FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 19 Not a Mouth, But It Can Talk (3)
In people's eyes, the two thin lips are enough to withstand a million soldiers, and the power of the lips touching is simply immeasurable.The muscular structure of the lips is very dexterous, which is the result of continuous evolution after humans learn to use language. However, in long-term life practice, people have also found that the more dexterous lips are, the more deceptive they are, so the observation of lip micro-expressions becomes The point of the point.

person who purses his lips and smiles
In addition to making language sounds, lips also have a very important function to express emotions, and a toothy smile can be regarded as its most charming moment.As one of the most common human expressions, a smile is an expression of inner joy and a way of conveying positive and friendly information.When people are young, they are always easy to grin because of a little gain, but with the growth of age and experience, such innocent laughter becomes less and less, and through the mind There are more and more laughs that are controlled to achieve.Many times, people let their lips spread to the sides to express that they are very happy. In fact, they are not really happy, but just a social need.

Fake smiles are one of the important characteristics that distinguish humans from other animals, because humans are the only ones who can fake smiles among almost all animals.In response to people or things that they don't like, or when they are in a tense situation that they don't feel comfortable with, people will mobilize the muscles of their mouths to fake smiles to cope with embarrassment.In fact, this can be regarded as one of the achievements of human evolution. By making fake smiles, people can avoid a lot of trouble, and this also provides a serious and interesting topic for the observation of micro-expressions, so many experts and scholars are rushing to study real smiles. and fake smiles.

Recognizing the hidden meaning of smiles is a very important lesson in microexpressions.How do you know if someone is genuinely happy or malicious when their lips are parted in a charming and seemingly honest smile?In addition to the rich accumulation of social experience, we can also discover the truth by understanding the way fake smiles are done. Through long-term observation and analysis of smiles, FBI personnel found that fake smiles are most likely to appear when people smile with their lips pursed.

Smiling with lips pursed means that people stretch their lip muscles to both sides, while maintaining a certain range, so as to show a restrained and polite expression on the face.This way of expression often makes the other party unpredictable, unable to guess whether he is affirmative or negative, but as long as a person shows such an expression, the meaning he expresses is mostly rejection.

If you can't judge the real thoughts of the other party through the micro-expression of the lips, you will often go into a misunderstanding and let people fall into a passive situation of communication.Most women convey their emotions through micro-expressions of their lips.When they pursed their lips and smiled, their lips pulled back slightly, revealing a non-smiling smile. This kind of emotion shows that the attitude she expressed at the moment is actually far from her true thoughts in her heart, and she doesn't think so .It's the sort of pursed grin that a woman usually gives when she praises a friend's not-so-pretty dress, or when she compliments a neighbor's kid.Because in their hearts, this dress is not enough to arouse her compliments, but they have to express it for the sake of their friends.Similarly, she will never think that the neighbor's children are much better than her own children, but only praise them slightly because of social needs.

The difference between real thoughts and the real environment prevents people from expressing their emotions as they wish. When the lips cannot express their feelings directly, their micro-expressions are worthy of our consideration.

tight lips

Although there are great differences between cultures around the world, body language is interlinked, and people of different races and cultures maintain consistency in body language.Micro-expressions belong to the category of non-verbal behavior, and in non-verbal behavior, the position of the lips is not critical, and people pay more attention to the information conveyed by the body, torso, and facial expressions.The reason why micro-expressions can convey changes in inner emotions more accurately and directly is precisely because it is not easy to be noticed, and lips are best at this aspect.

People's lips are usually left loose and happy except to create a smile, but there are times when people keep their lips tightly shut, as if to hide it.This movement occurs due to the muscles around the lips tightening inwards, giving it a tighter shape.According to the law that pleasant emotions lead to the expansion of limbs and negative emotions lead to the contraction of limbs, the tightening of lip muscles is also conveying a negative emotion.Generally, people who make this action are in some kind of trouble. They may be aware of some uneasy signals, but they are unwilling to express it immediately, so they use this action to control themselves.This action is also known as lip pressing, because it is like installing a lock on your own lips so that it does not make inappropriate sounds.

An American shipping company was at an impasse during business negotiations, so they invited Nicholas Batum, an expert on non-verbal behavior in the FBI, and asked him to assist in the negotiations by observing the other party's micro-expressions, prompting the deal. The transaction is successful.

At the negotiating table, Nicholas carefully observed the emotional changes of each negotiator, and predicted whether the negotiation would achieve a satisfactory result through their expressions, actions and words.When the CEO of the shipping company introduced the terms of the contract they provided, Nicholas suggested that he explain the contents one by one, and break down the tasks into one by one, so that the other party can understand them in more detail.This style of negotiation provided Nicholas with an opportunity to observe each individual up close, which proved to be very wise.Because when the other party heard one of the clauses, Nicholas suddenly noticed that his non-verbal behavior had changed. Although his body movements remained the same, he locked his lips tightly.So, Nicholas quickly wrote a note and passed it to the CEO of the steamship company, telling him which clause the other party was extremely dissatisfied with.

After receiving the information provided by Nicholas, the CEO of the steamship company immediately proposed the key clause, and the two sides had an extremely fruitful discussion.The other party found that the shipping company was so sincere, so they naturally made some concessions. The stalemate was quickly broken because they found the key to the problem. A negotiation that might break down finally reached an agreement. The contract of tens of millions of dollars was only because of Discover the perfect solution with a pursed lip movement.

The Mystery of Lip Licking and Lip Biting
When people are in an uneasy environment, they often need to find an outlet to vent their negative emotions.Tight nerves not only make people irritable, but also easily lead to mistakes, so it is almost human instinct to seek comfort.There are many comforting actions, which are performed by different parts of the human body, and there are also actions related to comforting in micro-expressions, that is, licking lips.

In the face of stress, people almost always have a similar reaction.Rubbing one's forehead or neck, rubbing one's clothes or hair are all ways for people to relieve stress.Women often play with their clothes and hair because they are nervous and their nervous system requires comfort, and they calm themselves down in this way.Due to the requirements of social status and image, men cannot show too many comforting actions, but they will not let go of the opportunity to soothe their nervousness in terms of micro-expressions. Lip licking is almost an action that both men and women will appear.When faced with certain negative stimuli, sometimes a difficult question to answer, and sometimes hearing or seeing something depressing, people will lick their lips.The refraction of the human limbic brain management system on the lips is subtle but real.

Similar to stroking oneself, people also scratch their heads. The emotions reflected by this movement are also extremely negative, indicating that the person concerned is in a state of intense tension, embarrassment and anxiety.

And when lip licking turns into lip biting, we can also see this expression as an escalation of anxiety.When a child encounters a problem or is found to be doing bad things by his parents, he will lick his lips. They use this action to comfort themselves not to worry too much.But when they haven't reviewed well before the exam or when their father comes to them angrily, they will bite their lips, which shows that they already feel that they are in big trouble.

unwilling chin

In people's facial structure, the chin is the lowest position and seems to have no function, so people always think it is the most useless.But in the eyes of micro-expression observers, no muscle is useless, and no muscle has no emotion of its own.

The chin, though seemingly inconspicuous and often overlooked, is as rich and real in emotion as it is.Under its seemingly unpretentious structure, there are many mysteries to be solved.

nerve endings in the jaw

We often see some people stroking and rubbing their chins. When this kind of action occurs, people are often in extreme tension and they are in desperate need of comfort.Comforting gestures are a very accurate non-verbal behavioral signal, allowing people to understand that the person is upset, and can adjust the topic or change direction in time.The reason why so much soothing behavior occurs on the chin is because of its peculiar construction.On our chin, there are many nerve endings, which extend from the neck to the chin, gathering in this place that is least paid attention to.The medical community has proven that massaging the chin and neck area can effectively lower blood pressure and restore the heart rate to a normal state.The benefits of this could not be more obvious, the reduction in heart rate and blood pressure will allow people to quickly reach a state of calm.

There is a slight difference in the movements of stroking the chin between men and women. Men often use their hands to grasp or cover the chin, because they can stimulate themselves by stimulating the vagus nerve and the sinus in the neck, and the strength of their hands is stronger. The act of pressing the chin with the earth can calm it down quickly.Those men who are thinking often rub their chins unconsciously, which is almost a symbolic action of a thinker, and its essential principle is also here.Women, on the other hand, often hold their chins with one hand and look at the speaker intently. This is a typical thinking posture.

jaw defying gravity

The position of the chin itself is at the lowest end of the face, and this "geographic location" makes its behavior space extremely limited.The normal state of the jaw is to keep it down and perpendicular to the ground, which seems to be the most obvious manifestation of gravity.But when a person wants to express his positivity and self-confidence, he will choose a way that defies gravity, which includes not only raising his hands and feet, but also raising his head so that his chin, which was originally perpendicular to the ground, starts to rise.

The state of the chin defying gravity is a typical phenomenon in micro-expressions, indicating that people are in a positive mood.A high-raised chin is a sign of high self-confidence, but it can sometimes be seen as a sign of arrogance.In the history of France, there was a very famous president named Charles de Gaulle. His outstanding political and military talents shocked the world, but the most impressive image he left to the world was his raised chin.

When de Gaulle was interviewed by reporters, he often encountered some unpleasant questions. At this time, his usual practice was to raise his chin and say: "I will not make any response to this question." The picture of de Gaulle is familiar to people under the dissemination of the news media. De Gaulle, who raised his chin, showed a high-ranking rejection attitude, which also made the world realize the unique chin temperament of the French.

character written on the chin
Although it is difficult for people to grasp another person's personality when it is said that "knowing people, knowing the face, not knowing the heart", in fact, each person's personality traits are hidden in his micro-expressions, and people with different personalities will have different micro-expressions. Express your feelings.As long as we observe and analyze micro-expressions more, we can grasp a person's personality characteristics in the shortest time, so as to speculate what he thinks and does.

Observing a person's personality through the chin is a simple but highly technical matter. It requires constant practice and summarization to transform life experience into a universally applicable theory.

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