FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 21 The Secret Words of Little Actions (1)
What is in his heart?
What did he not say?
When meeting a stranger for the first time, can you see through him?

Watch his little moves,
they will tell you,

His deepest secrets.

head-shaking meaning

In the most common body language, the movement of shaking the head is considered to be a negative connotation of shaking the head, and the meaning expressed by this movement is direct and simple.Evolutionary biologists believe that after human beings are born into this world, both sucking and crying are instinctive abilities. If we want to talk about the first ability acquired through learning, it is shaking the head.When babies have had enough milk, in order to avoid more feeding, they will shake their heads from side to side to express resistance.This can be regarded as a small leap in the process of human evolution, so the movement of shaking the head has a deeper connotation.

Head Shaking and Negative Awareness

Everyone craves affirmation from others, but be soberly aware that those who nod yes also hide a lot of insincere people who don't sincerely affirm you.To tell if someone really has a positive opinion of you, watch for an involuntary head bobbing, that is, a slight head shake.If a person shook his head and said to you, "I think what you said makes a lot of sense," would you agree with him?People with social experience will find that this person doesn't think so, no matter how sincere his language or facial expressions are.

Shaking your head is a negative gesture, which reflects a person's inner negative emotions.A person who is smart enough to seldom allow himself to shake his head.Former U.S. President Clinton, who had been involved in scandals, was asked by reporters whether he had an ulterior relationship with the secretary named Lewinsky. He used a negative sentence very positively: "There is no such thing between us." relationship." But unlike most people who shake their heads when they say negative sentences, Clinton raised his head high and did not shake his head.

There are many external manifestations of negation, such as pushing hands outward, shrinking shoulders back, and standing sideways, are all manifestations of people's inner negativity.Shaking the head is the easiest of all movements to achieve. You only need to shake your head from side to side to convey this emotion, so it has also become the first action that the brain sends out when venting this emotion.When a person speaks a negative sentence, when a person feels uneasy about the surrounding environment or meets someone he doesn't like, he is most likely to shake his head, which can be said to be the first signal to reveal negative emotions.

What is the purpose of tilting your head
Tilting the head is also a kind of shaking the head, but its amplitude and frequency are smaller than shaking the head, but its connotation is equally rich.

Tilting the head so that it is off-center is a more positive body language, expressing submission and understanding.When making this action, people will show their throats without reservation.For ancient humans, the throat is an extremely fragile life gate, and the reason for exposing this part to each other is because they have full trust in each other.

Why do people show their throats and let their heads go sideways in front of someone they trust very much and in an environment where they feel safe and comfortable?Tracing back to the root, it can be attributed to a frequent action of human infants: a baby who is held by his mother will often put his head on the mother's shoulder, which makes him feel comfortable, and the warmth of the mother's embrace makes him very relaxed .This is a baby's resting action, and when an adult makes this gesture, it means that he has experienced similar feelings to the baby again.

This action occurs more frequently in women. Many women will tilt their heads and continue to listen when they meet their favorite object or hear convincing remarks, but they do not realize the appearance of this action. .Charles Darwin first discovered the performance of women in this action. He put forward the theory that "women show love by exposing their fragile throats", and countless life examples tell people that this theory is absolutely correct.

After studying the oil paintings of the past few hundred years, people have made an interesting statistic and found that there are many female figures in portraits with their heads tilted.Even if we haven’t seen world famous paintings, we can still pay attention to the product advertisements in our daily life, and you will find that most of the people with tilted heads in the advertisement pictorials are women.

It is difficult to have a tilted head posture in the workplace, and even women will try to keep their heads upright.

When giving a speech, we can search the expressions of the audience. If some people tilt their heads and lean forward, you can be sure that your speech is very attractive. They have devoted themselves to what you are saying. Things are working.For such an audience, the speaker is very likely to have a sense of intimacy. If he intends to ask questions, this type of audience will become the first choice for questions.

The British have a very special greeting posture, which is to turn one's head and tilt it slightly to one side.This pose has appeared in many British movies, bowing the head while turning the head to one side, and is the standard gesture for gentlemen to meet friends and take off their hats.This action originated in the Middle Ages, and later evolved into touching one's hat with one's hand while bowing one's head.The British in modern society simplify it further, only need to turn the head while greeting the other party or touch their forehead lightly with their fingers.This simple way of greeting has traces of British culture and is a unique phenomenon in etiquette culture.

head up, head down

The posture of bowing the head is a manifestation of negative human emotions. By bowing the head, the size of the person seems to be reduced.By making yourself small, you can avoid drawing attention to yourself.At the same time, many people are used to bowing their heads and shrugging their shoulders. This is also to hide their heads in their shoulders so that others cannot see themselves.The bowed posture protects our throat, keeping it hidden from harm.If a person is walking on the road and suddenly there is a loud noise behind him, his most direct reaction is to bow his head and shrug his shoulders, as if to shrink himself into a small person, and then turn his head to see what happened.This instinctive response illustrates people's instinct for self-preservation.However, bowing the head in the workplace means submitting to others, or expressing apology to others.A person who wants to appear confident, who wants others to follow directions, should avoid bowing his head and shrugging his shoulders, and should strive to hold his head high.

The directions of raising the head and bowing the head are exactly opposite, and the meanings represented are also opposite.When a person slowly holds his head up while listening to someone else, and keeps this posture unchanged during the conversation, it shows that he holds his own attitude and opinion.

Walking with your head up makes a person appear more confident and strong.Margaret Thatcher, the former British Prime Minister and the "Iron Lady" of world politics, is a person who likes to look up.If women want to gain status in the political field, they must show stronger self-confidence than men. Mrs. Thatcher likes to lift her chin and raise her head high, which seems to be a declaration of pride. Show your fearlessness.Lifting the head while letting the chin out is a powerful stance, the eye level is higher than normal and the throat is more fully exposed to others.This also shows from a side: If a person is not even afraid of showing his most vulnerable parts, then what else can make him feel afraid?

The most loyal conveyer of emotion - hand
Speakers and magicians know how important hands are in our lives. No speaker or magician will give up using gestures to increase their appeal.In the inaugural speech of the first black president of the United States, Barack Obama, he used gestures extensively to increase his appeal.When he delivered his inaugural speech "Change has Come to America (the era of change in the United States has come)", every gesture brought strong confidence to the audience, making everyone believe that he can really bring about "change".

Hands can improve communication efficiency
In the process of language expression, boring narration often makes people drowsy, but the same words can produce different reactions when given to different people.For those who are expressive and effective at getting attention, they not only use their own words, but also make other actions to grab others' attention at the same time.Gestures are one of the magic weapons they often use. Active, flexible and vivid gestures can arouse positive reactions from others and make the listeners more interested in the content of the conversation.

Adolf Hitler was a Nazi leader hated by peace-loving people all over the world, but during the First World War, he was only a private.The charm of Hitler's speech is indispensable for being able to go from such a low starting point to such a high position, and to have so many outstanding military talents working for him.

Hitler discovered the importance of speech very early. In order to increase the provocativeness of his speech, he once studied his speech method carefully and worked hard to improve his skills.Among them, what he cares most about is the use of gestures.

In the materials left by Hitler, people found that he practiced his gestures in front of the mirror, and took pictures of all the gestures for careful study and repeated practice, thus finally forming his own speech system and style.

These videos of practicing gestures prove that he was once an ordinary person, even without professional training, he can still become an excellent speaker.It's just that he used his oratory talents in the wrong place.

expressive hands
During tens of millions of years of human evolution, the brain has recognized the hand as an integral part of communication.Many times, people will pay attention to the hands of the person they are talking to and get information from them without realizing it.If a person refuses to show his hand when talking, then the other party will subconsciously doubt what he said, and develop a sense of distrust of this person.

Hope to see the hands of the other party is an affirmation of the expressive power of the hands, and it also shows that the hands have the function of expressing emotions.During court trials, many lawyers will not stand behind the podium because they want the judge to see their hands and express their confidence through some gestures.And if a witness hides his hands in court, it will reveal negative information invisibly, making the judge feel that he is not confident in what he said, or has reservations, thus doubting his testimony.

The same mentality is also very common in life. If during a job interview or conversation, the other party puts his hand on the table and exposes it to the interviewer or the interlocutor, it is easy for others to think that it is A generous and friendly person will have positive support for what he has to say and leave a good impression on others.But if the other party hides his hand under the table and refuses to take it out, the interviewer will think that this person is timid or introverted, what's more, he will feel that the other party is timid or a little hypocritical, and finally what he said to him will no longer be true. interested.

hand is another face
Because the hands are used too much in life, all aspects of people's lives will leave marks on the hands. To a certain extent, the hands are like another face of a person.

The son who has studied abroad for many years finally came home, and the whole family is very happy.The father sent his son abroad in the hope that he could learn financial knowledge and provide some help for his career after returning home, so he had high hopes for his son.My son has always said that he studied hard abroad and forgot to sleep and eat.

While eating, my father suddenly asked, "Did you really study so hard that you forgot to eat?"

The son nodded in a panic and said, "Of course, I always remember your instructions, so I never spend time having fun."

The father asked again: "Then you don't even play the guitar?"

This time, the son was stunned and never dared to lie again.It turned out that he has always loved music, and spent most of his time abroad playing piano and singing with his friends, instead of studying hard as he said.But he was very curious about how his father found out in less than a day after they met.But the father just said lightly: "Your hand told me, look at the thick callus on your right fingertips, do you need to ask again?"

Although the father saw a sincere expression on his son's face, he discovered his real situation from another face of his son - his hands.

Hands can reveal far more secrets than we can imagine. If a person's hands appear very rough and stiff, then he must have been engaged in physical labor for a long time. Only such an experience will leave such information on his hands.Then the person may work on a farm, or may be an athlete.If a person puts his hands together on the trouser line subconsciously while standing there, then he must have been a soldier, because the training of the army has made his hands familiar with and firmly remembered this action, even if he does not do it deliberately. It will also reveal his previous training experience.

In addition to previous life experiences, hands can also show our attitude towards life. If you are a person who loves life, your hands will definitely be kept clean and your nails will be neat.But if you neglect to take care of it and make your hands look dirty, it will definitely tell everyone around you that this person's life is a bit rough.

In addition to cooperating with language expression, the hand itself also has its own "language", which is the emotion conveyed by the brain through the hands alone.

sweaty hands
In the process of interpersonal communication, shaking hands is the basic etiquette.However, this etiquette bothers many people because their palms will sweat from time to time, which can be somewhat embarrassing.

Sweaty palms mostly occur when shaking hands with superiors or leaders, and it also happens when just entering society.If the other person is someone you respect, like or fear, the sweating situation will be more serious.Although there is not much sweat in the palms, it conveys the hidden panic of a person under great pressure.

There are many people who like to associate sweaty palms with lying.In fact, sweaty hands can only indicate that his owner is under psychological stress, not that he is necessarily lying.The sweat glands in the hands are controlled by our brains, and they will start working when the command arrives, which may be nervous or excited.A liar might have sweaty palms because of nervousness, but a person with sweaty palms might just be shy about being around strangers.What's more, when the human sweat glands themselves make many mistakes, [-]% of people suffer from "hyperhidrosis" all the year round, because no matter under any circumstances, the sweat from their palms will come out like a spring, and these Khan does not account for any psychological or emotional changes.

nervous hands
In film and television dramas, if a person hears important news, he will often miss and break the things in his hand.The most common thing is to drop a teacup, and the broken sound matches the actor's performance to express shock.And this kind of performance is not a meaningless exaggeration, it comes from the normal reaction to big news in people's lives.If a person hears or sees something bad, the hand often trembles, and this tremor is of course amplified if something is held in the hand.

The muscles of the hands can perform very precise movements, and trembling is also a way of expressing emotions through the muscles of the hands.If a person's brain feels pressure, it will transmit this feeling to the nervous system, which will cause tension. As the adrenaline continues to increase, the hand muscles will tremble.

One suspect has been reluctant to confess his accomplices. In order to ease his emotions, the police handed him a cigarette and began to describe the various people he has come into contact with and what he has done recently.The suspect was smoking while listening to the police narration with a blank face. When the police mentioned that he had gone to a supermarket and had a long conversation with a cashier in the supermarket, the suspect’s finger holding the cigarette suddenly trembled a bit.

This detail was noticed by the sharp-eyed policeman, and in the ensuing interrogation, the policeman deliberately mentioned the cashier again.Sure enough, the suspect's fingers trembled again, and with his slight trembling movements, the ashes of the cigarette were shaken off and fell on the table.The police determined that there must be a connection between the cashier and the suspect.After further investigation, it was found that the supermarket cashier had been tipping off the suspect.

Shaking hands is an involuntary behavior that indicates an inner change that may be masked by language and facial expressions.

Excited hands

Hands tremble when a person is under stress, and they tremble when a person is particularly agitated.If a person receives a long-awaited letter, or receives a letter of admission, the moment he opens the envelope, his hands will tremble, and sometimes he will even shake the letter paper.

A scene of a singer coming to perform in the city was being broadcast live on TV, and those fans were anxiously waiting for their idol at the exit of the performance venue.The child noticed that the girls on the screen were all happy, and they held their hands tightly, and some of them held each other's hands tightly.He asked curiously, "Why do they hold hands? Are they praying?"

The mother took a look and said with a smile: "Because if they don't do this, their hands will definitely be shaking."

There are still many situations in life that cause hands to tremble due to excitement: when waiting for relatives who have returned from a long distance at the airport, people's hands will tremble; when winning a huge lottery, people's hands will tremble very violently.The causes of these tremors are all related to the environment. The impact of environmental factors on the human brain is fully revealed through the hands.

(End of this chapter)