FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 18 Not a Mouth, But It Can Talk (2)
Clue [-]: eyes half closed

Half-closed eyes, when the eyes are opened slightly, are often used as an emotional aid, along with other expressions, such as sadness, joy, disgust, or contempt.At this time, eyes are not the main way of expression, because when people are particularly happy or overly sad, they only pay attention to the information brought by the corresponding stimuli, not what they see or need to pay attention to.The half-closing of the eyes is a purely physiological action.

When we laugh, a lot of air is moved in and out of the body, which increases the pressure on the capillaries in the eyeball.In order to relieve stress and protect oneself, the eyes will be half-closed physiologically.This is the same as we must close our eyes when we sneeze.

Similarly, when we are in sorrow and pain, a lot of air enters and exits the body, and the eyes also rely on half-closed eyes to protect themselves.In addition to this, tears are also one of the reasons why the eyes are half closed.In order to discharge tears, the eyes also cooperate physiologically, that is, they are half closed.

There is also a situation where half-closed eyes appear, which is the so-called winking.A large number of studies have proved that when people feel comfortable and happy with each other, their eyes will close slightly.This is the result of long-term evolution. People close their eyes when they are intoxicated and enjoying themselves, and half-close their eyes when expressing comfort and beauty.

Of course, myopia will also squint its eyes when looking at things in the distance, but this is to use the ciliary muscle to flatten the lens in order to obtain a clearer image.The ciliary muscles are not controlled by consciousness, and only move when the autonomic nerves think it is needed.This half-closed eye has no practical expressive meaning, but a physiological need.

Clue Seven: Squinting at people
Let's do a small experiment first, let your friend walk in front of you and keep a distance of 15-20 meters, to ensure that he can hear your loud calls.Don't tell him you'll call him by name before letting him go.When he was unprepared, his name was suddenly called from behind.You will find that he will try to turn his head back and move his body to turn around together, trying to look at you from the front as much as possible.Similarly, you can suddenly call him next to a friend, and he will turn his head and try to respond positively to you.

Under normal circumstances, people turn their heads and try to meet each other's eyes.But if you only turn your eyes but not your head, you will form a state of squinting at people, which contains negative emotions of disdain, contempt, disgust, and rejection.

This is very important when we build rapport with others.If your communication partner squints at you at first, it proves that he still doesn't trust you and is unwilling to have this communication with you.You need to establish a good relationship with him first, which will be discussed later.Watch to see if he's opening up to you, the change in his eyes is a sure sign.When he gradually faces you and his eyes start to look at you, it proves that your method has worked, and the other party is willing to communicate with you further.

What kind of eyes are the most charming
In the eyes of many people, even the most sophisticated modern instruments cannot compare with our human eyes, because it is so amazing.

The telescope can be regarded as a leap-forward invention in the history of human optics. It expands the human field of vision to thousands of miles away, allowing us to make up for the lack of vision. However, it can only be used as a tool for capturing images, and it wants to be a window for conveying emotions. , even a high-magnification military telescope cannot do it, because human emotions are the most difficult to imitate and express.

emotion in eyes

Among all human body organs, eyes have the highest degree of attention, and it also deeply affects various human behaviors.When a person has tears in his eyes, there is no doubt that he is in a very excited mood. Even if there is no drastic action, just a slight, indescribable change in his eyes can make a huge difference to the whole situation. Variety.The most obvious thing is people's eye contact. When two people look at each other, even if the people around don't hear any sound, the emotion in the heart of the person who makes eye contact has already undergone great ups and downs.

People are always very sensitive to their eyes. If others cast contemptuous eyes, it is like throwing a huge stone into a calm lake, which will definitely stir up waves.Because this kind of gaze represents contempt and a superior attitude, it will arouse extreme disgust in the heart of the person being watched, and will naturally cause great obstacles to communication.And if a person asks another person to look directly into his eyes, it is often because he doubts the sincerity of the other person and tries to find some clues to expose the lie. "Looking straight in the eyes" is the most direct way to test each other.When two people communicate face to face, most of the time, our eyes will stay on each other's face, and generally lock the position of each other's eyes.This is not only because it is the easiest place for the eye to settle on at eye level, but also because the eyes convey so much information during a conversation that we cannot ignore it.

The amount of information that eyes can convey sometimes surpasses language and other body language. The human brain is more likely to believe what the eyes see, while the language information heard by the ear is ranked second.When a person says "Welcome", but his eyes convey a very resistant message, our brains will choose to believe: he doesn't welcome me, he doesn't mean it!
In addition to helping people read psychology, emotions and attitudes, eyes are also extremely helpful in forming impressions.For people who meet for the first time, although the degree of communication is limited in a short period of time, they can feel whether the other party can become their friend, which is thanks to the help of their eyes.The first impression of a new friend is the result of the information conveyed and absorbed by people's eyes.

hold your eyes
In any language in the world, people are keen to create a lot of words to describe eyes and eyes.Of all the bodily organs, almost only the eyes are so highly regarded.Adjectives related to eyes shine brightly in Chinese, English, French and Latin.When a person is not very emotional, you will see his eyes "darkened"; when a person is in anger, you will see him "glaring"; when a person is very happy, You will see his "eyes shining"; when a person harbors evil intentions, you will notice his "thiefy eyes".

Veteran Hollywood movie star Bette Davis is an actress who is very good at using eyes. The most common lens in her film works is the close-up of eyes.Because through her eyes, the audience can read more information than the lines. Even if she doesn't say a word in front of the camera, just one look can make everyone feel whether the character is sad or happy.

When discussing this characteristic, Bette David said that maybe it was caused by her Spanish origin.The eyes of the Spaniards are very bright, and the edges and corners of the eye sockets are obvious, which is easy to express emotions. This is also an important reason for the passionate and unrestrained character of this nation.When Betty wants to express the emotion of "wish to kill that man", she will slightly contract the muscles around the eyes to make the eyes appear narrower, and the drooping corners of the eyes will give off a vicious temperament, which makes people feel By this moment, the resentment in her heart was overflowing.And when Betty shows that a woman is full of charm, she will try to expand the muscles around her eyes to make her eyes look brighter and full of yearning for the world.In addition, she is also good at expressing a variety of elusive emotions such as firm eyes, angry eyes, mystery, and coldness.

When observing an actor's performance with his eyes, we can always feel his emotions for the first time, but we may not understand how this emotion is produced.Eyes express most emotions through pupils. When a person is excited, sad or calm, his pupils will dilate, contract and other changes, and what ordinary people can capture is the expression of these changes emotions and thus form impressions in the brain.

In body language, the emotions conveyed by the eyes are always valued and considered to be the most valuable information, as well as the most accurate.The human body is so huge, the small eyes are the focus of the whole body.The pupil shows a very independent and self-conscious state during the movement, it seems not to be controlled by consciousness, so it has achieved a higher degree of believability.But in fact, the conscious movement of the pupils is not completely illogical, just because the conscious control it receives comes from the most real feelings in the brain, not the kind of consciousness that people want to express.

The pupil is the root of the eyes

The reason why pupils shrink and change is to adapt to changes in light.In the case of strong light, in order to avoid strong light stimulation, the pupil will contract.It seems to be very delicate and cannot tolerate any strong light, which is also an instinctive reaction formed by people to protect their delicate eyes.In addition, under the same light conditions, the pupils tend to change, which has a lot to do with its emotional expression.

When a person is depressed, we can feel his dark eyes, and then emotions such as depression and melancholy will be projected into our brain through the eyes.The reason we receive this information before he speaks is because we see his eyes, and the reason his eyes can convey this emotion is because his pupils are constricting.Constricted pupils make the eyes no longer bright.But as the mood changes, from sadness, to calm, and finally to excitement, the pupils dilate gradually.When a piece of good news comes out of nowhere, people will find that the other person's eyes seem to be lit up suddenly, because the pupils dilate rapidly after receiving the exciting stimulus.Sometimes the stimulus of surprise can quadruple our pupils.

What kind of eyes are more attractive?This may be a question that many people are looking for nowadays.The popular eye-modifying devices such as colored contact lenses are flocking to young people, because these things can change a person's eyes.Nowadays, there are still many people who are keen to choose photochromic lenses with a lighter color. This is not because they simply think this color is more beautiful, but because when the pupil shrinks and dilates, it will be more obvious through the light-colored lenses. , the emotions it conveys are more easily accepted by people.

On the contrary, the "snake eyes" that people are very disgusted with is that the eyes become evil because of the excessive constriction of the pupils. It seems that there are many conspiracy hidden in the heart, which makes people avoid them.

It can be seen that although the contraction and dilation of pupils are only subtle changes, the effect produced can be infinitely magnified, and even affect a person's image.

A nose that shines in peace

When you think back to the impressive expression made by someone in your memory, you will find that the nose is always a part that you cannot ignore. Become an important member of expression performance in obscurity.

Although it is said that the nose is located in the best center of our face, I believe that many people have not noticed its "expression".

Among the organs that transmit emotions, we are often willing to focus on the eyes and lips, because these two parts are so good at expressing themselves, they are wanton and arrogant, with exaggerated movements and the largest range. eyes cannot do without them.And right next to them, Nose stood silently aside.The human facial muscle structure gives the nose too little room for movement, and it does not have much exclusive expression language. For this reason, the distribution of the nervous system also ignores it, and does not give it much "play".

But is the nose really as bland and expressionless as we think it is?You are wrong, it is the organ of facial expression that is most likely to shine in peace.

Due to the seemingly dull performance of the nose, many people ignore the nose.However, FBI researchers who are proficient in the study of micro-expression did not ignore it. They found that the human nose is almost the most honest of all expression organs, because it is not good at camouflage, and it is not easy to camouflage. It responds to external stimuli. Always the most direct.

Although the structure of the nose itself seems not fine enough, the nasal cavity, as an important channel for the human body to communicate with the outside world, is densely covered with many nerve endings. They can understand the changes in the surrounding environment by feeling the breath and temperature, and then manifested in the expression and movements of the owner.No one would have thought that the nose would have a sensitive side. Its muscle twitches and emotional expressions are most synchronized with people's excitement and panic. At least from the current research results of scientists, the nose is very willing to participate in micro-expressions of.

The expression of the nose is changeable

Look at the animals around you, many of them have flexible noses.The nose of a dog is almost the most sensitive of all animals. Human beings use the nose of police dogs to solve drug cases and have made great achievements repeatedly.Although the human nose does not have such a sensitive feeling, it also plays an important role in micro-expressions. Whether it is expressing joy or sadness, the nose does not fall behind "human" because of its own structure.

When a person who has been busy for a day returns home and smells the aroma of food, his joyful emotions are not only expressed from his eyes and mouth.The nose will flex significantly when people are happy. Although the range is not large, it is already a very passionate expression for such a constructed nose.In people who are in high spirits, this movement often occurs, even if they do not smell the aroma of food, the expansion and contraction of the nose will appear to a similar extent.This expression of pleasant emotions can also be conveyed through the slight opening of the nose and the slight flapping.

It is often said that those who are proud "see people through their nostrils".Although the nostril does not have the structure and function of seeing people, it likes to play such a role in the emotional expression of arrogant people.People who raise their heads high convey a sense of disdain and pride. They raise their heads as if they want to raise their noses high.And people who often raise their noses high in daily life are mostly noble and out of gregarious guys.

In addition to performing various expressions by itself, the nose often cooperates with other parts of the body to perform: when people frown in displeasure, the nose will also tighten with the frown; when people smell some unpleasant smells, they will use their hands Cover your nose.The action of covering your nose with your hand is a kind of disgust emotion. Even when there is no smell stimulus, people will have this action. It is because he saw someone he didn't like and heard something he didn't want to hear. Movements have long been a means of conveying unpleasant emotions.

Just as covering your nose with your hand is a covert expression of unpleasant emotion, many expressions of the nose are relatively covert.When communicating with people, if you want to understand his micro-expressions through the nose, you need more patience and more careful observation.

listen to the nose

If there is a foreigner around us, it is often difficult for everyone to judge instantly before he speaks, because the accent is an important basis for people to identify their compatriots.But the accent can be learned and imitated, but even if there is no problem with his accent, people can still perceive that he is a foreigner. What is their basis?In fact, the nose played a big role in this.

When a person comes to an unfamiliar environment, he can learn the expressions of the locals, but he cannot completely relax his emotions, and the nervous tension will still be reflected in his body and expression.In the change of micro-expressions, a person's discomfort with the environment can be expressed in the eyes, eyebrows, and corners of the mouth, but these parts are very easy to observe, and those who deliberately want to conceal themselves will block these signals.The nose, however, has never been noticed, and those in stressful, unfamiliar environments, even with their accents corrected, are still unable to hide their nasal sounds.

Nasal sound can be regarded as a very special signal in the expression of the nose.Those who are conservative in thinking and unwilling to break through themselves or change their status quo generally have a nasal sound. This is because they try to control their voice and nasal cavity, and the muscles around the nose become tense and the voice is too tight. Start pressing back, eventually developing a nasal sound.

In addition to assisting the mouth to produce nasal sounds, the nose itself also has its own way of expressing sounds.Its peculiar structure gives the nose the innate condition to make a sound. When it is stimulated by the outside world, the nose will make a sound in its own unique language, the most common one is sneezing.

The occurrence of sneezing has its own physiological reasons. The nasal mucous membrane is stimulated by the outside world or stimulated by a cold so that sneezing always occurs irresistibly, and the different irritating smells give sneezing many different meanings.Before sneezing, there will be frequent fluttering of the nose, accompanied by muscle twitching, and a loud sneeze will send a clear signal: I don't like the smell!This can be regarded as the most passionate expression of all emotions in the nose.

When people are in a sad mood and start to cry, the tears always get the most attention in an exaggerated way, the wailing mouth is also an important part of crying, and the nose also makes its own voice at this time.When a person is crying, the nose will twitch continuously and make a "chichi" sound. The appearance of such a sound indicates that the person has received greater stimulation and a higher degree of emotional depression, which can be regarded as a criterion and signal for the level of grief.Sometimes, when the performance of tears and wailing is over, people will still be in a sad mood. At this time, the nose will continue to make a twitching sound to express their uncontrollable depression.

Sometimes, the nose can reveal people's true inner thoughts through the voice.When a person expresses his skeptical attitude, the nose will be slightly lifted up, and at the same time, there will be a "chi" in the nasal cavity.Although he didn't open his mouth to speak, this voice was the clearest expression of his position. He obviously held a negative attitude towards other people's opinions.

Lips will also change 72
Although language expression plays an important role in people's lives, and it is the oral cavity and even the entire vocal organ that undertakes this important task, people still attribute these credits to the lips.

(End of this chapter)