, what evidence is there that women dislike or need it less than men?Contrary evidence can also be found: women can have multiple orgasms, while men have a long refractory period after orgasm.In this way, which sex has a stronger sexual desire, men or women?This so-called "physiological fact" is indeed questionable.

Look at the reason again.Even if from the perspective of social phenomena, men do appear to have stronger sexual desires than women, and men have more sexual partners than women, we cannot only look at the reasons biologically.Historically, men have had more economic, social, and cultural capital than women in most cultures. Based on this, they have created a double moral standard for men and women, requiring women to be more restrained and suppress their own needs. Even to be ashamed, ashamed of one's own sexuality, but men don't have to.If a man has many sexual partners, it is a sign of success and sexiness; if a woman has many sexual partners, it is a sign of shamelessness and depravity.I think this double moral standard is enough to explain the phenomenon that women have fewer sexual partners than men, and there is no need to look for any biological reasons.

Finally, how do we evaluate this phenomenon.In my opinion, men have more sexual partners than women, neither does it mean that men have stronger vitality than women, nor does it mean that women are inherently more chaste and more moral than men, it just shows that after thousands of years of patriarchal society According to cultural accumulation, men and women have unequal attitudes and behavior patterns in dealing with their own sexual desires: men can express and realize their sexual desires more freely, while women are more accustomed to suppressing themselves.Therefore, we can deduce that in a more reasonable society, the desires of both sexes can be expressed and realized more freely, and both sexes should be happier than they are now.

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