no-complaint marriage

Chapter 3 Be a Virtuous Wife (2)
This kind of femininity will not only make your husband feel warm, but also make him feel more or less romantic in you from the tranquility and peace.This unique breath will be refreshing and unforgettable.Because they know that tasting an attractive woman is like tasting a glass of red wine, she is full of temptation.

◎Be a wife who treats herself kindly
At any time, she will not hurt herself, and her career will only bring her short-term depression. She will not be depressed or indulged for such reasons.She cherishes herself and knows the importance of good health to modern people. She often actively participates in sports to maintain her good figure. She will not begrudge the money and time spent on maintaining her appearance and body.She has excellent living habits. Smoking, drinking, and partying all night long will never happen to her.She never gave up her spiritual pursuit because of material satisfaction. On the contrary, it is the material foundation that makes her more capable of constructing her own spiritual world.The maturity of her insight into everything enables her to be comfortable in being both grand and harmonious.

◎Be a wife with moral standards and principles

She is open to other people's opinions and laughs off innocuous escapades.However, she abandons her follow the trend without any opinion.She will not be distracted to the point of losing morality, "Do not do to others what you do not want to do to yourself", she disdains to intervene in other people's affairs, and scandals have always been far away from her.

◎Be a wife who is sensitive and not suspicious, and can control emotions well
She can react keenly from the subtleties, but she is not suspicious.At any point she could take a deep breath and tell herself not to panic or lose her temper.She will not bring personal matters and bad emotions to the company, or extend the unhappiness in the company to the home.

◎Be an ideal wife and mother
She is gentle, introverted, understanding, quiet, calm, delicate, and pays attention to the details of life.She loves her family, family is her joy in life.Good upbringing and affluent economic conditions have enabled her to transcend triviality and vulgarity. She never envied men and career women, and only folded the paper cranes in her hands intently and peacefully.

◎Be a wife with unique taste
She wasn't the prettiest face, but she looked pleasing to the eye.She does not pursue trends, but she can dress with originality and personal taste.She can convey inner maturity and richness, like a glass of mellow wine, which makes people slightly intoxicated.Many women may think that taste is related to fashion or luxury goods, but it is not the case. Taste is a person’s attitude when observing things. Different versions of the same thing will appear in different people’s eyes. The value of the item itself is related to the taste. It doesn't matter whether you are high or low, so she will use her own eyes to appreciate a thing and choose things with elegant taste.To some extent, a woman's taste and her temperament complement each other, and the level of taste depends on a woman's discovery of new things in daily life.A charming woman knows that as long as she wears a cheap jewelry that belongs to her alternative, she can also show her own taste and create her own charm.

Therefore, female compatriots, no matter your appearance is beautiful or ugly, you should cultivate a unique temperament that only you have during the tempering of time. A moment of pervasiveness that, like an invisible genie, grabs hold of a husband's senses and sneaks into their hearts, making them want to come near you, touch you, and get to know you more deeply.Remember, a woman can not be beautiful for a while, but she can't be charming all her life!To hang on to the ropes of marriage, you have to be attractive.

3. To be the confidant and friend of the husband

A gentle and virtuous wife must know how to handle the relationship between herself and her husband. Moreover, she likes to use her brain and can handle the problems encountered in marriage wisely.She usually does not regard her husband as her private property and leaves it to her own disposal.She will get along with her husband like a friend and communicate with her husband like a friend.

friendship between husband and wife
The wife regards her husband as her confidant and friend, not only keeping a close distance from her husband, but also being able to communicate well with her husband.

Balzac wrote in "Memoirs of Two Young Women": "Marriage produces life, love produces only happiness. Happiness disappears, marriage still exists, and it gives birth to a value that is more precious than the union of a man and a woman. Therefore, in order to obtain a happy marriage, It is enough to have that kind of friendship that forgives human shortcomings."

Friendship, a word wives rarely use about their husbands.The wife hopes that her husband will play the role of father (can provide financial and spiritual support), son (can satisfy maternal desire), strong man (can be used to pretend to be a tiger), and lover (can act together in a deeply affectionate drama)... ...the only thing you can't be friends with.When you are friends, rights and obligations are equally divided, which is a loss-making business.A shrewd wife would say: "If you treat your husband as a friend, then why marry him?" It makes sense. Marrying is for a stable life, and the best thing is for a husband to have an inexhaustible bank card.

How would a wife ask for their ATM card?Carry it with you and use it anytime.Many wives treat their husbands with this attitude. The husband's whereabouts must be controlled, and the husband's confession must not be empty.Many women around me lamented that they would be men in the next life, and I said, I would rather do other things than be a man.Men are actually more miserable than women. They spend their whole lives fighting in the arena, and they have to report the results to their wives in time when they get home. If they win beautifully, their wives are worried, and if they lose ugly, their wives look down on them.Although they will endure and be silent at first, one day they will not be able to stand the suppression of their wives, and they will break down or escape.As Mr. Lu Xun said: "Silence, silence, if you don't explode in silence, you will perish in silence."

you are not just a wife

In order to have a harmonious marriage, the wife and husband must be friends and confidants, and they must treat the husband equally and treat him like a friend.And the key is to ask him like you ask a friend, and don't put too much pressure on him, so that it will be easier for you to communicate and get along.

Liu Xin and her husband Du Jun have been married for 8 years, and they have been dancing the dance of marriage very well.Although they sometimes stumble in their lives, they can always resolve conflicts in the shortest possible time.The secret to keeping their marriage fresh is as Liu Xin said: "Treat him like a friend and a confidant, forgive his mistakes like a friend and a confidant, ask him like a friend and a confidant, and congratulate him like a friend and a confidant." success……"

Du Jun is on a business trip for the past few days, preparing to participate in the promotion campaign.Du Jun has to make long phone calls to his wife every day, and he can't wait to tell his wife every thought and activity on the phone.This is a critical period. His years of hard work are about to succeed. Now he has grown from a reckless and impulsive young man to a mature man who is serious and responsible for his work, loyal to his friends, and full of love for his family. All his efforts have paid off. It is recognized by everyone, and it may be promoted and used by the organization as an exception.It can be said that this was a turning point in his life. However, at this critical moment, he was still very nervous. In the past, no matter what he did at home, he had his wife's encouragement and support.His wife is like his friend. When he has any burden in his heart, his wife will always give him the greatest comfort, instead of hurting a man's self-esteem like other women.In real life, many men dare not speak their minds, because wives who do not understand people will often look down on their husbands when they show their psychological fragility instead of comforting them, calling him cowardly.

He said: "Honey, if I don't use me after inspecting me this time, what should I do?"

The wife said softly: "Why is your psychological quality so poor as a man? If you don't need you, you can continue to be your station master and just work hard! Besides, it's their loss that they don't use you, and you have nothing to lose." .Don't take winning or losing so seriously, you will perform better if you take it easy."

He laughed and said: "You know how to hit me like this. I was really nervous, and my brain went blank."

The wife said again: "Husband, don't worry about the result now. It's like an exam. The exam paper has already been handed in, and the score is a foregone conclusion. You should treat it with peace of mind. No one will laugh at you!"

Then Du Jun told his wife what he said when the organization asked him to talk, and he didn't say a single word of derogation to his competitors.

Later Du Jun asked his wife, "Am I right? Am I being too confident?"

Then his wife encouraged him: "You speak in a very orderly manner. People who are not confident will not be liked, and overconfidence is also annoying. You speak just right, the best!"

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Liu Xin also said that her husband has regarded him as his spiritual support many times.

In fact, couples should treat each other as friends and as friends who can make friends.

The reason why many people like to talk to their friends and confidants is because they can find comfort and balance there.Friends and confidants can persuade, comfort, encourage oneself, and soothe one's wounded heart.Even if friends and confidants can't solve it, then he can act as a listener.Moreover, friends and confidants will not laugh at him, despise him, or despise him.

Then, as the closest person to the husband, the person who knows him best, and loves him so much, why doesn't the wife communicate with him well and be his friend and confidant?From now on, you might as well assume that he is your friend first, communicate with him, and chat with him like a friend.You don't have any excessive demands on your friends, do you?Always treat each other with a normal heart, then, you should also ask for the same from your husband, and treat yourself as your husband's friend and confidant, and understand your husband.Don't put too much pressure on your husband, but only give him the deepest and most true love, so that he can feel the warmth of home and the tenderness of his lover.Over time, you and your husband will become friends, confidants, and close friends, and no one can replace your status as a friend.

As the husband's wife, but also as the husband's friend and confidant, I believe that your marriage relationship will be further improved, and you will be able to maintain happiness for a lifetime with ease!
4. Men also have self-esteem, respect him

Self-esteem is the most sensitive nerve of a man.Respecting others is a kind of self-cultivation and a person's moral character.It often complements good qualities such as kindness, sincerity, humility, tolerance, appreciation, and friendship.

befriend his ego
A man's self-esteem is as fragile and fragile as glass.Since ancient times, in their hearts, "Scholars can be killed, but not humiliated"!They are most afraid of being looked down upon by others and being said to be incompetent.Although not all men are heroes, the successful ones are rare, and too many men make a living in the scorching sun or in the snow, swords and frost knives, but their hard work is just for a very simple life, to support their loved ones. A rainless sky.

Their self-esteem is very strong, and a casual word is like a sharp knife that can pierce their fragile self-esteem.So as a wife you have to respect him.

Men have strong self-esteem, which hurts a man's self-esteem, and often causes a fatal blow to a man's spirit.A woman, if she truly loves a man, treat his self-esteem as your close friend and take care of him gently.

My friend Meng Xin was originally a bank employee. When he received a monthly salary of 2000 yuan, his wife was only a temporary worker in a unit, receiving less than 1/3 of his salary.At that time, his wife admired him a lot and obeyed him.

Later, after his wife was laid off, she started a business and made money immediately.Unexpected things happened to Meng Xin one after another.The wife's ability seemed to be activated in the mall all of a sudden.The docile and lovely little woman in the past has now become a big woman who does things vigorously; moreover, he feels that in his wife's heart, his tall image in the past has suddenly become short.Her teachings to Meng Xin also increased as her money increased.The status of this woman has suddenly undergone an earth-shaking change.One day, she said inadvertently that in this society, having more money gives you status and respect, as if this sentence was meant for her husband.This sentence has always made Meng Xin heartbroken: "She began to dislike me for having no money and no status!"

However, men generally want dignity and face. How can they live at the feet of a weak woman?Some dissatisfaction is building up over time.In the end, he decided to prove his ability and restore his tall image.

Seeing that the stock market was booming in those years, he planned to invest in stocks first, and then quit his job to start a business after making money.He didn't believe that his ability was inferior to that of a woman.He knew, as his wife said, that status comes from having money.In this materialistic society, only money can prove one's strength, and money can give a person social status and regain his manly dignity.

He said he wanted to speculate in stocks, but his wife supported him and gave him some money.But he insisted on writing an IOU, and when he made money, he would pay it back with interest.In the beginning, he made a little money.However, he soon encountered Waterloo in the stock market, not only losing all the money he earned, but also taking more than half of his original capital.

Later, he insisted on borrowing a sum of money from relatives and opened a small restaurant.However, he really isn't business material.He frightened a group of diners because he reprimanded a corrupt official who wasted money and wasted money. He was also smashed by those guys because he refused to give credit to the ruffian.Because he desperately defended his property, a 10-centimeter gash was opened in his head, and a lot of blood flowed out.After sleeping on the ground for half an hour, he was sent to the hospital.

His business could no longer go on.One morning, his wife found him missing.He's gone, taking nothing with him, leaving nothing behind.The wife looked for him everywhere, but never found him.This strong woman shed tears in the program of missing people. She said to the camera: "I hope you go home, I hope you are safe, I hope you are happy, you don't have to do anything, my business is also transferred out, Let's just go on living like we used to."

I don't know whether this result is due to the pressure she caused her husband or the fragility of her husband's self-esteem.

A man's self-esteem is something that is difficult to explain clearly. It is a kind of backbone, a kind of ambition, and a kind of strength in them.Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's pathetic.It is not difficult to see that a man has strong self-esteem and needs the encouragement of his wife. This not only reflects your love for him, but also makes him feel that you value him.

Those careless women who don't know how to be gentle always don't pay attention to the inner emotional world of men, they can say what they want, and they can scold them when they want, which hurts men invisibly.In fact, a woman should treat her husband tenderly and treat his fragile and sensitive self-esteem.Only in this way can good results be obtained.

Carefully maintain a man's self-esteem and be friends with his self-esteem, you will maintain your respect and love for him, and it will also make him more motivated and confident to give you a happy marriage.

Women need understanding, but what men need is self-esteem!

love him, respect him

He needs your respect the most. When you are proud, don't be too showy in front of him, making him feel the pressure of life; pressing.When he is self-satisfied, don't pour cold water on him, making him doubt his ability; when he is arrogant, don't blame him, making him feel that no one understands him.When he is talking and bragging outside, don't expose him, refute him, and let him lose face; when he is doing housework at home, don't hit him hard and let his enthusiasm plummet.Because when you respect him, he is happy, and the relationship between husband and wife can be improved to a higher level.

So, how should a wife respect her husband?
In marriage, both husband and wife should know how to respect each other; both husband and wife hope to be respected by each other.

Respect requires us to get close to that person with our hearts.Respect his way of life, his habits, his hobbies, and his pursuits, even if these bits and pieces you are not used to, or even you hate.You can not accept him, but you must respect him.

Li Mei lost her marriage because she didn't know how to respect each other in marriage.Although from the outside, she and her husband are very good match, which is enviable.In fact, their personalities are quite different.Li Mei believes that living should be enjoyed and make herself happy, while her husband believes that living is to reflect his own value; she likes to be lively, he likes to be quiet; she likes to play with friends on weekends, and he likes to rest at home... These living habits The difference made Li Mei already very painful.However, the most terrible thing is that he has always been a technician in the unit, and it seems that he will never look forward to the chance of promotion.As a woman who "seeks her husband to become a dragon", Li Mei worries deeply about her husband's future.

There was a personnel transfer in my husband's unit. Because he performed very well in the unit, he was popular and serious in his work, the leader wanted to transfer him to the leadership team of the management.So, I talked to him and hoped that he would do administrative work.But he feels that his position cannot be separated from him. He is the backbone of technology, so he should continue to do technology.In the end, he declined the leadership's kindness.

After Li Mei heard the news, her lungs were about to explode, and she scolded her husband.Fortunately for her, she and the leader's wife once had a beauty treatment in a beauty salon, so they were considered acquainted.

(End of this chapter)