no-complaint marriage

Chapter 2 Be a Virtuous Wife (1)
1. Use gentleness to create an atmosphere of love

I believe that every wife wants to be a well-educated and virtuous wife, but what is virtuous?Xian refers to a virtuous person, and Shu refers to kindness. In the "Book of Songs", there is: "A fair lady, a gentleman likes a good girl." Among them, "Shu" is mentioned. It can be seen that since ancient times, people have had such a standard for women, but with the development of the times, "virtuous" has also It has become a requirement for women.So, in the marriage relationship, as an important heroine, how can I be a virtuous wife, so that the marriage is happy, the family is harmonious, and the husband is satisfied?The following content will tell you.

Tenderness is an ancient and timeless topic.It is often a standard for evaluating women.Many people say that to judge whether a woman is kind or not, it depends on whether she is gentle or not.People are always based on kindness, but kindness is invisible and intangible, so we have to look at it from the perspective of gentleness.If kindness is a calm lake, then tenderness is the breeze that blows from it.A woman who is not gentle is not kind at all, even if she has an alluring beauty plus 100 advantages and 1000 specialties, she is by no means a lovely woman.Gentleness is a magnet, as long as you enter its magnetic field, you will be attracted by it unconsciously, and you cannot escape even if you want to.Gentleness contains profound things, which are not performed bluntly, but a natural emanation of life itself.Only this kind of love that grows within life can stand the test, last forever, and stay with you until the end of life.

men need gentle women
Smart women know how to use gentleness to create an atmosphere of love, especially after she becomes a wife, she understands the importance of gentleness to a woman and marriage.Because they know that tenderness can give people a kind of tranquility and harmony, and make it easier for their husbands and family members to approach and accept them.

For a woman to be recognized by the people around her, to have a sweet love, a happy marriage, and a happy family, what she needs is not her beauty, but her wisdom; not her arrogance, but her sincerity; not her willfulness , but her empathy.For husbands, it makes sense to like gentle wives.When they are tossing and working hard outside, they look strong on the outside, but they are very fragile on the inside.They need the consolation of their wives for their fragile side, and their tenderness and knowledge are their best gifts.Deep in their hearts, they don't want to have any disputes after returning home, they just want to enjoy their own tranquility, and let their wives brush away their mental troubles and sorrows for them.They are always persevering and do not bow their heads easily in front of outsiders, but they want to lie down and take off their disguise when they are beside their wives.What they need is not the appearance of their wives, but the comfort of their souls.

Xu Zhimo's poem "Shayan Nala" uses "the gentleness of bowing the head most" to describe the shy and gentle beauty of Japanese girls, which can make people feel pity.In fact, most men like gentle women, and gentle women are often doted on by men.What husband doesn't want his wife to be more gentle?Because the tenderness of the wife like a small bird can not only arouse the husband's love for her and satisfy his unique desire for protection, but also arouse his strong sense of mission and pride, making him care more about his wife. Pour more emotion into it.

Having a gentle wife is the greatest happiness for a man
When the ancients chose their wives, gentleness and virtuousness ranked first; after the selection of emperors, benevolence was the standard.In fact, this standard is not only an affirmation of a woman's nature, but also reflects the relationship between tenderness and marriage. Only gentle women know how to manage marriage with drizzle of love.Therefore, some people say that a man can resist anything, but he cannot resist a woman's tenderness; he can resist anything, but he cannot reject a woman's thoughtfulness.It can be seen that if a man can have a gentle wife, that is the real blessing, and it will make others envious!
Xiao Zhang and his wife Xiao Wang are both ordinary migrant workers. They have been married for nearly 10 years. Although they are just an ordinary family, their small life is very happy and happy. They are the envy of the neighbors.Whenever neighbors ask them the secret of getting along well as husband and wife, Xiao Zhang always says proudly: "It is my wife's gentleness that conquers me. How can I not love such a woman?" In fact, everyone knows that Xiao Wang is gentle. Notoriously, here are just a few moments from their lives.

In the crowded subway, Xiao Wang smiled sweetly when he answered the phone: "Honey, I'm on the subway. What? Are you working overtime again tonight? What time is it? Until 10 o'clock? It's too late, you Eat something in the restaurant below the unit. Don’t eat too greasy food. Also, it’s too hot, so don’t eat spicy food. It’s easy to get angry. Cut down on smoking. Can you take a taxi back at night? Call me in advance Call, I'll pick you up at the gate of the community. Well, well, I'll just eat whatever I want, don't worry."

After a while, Xiao Wang's phone rang again, and she answered the phone: "What's wrong with my husband? Come back to eat? Don't you have to work overtime? Oh, that's great, what do you want to eat? I'll go buy it when I go back." Vegetables, it’s okay, no trouble, I’ll go to the supermarket downstairs, there are beans at home, I’ll choose the beans, I’ll buy some tomatoes, what? Fried rice for you? Okay, fried rice with eggs? No problem , I won’t buy any fruit. There’s still half a watermelon in the refrigerator, so let’s eat watermelon. Well, okay, I’ll squeeze watermelon juice for you... Well, husband, be careful on the road, don’t worry about traffic jams, I’ll do it well After dinner, I will wash your clothes and wait for you to come back."

I believe that everyone who hears this conversation will feel jealous, and even more envious of Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wang's happy marriage.Xiao Zhang is really happy to have such a standard gentle wife. Xiao Wang's words reveal love for Xiao Zhang. She is not impatient because Xiao Zhang is picky about food, but agrees in every possible way and tries her best to satisfy him.We can see that Xiao Wang's tenderness is a kind of warmth that comes out of his bones.This kind of warmth is when she really likes and loves someone, the true feelings are revealed naturally, not pretended, it cannot be concealed; this kind of warmth is also a faint taste, it contains the nature of a woman.It exudes a lingering feeling and breath, infecting everyone around it, and giving people a kind of warmth of love.This kind of love includes kindness, tolerance, understanding and giving.

Women, the most touching thing is this gentleness.Gentleness is like a slender hand, knowing cold and hot, light and heavy.With just one touch, the wounded soul will be healed, the sleepy youth will wake up, and the moaning of pain will become the sound of sweet and happy snoring... Gentleness is a unique weapon of women, which man is unwilling to be knocked down by such a weapon ?
Gentleness has a kind of uninterrupted poetry, which can slowly and gently radiate, float to your side, expand, diffuse, and finally surround, wrap, and intoxicate you, making you feel a kind of relaxation, a kind of Belonging, a kind of beauty.

Gentleness makes women more attractive
Gentleness can make a woman more attractive, maintain a good temperament and mentality, and it is also a lubricant for a harmonious marriage. Let's take a look at the model of a gentle woman-Angie Chiu.

In the film and television dramas we are familiar with, such as "Shanghai Beach", "Joking about Qianlong", "Legend of the New White Lady", Zhao Yazhi has created countless gentle and classic images, and she is also gentle and happy in real life.

Her husband, Huang Jin, loves her very much. In order to support her career, he is willing to take a back seat for her.The couple have been in love for many years, and they are rare "model couples" in the entertainment industry.Her husband often sighs: It is enough to have a good wife in life!

What makes Zhao Yazhi have a happy marriage is her gentle temperament and mentality, her wise way of dealing with others and herself.Her age-inappropriate face puts many young women to shame. 30 years have passed, Zhao Yazhi is still the young and beautiful woman in people's eyes.She doesn't believe in those myths about skin care products. For her, a gentle and calm attitude is the secret to staying young.

Zhao Yazhi's beauty is secondary to her appearance. Her charm is ultimately the charming and stubborn energy in her bones.After silly girlfriends, naughty girlfriends, and even sassy girlfriends became popular one after another, some people finally realized that such a gentle and classic woman is a complex that Chinese men can't get rid of.Zhao Yazhi's happy marriage makes us understand that a beautiful appearance does not necessarily bring a beautiful marriage to a woman, but a beautiful and gentle personality can make a woman know how to steer the boat of marriage wisely.

A gentle woman can seize a happy marriage

From a general perspective, character determines destiny, and a person with a gentle personality will definitely win a close lover and a happy marriage.Therefore, wives must understand that fate is in their own hands, and marriage is also in their own hands.So how can we seize a happy marriage and create an atmosphere of love with tenderness is a compulsory course for a wife.

A gentle wife will not let her husband's finger hurt herself easily, she is not afraid, she does not want to pierce the relationship between husband and wife with this finger; a gentle wife will not quarrel with her husband loudly, it is not without reason, she I don’t want to disturb another woman into her room; the gentle wife always stares at the man’s chopsticks when eating, and the dish that his chopsticks frequently come to is the dish that she says she doesn’t like. vegetables; a gentle wife, when her husband is depressed, she will stay by his side quietly like a kitten, follow him blankly, watch TV pictures she doesn’t like, and keep turning her head to quietly glance at her absent-minded husband; gentle When a wife is disrespectful to her husband, she immediately becomes a hen protecting her son, trying her best to peck at the other party. No matter how bad her husband is, she will not allow others to say that this is her right, and others cannot exceed it. She believes I can turn his faults into positives; a gentle wife always holds an "eraser" in her hand at night, when her husband is calm, and patiently wipes the stains on her husband's body that she cannot see, until the husband smiles and embraces her. In her arms; when her husband is happy, a gentle wife will dance like a child, sing and laugh, like a butterfly swimming among the flowers; a gentle wife also has bitterness, and her bitterness will turn into tears to face the moon and stars Speak, then sigh softly, comfort yourself: don't cry, don't cry, everything goes with the flow; a gentle wife is generally virtuous, and loves what her husband loves - his parents, his brothers and sisters.Because she knows that blood is thicker than water.She is just water for men, men are ducks, and it is fate that ducks fall in love with her side of water.Without her side of water, the duck can still live, but if its blood is drained, the duck will die; a gentle wife always puts everything about her husband as the most important thing, his body, his joys, sorrows and joys, she seems to be in this life. It is to live for him and live for him. She hopes that he will live a long life. She hopes that she will go before him in the future, and not let him go before her. A gentle wife may be a numb woman in the eyes of others. Her love is not called love, saying that she is deceiving herself, but she happily accepts and enjoys this kind of love.Since God sent her to this person, then this person is her sky, and she hopes that her sky will always be sunny; a husband who gets a gentle wife must be a happy man, and the husband who a gentle wife faces is not necessarily an ideal The man she loves is the man she is willing to spend her whole life waiting for; whether a gentle woman is happy or not, other people's eyes know it, and she knows it herself.

Use tenderness to create an atmosphere of love and carry the marriage to the end, that is the final winner.

2. Reflect your potential charm in every word and deed

In the "Modern Chinese Dictionary", the word "charm" is explained as: very attractive power.To put it more generally, charm is actually a kind of attraction, a kind of power that people like, want to understand, pay attention to, and possess.

Attractive woman speaks well

When it comes to the charm of women, we often think of such a sentence: a woman does not have to be beautiful, but she must be attractive.This is enough to show that for a woman, the value of charm may sometimes be far greater than beauty itself.Indeed, people are all mortals after all, not the reincarnation of the seven fairies in the sky, so there are very few people who are naturally beautiful.In addition, "a flower does not have a hundred-day redness", so the beauty of a woman is like a flash in the pan, fleeting.However, charm is a kind of temperament of a woman. It is by no means a natural gift from parents, but it can be revealed through various efforts and cultivation of the day after tomorrow.Therefore, a woman's own charm can be said to be completely in her own hands.

A wise woman is good at using her own charm to resolve all the contradictions in the marriage and make their marriage more harmonious.I still want to mention Zhao Yazhi, she is an outstanding representative of charming women. In the entertainment industry, the reason why she does not often have a red light in marriage like other actors is because of her unique charm in every word and deed, which makes their husband and wife relationship Very harmonious.She is good at handling things that are not good for her marriage, so as to win her husband's trust and deep love.

Due to her work, Zhao Yazhi often meets many people of the opposite sex who express her affection for her. For this, she treats them with courtesy and keeps a distance from them.Once, Zhao Yazhi was in poor health, and a male artist came to visit with flowers. She took it and saw that it was a bouquet of roses. It happened that her husband Huang Jin also bought roses for her.Zhao Yazhi put them together in the living room, and the careful Zhao Yazhi found that although her husband didn't say anything, he glanced at the rose vases placed side by side several times.Zhao Yazhi saw all this in her eyes and had a plan in her heart.

In the evening, Zhao Yazhi brought her husband's flowers into the bedroom.Her husband then asked, "Why did my flowers get a better treatment?" Angie Chiu said with a smile, because her husband is different from others, he is the most caring person, so this vase of flowers should be placed in the most personal place.Her husband was very happy after hearing this, and hummed an English song happily.Zhao Yazhi said softly: "Jin, apart from you and the child, I have no space in my heart to accommodate others." After hearing this, Huang Jin caressed his wife's beautiful hair and nodded.The two then made a rule: in the future, if there is a legitimate relationship between a man and a woman, they don't need to tell each other deliberately, as long as they trust each other.

In this way, Zhao Yazhi won the sincerity of her husband with the charm of actions and words, and at the same time resolved a war that was about to break out without gunpowder.

how to be an attractive woman
Every woman has its potential charm, but it is difficult for them to show their unique charm in every word and deed.According to the survey, especially those women who are already wives, most of them said: They are old couples, why should they be attractive anymore?Charm is only what men and women in love care about; while a few wives pay attention to their words and deeds, and are good at showing their charm in words and deeds.Of course, those women who no longer pay attention to their words and deeds and ignore the importance of attractiveness after marriage are mostly unhappy marriages.In fact, it is not difficult for us to see that a woman, even if you work hard, if you don't care about your words and deeds, and ignore the potential charm of women, then she will not end well.What man would like to live with someone who is violent and unfeminine?Even if there is such a man, it is no longer out of love, but out of commitment to marriage.Such a woman is sad, she has given her all for marriage, but she has not received what she deserves.Of course, the charm of a woman is inadvertently revealed in every word and deed, rather than deliberate, artificial, and pretended charm.

So, as a wife, how can you reflect your charm in every word and deed?Here I would like to borrow a sentence from Shakespeare quoted by Mr. Lin Yutang in the book "Women's Life". Shakespeare said: "The one who wins my love lies in the sincerity of a woman, not in the beauty of her appearance." Through this sentence , it is not difficult to see that in the eyes of most husbands, the beauty of a wife's heart is much more important than her physical beauty.

◎Be a smart and knowledgeable wife
"Women without talent are virtue" has long been Dong Yang's saying, and the ice and snow intelligence and exquisiteness of talented women are even more convincing.Most attractive wives are knowledgeable and have endless topics, such as astronomy, geography, technology and humanities, at their fingertips, and will never make others feel trivial and boring, and her conversation and self-cultivation are also the most able to conquer others.She also knows that books can give her wisdom. In her spare time to manage her marriage and family well, she will go to bookstores. She will carefully choose a few books that can improve herself and buy them home for reading, whether it is classics or financial management. In terms of aspects or inspiration, she believes that there are things she can learn from the book, which can enrich her life, change her thinking, broaden her horizons and bring her fun.Choose to read a good book over a good tutor.

◎Be a wife with rich connotation of life

She shows subtlety, deepness, gentleness and kindness in her gestures, and she can give people an amiable, easy-going and pleasing charm.Not only is she full of enthusiasm for life, but she can also arouse others' enthusiasm for life, so that her own and other people's lives become more radiant.

◎Be an optimistic and confident wife
At work, she will be as brave, capable, confident and calm as a man.In life, she will be a person with clear life beliefs and life direction, and she will be a person who knows how to care for herself and others, and always maintains an optimistic attitude towards life.

◎ Be a very independent wife
She doesn't want to be just a green leaf to set off the beauty of red flowers, and she doesn't want to be just a quiet moon to reflect the sun's brilliance, and she doesn't want to just be a man's vassal and companion.She should be independent from the world, have her own opinions, her own thoughts, her own personality and will.It is conceivable that a wife who depends on her husband in everything and has no self-esteem and self-improvement will surely wither like flowers in a vase.

◎Be a feminine wife

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