Buddha crossing a predestined person: Dharma and wisdom in life

Chapter 62 Cultivate self-examination with the Buddha's heart——Buddha does not cross me, I cross by myself (4)
learn from past experience.To deal with people, we must learn lessons and wisdom from history, and don't repeat the same mistakes.There is a myth that a father and son were imprisoned in a high tower on a mountain peak. In order to escape, they glued the feathers that fell off when the bird stopped on the high tower together with wax, and made two pairs of huge wings. This fly out of the tower.When they flew out of the tower, the son felt that the feeling of flying in the sky was so beautiful and he was very proud. He disregarded his father's advice and flew higher and higher. As a result, the wax began to melt because he was too close to the sun, and the son fell into the abyss.

Sometimes people break through difficulties and obstacles, go through untold hardships, and finally step on the darkness under their feet and usher in the light, but because of extreme complacency, they fall back into the darkness again.Being carried away by one's complacency makes people lose the minimum of modesty, is hot-headed, and often does things illogically, relying only on momentary feelings.

Yanzi went out in a carriage, and the carriage passed by the door of the coachman's house. The wife of the coachman peeped out through the crack of the door: she saw her husband driving the carriage for Xiangguo, sitting under the big umbrella of the carriage, and driving Tall and big horse, full of air, very proud.

When the coachman came home, his wife was about to divorce him.The coachman was taken aback and asked why.

His wife said: "As the prime minister of Qi State, Yan Zi is very famous among the princes and states. But I saw him sitting in the car, his thoughts were so deep, and his attitude was so humble. And you, you are just driving the car for the prime minister. That's all, but he is arrogant and shows a very great look. What else can someone like you do? That's why I want to divorce you. "

The coachman carefully read his wife's words, he was educated and ashamed, so he confessed to his wife.From then on, the coachman became humble and cautious.

This change of the coachman made Yanzi feel strange, so he asked the coachman why, and the coachman told Yanzi truthfully what his wife had said.Yanzi thought that the coachman's wife was very insightful and was satisfied with the coachman's courage to correct his mistakes, so he recommended the coachman to be a doctor.

Most capable and ambitious people are modest and prudent.And those who are proud and complacent and arrogant are mostly short-sighted and low-minded.Moreover, apart from hard work and hard work, a person's success must also have the quality of being modest and prudent. Self-righteous and complacent people will never find the way to success.

Self-satisfaction is the root of disaster.Once you get carried away, you will lose your vigilance, get carried away, and ignore the existence of your opponent.But at this time, the competitors are eyeing you, waiting for the opportunity to attack your weaknesses. Your weaknesses have long been submerged in your self-satisfaction, so your end is a fiasco, and even your life.Take a look at the following story, and you will know that getting carried away is really harmful.

If Emperor Diba, the emperor who started his business and inherited the lineage in the past, did not understand the philosophy of being proud and forgetting his form, in the end, he would be like the 13-year-old emperor Lai Shun in the last Liu Song Dynasty, who had the same tragic end as Ming Sizong and died. It is not clear why the encounter has such tragic antecedents and consequences.

The distant cause of the French Revolution began as early as the 60th century (the middle of Kangxi in the Qing Dynasty) in France's Zhongxing Yingzhu.He is Louis XIV, who calls himself the "Sun King". In addition to his militarism, he also added extravagance and lust, and built the famous city of Versailles and other places.In five or sixty years, the throne was passed on to his great-grandson Louis XV. After being extremely luxurious, he didn't know how to "hold it and make money, not as good as it is", but intensified it and "taxed it".Therefore, it left a huge national debt of 40 billion to the descendants of Louis XVI.Such a situation, of course, cannot last forever.However, Louis XVI knew that he was in danger, so he never had the boldness to make drastic reforms, and he even wanted to add sharpness to the situation. In the end, "the house is full of gold and jade, and there is no way to keep it. Wealthy and proud, we blame ourselves."

The court life of Louis XVI at the Palace of Versailles cost the country so much money that it is breathtaking.Whenever a foreign monarch or important minister visits, Louis XVI must hold a feast in the Palace of Versailles. After a banquet, it can easily cost tens of millions of gold dollars. Entering and leaving the palace gate, dancing feather dance and singing neon clothes song.The wine drunk in the Palace of Versailles in a year is worth as much as 79 francs.In addition, as much as 340 francs for fish alone.There is also the cost of candles for lighting, which is more than 250 francs.As for the maids and servants used in the palace, there are so many of them that it is unbelievable.For example, there are as many as 20 nine chefs in the imperial dining room, and the annual salary of the chief chef is 500 francs.There are nearly a thousand secretaries of the king, each with an annual salary of 6000 francs.There are as many as 300 queen's maids, each with an annual salary of at least twelve thousand francs.In total, there are 800 court ladies and courtiers in the Palace of Versailles, not including ordinary nobles and courtiers.There are 29 royal horses and more than [-] royal vehicles in the palace, so whenever Louis XVI goes out on a tour, the ranks are as large as a festival, with countless chariots and horses lined up in a long snake array, and the ministers wear purple and yellow. , the court ladies are beautifully dressed, and their extravagant and extravagant majesty is really like heaven and man.In total, the money spent by the royal family every year is equivalent to one-fifth of the total revenue of the national treasury.In addition, there are nearly [-] Imperial Guards, which cost more than [-] million yuan a year.Queen Antoine, that is even more extravagant.Her various bracelets alone can be worth seventy-eight million francs, not to mention other jewelry.As for the annuities of those court nobles, they are not included in the royal expenses.The Palace of Versailles at that time was located on the outskirts of Paris. There were [-] gardens, four watchtowers, fountains, waterfalls, and flowers blooming in all seasons.

It is a pity that Louis XVI could not "get carried away with pride", but instead contributed to the early arrival of the Great Revolution, which only made himself and Queen Antoine go to the guillotine, leaving them to mourn for future generations and express infinite sympathy.Some people compare Louis XVI's Queen Antoine's success and failure with Cixi in the late Qing Dynasty. Although not always, they all made the mistake of "taxing it out, and not keeping it forever".In fact, being rich and honor makes people proud and self-satisfaction easy, which is a common problem of human psychology.

Getting carried away is a weapon that destroys the mind.Even an all-powerful person will suffer a bad end if he gets carried away with pride. Those who are proud will eventually be frustrated, and the more proud they are, the more frustrated they will be.No matter when you are in this world, you must restrain yourself and learn to be humble. Modesty makes people solid, and they have the potential to be inclusive of all rivers. Caring about one's form is like the waves on the sea.Therefore, one cannot be complacent, let alone get carried away.

Once upon a time there was a farmer whose field was beside a field of reeds.Wild animals often appeared in the reed field. He was worried that his crops would be destroyed by wild animals, so he always took a bow and arrow to patrol the border between the crop field and the reed field.

On this day, the farmer came to the field to take care of the crops again.At the end of the day, nothing happened, and the evening came peacefully.Seeing that he was still safe, the farmer felt that he was really tired, so he sat by the reed field to rest.

Suddenly, he found that the reeds in the reeds were rising one after another, floating in the air.He couldn't help feeling very puzzled: "It's strange, I didn't lean on the reed to shake it, and there is no wind at the moment, how could the reed flower fly up? Maybe some beast came and moved in the reed."

Thinking of this, the farmer raised his vigilance, stood up and kept looking into the reeds to see what was hiding there.After a while, he realized that it was a tiger. It was bouncing around, shaking its head and wagging its tail, looking very happy.

Why does the tiger play so much fun?The farmer thought for a while, thinking that it must have caught some prey.The tiger got so carried away that it completely forgot to pay attention to any dangers around it, and repeatedly jumped up from the reeds, exposing its body to the farmer's sight.

The farmer hid it quietly, and aimed at the place where the tiger appeared with a bow and arrow. When it jumped up again and escaped from the cover of the reeds, he shot it there. Cong Li.

The farmer went over and saw that the tiger had an arrow stuck in its chest, and a dead deer was still under its pillow.

The tiger was very happy to catch the deer, but he didn't expect to die from the arrow.In life, one should be cautious in doing things, not to be dazzled by the momentary victory, get carried away with complacency, so that one loses vigilance to danger, and hidden dangers will be planted.

There is a play in Peking Opera called "The Case of Gui Mei". In the play, Chen Shimei relied on the power of the emperor's aunt and Guotai to deceive the emperor. Not only did she deny Qin Xianglian, she even sent Han Qi to assassinate her.He didn't take Bao Zheng seriously, and boasted that he was a relative of the emperor, who would dare to arrest him, and his complacency was beyond words.But Bao Longtu, who is stern and selfless, doesn't care about this, and sends this power-dependent son-in-law into the guillotine, which makes the world applaud.

Although it is a drama, it also reminds people. To be a human being, one must be humble and courteous, and keep awake at all times. Don't go too far. If you get carried away by the momentary triumph, you will get carried away, and you will eventually suffer the consequences.

self-righteous, untrue

"Self-seeking", "self-righteousness", "self-cutting" and "self-esteem" are common problems of human beings, and most people's psychology has these fundamental pathologies.To give an example that is common in today’s society, when we often go to a famous restaurant for banquets, and the famous chef who knows how to cook comes out to meet and greet distinguished guests during our meals, we have to compliment him a few words , or toast him a glass of wine, to show that his cooking is really brilliant, otherwise, he will be very disappointed, "suddenly loses his love"!If it is said that your cooking is the best in the world, then although he still has a face full of oily smoke and is exhausted to death, the feeling in his heart is very comfortable. This is common sense.Therefore, Lao Tzu has repeatedly stated here that if a person has a heart disease of "self-seeking", "self-righteousness", "self-cutting" and "self-respect", he must be able to reflect on himself and know how to correct himself.

Laozi said: "I don't know, I don't know, I'm sick." I don't know but I think I know, it's a disease.And those who know what they don't know are the top grade.Self-righteousness is a kind of paranoia from a psychological point of view. It is always one-sided or extreme that one is right and stubborn.

People often argue about something.Both sides think that they must be right and that the other party must be wrong.As Xunzi said: "Anyone who fights must be self-righteous and judge others as wrong."

Since I was right, why did the other party firmly refuse to admit their mistakes?This makes people wonder.This will also lead to doubts about the other party's IQ and character: "Sincere sincerity is true, and sincerity is not true, it is a gentleman who is a gentleman and a villain, and a gentleman and a villain are harming each other." I am indeed right. Yes, he is indeed wrong. I am sure he is a smart person, but he is also a good person. He is obviously wrong but refuses to admit it, which can only explain one problem: either he is a fool, or he is a villain.Would I give in to a douchebag or villain?Won't.In order to prove that I am right, I will not hesitate to slobber, and even go to war.

Conflicts in the world, whether they are small quarrels or big wars, are usually caused by such "self-righteousness and self-righteousness".What was the outcome of the struggle?It's nothing more than making you unhappy, interpersonal disharmony, things are unfavorable, and the family is uneasy.Therefore, a wise person will never be obsessed with the so-called right or wrong, he will carefully avoid unnecessary fights.

Lao Tzu also said, "It is because the sage knows himself but does not see himself." This knowledge and seeing are very reasonable.The saint himself knows how much I know. "I don't see myself", this self-conceit has two meanings, one is performance, and the other is that we are stubborn. We only know this, and we don't accept anyone's opinion, so we stubbornly think that we are right .If everyone hates you, you have to think for yourself, what is wrong with me, this is called self-knowledge.But never stick to one's own opinion, never know that point is fully revealed, show it off, you see how much I know, and it is not about imposing one's own knowledge on others.

The biggest mistake in life is wrong view.Ordinary people make mistakes, but if they are mistakes in matters, they can still be corrected.The biggest mistake is wrong view, that is, there is a misunderstanding in thinking and a deviation in understanding.Not only do they not know how to be self-righteous, but they are also self-righteous. This is a mistake that many people in modern society are prone to make. It is really terrible.

Confucius said: "The ignorant likes to be self-righteous, and the humble likes to act arbitrarily. Born in the present age but wants to go back to the ancient times. If you do this, disasters will definitely come to you."

Self-righteous, have you ever?Don't say no.Anyone has been or is, more or less, trapped in the quagmire of self-righteousness and cannot extricate themselves.

Many things, at the time, I really thought it was like this or that. When things passed, and looking back, I would often blame myself or reflect on myself. do it?
"Carrying a Pole into the City" is a joke in classical Chinese. In today's words, it roughly goes like this:

In the state of Lu there was a man who entered the city gate with a long pole, but he could not enter the city gate no matter whether he was holding it vertically or horizontally.At this time, an old man came and said, "I am not a sage, but I have seen many things! Why don't you cut off the long pole with a saw and enter the city gate?"

Although the story is just a few words, it vividly depicts the old man's "self-righteousness" state, which is vivid on the paper.

In the article, the "person holding the pole" cannot enter the city horizontally or vertically. The old man helped him from the side. It was a good intention, but instead of pointing out the correct way - to enter later, he boasted first, "I am not a saint, but I have seen a lot of things." , and then say "why not cut it in with a saw", which is not a solution.Leaving aside the trouble of sawing the pole, wouldn't it be a pity if the pole is useless after sawing?Here, the old man first "proclaimed himself", and then said a way that was almost a bad thing, the real "self-righteous person"-this is really undesirable.

In real life, "self-righteous" jokes are not uncommon.In a situation where government and enterprise are not separated, and laymen lead experts, aren’t there jokes like “Is Comrade Li Shizhen who wrote the Compendium of Materia Medica here?”In a serious and grand public occasion, it is inevitable to make jokes in such a grandiose "self-righteousness".

"Smug ones" don't just make silly jokes, they wreak havoc.

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