Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 44 Cultivate a Mind of Freedom with the Buddha’s Heart—Walking, Sitting, and Lying, with Zen Shadows Accompanying You (1)
Don't indulge, it's really comfortable

The most difficult thing to manage is yourself, especially your own thoughts and emotions.

If you want to be bosses and leaders, and engage in management studies, manage yourself first!Manage your temperament well, manage your wisdom well, manage your rationality well, and then manage others and talk about your career.

Greatness is managing oneself.Many people think that greatness is leading others, which is actually wrong.To become a successful manager, you need to spend more than 50% of your energy on managing yourself.When you can't manage yourself, you lose all qualifications and abilities to lead others.When a person is going to be great, he must first manage himself well, manage his own money, his personal connections and social relations around him, and his own behavior.If you manage yourself well, we call it self-discipline and law-abiding, and there are many similar virtues.Only by managing yourself well can you be qualified as a leader and be the best member of your organization.Other members are more or less indulgent, but you are the best member, so everyone will trust you, and dare to pin their fate on you—a person who can manage himself well first.

If you are a manager, ask:

How can a person who cannot manage himself manage others?

A person who is not punctual at work every day, will his subordinates be punctual?
For a person who goes shopping, clubbing, watching TV series after get off work, and doesn’t read the books, will his subordinates love learning and pursue progress?
A boss who often makes private phone calls and chats online at work, will his subordinates concentrate and go all out for work?
A boss who speaks ill of customers behind their backs and calculates customers, can you ask your subordinates to be sincere and put customers first?
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in contrast:

A boss who goes to work on time in wind and rain, and his subordinates rarely dare to be late and leave early!

A boss who studies every day and keeps making progress, if his subordinates don't work harder, they will be eliminated soon!
A boss who is strict with himself, his subordinates dare not make mistakes!

How dare his subordinates be arrogant and cunning for a boss who treats customers with respect and sincere service?

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A person who manages himself well does not need to manage his department, and his subordinates are very conscious.

A person who can't manage himself well, his department can't control him no matter what, the upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked!
Therefore, whether you are a leader or an ordinary person, you must manage yourself well.

Taking care of yourself is a kind of self-restraint that you are accustomed to, a kind of self-regulation that is calm, and a kind of self-promotion that leads by example.

Take care of yourself, no matter what the situation you are in, you must remember that "only freedom within the legal scope and the bottom line of morality is your real freedom and happiness."Only when you consciously abide by the law and normative behavior, can you get your own piece of blue sky and a flat river.If you dare to "do whatever you want and do whatever you want" to break away from the law and morality, then you will not be able to obtain the comfort of peace of mind.No matter what you do, you must do it within the legal and moral limits, so you will definitely get what you want and succeed immediately!
Taking good care of yourself cannot be developed overnight. "Frozen three feet don't happen in a day." You need to persevere in managing yourself from your own education, self-cultivation and self-cultivation.Some people don't care about the precepts and deeds of their elders at a very young age. They are always self-righteous, go their own way, and act alone.Especially those who let their own way get used to it and collude with others, and do not listen to the advice of well-meaning people seriously but still insist on going their own way and persist in their obsession.When it became "one misstep will cause eternal hatred", I felt ashamed and lost my conscience, like a "headless fly" running around and doing anything wrong.Therefore, if a person wants to manage himself well, he has to work hard in a down-to-earth manner, and as long as you concentrate on hard work, then you will manage yourself in an orderly manner, keep yourself safe, and win the hearts of the people!
Without rules, it is difficult to achieve a circle.Anyone who wants to take care of himself needs to have a certain strong psychological quality, which is a strong guarantee for you to "get out of the mud without getting stained".No matter when and where you are, you still follow the rules, and "don't bend your waist for five buckets of rice".Take care of yourself, you will not do those bad things that are sneaky, you will not be greedy for petty gain, and you will not be desperate to take money and break the law.Take care of yourself, so that you don't have too much snobbery, so that you don't have too much boring masturbation, so that you don't have too much depravity of idleness.

To take care of yourself is to take care of your own "morality", don't be like a "gossip woman" who always likes to sow discord and gossip everywhere; take care of yourself is to take care of your own "hands", don't be like a "mouse "That way you always like to swim around at sunrise and night, and steal meat; take care of yourself, that is, take care of your own "long legs", don't always like to trample on the lawn and cross thunder pools like "dog feet"; take care of yourself , Just take care of your own "thoughts" and don't always like to gallop around the plains and flirt with women like a "wild horse off the leash"!
In fact, it is very simple to manage yourself well. As long as you think twice before acting, you are not afraid of choosing the wrong direction and running in the opposite direction; as long as you communicate with humility and prudence, you are not afraid of hurting others and being rejected by everyone; as long as you are upright, you are not afraid of criticism. Injustice; as long as you treat everyone equally in hospitality, you are not afraid of favoring your strengths and protecting your weaknesses.

Taking good care of yourself is a natural necessity in your life, a natural necessity in your life, and a happy affirmation in your life!

There was a student monk Yuan Chi who studied under Chan Master Wude. Although he worked hard, he was still unable to comprehend the Zen method. Therefore, one time during the evening visit, Yuan Chi asked Chan Master Wude for instructions: "My disciple has been in the jungle for many years. , I am still ignorant of everything, I just don’t receive trust and offer offerings, and I don’t understand anything every day, I ask the teacher to show you, what are the compulsory courses besides practicing and doing tasks every day?”

Zen Master Wude replied: "You'd better take care of your two vultures, two deer, and two eagles, and restrain a worm in your mouth. At the same time, if you can keep fighting a bear and nurse a sick person, if you can do it and do it well I believe it will be of great help to you."

Yuan Chi said puzzledly: "Teacher! This disciple came here to study alone. He didn't bring any vultures, deer, eagles and other animals with him. How to take care of him? What's more, what I want to know is the compulsory courses related to the study. Lesson, what has it to do with these animals?"

Zen Master Wude said with a smile: "The two vultures I'm talking about are the eyes that you should always watch out for--see no evil; the two deer are the feet that you need to control so that they don't take the evil path--do no evil." OK; the two eagles are your hands, let them work frequently and fulfill their responsibilities-do not touch any evil; the one worm I am talking about is your tongue, you should tightly restrain it-speak no evil; This bear is your heart, you have to restrain its selfishness and individualism - do not think evil; this patient refers to your body, I hope you don't let it fall into sin. I think these are really indispensable in spiritual practice Required courses."

Be good at self-management, concentrate on hard work, and achieve "see no evil, do no action, act no evil, speak no evil, think no evil", in order to successfully achieve your goals.

I am a Buddha, it is better to ask others than to ask yourself

The real Buddha, like many other religions, is against idolatry.Then why can painted Buddhas and sculptured Bodhisattvas be worshipped?The answer is the four words "Because I respect you".Because my image exists, you worship it with reverence, that image is just a representative.You do not worship me this time, but you worship yourself, and you yourself are saved.The highest principle of any religion is the same, it is not I who saved you, but you who saved yourself.

You are your own savior, believe in your own strength.

Zen master Nanyang Huizhong is the patriarch of Niutou School. Tang Suzong and Daizong both named him as the national teacher. Tang Gaozong followed him to pray for the Five Precepts. Empress Wu Zetian invited him to the palace to preach the essentials of Huayan.It is said that when Huizhong passed away, there were auspicious clouds covering the monastery, and the sound of nature came from the sky, and Huizhong passed away peacefully.All of a sudden, there was heavy wind and rain, which shook the trees, and then there was a white rainbow across the mountains, rocks and ravines, which was quite magical.

Master Huizhong was grateful to the waiter for serving him for 30 years, and wanted to repay him and help him enlighten, so he called out one day: "Waiter!"

As soon as the waiter heard the national teacher calling him, he immediately replied: "National teacher! What are you doing?" The national teacher said helplessly: "Nothing!"

After a while, the national teacher called again: "Waiter!" The waiter immediately replied: "National teacher! What are you doing?" The national teacher said helplessly: "Don't do anything!"

So many times, the national teacher changed his name to the waiter and called: "Buddha! Buddha!" ​​The waiter asked in a daze, "National teacher! Who is your name?"

The national teacher had no choice but to explain clearly: "I'm calling you!" The waiter didn't understand, so he said: "National teacher! I am a waiter, not a Buddha!"

At this time, Master Huizhong could only sigh to the waiter: "Don't blame me for failing you in the future, in fact, it is you who failed me!"

The waiter still argued strongly: "National teacher! No matter what, I will never let you down, and you will never let me down!"

Master Huizhong said: "Actually, you have failed me."

The Zen sect emphasizes "direct responsibility". The so-called heart, Buddha, and sentient beings are the same, and all sentient beings are Buddhas.But the waiter only admits that he is a waiter, and dare not bear the title of Buddha. Doesn't this greatly disappoint Huizhong's good intentions?
There is a bright lamp deep in everyone's heart.As long as you are willing to work hard, be determined, and live and work down-to-earth.That bright light can shine.It gives people warmth, gives people confidence, boosts ambition, and illuminates the future.

One day, in order to enlighten his disciples, a Zen master gave his disciples a stone, told him to go to the vegetable market, and tried to sell it.This stone is huge and beautiful.But the master said, "Don't sell it, just try to sell it. Pay attention to observation, ask more people, and then just tell me how much it can sell in the vegetable market."

This person went.In the vegetable market, many people looked at the stone and thought: It can be a good little ornament, our children can play with it, or we can use it as a weighing mound for weighing vegetables.So they made an offer, but it was only a few small coins.The apprentice went back and said: "It can only be sold for a few coins at most."

The master said, "Now go to the gold market and ask the people there. But don't sell it, just ask the price." Coming back from the gold market, the disciple was very happy and said, "These people are wonderful. They are willing to sell up to 1000 yuan." The master said, "Now go to the jeweler, but don't sell it." He went to the jeweler.He couldn't believe that they were willing to pay 5 yuan, but he didn't want to sell it. They continued to raise the price—they offered 20 yuan.But the apprentice said: "I don't intend to sell it." They said: "We offer 30, [-], or as much as you want, as long as you sell!" The apprentice said: "I can't sell it, I just ask the price .” He couldn’t believe it: “These people are crazy!” He himself felt that the prices in the vegetable market were enough.

He went back, and the master took back the stone and said: "We don't plan to sell it, but now you understand, it depends on you. See if you have touchstone and understanding. If you live in the vegetable market, then you only have that Without the understanding of the market, you will never recognize a higher value."

The Buddhists said: "Self-confidence and self-reliance are the ideological foundation of practitioners." To a large extent, you can control your own destiny and determine your own value!Firmly believe that "we are born with useful materials" in order to fully develop ourselves.

There is a plant called niǎo. Its body is thin and soft. It cannot grow taller by itself, but can only climb up other tall plants.Gradually, the branches and leaves of Niaozi became lush, and a lot of red and black fruits were produced.One day, a passer-by saw Niao, picked a fruit and ate it.

"It's so sweet! It's also pretty!" He boasted.Tsuta was very pleased to hear that.

Later, a carpenter went up the mountain to cut trees.He looked at the big tree that was entangled with twigs and said, "This tree is just right for a house beam!"

The carpenter took out his ax and felled the tree.

"He will cut me down too!" Tsuta was very scared. It wanted to leave the big tree, but it was usually too tightly entangled, and now it couldn't do it even if it wanted to.In the end the big tree fell, and the twig was also broken.

Someone sighed and said: "If the quail can grow by itself, it will not be cut by a knife or an axe."

People often encounter some lucky and unfortunate encounters of one kind or another in their lives. They have to come into contact with various opportunities, and experience all kinds of ups and downs and wind and rain. These are the indispensable scenery for people on their own life route. .If a person is born in a superior and carefree family, his future has already been arranged and designed by his family, and the family has paved a sunny road for his life. To be able to go smoothly.It can be said that he doesn't need to worry about his life at all, he doesn't need to break through by himself, and he doesn't need his wings to bear the burden of life.But such a so-called person who was born "with a gold brick in his mouth", can he appreciate the taste of life?Can he find the real happiness in the world?The real happiness in life is the joy of achieving success with one's own strength.

The misfortunes and blessings of life are unpredictable. If one day, he will face this society and his own life alone, he may not be able to bear the heavy pressure of life, struggling hard in the river of life, and then die.

Don't imagine that life is always so perfect, and don't imagine that you can enjoy all the springs in the four seasons of life. Everyone's life is destined to trek through ditches, taste bitterness and helplessness, and experience setbacks and disappointments.

An independent person, a person who is self-reliant and self-reliant, has the spirit of "stiff neck". Only those who rely on themselves and can advance bravely on the road of life will have more freedom and happiness; those who rely on others to live, Once you lose your support, your fate will be as unfortunate as Tsuta.

Instead of relying on the charity of others, it is better to rely on yourself to be angry, only yourself can be truly reliable.

Someone asked Antisthenes, the Greek university student: "What do you get from philosophy?" He replied: "The ability to talk to yourself."

To talk to yourself is to discover yourself, to discover another more real self.

The great French writer Victor Hugo once said: "Life is composed of a series of boring symbols." Indeed, most of the time in our lives is spent in very ordinary days.Sometimes, what seems to be a normal life seems to be a misunderstanding in life.A little dazed, a little tired, a little dazed, a little resentful, a little hopeful, a little fanciful, in short, I am occupied by some inexplicable emotions and feelings, and I am too lazy to sort them out.

Therefore, we always secretly hope that there will be a person who understands us best in the world, who can sit down in the vast world and listen to the narration of our soul quietly, and can open up a pure land of soul for us among the bustling crowd.But all living beings, "All kinds of thoughts are paid to Yaoqin, who will listen to the broken strings?"

In fact, aren’t we ourselves our best confidants?Who else in the world can know himself better than himself?Who can better keep a secret for yourself than yourself?Friends, when you are irritable and bored, you might as well talk to yourself, let your heart retreat into your soul, make yourself in close contact with yourself, calm down and listen to the voice of your soul, and ask yourself: Why am I troubled?Why not fast?Are you satisfied with this kind of life?Where is my approach to dealing with people?Am I still pursuing success at work?Do I want to be what I am now?If life ends like this, will I have any regrets?Have I let life overwhelm or bury me?So far in life, what have I gained?What is missing?What else do I want to pursue?
In this way, in your own world, you can slowly restore your injured dignity, be "satisfied" without any scruples, and analyze yourself naked.You can also explain yourself, move yourself, and conquer yourself.A writer said a passage that makes sense: "It is a victory of reason to explain oneself; to be moved by oneself is a kind of spiritual sublimation; to conquer oneself is a kind of maturity of life. "Having explained, moved, and conquered ourselves, what kind of setbacks, pains, and misfortunes in life can we not conquer?

"It's better to ask for others than to ask for yourself."The spirit of self-reliance contributes to one's success.When you encounter difficulties, don't just rely on others.First of all, give all your strength.

Cold in fire, hot in ice, dust is not dust, bitterness is not bitter

A mood is a relatively weak, persistent, and rendering emotion.People are in a certain state of mind at any time, but we are not necessarily aware of it.The difference in mood affects every aspect of life.If you are in a happy mood, it’s like wearing rose-colored glasses, and you can see everything beaming, exciting, optimistic, and energetic; but if you’re in a bad mood, the glasses are changed to gray, and you feel that everything is annoying, which makes you feel energetic. People are depressed and pessimistic, discouraged.There are many reasons for the mood.Major events in personal life, career success or failure, success in work and study, relationship with people around you, and health status may all cause a certain mood.

There is such a Zen story:
The little monk was worried about everything.He is worried because he feels he is too thin; he feels that the life he is living is not good enough; Scripture……

Fan Liao decided to travel to Mount Jiuhua, hoping that a change of environment would help him.Before he set out on the road, the master handed him a letter and told him to open it after arriving at Mount Jiuhua.

After arriving at Mount Jiuhua, Fan felt more sad than in his own temple, so he opened the letter to see what the master wrote.

(End of this chapter)