Calm: Be a calm woman

Chapter 31 A Stormy Face—A Calm and Calm Woman Facing the World with a Calm and Unfazed Attitude (4)
Mrs. Roosevelt lived in the White House for 12 full years.During these 12 years, she had to deal with complicated things almost every day.When I asked her how she spent those years, she said she would sit on a chair or sofa with her eyes closed for 10 minutes before meeting a large group or giving a speech.Maybe some female friends will doubt whether two or 10 minutes can solve the problem. The truth is that these two or 10 minutes of rest or relaxation enable Mrs. Roosevelt to devote herself to life and work with fuller emotions and more physical strength.

Annie spent 5 years thinking about it, and finally decided to change her job this year and resettle her body and mind again. She realized that happiness at work may be just a slight difference between 5.1 and 4.9. There is a ladder in the middle, and you may climb to The ladder in the middle has just the right balance and may only have gone one rung.Even so, you are making progress, and the buoy on the balance scale has moved forward one step.

Anne has a law of life balance, which is used to check and balance work and life.She divides life into four parts: health, time, freedom and happiness, and assigns the proportion and order according to individual conditions.If each element is present, the attitudes and emotions reflected in the work will be more peaceful, thus achieving proper balance.If you stay in balance for a long time, you can think positively.Many experts urge that positive thinking can regulate work stress and clear unnecessary emotions.Office workers get closer to positive thinking people, which can reduce burnout.

Her approach is to allow only a moment of depression if things go terribly wrong.She's quick to change her mind: "Great, we've learned another trick, and we'll have a chance to try something else next time, so we don't think we're bad."

Learn to work and learn to rest at the same time.Leisure time is crucial to every one of us, and ladies are no exception.

John Clay, an attending psychiatrist at the New Jersey Public Hospital, once said: "If a person's spirit is always in a state of tension, it is easy to cause various mental diseases, and reasonable and full use of leisure time is the best way to relieve mental tension. The best way. With the changes in the social environment, people are facing more and more pressure to survive, so many people begin to ignore leisure time. They regard the enjoyment of leisure time as a waste of life, thinking that it will Let yourself get stuck. In fact, in order to be able to adapt to the overall social environment, people must learn to decompress themselves and let themselves relax. Otherwise, stress will make you mentally weak and emotionally tense, which in turn will rob you of joy and happiness .”

Researchers at the National Center for Disease Research in the United States have found through research that a person needs at least 1 to 3 hours a day to do some stress-free, relaxing and enjoyable things.Without these 1 to 3 hours, people will easily become restless, mentally fragile, and even lead to suicidal tendencies.In addition, if people's pressure cannot be released for a long time, it will easily cause people a psychological burden, which will cause people to have diseases, such as gastric ulcers.And these diseases are actually completely avoidable, because they come from the patient's psychology.

Yes, I didn't know the importance of free time at that time either.In order to achieve my goals, I need to find a lot of information every day, and also find time to visit a lot of people.I was working more than 15 hours a day, with another hour or two for lesson preparation.I really don't know how I got here, I just remember that I didn't have a happy day at that time.

If I can find a way to have some leisure time for myself at that time, I believe I will not feel so tired.At the same time, I must admit that my career was not going very well at that time, because I often felt dizzy and didn't know what I was doing.These responsibilities should be attributed to the endless work. If I can realize it earlier, maybe I can do it more beautifully.

Therefore, no matter how heavy your burden is, or how busy you are at work every day, you must learn to untie yourself.If you can develop the habit of relaxation, your life will be filled with joy.

Reject loneliness, relieve pain

A common disease in modern society is loneliness.As David Lisman said, "We are a lonely bunch." In the densely populated modern world, people have to live crowded.In order to make a living, people travel around, wandering from one place to another.This leads to the fact that the friendship between people cannot last long, just like entering the ice age, people's hearts are cold.

A few years ago, a friend of mine lost her husband.Since then, she has fallen into loneliness and pain like thousands of others.One night when her husband left for about a month, she came to me crying, "What should I do? I can't see the hope of life. What's the point of my life?"

I tried to tell her that her pain was due to the loss of her own partner in her early 50s.As time goes by, I think, she will be able to get rid of the pain and start a new life of her own.However, she was still desperate.She said, "No, I can't have a new life. I'm not getting any younger, the kids are all grown up and gone, and I have nowhere to go!" Pity, she doesn't know how to be happy, let alone believe that it is possible for her to be happy.A few years have passed, and I found that she has been living in pain and has not changed at all.

Once, I couldn't help it anymore, and advised her: "No matter what, life must move forward. You should cheer up, make new friends, develop new interests, and start your own new life. If you blindly Dwell on painful memories, and your whole life will be ruined." Despite my best wishes, she didn't listen.Later, she felt that her children were responsible for her life, so she moved in with a married daughter.

It's a pity how things turned out.She took her pain to her daughter, and because they were both in pain, they almost turned against each other.Later, the woman had to move in with her son, however, the results were not much better.In the end, the children bought her a separate apartment, which was obviously not a good solution to the problem.Therefore, living alone made her suffer even more, feeling that she was abandoned by her children.She felt that the whole world owed her, and she wished she could quickly get back what she had lost.Now, she is over 60 years old, but her mind is still as immature as a child.

In fact, the reason why a person feels alone and lonely is because they put too much expectation on others.They yearn for love and friendship, but never give actively, and hope that everything will fall from the sky.No matter how cruel life treats us, and no matter how much we have lost, as long as we are still alive, we must face it all and bear it bravely.We must know that happiness is not obtained by others, but by our own efforts.

Unlike the old woman above, there is a woman in her 60s who also lost her beloved husband.Once, everything in her life was centered on her husband. At that time, she thought that she would not be able to live without her husband.Today, she's on a cruise ship that's filled with newlyweds and singles alike, and she's commanding the love and respect of all.No one could have imagined that she was suffering from the pain of losing her father, and all of this was a decision she made after careful consideration.

After losing her beloved husband, she too felt empty, troubled, miserable, and even contemplated suicide.However, she finally chose to live strong.She started to learn to paint and made great progress.In the past, she had very few friends and her husband was the center of everything. Now, she has to learn to deal with people and let them accept her and like her.

She succeeded, and she learned to dedicate herself to others instead of waiting for others to give her care and love.Gradually, her life became fuller, and she had many friends around her.She found the direction of life again and decided to live well and enjoy life.

Ladies, we all need to have the courage to relate to people no matter where we are.Remember, there is no happiness for those who are deeply alone, and only by establishing friendly relationships with others can we truly embrace life and enjoy life.

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