no-complaint marriage

Chapter 1 Preface Marriage Management is an Art Preface
From getting acquainted, getting to know each other, falling in love, and finally stepping into the palace of marriage, every couple of men and women hope that their married life will be happy and happy, and that they can go through ups and downs hand in hand and grow old together.But in real life, we found that although everyone has the same original intention when they get married, they all hope that the tree of marriage and the flower of love will last forever and be harmonious and beautiful, but the results are completely different: some couples get married for dozens of years. There is no so-called "seven-year itch" at all, and there is no "bottleneck year" in marriage; Big quarrel, not quarreling but abnormal, children screaming all day long, making home feel like home, and even going to divorce... The same marriage desire has different results, what is the reason?

People always place their hopes on reality, compare marriage with love, and hope that marriage will be so-and-so.In fact, what you should do is what you want your marriage to be like, and how you want to manage your marriage.First of all, we need to know that love is different from marriage: love is romantic, and you can enjoy it for a while, but marriage is realistic, and you have to live with daily necessities; love is a flower, and marriage is a fruit.Flowers are always beautiful, but fruits are not always beautiful.Secondly, when there are problems in the marriage and unsatisfactory situations occur, the husband and wife should not complain to each other, but should consider ways to solve the problem.Many couples will doubt their original choice of marriage when they have problems in their marriage. In fact, instead of complaining and doubting, it is more practical to spend more time on managing their marriage.

Don't complain about marriage - there is nothing wrong with marriage, and there is nothing wrong with the choice of two people before marriage, let alone envy the so-called perfect marriage in the drama.The reason why love in literary works is eternal is because it only describes a part of love that is extremely brilliant, whether it is parting from life or death, or staying together forever.If Zhu Yingtai and Liang Shanbo can finally get married, they may have to be angry about the trivial things in life; if the hero and heroine in "Titanic" survived, they might also empathize with each other.In fact, love in love depends on experience, love in marriage depends on management, but love in marriage is more realistic.

The husband and wife were able to step on the red carpet in the end, it was after careful consideration, and because of their similarity, they finally came together.You must know that marriage is not just the union of two people, but also the union of two families, so if there are conflicts in marriage, it should be regarded as a normal phenomenon.Just like Franklin said: "Keep your eyes wide open before you get married, and close your one eye after you get married." Indeed, both husband and wife may pretend to be confused when dealing with matters in marriage.Being confused is not to swallow your anger, but to change your way of thinking.Marriage is a matter between two people, and each other needs to get rid of the trivial things in life, and don't always haggle over every detail, except for issues of principle.If the husband and wife understand each other more, be more tolerant, and give each other a little more freedom, they will gain more.Because there is no win or lose in marriage, win is win-win, lose is both lose.

Before marriage, many people think that a marriage certificate can guarantee the purity of love and the happiness of marriage. However, after marriage, they find that there is a big gap between expectations and reality.Therefore, some people compare marriage to the grave of love.But on second thought, if there is no grave of marriage, love will die without a burial place.Therefore, how to create a romantic married life and carry out fresh love to the end is a question that people in marriage need to think about.Mr. Lu Xun said that "love needs to be renewed from time to time." If you don't pay attention to renewing your love, the possibility of it fading is very high.

However, how easy is it to make a married life harmonious, joyful, fulfilling, and happy?Just as Leo Tolstoy said, "Happy families are all alike, but unhappy families are unhappy in their own way", every family has its own difficult scriptures.Therefore, if you want to recite this "scripture" smoothly and make it no longer difficult to read, you must rely on the joint efforts of the husband and wife, use some wisdom, and learn how to manage the marriage.

Marriage management is also an art. "A Marriage Without Complaints" uses natural and simple language to introduce to people how to be a good wife and husband and perform their duties well in the family; Preservation; How husband and wife resolve conflicts and avoid conflicts before they happen; How husband and wife support each other to overcome difficulties in difficult times...

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