Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 61 Cultivate self-examination with the Buddha's heart——Buddha does not cross me, I cross by myself (3)
"This thing is mine", "That thing is yours".It is the troubles of "mine" and "yours" that make things expensive and people cheap, so that the heart of inequality is smeared, and the world is confused.

A hundred years of life come and go in a hurry, and it is impossible to take away any material wealth.May I ask which things in the world are "yours" and "mine", and which things are not "ours" now, but will still be "ours" in a hundred years?If it is not "yours" or "mine", does it mean that you can light things up and not take responsibility?Nor is it. "Disciple Regulations: Universal Love for All" says: "If you have abilities, don't be selfish. If others have abilities, don't underestimate them. Don't flatter the rich, don't be arrogant and poor. Don't be disgusted with the old, don't like the new. . . . Be clear. It is better to give more than to take less.” Although these words are for teaching children, they have clearly and transparently explained how adults should correctly view the relationship between “I” and “us”.Gently put down the word "I" and replace it with "we", the equality of "universal love" will naturally enter your inner world, and all the worries of expecting to be "superior" and fearing "inferior" will not be expelled. go.Farce and pranks such as sadism and being abused, destroying and being destroyed will also end because of human equality and fraternity, and the harmonious and happy song "Family of the World" will resound all over the world.

There will always be some inequalities in a person's life.When unequal encounters are imposed on oneself, one should still deal with them with equality.Only equality can eliminate inequality, only love can stop hatred, and only harmony can release hatred.This is not philosophy, but experience.

We should live in a world of gratitude, not a world of resentment.We are grateful to the person who has hurt us, because he has sharpened our mentality; we are grateful to the person who has deceived himself, because he has enhanced our knowledge; we are grateful to the person who has abandoned himself, because he has strengthened our self-reliance; Grateful to the man who has slandered himself, for he encourages our prudence.

People who have encountered unequal treatment have two choices: one is that he sees the inequality in the world, and finally grows from childishness to maturity, so that he understands equality more, cherishes equality more, and can use the fundamental wisdom of equality in his future behavior Treat others.We call this way of thinking "Mandela way of thinking".

The second is that they are full of resentment and revenge for the unequal treatment they have suffered. They even think about "killing all injustices and peace" day and night because of their unforgettable treatment. The inequality that he resented could not be "killed", and he himself became an even worse inequality.This is a way of thinking that replaces old inequalities with new inequalities, which we call "Bin Laden's way of thinking."

Social equality is always gradually evolving in a good direction.The law of equality is the "law of reincarnation of cause and effect", that is, those who plant good causes will get good results, and those who plant evil causes will get disaster results.People who suffer from unequal encounters can often find the flaws and deficiencies in the internal world from their own "virtue" and "grievance".For example, a person who is excellent in all aspects but "good at being a teacher" often makes people think that he overestimates himself and wants to be superior to everyone because of this, which makes people feel disgusted, and is attacked and slandered as a result.Only by calmly looking at the inequality that falls on one's head, finding the reason for this inequality from one's own inner world, and self-remedial, can one cultivate wisdom from the root, eliminate the scourge, and prevent the tragedy from repeating itself.At the same time, tolerating the old evils of others, looking at the outside world with the developmental perspective of "everyone must have love", and influencing others with one's own behavior of not remembering the old evils, will surely make the overall outcome of things develop towards a more equal trend.Remember, a truly equal person will definitely be equal!
When you fall into the situation of "clothes and straw shoes" in the journey of life, equanimity will make you respect yourself, stand firm, straighten your chest, look at yourself, others, reality, and the world.Don't look up to the powerful, rich, and famous people, expect them to favor you, give you gifts, and wait for others to make decisions for you. "Looking up" is not equality, but the recognition of inequality, which is a distorting mirror-like deformity of personality, devaluation of self-love, loss of soul, and what a gentleman does not want.

Clever and smart are a disaster, and a fool is a blessing

"It's better to be a little sloppy in some places" is to teach us not to be too serious about some non-principle issues, and it's better to be a little "fuzzy".Liu Xinwu said: "People should not live too delicately, it is too tiring! What should be tolerated, we must learn to tolerate; what should be forgotten, we must learn to forget."

"Life has a limit, and knowledge has no limit. If there is a limit, follow the limitless, and you will die!" This principle is how people can achieve less worry, because the more they know, the deeper the worry will be.Now there is a very popular ancient book, "Cai Gen Tan". This book was written by a Confucian Mr. Hong Zicheng in the Ming Dynasty, but later it disappeared in China, and the Japanese kept it instead.In the early years of the Republic of China, someone went to Japan to study and discovered it. At the same time, he bought many ancient Chinese books that had been lost, and "Legend Tan" became popular. There are a few words in the original text of "Cai Gen Tan": "The world is shallow, the dyeing is also shallow, the history is deep, and the machinery is also deep. Therefore, a gentleman is not as simple as he is sophisticated, and he is not as careless as he is serious." , the young people have just come out, they are not deeply involved in the world, and the pollution is not deep; "the history is deep", there are too many things in life, and the machinery is also deep.This machine represents the delusion that has a mind to calculate. The so-called organs are exhausted, and those troubles will be more.So what he said below, "So a gentleman should not be as simple as he is sophisticated, and he should not be as careless as he is refined." It means that we generally like to talk about being a human being and having a mastery of life experience, but it is not as good as being a little sloppy in some places.

But most people are "confused and rare". "It's rare to be confused" is the famous saying of Zheng Banqiao, a master of calligraphy and painting in the late Qing Dynasty.Modern scientific research shows that often being in a state of worry and worry will not only accelerate human aging, but also cause diseases such as high blood pressure, mental illness, heart disease, liver and gallbladder disease, and cancer. "Confusion" can not only melt away the contradictions, but also make the tense atmosphere relaxed and lively, so as to maintain psychological balance and avoid the occurrence of many diseases.When you are in a difficult situation, a little "confusion" can keep you calm and happy, reduce unnecessary stimulation of the "brain defense system", and eliminate physical and psychological pain and fatigue.

Psychologists point out that this kind of "confused" attitude is of great benefit to physical and mental health.

① Human creativity is often generated in a messy environment. People who can tolerate a certain degree of mess can have more time to focus on an important task.

② People who do not strictly pursue perfection are usually more open-minded, easy to accept other people's opinions, and will not be too extreme, which is very important for preventing physical and mental diseases.

③ "Confused" people generally have better interpersonal relationships than those who are shrewd in everything and everywhere, which is good for health.According to the survey, the death rate of lonely people is 2 times higher than that of popular people.

④ People who don't care about everything are more likely to succeed in marriage and family, and a happy marriage is the foundation of health.

⑤ Don't worry about small things, and don't pay too much attention to the trivial things in life, which can reduce anxiety and give you more time to enjoy life.

Why do you have to figure it out?Facts will speak when we should understand, why do we have to ask, speak, and find an answer?
If you understand many things too clearly, it will be a kind of harm to yourself. It is better to let it be "sloppy".Why know the result too early?Maybe the current result is not what we expected, but when you have to figure it out, there must be a result. If you have a result, it will be difficult to go beyond...

If you figure out that others are using you, you may break off your relationship with them, but who is not using each other? If others use you, it means that you have the value of using you, and you can benefit from it. Happy, why not do it?

If you figure out that there is too much competition for this thing, it may be difficult to succeed, and then stop trying, then you have lost even one percent of hope.

If you figure out that others don't love you, and you stop thinking about it, how will you know what's going on?How do you know this is the result?

If you figure out what others are talking about, and then immediately show your smart side, you know a lot, then you will immediately expose yourself, and others will guard against you. How many obstacles will this create for your future life principles!

There are too many possibilities in life, we don't need to have a result right away, the result is naturally obtained when things develop slowly.

"Sloppy" can give people a kind of peace and a kind of relaxation.So sometimes, people don't need to be too "smart".If a person is too "smart", he will "be mistaken for being smart".I remember Wang Xifeng's verdict in "Dream of Red Mansions", which said: "The agency was too clever to calculate, and sent Qingqing's life instead." Such a very shrewd character, she can call the wind and call the rain, and she is enviable.In the end, she ended up a lonely family, toiled physically and mentally to death, and finally ended up with nothing, ruined by her intelligence.Doesn't it just correspond to the saying "cleverness is misunderstood by cleverness"?

Isn't it smart?It's nice to be smart, but it's tiring.Bacon said: "There are many people in life who have a smart appearance in vain, but have no smart substance. This is 'little cleverness, but big foolishness'." Many people in real life look very smart, and they care about everything , everything is in order.They only know how to advance, they don't know how to retreat, they only know how to be clever, they don't know how to treat others kindly, they only know how to benefit themselves at the expense of others, and they don't know how to hide in secrets.Ding is Ding and Mao is Mao in everything.Such a person will be very tired to live.A person who doesn't know "retire bravely in the rapids" is really a fool.A person who counts all the organs will eventually count on himself.Tiring myself physically and mentally exhausted in this way is not as good as in real life, using a "rarely confused" way of thinking, treating life with a normal heart and a peaceful heart, in exchange for peace and tranquility.

In today's real life, if we don't care about anything, don't think about anything, how happy we would be!But some people may say that people who don't think about anything and don't care about anything are fools who have no ideals and no goals in life.Walking on the street, I often see some people with unsound minds, and I will feel more pity for them, but when I see that they are extremely happy, without the intrigues and intrigues of ordinary people, I will cast envious eyes on them.Perhaps, they are really happy, and they are really role models of "coming and going naked without any worries".

In the Kunqu opera "Lu Zhishen Drunken and Navigating Wutai Mountain", Lu Zhishen has such a libretto: "Xie Cibei was shaved under the lotus platform, there is no fate to separate in a blink of an eye, and there is no concern for coming and going naked..." In desolation and sadness, it is interpreted as a vast understanding!When you think about life, you are born into this world naked, and you leave naked when you leave.In just a few decades, what's the use of fighting for fame and fortune?In the end, when you close your eyes, everything no longer belongs to you.Life is a breath, death is a wisp of smoke, and everything in the world is not brought by life or taken away by death.

When Zheng Banqiao was a county magistrate, he wrote a poem for his cousin and his neighbor's lawsuit against the wall base: "A thousand miles of books form a wall, so why not let him be a few feet away? The Great Wall is still there today, and Qin Shihuang is not there." This poem How philosophical is poetry!The Great Wall is still there, how about Qin Shihuang?What's more, we are just grassroots?A wake-up call, worthy of our thinking today.

"Be a little sloppy" is a kind of experience, it is the maturity and calmness of a person after many vicissitudes of life, and it is a portrayal of a peaceful state of mind after a thorough understanding of life.Only those who have experienced hardships and ups and downs in life can understand the true meaning.To be a person, try to make yourself a wise man.After experiencing the long journey of life, he has seen through the fame and fortune in the world, read the ups and downs of the world, tasted the ups and downs of life, and experienced the boredom of being competitive.In an instant, the success or failure of right and wrong turned around.What year wat full bed?What used to be a cabaret?In the end, they are making wedding clothes for others!
As I grow older and experience more and more, I discover more and more that there are so many dark sides in this society!So, I learned to see the world with dirty eyes.For many things, don't let yourself be too sober when you should be confused, and let yourself pretend to be confused when you are not confused.Because, if you are too clear-headed, it is difficult to maintain a calm mind like water.At this time, I deeply realized Mr. Zheng's "rarely confused", only then is the best time in life!

A person has gone through many ups and downs in life, and he doesn't want to care about the kindness and resentment in the world, right and wrong.Don't care about right and wrong on principled issues, and on certain principled issues, big things are turned into small ones.On small issues, let alone endless entanglement.Act rationally, learn to adapt to various environments, and deal with adversity.Use rational "sloppy" to save the day, and use smart "sloppy" to calm down all kinds of conflicts that may arise.I should be me, I should not think about things that have nothing to do with me, and I should not say things that have nothing to do with me. I should be more introspective to myself and more tolerant to others.I can work hard to make myself do this, and I think I should be happy.My own understanding of happiness is: happiness belongs to my own spiritual liberation and sublimation.

"Sloppy", for the family, means understanding, tolerance, and equality.Be more understanding of the nagging of the elderly, be more tolerant of your lover's mistakes, and be more equal to your children's thoughts.For society, it is tolerance and love.Taking a step back, the sea and the sky are broad, and the wind and waves are calm for a while.Keep your eyes open for yourself and be smart about what you do.Squint your eyes to look at others, and be a little confused about other people's views.Perhaps the highest state of life is to be "sloppy".And the highest point of "a little sloppy" should be that everyone has a mind as wide as the sea.If a person can really cultivate to this "sloppy" state, it is really a great blessing in life!
"Sloppy" tells me that it is a kind of transcendence, a strategy, a kind of wisdom, a kind of magnanimity, a kind of leisure, a way of life, and an attitude towards life.Don't be confused in your own thinking, but it's better to be a little confused in your life.Be more open-minded, calm your mind, be indifferent to show your ambition, and be peaceful to go far.Facing everything calmly and resting the mind, that is an extraordinary state.

It's better to be "sloppy"!
Be "sloppy" about the future, so that life will have more surprises!
Be "sloppy" with others, so that others will trust you, because they think you are stupid!
Be "sloppy" with your lover, giving him freedom is also giving yourself space!
Be "sloppy" about things, no one will know the result until the last step on the road, why call yourself a dead end!

It's not wise to be "sloppy" with life, and it's not wise to live one day at a time, but it's not impossible to be happy!
Be "sloppy" with your friends, it doesn't matter who pays more or less, as long as everyone is happy!
"Be sloppy" is really difficult to do, and you may lose yourself, but only in this way can we suffer less harm, avoid detours, and have a better future!
Learn to be "sloppy", learn to not understand what others are saying, learn to understand other people's emotions, and learn to be confused!

Life is very tiring, we all carry too much pain, we should learn to protect ourselves with confusion!

A smart person who doesn't know how to be "sloppy" is a smart person who pretends to be smart!
However, in real life, many people often cannot control their emotions, and it is difficult to be "sloppy" if they want to be "sloppy". , Suicide and world-weariness because of overthinking, this is a wrong approach.So, how can we be "sloppy" when we should be "sloppy"?First of all, learn to handle things rationally, and remind yourself repeatedly to control your emotions with a rational attitude when you lose your temper.Secondly, we must learn to find pleasure in suffering, be good at finding fun in life, participate in more activities that interest us, arrange life in a rich and colorful way, and let ourselves live happily.Third, learn to make friends widely. When encountering setbacks and failures, you might as well talk to your close friends.Fourth, we must learn to skillfully cope with various complex and changeable environments in order to maintain psychological balance and maintain physical and mental health.

Don't forget your form, the prosperity will disappear

A person gets carried away with complacency, and then belittles his kind-hearted colleagues. On the surface, it seems that he hurts others, but after careful consideration, in fact, it is the complacent person who hurts himself.Everyone will see your words and deeds, and everyone will remember your every move.

It is very difficult for people to be complacent.But in my experience, I also found that there are many people who are frustrated and carried away.This kind of person can be well-cultivated when they are famous and rich, but when they are not famous and rich, they are all over and changed; they feel that they are all short and small, and become frustrated and forgetful.

Yes, in life, each of us will have the opportunity to be proud: We can be proud of being successful and famous; we can be proud of being promoted and raising salary; Have fun, don't let the golden cup be empty to the moon", three years of hard work, once harvested, it should be; of course, "the spring breeze is proud of the horseshoe disease, and I can see all the flowers in Chang'an in one day", after going through ups and downs, it will finally pay off, which is also true.

However, be proud and don't get carried away.As the saying goes: "When the bow is full, it will break, and when the moon is full, it will be lacking." Those who are proud and forgetful will not only hurt others, but also themselves.

A big taboo in life is to get carried away.Throughout history, those who get carried away with complacency will surely end badly.Think about Cao Cao's defeat in Huarong Road in the Three Kingdoms. Although he was the defeated general, he laughed at Zhuge Liang's military talents in every possible way, and all of them fell into Kong Ming's tricks. At this time, he was extremely ashamed. I am afraid that Cao Cao will die in the smoke of Chibi.Also, when Emperor Wudi of the Han Dynasty first came to the throne, his uncle Tian Fu held great power, ignored the courtiers, and got carried away. In the end, even Emperor Wu couldn't bear it, and ended up insane.

(End of this chapter)