Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 50 Cultivate Forbearance and Humiliation with the Buddha's Heart—Forbearance is the cave, and humiliation is the blessed place (4)
No matter who it is, life is no longer exclusive to him. As long as life exists, it is a kind of responsibility.Since you are alive, then you should live, because life is a responsibility.Anyone who has a life must bear the responsibility!
Responsibility is not giving, not cheating, not forcing, not obligation.It comes from the heart, comes from the heart, comes from the truth, and acts on the mind.

However, in the eyes of many people, responsibility is a burden.This distorts the meaning of responsibility and desecrates one's own life.

When the consciousness of nothingness collides with the real world, the contradiction of life arises. The human beings described in "The Story of the Tiger" "have no strength of minions, no strength of muscles and bones", but human beings have heroic deeds to prosper the world.What is mentioned here is probably a kind of responsibility of life, that is, something that needs to be given while receiving the life bestowed by parents.

The responsibility of life is tied to us, like an invisible umbilical cord connecting us with the circle of our lives.Selfishly ending one's own suffering while bringing heartbreak to others, or selflessly enduring life's injustice while bringing comfort to others, these are the different realms of life.

Some things in life are gone, you can still look forward to it, you can still remember it, but the most important thing is not to lose your dream about life, and don't lose your responsibility for life.

A person's life is not just for himself. There are many people in this world who live for others. If you have already taken on a burden, don't let it go.

Some people will ask: I really don't like my job, and I can't find a job I like; I really don't like the people around me, and I can't meet anyone I like; I really don't like my treatment, and I can't get the one I like Treatment, what should I do?
There is only one way, to change one's mentality and follow the wisdom of the master - accept the destiny and do what should be done.So how do you change your mindset?Please see an example:
Once, Jack, a British tourist, went sightseeing in the United States. The tour guide said that there was a very special fish market in Seattle, and it was a pleasure to buy fish there.The tourists were all curious after hearing this.The weather was not very good that day, but Jack found that the market did not smell pungent, but the cheerful laughter of the fishmongers greeted him.They were all smiling, like baseball players working together, let the frozen fish fly in the air like a baseball, and everyone sang to each other: "Ah, 5 carps flew to Minnesota." "8 honey crabs Flew to Kansas." What a harmonious life!Jack asked the fishmonger, "Why are you so happy?"

The fishmonger said that a few years ago, this fish market was also a lifeless place, where everyone complained all day and was not satisfied with anything.Later, everyone thought that instead of complaining about heavy work every day, it is better to change the quality of work.So, we no longer do business for money, but regard selling fish as an art.And then later, idea after idea, laughter after laughter.The fishmonger also said that everyone has practiced for a long time, and everyone has extraordinary skills, which can be compared with circus actors.This working atmosphere has also affected the nearby office workers, who often come here to eat with the fishmongers, infecting them with a good mood that is willing to work.Many supervisors who have no way to improve the morale of employees even came here to learn from them: "Why do you work so hard all day in this fishy place, and you are still so happy?" The answer they got was: Actually, there is no It's not that life has treated us badly, but that our expectations are so high that we ignore life itself.

Occasionally, fishmongers invite customers to take part in a catch game.Even those who are afraid of the smell of fish are willing to try again and again amidst warm applause.Every frowning person who enters this fish market will leave with a smile on his face, and of course there will be seafood in his hands that he couldn't help but buy.

This story tells us: it's not that life is so bad that we need to complain, but that our expectations for life are too high; it's not that work is really boring that we need to hate it, but that we don't take it as an interesting thing to do.A person who does not intend to be satisfied, no one can make him really satisfied. Only by changing one's mentality can the soul become happy.

"Dedicated to softness, you can be a baby", which means, can you be calm and carefree like a baby?Most of the troubles in the world are caused by too many selfish thoughts.It is necessary to calculate the pros and cons and guess the minds of others; it is necessary to worry about the past and worry about the future.With so much thought, how can the mind be burdened?If you follow the state of mind of gain and loss, and live in the present mood, do things naturally, and live naturally, there will be fewer unnecessary distracting thoughts, and the mind will be relaxed.

In the spring of 1871, a young man picked up a book and saw a sentence that had a great impact on his future: "The most important thing is not to look at the blurred things in the distance, but to do things that are clear at hand." As a student of the Swiss School of General Medical Sciences, life is full of worries, worrying about not passing the final exam, worrying about not being able to find a job after graduation, and so on.But the words set him free from his worries.His name is William Osler, who founded the world-renowned Johns Hopkins College, became a lecture professor at Oxford University School of Medicine, and was knighted by the King of England.

One day, 40 years later, Sir William Oursler addressed the students of Yale University, saying that his success was entirely influenced by that sentence, which taught him to live in "a completely independent of today".He also said: "Press the button to separate the tomorrow that has not yet come from the yesterday that has passed, and then you can be sure that all you have is today. The best way to develop a good habit and prepare for tomorrow is to focus all you have. All the intelligence, all the passion, to do today's job to perfection. That's the best and only way you can handle the future."

If a person can concentrate on today's affairs, he doesn't need to stuff so many weird thoughts and worries in his brain, and he is close to the realm of "concentrate on being soft and able to be a baby".Why do you say approach instead of reach?If you can focus on the here and now, you've arrived!
Come for something big, go for something big

Why doesn't a person contribute to history?That is to say, "what exists in oneself is uncertain", and his outlook on life has not been determined.After a person's outlook on life is determined, it doesn't matter whether he is rich or poor, whether he has status or not, whether he has food or not, and whether he has money or not, it doesn't matter. Life naturally has the value of self-existence.

The outlook on life, beliefs, and beliefs are all about one thing, that is, "in the world of life, each has his own endowment, come for a big event, and do a big event".

Since we came into this world, we all want to be noticed, recognized and respected by others, and we all want to live better than others.However, whether we like to admit it or not, we always have so many regrets and dissatisfaction.

In a person's life, there will be many different situations. Different situations face different choices. Different choices will lead to different life outcomes, and the main force that determines the choice comes from different outlooks on life.

A person's life should not be based on how long he lived as the only indicator of value, but more importantly, his quality of life. Only those who are remembered after death have real value.

Each of us writes our own life unconsciously in the practice of social life, and also reads our own life unconsciously.Whether workers, peasants, intellectuals, or government officials, despite their different occupations and positions, the career they are engaged in is to realize their own life value.Everyone hopes to live a valuable life and let life radiate splendor.

In the vast world, there is a vast sea of ​​people: some people are alive, but they are forgotten or even cast aside by people; some people are dead, but they still live in people's hearts.Some people live optimistic, full, positive, and upward lives; some people live decadent, empty, negative, and sinking lives.This reminds us of what a certain philosopher said: the life span of a person is a constant, but the value of a person is a variable.

The most precious thing for a person is his own life, because life is too scarce for him, and there is only one time.Regardless of the princes and nobles, or the lower Liba people, regardless of the international tycoons or beggars, there is no distinction between life and death, and there is no distinction between high and low.However, life is like a ship, just a form, a tool, but its content and cargo can vary widely.The essence of life is the duration of life phenomena.Therefore, life needs to be proved by time. Some people prove the greatness of life, some people prove the existence of life, and some people prove the evil of life.In this way, the difference lies in the outlook on life.

So, what kind of life is really worthwhile?And what is the standard to measure the value of life?There are different outlooks on life, and there are different lives. "Human life is limited, but serving the people is unlimited. I want to devote my limited life to serving the people infinitely." Lei Feng said this, and he did the same. He is an ordinary The outstanding soldiers of the People's Liberation Army make every bit of contribution and are very ordinary, but they have created a brilliant life in countless ordinary deeds of serving the people.

The value of life cannot be measured by your position and social status. As long as it is of positive significance to others and the society, it is to realize your own life value and reflect greatness in the ordinary.

The outlook on life is the spiritual pillar of people.

Lu Yongkang, a disabled rural teacher in Guizhou, has been giving lectures to students on his knees, playing games with students on his knees, and visiting writers on his knees for 36 years because of his disability.Under his kneeling and persuading students, the originally empty school became full of books.Mr. Lu is an ordinary person or even a disabled person, but he has realized the great value of life. It is his 36 years of achievements that have made countless children walk out of the mountains and go to success.Some people commented on him like this: A person who works while kneeling has amazed countless people standing up!
When it comes to outlook on life, we must mention values, because values ​​are the core content of outlook on life.When a person lives in the world and regards the happiness and happiness of others as his own responsibility and obligation, and as the value of his own life, his outlook on life is noble and his life is also great; if he regards his own enjoyment as the value of life Chasing, amassing huge amounts of wealth, coveting the powerful and powerful, although he will also have a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, but that feeling is narrow, low-level, even dark and dirty.Therefore, happiness is only meaningful when it is shared.

People's values ​​are naturally reflected in the details of life, rather than empty preaching, ranging from how to deal with people, how to speak and behave, to how to deal with one's future, power and wealth.People who are open-minded in life and work, who are indifferent to fame and fortune, who are happy to help others, and who are kind to others, have a kind of value and outlook on life;The former does not feel that he is at a disadvantage, and the latter does not feel that he is at a disadvantage, why?The ancients said: "If you live in the house of Zhilan for a long time, you don't smell its fragrance; if you live in the place of abalone for a long time, you don't smell its smell."

The outlook on life is neither nihilistic nor dispensable.In fact, whether you are conscious or not, your outlook on life exists, and it directs your choices and behaviors all the time.Dongfang Shuo, who lived far away in the Han Dynasty, said: "The sky has a constant degree, the earth has a constant shape, and a gentleman has a constant behavior. A gentleman has constant props, and a villain counts his merits." He also said: "If you can cultivate yourself, why not be proud?" Confucius also Said: "If there is no trouble, there is no place, and there is trouble to stand." What a profound feeling, and what a real argument!Throughout the ages, few people admit that they are villains, and few people admit that they are not gentlemen. However, there are always gentlemen, and there are often villains.The good do not think good, and the evil do not think evil.It's nothing surprising, it's human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and only after the acquired transformation has it become colorful.It's just that "a gentleman doesn't change his behavior based on the evil of a villain".

Einstein said, "The value of a person should be seen in what he contributes, not what he achieves."Ostrovsky's "When looking back on the past, he will not regret for wasting his years, nor will he be ashamed of living a mediocre life. When he is dying, he can say: My whole life and all All his energies have been dedicated to the most magnificent cause in the world - the struggle for the liberation of mankind".Wen Tianxiang also left a magnificent chapter of "No one in life has died since ancient times, and he keeps his loyal heart to reflect the history".

What is the outlook on life.The outlook on life is "life is a big event", Bi Shumin said, life is originally worthless, the value of life lies in your life-long efforts to define it, and only by doing what you can do can you truly realize yourself.

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