The Subconscious Mind and the Sixth Sense

Chapter 25 How Strong is the Psychological Radiation (1)
Whether it is joy or sorrow, it is an innate emotion of human beings. There is no distinction between good and bad emotions, but different emotions can bring us different lives.

How can I control my emotions so that every day is filled with happiness and joy?The wisdom of the predecessors taught us an eternal secret - the weak let their thoughts control their actions, and the strong let their actions control their thoughts.Only the incompetent feel that they are exhausted, and each of us is not incompetent, unless we let ourselves become a person who is firmly controlled by emotions.Therefore, we must constantly fight against those forces that try to destroy us, especially the stubborn diseases hidden in our hearts.Only by comprehending the mysteries of human emotional changes, not allowing one's ever-changing personality to be left alone, and proactively controlling one's emotions, can one control one's own destiny.

Organize Your Emotions: Don’t Send Negative Messages to Your Subconscious
【Emotions play a very important role in life, let the subconscious help you become an influencer. 】

When it comes to "influence", it's hard not to think of "emotional intelligence". "Influence" ranks first among the nine items of EQ. It is a person's ability to understand one's own feelings, control impulse and anger, act rationally, and maintain a calm and optimistic attitude in the face of various tests.At the same time, emotional intelligence is an adaptive ability to maturely regulate emotions based on the perception, evaluation and analysis of the emotions of oneself and others, so as to continuously adapt to external changes.

If you are in a good mood today, you will often find that your good mood affects others.If your mentality is poor, you will often find that you are not doing well today.Why is it not going well?Because you are in a bad mood!Bad mood can also affect others.Therefore, people with high emotional intelligence must be able to control their emotions. If they want to influence others, they must first be able to control their emotions. Don't let their bad emotions affect the emotions of others, and finally affect their work and daily life.Now is the era of knowledge economy, people's emotions are getting richer and richer, the more people read, the richer their emotions are, and the more they need to be able to interact with others in terms of emotional intelligence.

In the early 20s, a member of Congress who ran for a certain state in the Midwest of the United States was once a university president, and he was even more talented.This man was highly qualified, shrewd and knowledgeable, and looked like a good candidate to win the election.At the time of the election, however, the opponent spread a small rumor: three or four years ago, at an education conference in the state capital, he was "having a bit of a fling" with a young female teacher.It wasn't a brilliant lie, but the candidate was outraged by it and tried to defend himself.

He couldn't hold back the anger in his heart, and in every subsequent gathering, he would stand up and try his best to clarify the matter and prove his innocence.In fact, most of the voters have never heard of this incident. However, due to his repeated clarifications, voters have become more and more convinced that the rumors are true.

People plausibly asked: "If you are really innocent, why do you have to defend yourself in every possible way? Isn't this a guilty conscience?" These questions simply added fuel to the fire, and his mood became worse and worse. Similarly, in On various occasions, he will always be furious and hoarse to clear up his grievances and condemn the spread of rumors.Sadly, eventually even his wife began to believe the rumours, and the intimacy between the husband and wife was shattered.In the end, he lost his campaign and has never recovered from it.

In real life, people will encounter malicious accusations and frame-ups from the outside world, and even encounter various unsatisfactory situations.Some people will get angry because of this, and end up making things worse; some people can control their emotions well, face all kinds of difficulties and unsatisfactory calmly, and become invincible.

During the 1980 U.S. presidential election, in a key televised debate, Carter launched a deliberate attack on Reagan’s life style when he was an actor. It's a set."

For a while, Reagan's humorous words made the audience laugh, but pushed Carter into an embarrassing situation, thereby winning the trust and support of more voters for himself. In the end, Reagan won the general election.

In order to better adapt to society and achieve success, it is necessary for us to control our emotions and emotions, and deal with problems rationally and objectively.However, control does not mean repression. Positive emotions can stimulate people's enterprising spirit and strengthen communication and cooperation with others.If you spend a lot of energy on suppressing your emotions, you will not have enough energy to respond strongly to the outside world. Therefore, a person with high emotional intelligence should be a person who can maturely regulate his emotions.

Usually, when we talk about emotions, we mean feelings and their characteristic thoughts, mental and physical states, and tendencies to act.Emotions have the characteristics of "it doesn't matter right or wrong, it is often short-lived; it can accumulate, but it is easy to exaggerate; it can affect behavior, and it can also be accelerated to dissipate through guidance".

When external stimuli cause changes in the body, our perception of these changes is an emotion.Psychologists believe that people do not cry because they are sad, quarrel when they are angry, or tremble when they are afraid. On the contrary, people worry because they cry, get angry because they are noisy, and are afraid because they tremble.

Every decision and behavior of a person is affected by emotions.No matter from which aspect, emotions play a very important role in life.If you are a person who is easily disturbed by the outside world, you should deal with your emotions first, and then devote energy to dealing with things.

Positive emotions can enhance people's resistance, which is a fact that has been recognized by the medical profession.On the contrary, negative emotions will cause certain harm to the body.

In ancient my country, there was a saying of "seven emotions of internal injury". When the seven emotions of "joy, anger, worry, thought, sadness, fear, and shock" in the human body overflow excessively, the human body will produce diseases.Modern medicine believes that the occurrence of most diseases is not organic lesions, but has a very close relationship with emotions.

A large number of clinical medical studies have shown that people who are full of psychological contradictions, depression, insecurity and unpleasant emotional experiences have weakened immunity and are prone to cancer, and people who often swallow their anger are three times more likely to get cancer than ordinary people.They often restrain themselves excessively and suppress their emotions such as sadness, anger, and depression. These vicious emotions act on the brain for a long time, which will lead to endocrine disorders and reduce the immune function of the human body, thus giving cancer an opportunity to take advantage of.

Emotions not only affect the immune system of the human body and are not conducive to human health, but also affect people's behavior and psychological adaptability.When the external performance of these aspects is not good, it will have a negative impact on the health of the body.

In fact, everyone has times when they are in a bad mood, and it seems that all the troubles and pains come to join in the fun one after another at this time, which inevitably makes people feel suffocated.Therefore, some people complain that life is unfair to them.In fact, troubles in life are unavoidable. The key to the problem lies in how to adjust and control one's emotions.Maybe people know this truth, but they always retreat when they encounter specific problems: "It is too difficult to control emotions", when this idea exists in your mind, that is to say, you are unconsciously telling yourself Your subconscious mind: "I can't control my emotions." Don't underestimate these self-denial words, this is a serious bad suggestion, it can really destroy your will and lose your determination to overcome yourself.

There is a Buddhist saying that the heart is the Buddha, that is, self-restraint and self-awareness. All human sins and evils are the result of self-expansion.A happy person is happy because he is able to control his actions and attitudes and make himself more influential.Therefore, he can lead his emotions towards the state he expects.Everyone has emotions, the most important thing is not to let negative emotions control your life and cause more trouble.If a person wants to master himself, the first step is to master his emotions.

"Fake happiness and real work" is a term in psychology, which means pretending that you like it and giving actual actions.For example, if you "pretend" to be interested in work, this attitude often makes your interest real.In fact, anyone who knows something about subconscious psychology should know that this is the subconscious mind at work. When you keep saying to yourself: "I like this job, I am fully qualified for it", the subconscious mind will slowly Accept this message and make it conscious in your brain to change your actions - work with passion.As for emotions, a person always imagines himself in a certain situation and feels a certain emotion, and as a result, this emotion will come nine out of ten.

A woman who works as an office secretary often has to deal with many cumbersome letters and documents due to the needs of her work, as well as copying and typing. The work is boring and boring, and she is often exhausted.Then she thought, "This is my job, it pays well, and there's room for advancement. I should do a better job." So she decided to pretend she liked it.After that, she discovered an important fact: if she pretended to like her job very much, then she really liked it a little bit, and once she liked her job, her work efficiency increased a lot.Afterwards, she was always happy to overachieve, and the power of this change in mindset is truly amazing.Now, she's promoted.

At the critical point of losing control of our emotions, we must learn to be quiet for a while and let ourselves stop and breathe.For example, when you can't figure out something, just don't think about it at all, put it aside first, and deal with it calmly when you feel better.Learning to pause is also a good way to control emotions.

We often say to ourselves: "Don't get angry today; today, you must control your emotions..." Because people still know whether consciously or unconsciously, emotions determine a person's success or failure.It can not only affect our confidence, perseverance and emotions, but also completely change our outlook on life and the world.

For abnormal emotions, some people choose to vomit quickly, so a lot of complaints and complaints arise as the times require.Others consciously turn to doctors and rely on drugs such as sedatives for relief.Besides, is there any way to self-regulate?Here are a few "remedies" that don't take medicine.When you have a bad mood, the following methods may be useful.

1.increase exercise

Exercise is not only a kind of muscle exercise, but also a kind of emotional relaxation.People who lack exercise are far more emotionally unstable than those who exercise regularly.Due to regular physical exercise, the agility of thinking is relatively improved, so it is easy to realize where there is a defect in oneself.Because I am often in the middle of exercise, I often put aside my troubles and easily divert my attention, thereby changing bad emotions.

2.improve diet

There is a fundamental connection between food and mood.This is a fact recognized by psychologists.Carbohydrates stimulate the brain to produce a relaxation chemical, and about 50 grams of carbohydrates can have a calming effect.

Protein-rich foods such as aquatic shellfish, chicken, and beef help maintain one's alertness and mental power; bananas calm the nerves and are said to help develop a sense of humor.Might as well give it a try.

3.improve the environment
In psychology, color is called the "nutrition" of the mind, and its role is as important as vitamins to the body.In order to get rid of restlessness and anger, please avoid red; when you are "struggling" with depression, you should avoid black or dark blue, which makes you feel down, and try to get in touch with warm, relaxing colors. Bright and lively colours.

4.positive thinking
This is crucial.People with a negative way of thinking not only bring depressive feelings to those around them, but also convey negative information to their subconscious mind.

Psychologists have conducted experiments and found that those who can find interesting things in difficult times are in a much better mood than those who can only cry.Crying seems to be counterproductive, because all they think is - "Look I'm crying so badly" or "I'm getting distracted."However, people with positive thinking are completely different. Positive thinking can make people see the future in pessimism, and turn anxiety into calmness.So, try to be interested in others!In this way, you will not only make the other person happy, but also free you from negative emotions.

Only by taking good care of our emotions can we become the masters of "influence".

"Sharpening" Thoughts: The Greatest Winners

are good at thinking
[The subconscious mind is a qualified bodyguard, as long as you can adjust your thinking mode, it will let you embark on the road of destiny. 】

The important factor that determines people's achievements in life is not the so-called mysterious fate, but everyone's inner thoughts.The formation of destiny is mostly due to the accumulation of habits, and habits are formed by the same continuous behavior, which enters people's subconscious mind, and behavior is the result of thoughts.Therefore, destiny is completely self-changeable.

The destiny you are facing right now is the result of past thought patterns.If you want to have a better destiny, from now on, adjust your thinking mode, instill it in your subconscious mind, and consciously let your destiny develop in a good direction.

Although the environment is difficult to change, it is not impossible to change.If you think that your current environment cannot provide you with enough help to succeed, I suggest you find a new environment that allows you to succeed, so that your potential can be stimulated, and success is bound to be expected.

Just in time for the exam, a scholar wants to go to the provincial capital for the exam, but his wife may give birth at any time.It was not at ease to leave her alone at home, so Xiucai took his wife with him, hoping to go to the provincial capital together before giving birth.

The journey was tiring all the way, and I don't know if the tire is moving, or the child is anxious to get out sooner.The wife had a stomachache in the middle of the trip, and it seemed that she was about to give birth.

There are few houses along the way, so I barely found a house after walking for a while.The scholar hastily stepped forward and knocked on the door.The family was blacksmithing, and it happened that the blacksmith's wife was about to give birth.It turned out that the scholar was lucky, and the ready-made midwife happened to help his wife deliver the baby.

Not long after, the scholar's wife and the blacksmith's wife gave birth to two sons respectively, and both mother and child were safe.The two baby boys were born on the same date and at the same time.

Sixteen years later, the scholar's son grew up, inherited his father's career, and was admitted as a scholar.The old scholar was overjoyed, and remembered that the blacksmith's son had the same birth date as his scholar's son, so he must be a scholar at this time.Recalling the kindness of taking his wife into childbirth, the old scholar prepared gifts and rushed to the blacksmith's house to congratulate him on his son's high school graduation.

When I arrived at the blacksmith's house, I saw the old blacksmith sitting at the door and smoking a pipe, and a young boy in the house, shirtless, was busy forging iron.The scholar presented the gift and asked where the old blacksmith's son had gone.

The old blacksmith pointed to the door and said, "That is my son. What else can he do besides blacksmithing?"

The scholar was surprised and said: "It's him? It's really strange. Your son and my son have the same birth date, and the horoscope is the same. It should be a scholar at this time. How could it be..."

The blacksmith laughed: "What a scholar, this kid has been blacksmithing with me since he was a child, and he can't even read a single big character. What should he use to test for a scholar!"

The old scholar suddenly realized that the birth date and fortune-telling cannot be done accurately, and the encounters in different environments will naturally result in very different results.

This story provides us with a good direction of thinking - the important factor that determines people's life achievements is not the so-called fate, but everyone's inner thoughts.

A toothpaste company has excellent products and exquisite packaging, and is very popular with consumers. The annual turnover growth rate has been between 10% and 20%, and it has been maintained for 10 years. In the 11th year, the company's performance began to stagnate. Next In the past two years, the performance has gradually declined.In order to improve this situation, the company held a high-level meeting to discuss countermeasures.The president promised: "Whoever can solve the company's current situation will be rewarded with 10 yuan!" A young manager stood up and handed the president a note.There was only one sentence written on the note: "Enlarge the opening of the toothpaste tube by 1 millimeter." The president opened the note, read it, and immediately signed a check for 10 yuan to the manager.After the meeting, the president immediately ordered the workers to replace the packaging.The following year, the company's turnover increased by 32%.

It was just a small reform, but it achieved unexpected results.Consumers are used to extruding the same length of toothpaste every morning. If the opening of the toothpaste tube is enlarged by 1 mm, each consumer will use 1 mm more toothpaste. In this way, the total amount of toothpaste used by consumers every day will be many times more.

The biggest difference between people is the difference in thinking mode.Different thinking modes will get different results.Thinking is the most productive thing in the world.The vast majority of successful people are people who are good at thinking: the word "thinking" is written on the desk of the president of IBM, and Bill Gates, the former president of Microsoft, spends half a month every year thinking in retreat.The quality of a person's thinking determines the quality of his life.So if you can improve the quality of your thinking, if you can sharpen your thinking, no matter what kind of environment you are in, you can improve the quality of life, which is what psychology says, as long as you think you are who you are, you will become what kind of person.

The most advanced thinking mode of human beings is open thinking, which allows us to connect with success more quickly.In the Jurassic era, dinosaurs and cockroaches lived on the earth.Up to now, the dinosaurs that dominated the world at that time have become extinct, and only cockroaches survive.

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