Behavioral Psychology: Instantly Read the Secrets Behind Others' Small Actions

Chapter 12 A happy marriage depends on management, interpret each other's micro-reactions and find a tacit understanding of the soul
Life after marriage gradually tends to be dull. Couples in marriage are like left and right hands, getting closer and closer, but often ignore the role of communication.In this case, it is very important to understand the body language of the other party.Therefore, couples in marriage need to understand a little behavioral psychology, and try to understand each other's inner world by interpreting each other's behavior.

1.Wife who sleeps like a baby feels insecure

Mr. Q: I recently discovered that when my wife sleeps, she always curls up into a ball, like a baby.She has become a mother, how can she still sleep in a baby-like sleeping position?
Love expert: It doesn’t mean that when you become a mother, you won’t be able to sleep like a baby.Generally speaking, people are unconscious when they sleep, and a woman who sleeps like a baby lacks a sense of security. As her husband, you should make him feel safe and secure, and it is best to hold her to sleep.

【Scene reconstruction】

Pan Hongying and Gu Jiajun are a sweet little couple.However, I don't know what happened recently.The couple always rarely communicate with each other, as if they are busy with their own affairs.

One day at four o'clock in the morning, her husband Gu Jiajun got up to go to the bathroom.When I turned on the light, I was surprised to find that my wife, Pan Hongying, was curled up like a baby, frowning from time to time.Gu Jiajun, who has a little understanding of behavioral psychology, saw his wife sleeping in this position and knew why his wife was feeling uneasy and insecure.At this time, he suddenly remembered that he had not communicated with his wife for a long time.He had no idea what his wife was thinking or doing during this time.A deep sense of guilt prompted him to embrace his wife in his arms.In his arms, his wife slept very soundly.

The next night, Gu Jiajun asked cautiously, "Honey, have you encountered any troubles recently?" Pan Hongying has been feeling very depressed about her husband's change recently.When her husband asked her, she suddenly didn't know what to say.

"Wife, we are husband and wife. Is there anything we can't say? Tell me if you have any troubles, and I will share it with you." Gu Jiajun put his wife's shoulders and said very gently.

I don't know how long it has been since I heard such warm words from my husband.She cried suddenly and said, "I've been feeling uneasy in my heart recently. I always feel that you have changed your mind, and you no longer love me like you used to."

Gu Jiajun asked in great surprise: "Why do you have such an idea?"

The wife continued: "The reason why I agreed to marry you at the beginning was because you were like your name at that time. You not only took care of the family, but also knew how to take care of me. As long as you promise me, you will do it. I therefore I feel very solid and safe. However, since I got married, I feel that you have changed, you no longer take care of me as carefully as before, and I have become the main force of this family instead. Therefore, I always feel uneasy psychologically. "

Gu Jiajun said with a smile: "Silly girl, before you get married, I should take care of you. But after you get married, you will become a wife. Some things at home need to be done by your wife, so that you can continue to grow."

As a husband, have you noticed how your wife sleeps?From her sleeping position, you can not only interpret your wife's character, but also figure out her inner activities.

[expert answering doubts]

When it comes to sleeping posture, many people can't help but think of the elegant and quiet Sleeping Beauty.However, elegant Sleeping Beauties also have different sleeping positions. Some Sleeping Beauties like to sleep on their backs, some like to sleep on their stomachs, and some like to sleep naked... In short, different people like different sleeping positions. Different sleeping positions hide different psychological activities.Husband and wife, if you can pay attention to observe each other's sleeping posture, then you will discover many secrets from the sleeping posture that you usually cannot discover.

Gu Jiajun in the story inadvertently noticed his wife's baby-like sleeping posture. From her sleeping posture, Gu Jiajun felt his wife's uneasy heart.Therefore, he took the initiative to communicate with his wife.Through communication, Gu Jiajun knew what his wife was worried about and explained accordingly.

If Gu Jiajun hadn't noticed his wife's sleeping position, then he wouldn't know that she was so restless in her heart, and couldn't get timely communication.As time goes by, conflicts will accumulate more and more, and the day when they cannot be resolved, it will bring a very big blow to both parties.

From the above story, we know that the two couples in marriage might as well learn a little behavioral psychology.From the behavior of the other party, you will discover many secrets that you don't know.

[Extended reading]

For people in the busy city, sleeping is undoubtedly a very pleasant thing.But it is in this particularly relaxed state that we are most likely to get a glimpse of a person's inner personality and unknown secrets.

As the husband of your wife's closest person, do you pay attention to your wife's sleeping position?From her sleeping position, you may be able to discover many little-known secrets, and it will also help you get along with her better.

Confident woman in prone sleeping position
A woman who sleeps in a prone position has strong self-confidence and outstanding abilities.For the most part, they hold themselves well.They have a very clear sense of who they are and what they do.For the goal they pursue, they are persistent and have the confidence and ability to achieve it.

Women who sleep like babies feel insecure

Women who sleep in a baby-like sleeping position are mostly insecure, weak and vulnerable.They have relatively poor independence awareness, always have a strong dependence on a familiar character or environment, and have a fear of unfamiliar characters and environments.

Cheerful and generous woman who likes to sleep on her back

Women who like to sleep on their backs are cheerful and generous. They are more enthusiastic, kind, and compassionate, and can gain a good insight into the psychology of others.They are willing to give alms, and they can often prioritize people and things, and know what they should do to achieve the best results.They generally have a strong sense of responsibility, and they will not shirk their responsibilities when encountering problems, but face them bravely, and even take the initiative.

Women who like to sleep naked yearn for freedom
People who like to sleep naked yearn for freedom. They are people who live by sensuality and do things too, so they are often criticized by others.

A woman who likes to sleep alone is a loner

Women who like to sleep alone are lone rangers both at work and in life. They attach great importance to personal space and consider it sacrosanct.Even the closest people are not allowed to break in casually.They regard their inner world as the fortress of life and are unwilling to get along with others.

2.The wife who suddenly scrambles to answer the phone with you is probably having an affair
Q Jun: Recently, I found that my wife has changed a lot.In the past, she didn't like to answer the phone, but for some reason recently, she suddenly rushed to answer the phone with me, and the voice of answering the phone was very low, as if there was something she couldn't see.

Love field expert: You are right, she is vying to answer the phone with you, and she probably already has an affair.Because she is afraid that you will find some flaws when you answer the phone.

【Scene reconstruction】

Zhao Wenfei and his wife Li Yuan have been married for 6 years and have a beautiful and lovely daughter.Zhao Wenfei worked hard to earn money outside, while his wife Li Yuan took care of her daughter at home, doing laundry and cooking.The family lives happily, happily and happily.

However, recently, Zhao Wenfei discovered that his wife, Li Yuan, had changed. She often left her daughter to herself, and went out to play by herself dressed up beautifully.Zhao Wenfei secretly guessed: "I have been busy working outside these few years, and she is the only one who takes care of my daughter. Now, it is also appropriate to go out and relax." Thinking of this, he didn't pay much attention to his wife's behavior.

In a blink of an eye, several months have passed.One night, after Zhao Wenfei put his daughter to sleep, he planned to have a heart-to-heart chat with his wife.However, just as he was lying in bed, the phone rang suddenly.Zhao Wenfei originally wanted to answer the phone, but unexpectedly, his wife, who had been lying in bed early, suddenly rolled over and ran out to answer the phone.

Zhao Wenfei vaguely heard his wife talking to a man. Although his wife lowered the voice of the conversation, he could still vaguely hear some of it.After a while, the wife hung up the phone in a hurry and walked into the bedroom unnaturally.

When his wife went to bed, Zhao Wenfei wanted to ask who was calling so late.However, after thinking about it, I still think that if my wife is willing to tell me, she will definitely tell me, why bother to ask.Therefore, he has been expecting his wife to tell him about it.

However, what he didn't expect was that when he was full of thoughts, his wife had already fallen into a sweet dream.The next morning, my wife got up to cook as if nothing had happened.

After this incident, Zhao Wenfei kept an extra thought.One night, when the phone rang, he hurried to answer it.

"Hello! Darling, are you asleep?" A man's voice immediately reached Zhao Wenfei's ears.He immediately hung up the phone and walked into the bedroom in a panic.Wife Li Yuan saw her husband's expression was not right, and vaguely sensed something.

For some reason, she suddenly threw herself into her husband's arms and cried, "Since you got married, you have been busy with work every day, and you have never considered my feelings. I take my child with me every day and live a boring life day after day , and this kind of life leaves me feeling lonely and empty. So, so..."

"I'm sorry! I'm really sorry! It's because I didn't do my duty as a husband. What happened in the past has let it go, and I will definitely correct it in the future." Zhao Wenfei hugged her tightly before his wife could finish speaking.

After going through this incident, they lived happier and better lives.

In this impetuous economic era, when married life is flat, many wives often cheat on each other because they have nothing to do.The wife is cheating, and the husband is always the last to know.How to find out that his wife is having an affair in time, and how to save his marriage?
[expert answering doubts]

Everyone knows that having an affair is an unspeakable thing, and many people will hide it.Therefore, whether your wife is having an affair or not, it is difficult for you to get the answer from her mouth.However, there are signs for everything, just like ants move before it rains.As long as you pay attention to observe your wife's unusual behavior, you can determine whether she is having an affair.For example, suddenly rushed to answer the phone with you, suddenly became fond of dressing up, suddenly changed the previous work habits and living habits...

The wife in the story, Li Yuan, is having an affair. She not only likes to dress up, but also suddenly competes with her husband to answer the phone.It was this behavior that made her husband Zhao Wenfei suspicious, so he kept an extra eye on him.Under his careful observation, he really discovered his wife's affair.However, fortunately, his wife, Li Yuan, knew that her husband knew about the incident, so she adopted a "confess and be lenient" attitude, and promptly admitted her mistakes to her husband, and the husband also realized his mistakes.Thus, successfully saved a marriage.

In fact, certain things in marriage can only be survived for a long time if they are discovered and resolved early.If you wait for something to become irretrievable, then the marriage is on the verge of dissolution.Therefore, both parties in a marriage should pay more attention to observe each other's behavior, find out some clues from their behavior, and find a solution as soon as possible.

[Extended reading]

Likes, crushes, having an affair... These things that people dare not speak out make the relationship between men and women extremely delicate.If we learn to pay attention to certain details, the other party's mind may be "exposed" in front of us.

Suddenly competing with you to answer the phone

In the past, when the home phone rang, your wife rarely took the initiative to answer it.However, one day, she always rushed to answer the phone before you, and the voice of the conversation was many times lower than usual, and sometimes she hung up in a hurry after talking a few words.When this happens to your wife, you, as a husband, should pay more attention to the unusual behavior of your wife recently.

suddenly become fond of dressing up
Sexy lingerie is usually a must-have for an affair, whenever your wife comes home late, always wear sexy lingerie, or whenever your wife travels, travels, attends a meeting, always has something sexy in her suitcase Underwear or the best make-up to look extra youthful and beautiful.

Sudden changes in usual work habits and living habits

Recently, your wife's working hours have suddenly been extended for no reason, and overtime has become more frequent. She is very concerned about all the activities of the unit, such as dances, social gatherings, and travel.

Sudden change in sexual habits

There was a time when your wife made excuses to refuse to have sex with you and stopped calling you out for sex.Sometimes, the opposite happens: she suddenly becomes "sexy" and demands some new lovemaking techniques, and even throws up tricks, many of which you don't know about.

conversation becomes erratic
There comes a time when your wife talks to you less and less, watches more TV, and suddenly mentions someone of the opposite sex by name.She also often makes opinions or jokes that she doesn't usually make.

3.Husbands who touch their noses are often lying

Q Jun: That night, my husband came back late. I asked why he came back so late. He touched his nose and said, "I'm working overtime." But why do I feel like he's lying?
Love field expert: judge whether a person is lying or not?Not just by feeling, but by observing his behavior.You can tell if he's lying by watching his behavior.

【Scene reconstruction】

Lan Lijie and her husband have been married for a year. They go home after get off work every day, cook, watch TV, watch movies and go to the park together on weekends, and live a happy life.

Recently, my husband often works overtime and comes back very late.Lan Lijie was bored by herself, so she started watching the American drama "Lie to Me".Since watching this American TV series, she has started to use various methods taught in it to analyze her husband's tone, movements and expressions when talking to her, so as to find out whether he has lied to her.

One night, my husband called again to say that he had to work overtime.However, Lan Lijie was always hesitant when listening to her husband speak on the phone.Therefore, Lan Lijie concluded that her husband was lying.Because a person hesitates, repeats, and cannot organize his words well, he is probably lying.

However, Lan Lijie pretended not to know, and secretly observed what he had to hide.So, she went downstairs to her husband's company and waited for him.After he got off work, Lan Lijie secretly followed him again.It turned out that the husband went to a party with his good friends, and the reason why he kept it from Lan Lijie was because Lan Lijie once said that his friends were "foul friends".

In the evening, my husband came home.Lan Lijie pretended not to know what to do, as usual, she took her husband's hand and asked, "Did you have a hard day today? Have you finished your work?"

The husband touched his nose and said: "I work hard to let you live a better life, it's not hard at all."

Lan Lijie knew very well that when a man touched his nose, he was usually lying.She laughed off her husband's lies and did not expose them.

Sometimes, when a man doesn't want his wife to know something, he often chooses to lie.Did your husband lie?

[expert answering doubts]

There was such a dialogue in "Pinocchio":
"How do you know I'm lying?"

"My dear child, you can tell a lie at a glance, because there are only two kinds of it, one is short-legged, and the other is long-nosed. Your lie is long-nosed."

In fairy tales, Pinocchio grows his nose when he tells a lie, but in real life, people touch their noses when they lie.It's a fun idea to say that lying makes your nose grow, but lying does increase blood flow to the nose area, causing it to swell and tingle.So, touching your nose is a common gesture when a person is lying.

When the husband in the story said: "I work hard to let you live a better life, it's not hard at all", he touched his nose unconsciously.From the action of touching his nose, his wife Lan Lijie concluded that he was lying.Lan Lijie knew very well that what she encountered was a harmless little lie, so she didn't try to expose it.However, we must remind everyone that if your husband lies on a matter of principle, then you have to judge whether to take further measures.

Another point worth noting is that judging whether the other party is lying or not from the action of touching the nose is only an auxiliary method, not a complete judgment method.When using this method, we must remember such a rule: the simple itching of the nose often only triggers the single gesture of rubbing the nose repeatedly, and has nothing to do with the content, frequency and rhythm of people's entire conversation.If there is some connection between this, you must be vigilant about the content of his conversation.

[Extended reading]

Some psychologists have studied and told us that when a liar tries his best to conceal, even if his language is seamless, there will still be some physical traces and false emotions.For example, rubbing eyes, touching nose, etc.

the person who rubs his eyes is lying

If a person speaks the truth, then he must have the courage to look you in the eyes and say it.If he rubs his eyes and turns his head away, the operation betrays his word.This shows that not only has he lied, but he is inventing an even bigger lie.

touch nose
Scientists at the Smell, Taste Therapy and Research Foundation in Chicago found that when people lie, chemicals called catecholamines are released, causing cells lining the nasal cavity to swell.Scientists have also revealed that blood pressure can also rise as a result of lying, using special imaging machines that can show blood flow inside the body.The rise in blood pressure causes the nose to swell, which triggers the nerve endings in the nasal cavity to transmit a tingling sensation, so people can only frequently rub their noses with their hands to relieve itchy symptoms.

4.Drunk husband craving attention on phone
Mr. Q: One night, my husband was on a business trip and got drunk. He kept calling me and said a lot of irrelevant things. He never said so many things.I really don't know what's wrong with him.

Love expert: The man who calls you when he is drunk is very lonely in his heart, and he longs for you to give him care.As a wife, you must usually ignore his inner feelings. It is recommended that you two communicate more.

【Scene reconstruction】

Huasha and her husband have been married for a year. Her husband is a silent man who is not humorous at all, but he is honest and a good man who lives at home.After one year of marriage, although their family is not happy, they rarely quarrel.

Recently, her husband was on a business trip, and they only contacted each other on the phone occasionally, and their lives were still as smooth as water.However, in the middle of the night, Warsaw's cell phone rang unexpectedly.As soon as she picked up the phone, her husband's voice came into her ears: "Hey, let me tell you something very important. I, I, today, I met a client today and talked for a long time, but he In the end, I didn't sign the contract, so I was really pissed off!"

Hua Sha was sleeping soundly. Unexpectedly, he was woken up by her husband's phone call. He was a little angry at first, but he couldn't bear to hear him say that, so he comforted him and said, "It's okay, what's the big deal if a client doesn't sign? A little experience and lessons, think about how to get customers in the future, that’s all.”

Unexpectedly, Hua Sha's consolation did not have any effect. My husband seemed to be unable to hold back his words as soon as he opened the spigot. , one of Warsaw's best friends keeps coming to his house and he's getting bored...

Hearing her husband's words, Hua Sha was very angry, so she hung up the phone with a snap.Unexpectedly, after she hung up the phone, her husband called again and continued to chatter some irrelevant words.Although Hua Sha knew that her husband said these things because he was drunk, he still felt very angry in his heart.

I don't know how long it took, but her husband hung up the phone automatically, but Hua Sha was sleepless at this time.She was lying in bed, thinking over and over again what her husband had just said.It is said that drunk men are lonely and long for the attention of others.It can be seen from this that the husband is lonely in his heart and longs for the care of his wife.Reflecting on what she had done, Huasha found that she seldom took the initiative to care about him, and rarely understood his true thoughts... It was precisely because of the lack of communication that she didn't know what her husband was thinking, which made each other's hearts ache. Build a high wall.

After realizing this, Huasha changed the way of getting along with her husband.They often communicate, sometimes fail to communicate, and quarrel, but their lives are more enjoyable.

In married life, when your husband is drunk, does he blindly call you and say some irrelevant words?What is the reason?

[expert answering doubts]

A drunk person will often call others at a time that is not suitable for calling. The person who answers the phone is often dumbfounded by his so-called reasons, especially when he receives the call in the middle of the night, it is even more annoying.In fact, as long as you carefully analyze the behavior of these people, you will find that the people who call when they are drunk are completely lonely and yearn for the care of others.

If your husband calls you suddenly when he is drunk, as a wife, you should reflect on what you have done.Maybe you haven't communicated with your husband properly for a long time, ignoring his psychological feelings and making him feel lonely.If you are aware of this problem, then you should strengthen communication with your husband, resolve his inner emotions in time, and make your marriage happier.

In the story, Huasha felt the loneliness of her husband through his behavior of calling him when he was drunk, and reflected on it to find out the mistakes he made.Thus, strengthening the communication with the husband, truly entering the husband's inner world, and helping the husband to resolve his inner emotions in time, the life of the two of them is more enjoyable.

In counseling on marriage and family issues, nearly 70% of the couples did not know how to communicate, which led to conflicts between husband and wife and even divorce.Husband calling you suddenly after drunk is a sign of your lack of communication. Don’t ignore your husband’s behavior, and don’t be perfunctory. Instead, you should attach great importance to it, strengthen communication with each other, and make your marriage develop in a better direction. .

[Extended reading]

In this era of economic development, people stay away from their relatives and friends and work far away in order to live.In an unfamiliar environment, they feel lonely.In order to eliminate the strong sense of loneliness in their hearts, they often communicate with others through mobile phones.

Drunk phone caller yearns for care
The mentality of drunk people has been divorced from reality. They often call others when they think they have remembered an important thing at a time that is not suitable for calling.But the person who answered the phone was often dumbfounded by his so-called reasons.Many people think that the other party is drunk, so just say something to deal with him perfunctorily.In fact, otherwise, they hope to communicate and communicate with more people, and want to tell their loneliness so as to eliminate their dissatisfaction.

People who check their phones often are lonely

In life, if people are too close, they may hate each other; if they are too far away, they will feel lonely and unbearable.For those who are troubled by such difficulties, the mobile phone becomes the only tool to maintain a proper social distance with others.Therefore, no matter in their spare time or during busy work, they always check their mobile phones from time to time to see if there is an incoming call or text message on the mobile phone.People who constantly check their phones are lonely, and they are eager to communicate with others on the phone to relieve their inner loneliness.

5.The husband spreads his hands to show that he has compromised

Mr. Q: Once, I quarreled with my husband, obviously he was wrong, but I still refused to admit it.However, when speaking, he always makes the gesture of spreading his hands, showing others with the palm of his hand.

Love expert: Your husband spreads his hands, which not only shows his innocence, but also admits his mistakes and asks for a compromise.If you understand the hidden meaning behind his actions, then it is best to stop blaming him immediately.

【Scene reconstruction】

Jiang Ting got married last year, and the newlywed Yaner was originally happy and sweet.However, Jiang Ting looked sad because she found that her husband liked playing mahjong very much.

One night, the husband came home very late again.As soon as her husband opened the door and came in, Jiang Ting scolded her head and face: "You know how to play mahjong in one day. Since you like playing mahjong so much, don't go back to this house in the future."

My husband lost today, so I was really angry.As a result, when I got home, I was scolded by my wife again.Therefore, without saying anything, he spread his hands and fled into the bedroom in despair.Her husband often did this, and Jiang Ting was so angry that she beat her chest and stamped her feet.

The next day, Jiang Ting, who was so angry, found her good sister and said with snot and tears: "Why is my life so bad? I met a gambler? If I knew he was like this, I would beat him to death." I'm not going to marry him either."

Jiang Ting's good sister finally understood what was going on after hearing her cry.She asked patiently: "When you blame him like this, how does he behave?"

"Don't say anything, spread your hands, and fled into the bedroom in desperation." Jiang Ting said crying.

"Spread your hands?"

"Yeah, other than that, is there anything else to do?"

Jiang Ting's good sister smiled and said: "My silly girl, you are using the wrong method! He spreads his hands and shows you with the palm of his hand, which shows that he has admitted his mistake and compromised with you. You should keep stepping closer." Forced, isn't it self-defeating? A man is very rebellious, maybe you don't blame him in the future, and the situation may change. "

Jiang Ting blinked and asked, "Really?"

"Let's try it."

Later, when her husband went to play mahjong again, Jiang Ting stopped scolding him. On the contrary, as soon as he entered the door, Jiang Ting greeted him with care.Sure enough, slowly, the husband came home earlier and earlier.Later, I seldom played mahjong.

Have you ever noticed your husband react unusually when you blame him for something?Maybe from this reaction, you can discover unexpected secrets!
[expert answering doubts]

Generally speaking, showing the palm of your hand is a gesture of goodwill, expressing obedience and compromise.In life, as long as you observe carefully, you will find that when the hostess guides the route, she will point out the direction with her palms up.This gesture represents a friendly sincerity.

In marriage, when a husband is scolded by his wife, he usually spreads his hands, saying "I didn't do anything." His gesture not only shows his innocence, but also admits his mistakes and asks for a compromise. , I don't want my wife to blame him again.However, some wives can't read their husband's body language and just blame him.The result will be counterproductive.

Jiang Ting in the story is like this. Because she didn't understand the hidden meaning behind the gesture of spreading her hands, she blindly blamed him, and as a result, her husband came back later and later.In fact, when the husband spreads his hands, it shows that he already knows that he is wrong and asks for a compromise.But unfortunately, Jiang Ting did not know the meaning behind this action.Under the enlightenment of her friends, she realized her mistake.

The above story tells us a truth: men generally have a better face, even if they are wrong, they will not take the initiative to admit their mistakes.But if the wife can read his body language, then she can know whether he admits his mistake or not.If he has already admitted his mistake in his heart, then we don't need to blame him.Because no one likes to be blamed.

[Extended reading]

The palm of the hand shows obedience and compromise

The palm-to-hand gesture is a gesture of goodwill, submission and compromise.In life, when a husband is scolded by his wife, he usually spreads his hands and expresses "I haven't done anything".He made this gesture not only to show his innocence, but also to admit his mistakes and ask for a compromise, and he did not want his wife to blame him again.If you see your husband doing this, stop blaming him.

Raise a hand and show the palm
Raise one hand and palm to show that you want to speak, or to get the other person's attention.

Hidden palms or palms down to show dominance
Hidden palms or palms down indicate authority, and if someone makes a palms down gesture at you, you can immediately sense his dominance.Generally speaking, leaders like to make this action.

6.Extremely disturbed husband with hand under hip
Q Jun: When I was talking to my husband today, he suddenly put his hand under his buttocks. I rarely saw him do this kind of movement before. Why did he suddenly do this kind of movement?
Lover: Putting his hands under his hips shows that he is extremely disturbed and is trying his best to control his emotions, fearing that his next words and actions will bring displeasure to the other party.As a wife, you should try to appease his inner unease.

【Scene reconstruction】

Peng Jiaxin and her husband have been married for two years. In the past two years, they have lived happily.The husband works hard to earn money outside, while the wife manages the family well.Although the days are dull, they are happy and harmonious.

One night, Peng Jiaxin watched TV with her husband.Peng Jiaxin was sitting on the sofa, and her husband was sitting on a chair beside her.At first, they talked openly and had a great time.However, when they talked about each other's work, Peng Jiaxin still danced and said that the company had launched activities recently, but her husband kept silent.

"What about you? How is your company doing recently?" Peng Jiaxin asked casually.Unexpectedly, when my husband heard Peng Jiaxin's words, he suddenly put his hand under his hip, and sat on his hand, as if he wanted to say something, but hesitated to speak.

Peng Jiaxin didn't hear her husband's answer, but when she looked back, she noticed her husband's conspicuous movement.She once read a book on behavioral psychology, which said that her husband's action was a sign of extreme psychological uneasiness.Therefore, she was keenly aware that her husband must have encountered some difficulties at work, and she was afraid that her next words and deeds would bring displeasure to him.

So, Peng Jiaxin got up, went around the sofa and came to the back of her husband, stretched her arms to the back of her husband's chair, and suddenly gave her husband a hug from behind.

My husband was very surprised, and his anxiety disappeared with the embrace.At this time, Peng Jiaxin asked in very gentle words: "What's the matter, husband, it seems like you have something on your mind?"

At this time, the husband sighed and said: "Our company's business situation is very bad, and I may soon lose my job."

Hearing her husband's words, although Peng Jiaxin was extremely surprised, she quickly calmed down, patted her husband on the shoulder and said, "What's the matter, I can't find a job now! Don't worry, let's talk, Isn't there me in this family?"

Peng Jiaxin's words made her husband feel relieved.With no psychological burden, my husband soon found a good job after losing his job.

As a wife, do you notice when your husband is feeling extremely insecure?How do you deal with his anxiety?

[expert answering doubts]

Generally speaking, when a person expresses his feelings freely and unreservedly, he usually dances unconsciously.However, when a person is feeling restless inside and trying to control their emotions, they will unconsciously put their hands under their hips and sit on them.In the process of communicating between husband and wife, if you find your husband making this kind of behavior, then you should realize that he is extremely disturbed and may be trying to control his emotions.Not only that, but also try to help her husband eliminate the inner anxiety.

This is exactly what Peng Jiaxin in the story did. By observing the action of her husband putting his hands under his buttocks, she figured out her husband's extremely disturbed psychology.In response to her husband's mentality, she used a peaceful tone and gentle actions to relax him and help him eliminate his inner tension.After the husband calmed down, he asked the reason calmly.When she learned that her husband was about to lose his job, she comforted and encouraged him, letting him accept the reality calmly.Attitude determines destiny. When my husband faced unemployment with a peaceful attitude, he had already opened his arms to a new job, and they also ushered in a happy and fulfilling life.

The above story tells us a truth: as the head of the family, the husband often chooses to let himself bear the hardships silently because he is afraid of causing troubles to his wife.As the husband's right-hand man, the wife has the responsibility to share the troubles for the husband.This requires the wife to observe her husband's behavior more, try to figure out his heart through their behavior, and then help him share his troubles.

[Extended reading]

Hands are a part of the body and an important "tool" for expressing body language.In the communication between husband and wife, hands play a very important role in the communication process, and their every move can play a supplementary role in explaining language, and can even play an independent and effective function.

place hands under hips

Generally speaking, when a person is comfortable and unreservedly expressing his feelings, his hands usually move involuntarily.And when he sits on his hands with his hands under his hips, it's an effort to control himself so that he doesn't blurt out something he shouldn't.

Keep your hands in your jacket or trouser pockets
The act of putting hands in jacket pockets or trouser pockets can hide people's hands, which is due to the defensive psychology of not wanting to reveal their sincerity.This suggests that the person making the gesture either doesn't trust the other person or has ulterior motives.

fidgeting with something nearby

When a person is talking to others, he will keep fiddling with something near him when he is nervous, and he will also make this movement when he is inattentive.When you see a person make this action, you must try to figure out his mood according to the specific situation.

touch forehead with hand
When a person strokes his forehead with his hand from time to time, it shows that he is very tired.However, it is worth noting that this action is also performed when a person is lying.

chapter summary:

1.Wife sleeping in baby-like position
A wife who sleeps like a baby feels insecure.As her husband, you'd better hold her to sleep so that he can feel safe and at ease.

2.wife who suddenly competes with you to answer the phone
The wife suddenly competes with you to answer the phone, and the voice of answering the phone is very low, as if there is something you can't see.In this case, the husband should pay attention.Your wife is probably having an affair, but it's better to find out why and think about what you're doing wrong.

3.husband touching nose
Touching the nose is a common gesture when a person is lying.When you notice that your husband touches his nose when he talks, then you should find out why he is lying.If it's just a harmless little lie, then there's no need to expose it.If it is a lie of principle, then you have to take further steps.

4.drunk husband talking on the phone

The husband who is drunk and calls his wife is very lonely inside, and he longs for your care.As a wife, you must usually ignore his inner feelings. It is recommended to communicate more with each other.

5.Husband with hands outstretched
When you scold your husband, he makes the gesture of spreading his hands.This not only shows his own innocence, but also admits mistakes and asks for a compromise.If you understand the hidden meaning behind his actions, then it is best to stop blaming him immediately.

6.husband with hand under hip
Putting his hands under his hips shows that he is extremely disturbed, trying his best to control his emotions, fearing that his next words and actions will bring displeasure to the other person.As a wife, you should try to appease his inner unease.

(End of this chapter)