The Subconscious Mind and the Sixth Sense

Chapter 51 The Most Sensitive Nerve—Induction (5)
Someone will say "I don't like this job", or "This is not the right job for me", but in reality, they may just not know how to gather and use their power.Once they have gathered their strength, they may find that they not only like the job, but also do it well.Even if you receive a task that is not to your taste every time, you will find that if you can focus more on this work, you will get more satisfaction from it.People are accustomed to regard unhappiness as an inherent attribute of work, but more often than not, unhappiness is just a mental state of workers.

The so-called boring is the same.There aren't many really boring jobs.The reason why people feel bored is mainly because the mind is distracted.One half of the mind is doing the job at hand, while the other is trying to avoid it; one half is earning wages, while the other is deserting and trying to persuade the working half to quit.Fighting each other for two extremely opposite goals will consume a lot of energy in the war.

People start to feel tired, lethargic, irritable, or bored.Everything seems to be covered with a layer of gray, and time has become preoccupied.Time slows like a crawl, and the results of work are horrible.Eventually, work performance plummets to the nadir of mediocrity because so much energy is devoted to repairing the damage caused by half-heartedness that there is not much energy left for the work itself.

When the mind is unified and fully applied to a task, there is plenty of energy.The tasks at hand, especially the step-by-step tasks, will be deployed easily and efficiently. Although you are busy, the time does not seem urgent, and everything will be in a "busy and orderly" state.

It's an interesting fact that if one can give one's full attention to the task at hand, then attention-worthy opportunities will arise—this seems to be a spiritual law.

The real joy in life is knowing yourself and living the life you want.When people encounter difficulties, they often ask their family members, friends and colleagues for help, ignoring their own thinking, and failing to calm down and ask themselves: What do I really need?

When encountering difficulties, it becomes very important to understand yourself without losing the goal of your struggle.How can this be done, and how do you get started?

The famous American psychologist Ken Wilber has a passage in the book "Grace and Courage": "To know the self is to know God. In each of us, there is only one witness, and there is only one divinity. , look through different eyes, speak with different voices, and walk on different legs. However, those who value mystical experience point out that there is only one God, only one Self, and only one Witness.”

The process of knowing yourself is like a spiritual journey, and meditation is the best way to start.You can try more methods to achieve this effect.

Once you find an effective and suitable method, you will feel relaxed both mentally and physically, and most of this feeling will first appear in your sleep.As experts say, although human beings are material, the spirit can transcend it.

Sun Tzu believes that only by knowing the enemy and knowing yourself can you be victorious in every battle.If you grow up in a state where you don't know yourself or others, how do you deal with complex interpersonal relationships and various challenges in life in today's society?
If a person wants to grow, succeed, and pursue happiness, he must first know himself.The process of continuous growth is also the process of continuously deepening your understanding of yourself.Only when you have a comprehensive understanding of yourself, can you fully believe in yourself, and then change yourself, love yourself, and develop yourself.

People are growing up all the time, and they are also awakening all the time, but the degree and meaning of awakening are different.As Einstein said: "The true value of a person is determined first of all to what extent and in what sense he is freed from himself." People are always accumulating knowledge of self-worth bit by bit, and this knowledge is Change as our lives change.With self-knowledge, there is a basis for understanding others and understanding society.

People who fully understand themselves can better control growth.In the journey of life, it is inevitable that you will encounter difficulties, setbacks, and tribulations.People who fully understand themselves can see their position clearly, make corresponding choices, strengthen their own advantages, and face and overcome difficulties.

What are your interests, hobbies, and specialties?What progress have you made during this time?Including the progress of one's own ideas, ways of thinking, knowledge, behavior and habits, and study and life.If there is progress, what are the experiences of making progress?What are the main problems you are facing during this time?What are your long-term ideals and short-term and medium-term goals?What do you want to achieve in the future?What personal assets and resources do you currently have?Including learning ability, practical experience, technical expertise, life attitude, family background, appearance, personality and creativity.

If these assets and resources are not good, don't be discouraged and disappointed, because you still have the greatest asset you were born with: a smart brain and an inexhaustible ability to think.Sink down, think quietly, have a serious dialogue with your own heart, and understand the most real world deep in your heart. From this, you will truly know yourself.Once you know yourself, you will like yourself more and more, and you will be full of confidence.

In a society full of desires and impetuousness, people always take what they already have for granted and only care about what they don't have.In this way, they give more time, energy, and trust to things they cannot do than to things they can do.This is doomed behavior, it prevents the growth of excellence in thinking, it drains energy, and fundamentally weakens the expectation of success.

A devout Buddhist encountered a difficult situation, so he went to the temple to pray for Guanyin.When I walked into the temple, I found that there was a person worshiping in front of the statue of Avalokitesvara. That person looked exactly like Avalokitesvara, no difference.

"Are you Guanyin?"

"Yes." The man replied.

"Then why do you still worship yourself?"

"Because I also encountered difficulties." Guanyin said with a smile, "I know that it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others."

This sentence is thought-provoking and memorable.I think the reason why mortals are mortals may be because they like to ask others when they are in trouble, and the reason why Guanyin is Guanyin is probably because they only ask for themselves when they are in trouble.Therefore, please know the self that has "superman" in you.

Thinking about it this way, if everyone has the strength and self-confidence of "asking for themselves when things happen", maybe everyone will become their own Guanyin.Sometimes something can rely on the strength of others, but a person's growth must basically rely on himself.

A person who believes in himself must be a person who dares to act.He will never blindly wait, wait and see, and miss various opportunities during his growth.Instead, he will show his talent in action, in practice.Of course, the daring to think and act mentioned here are not blind, let alone subjectivist utopia and recklessness.

Accumulate strength in meditation and grow outstandingly in practice.Before you become an important person, the world doesn't care about you, and it doesn't care about you. Whether you succeed or fail, whether you are happy or painful, shout or silent, the world will not change a little because of you.

Learn to love yourself, which is an important foundation for excellent growth in thinking.It can provide the courage and determination needed for growth, so that people can bravely go to the front of the crowd and become the person you want to be.

A person's attitude towards himself is directly related to how he thinks and how he grows.

There is a kind of person who is arrogant and conceited. This kind of person looks down on other people and always thinks that he is better than anyone else and has more ability than anyone else.They are arrogant and arrogant.The other type is people with low self-esteem and self-pity. This kind of people always look down on themselves, thinking that they are inferior to others, can't do everything, and lack self-confidence.Both of these people don't know how to love themselves, don't appreciate themselves very much, and they both have problems with self-identity.

Those who truly accept themselves from the heart, love themselves, and think that they are a valuable and bright future will find that they can expand their horizons, accept every challenge as a normal process of growth, and be able to grow in themselves. Perform at a higher level in everything you try.

A person who genuinely loves himself, respects himself and others in his dealings with others in an honest, positive, constructive way, and never hides his zest for life.Likewise, those who think less of themselves are always trying to compensate for their sense of inadequacy with superior or inferior behavior.A person who does not love himself cannot imagine that he can love others.Because he can't give others what he doesn't have.A person who does not love himself is easy to get lost in the journey of growth, which is also one of the important reasons why many people stumble in the journey of growth.The result will lead to many unhealthy phenomena in today's society, such as increasing drug and alcohol abuse, violent crimes, running away from home, addicted to online games, etc.This is the behavior of a group of people who do not love themselves and completely deny their own value.

Many well-known singers and movie stars end their lives in tragedy. The key reason is that they need the audience's applause to affirm themselves for a long time on the stage, but they have never heard applause from themselves.So once they step off the glorious stage and enter their bedroom, they will feel extremely desolate, feel depressed and sad as if they have been abandoned by the audience, and what's more, they will choose to commit suicide to end their life.

It is because of the significant impact of personal development and growth that people are able to expand and enhance their relationships, careers, wealth, health and happiness.And at the core of this scope and intense pursuit is self-awareness.

To discover a new self is to expand self-awareness.Think of self-awareness as a ring.Everything inside and outside the circle is the ego.Inside the circle is your current level of self-awareness, which makes you conscious.

When people broaden their circle of self-awareness, they not only consciously recognize more of themselves, but also expand the boundaries of consciousness again, so as to explore the future and grow.

Open your heart and accept yourself, and the world will welcome you with open arms.Every day, leave a gap for yourself and say to yourself: "Every day the sun is new, and every day I am new." What people lack is not the motivation to move forward, but the power to get rid of yesterday's shadow. People who can't pack light are because they are used to looking behind.If you happen to be this kind of person, please turn around.When you walk past, there will be a sunny day ahead, and you will find a brand new and beautiful self!

Emotional freshness: the distance is created, but the beauty is gone?

[There is an old saying: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water." In life, we should also uphold this principle when we get along with others.As long as you grasp the essentials of the distance law and respect others, the freshness and beauty will naturally be maintained for a long time. 】

There is a saying in Zhu Shuzhen's "Mid-Spring Books" poem: "It's warm and cold in February, and the red is brewing and the green is fresh." "Fresh" is a very beautiful state, so people try every means to make food and Keep items fresh.So, what about feelings, can it stay fresh?

Someone smiled and replied: "Distance creates beauty, and with distance, freshness comes."

There is indeed some truth to this statement.Through the study of love psychology, it is found that psychological distance is directly proportional to physical distance.It is easier for people to have a good impression of the people around them, and even develop into a relationship of lovers.

A researcher once conducted a survey on the places where lovers met, and found that the top-ranked places were "workplace or work-related places", "schools", and "part-time jobs".In the questionnaire survey, the most first love objects are students at the same level in the school, accounting for 69.6%, of which 51.2% are classmates.

If you observe carefully, you will find that colleagues in the company and classmates in the school are closer to each other and have a better relationship.

So, why is it so easy for people to have a good impression of those around them?From a psychological point of view, the effect of this phenomenon is called the "proximity factor".

In the magical nature, there is such a law of phenomena, if there is too little snow on the snow-capped mountains, the snow will gradually melt; but if the snow accumulates for too long or too much, an avalanche will occur again.If the river water is too little and stagnant, it will gradually dry up. Similarly, if it rises too fast and too high, it will flood again.So distance is the measure of many "beauties".And this seems to be a very interesting phenomenon. A little farther away, or a little closer, will have completely different consequences.

Lovers who are passionately in love, if they don’t always meet each other, the relationship will gradually become distant, and the relationship will fade, which is not conducive to further getting along; if they live together every day, the distance is very close, but it does not mean the heart is close, the closer the distance , the easier it is to have friction with each other, the more you spend together every day, the easier it is to get tired of each other.

This is the case with everything in the world, and it is the same with people.

Although people have always advocated that "distance produces beauty", the distance produces beauty here means that under certain circumstances, it corresponds to the distance in time and space.Time can dilute everything, and space can corrode everything, so will the so-called beauty still exist at this time?

Numerous phenomena have clearly explained the truth: people must learn to maintain a "moderate distance" between each other, so as to maintain a stable state and make it easier to exert influence on others.

"Distance language" is a content of behavioral language, which expresses the emotion, intention and relationship degree of communication by means of the spatial distance and its changes between the two parties in communication.When people communicate, they always occupy a certain space and keep a certain distance from each other. Although this distance has no sound, it can convey a certain meaning like language.

When two people quarrel, one party deliberately moves his body closer to the other and touches the other's skin with his hands, and bystanders will be sure that he is provoking and demonstrating to the other party.And the other party will angrily push the outstretched hand aside and move his body closer.At this time, without anyone prompting, the people around can feel that they are not far from fighting.Because the change in the distance between the two of them can send us a message-the two sides have invaded the space that the other cannot tolerate.

This is the "Law of Distance", also known as the "Hedgehog Law", which mainly emphasizes the "psychological distance effect" in interpersonal communication.It comes from an experiment in which hedgehogs get close to each other to keep warm in winter: when hedgehogs keep warm, if they get too close, they will stab each other; if they are too far away, they will not be warm.Only by keeping a moderate distance can you keep warm.Therefore, the distance rule is an important factor in maintaining the aesthetic feeling.

The "Law of Distance" is applied in interpersonal relationships. It is reflected in the fact that the distance between people should not be too far. If the distance is too far, the relationship will appear unfamiliar. From the perspective of influence, it will not be able to exert influence; but it should not be too close. Too close, too close a relationship is bound to cause friction, boredom, and also can't exert influence better.

In the cold winter, the hedgehogs are neither too far away to avoid affecting heating, nor too close to avoid stinging each other. This is called the "moderate distance" here, and this is the suitable golden section that people are looking for.

A piece of jade that looks perfect, if you look at it with a magnifying glass, you can still see its flaws, so people will think that "jade" is just a kind of ordinary stone; a beautiful girl with smooth and fair skin like milk, if When you get close to her, you will still find that there are a few spots on her face, so you will feel that she is not as beautiful as you imagined; anything in the world, any thing, if you get too close , will find its flaws, weaknesses, shortcomings; anyone related to you in the world, if you are with him all the time, then even intimate lovers will one day stop because they are too close to each other. Mutual attraction, mutual accommodation.

When getting along with others, we must grasp the scale of distance, maintain an appropriate and subtle distance, maintain mutual understanding, and respect each other as guests.So, what is the most appropriate distance to get along with people?

Psychology believes that the most suitable distance should be neither far nor close, neither close nor distant, inseparable, so that each has its own space and secrets, and also allows each other to experience care and love.In this way, when you ask the other party for help or contact the other party, the other party will also accept the request, and it is easier to exert influence on the other party.

In many cases, people just need a little bit of mystery, that is, they need to give each other a free space. Too close will make each other unable to accommodate each other better, let alone influence each other.

Psychologists analyzed and pointed out: "The education, environment, and habits of people are different, and everyone's thoughts, opinions, and opinions are also different. If people can keep a certain distance, these differences will be ignored by the distance, just like Small errors are ignored in ordinary calculations. Conversely, if people are too close, these differences will be like many digits after the decimal point in exact calculations.

Leaving a free space is not to keep each other far away, nor is it to make people no longer contact or care about each other, but to create an appropriate distance.As the saying goes: "One day is like three autumns." Appropriate distance can make people feel the beauty of longing and perfect beauty created by distance, which corresponds to a sentence: "Appropriate distance can produce beauty .”

(End of this chapter)