FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 22 The Secret Words of Little Actions (2)
different tremors

The same trembling, how to judge whether a person is excited or nervous?There are also some details that need to be mastered.When a person feels tense, he will not let himself stop there, he will look for ways and means to solve the stress.Therefore, in addition to trembling, there will be other movements in the hands.Maybe, he will touch his cheeks and neck with his hands, maybe he will gently pat the back of his hands and chest, these behaviors are all comforting to the nervous mind.Sometimes, people also find comfort in other ways, such as pressing their lips tightly, licking their lips with their tongues, etc.And the person who shows the comforting action is mostly in tension.

Not all hand movements are expressions of body language. Like other parts of the body, it also encounters some special situations.Some movements, although also unconscious, cannot be recognized as expressions of emotion.For example, the hands of Parkinson's disease patients will tremble, but that only shows that he is suffering from neurological diseases.The hands of people who have been drinking and taking drugs for a long time will also have uncontrollable tremors due to nerve damage. These situations should be excluded during observation.

Extend your finger and express confidence

A confident person can send a very positive message, making people around him feel that he is in a very comfortable state. Even without words, he can make others feel that he is full of confidence.Sometimes people also hide their self-confidence in order to show modesty, especially among Chinese people.When a person is full of absolute confidence in his heart, his hands will also show some changes.

Let your two hands stretch out, and the fingers of the two hands touch naturally, similar to clasping your hands together, but the palms are separated.This gesture is often seen on the hands of some successful people.Psychologists have found that people have the strongest self-confidence when they make this gesture through observation and comparison.

There is an interesting experiment: Aiming at the auxiliary effect of changes in people's gestures on speech, the experimenter divided the subjects into three groups and faced a judge respectively.

The first group stretched out their hands naturally while speaking, touching fingers in a confident gesture.Those in the second group clasped their fingers while speaking.The third group put their hands on their knees and did not perform any movements.

Finally, we investigated the judge's feelings and found that he believed more in what the first group said, because they were very sure of what they said; while the second group seemed a little less confident; the third group People did not dare to make any moves, which made the judge wonder if they were lying.

Making a confident gesture is not only an expression of self-confidence, but also expresses one's own views on problems, and expresses affirmation of one's own suggestions or opinions.Although the movement of crossing fingers is almost the same as that of touching fingers, it can bring different feelings to others. It can be seen that the power of details is infinite.In the above experiment, the observers noticed that when the first group of people made finger-touching movements, the judges would also be infected and made similar movements, which indicated that their self-confidence had infected the judges, making the judges more convinced of their What was said.

Confidence benchmark thumbs up

Thumbs up is a gesture of approval in body language used around the world.In the culture of most countries, the thumb represents authority, approval and self-confidence. These positive messages are not only the attitude towards others, but also the recognition of oneself.On the basis of recognizing the meaning of thumbs, people will not give thumbs up to themselves, but they will also use it to express their self-confidence unintentionally.

Look at those who have a certain social status and power, they like to show their thumbs very much.Former U.S. President John F. Kennedy was a very confident person. There is one thing in common in some photos left by him: he always likes to put his hands in his pockets but stick his thumbs out.This interesting discovery reflects Kennedy's attitude of admiration for himself at the time, and his thumbs up for himself.Also look at the photos of some successful people, many people like to grasp the collar or skirt with one hand or both hands, and when doing this action, almost all of them put their thumbs outward.

Putting your thumbs up high is a kind of self-affirmation.People who make this gesture are very confident in themselves and very satisfied with their current situation.Because their hearts are full of self-confidence, their nerves feel very happy, and their muscles become flexible and powerful. When the thumb is in this state, it will naturally deviate from the original drooping posture involuntarily.Even gestures that appear to be unconfident can be identified as confident if they include a thumbs up.For example, when a person crosses his fingers and clenches them tightly, it is usually because he feels some pressure in his heart, but his thumb is erect at this time, which means that he has the confidence to face the current situation.

don't hide your confidence
In the process of expressing confidence, hands can help us in many ways. A small gesture change can let others feel your insistence on your point of view.But if you use it improperly, it can also let others find out that you have no idea.

In a speech, the speaker impassionedly stated his point of view, and he continued to make various powerful gestures, which made the audience feel extremely passionate.When he sat down, his hands rested on the table and his fingers touched lightly, exuding extraordinary confidence.

However, a questioner popped up at this moment and asked a very tricky question.The speaker's expression didn't change much, but the audience noticed that he suddenly hid his hands—he stood up and put his hands in his trouser pockets.

At the end of the speech, someone said to the speaker: "That man's question must have made you feel threatened?" The speaker also frankly admitted: "He did ask a question that I never thought of. "

Hiding one's hands is, to a certain extent, a manifestation of self-protection.When a person faces some problems that he cannot handle, he will use this action to cover up his panic. Perhaps in his subconscious, as long as he hides his hands, he is hiding his weakness.But on the contrary, the small movement of hiding his hands makes people see his weakness.

In the workplace, people see this gesture in discussion meetings: Some people put their hands in their pockets while thinking about a problem, or put their thumbs in the pockets and leave the other fingers out.What this kind of action shows is the inner attitude of self-confidence.If this action suddenly appears during the interview, it means that the interviewer is not sure about what he said.Managers seldom make such moves because they know exactly what they want to do.

You may wish to invite a friend to do a test: when talking with him, you can expose all your hands and do some finger touching or thumbs up actions, or you can hide your hands, or put your thumbs up Insert it in your pocket.Then ask your friend how it feels, and he'll tell you: You look a bit uninitiated with your thumbs in your pockets.So, if you want to build a confident image, you should avoid these moves.

changing hands
Gestures are the external manifestation of inner emotional changes, and people's inner emotional changes are very rapid. Sometimes in a few seconds, people can experience the fall from the peak of excitement to the abyss of disappointment.Therefore, body language is also constantly changing with our emotions, and it may only appear for a few seconds. Therefore, only by accurately and keenly grasping this information can we effectively grasp the ups and downs of emotions and detect the inner changes of the other party.

If a person is talking about something very confidently, his fingers will touch and he will look comfortable.But if his views were questioned and his confidence shattered, his fingers would quickly curl and clasp, turning his hands into a prayerful clasp.This process is very short, and it will be repeated as the incident develops. For example, after a hard defense, as his self-confidence recovers, his hands will return to the initial confident state of touching fingers.Pay attention to the changes in the details of each gesture, follow its guidance, and find the track of the emotional changes of the other party, which will help you better adapt to society.

unhappy hands

When people feel happy, comfortable, and confident, their muscles will be relatively relaxed and their bodies will be more stretched.But when people feel unhappy, tense, doubtful, there will be muscle tightening and movements will become relatively tense.The inner sense of insecurity and discomfort will be conveyed through some body movements, and the hands will also have some special movements when expressing these feelings.

frozen hand
Those who honestly tell their inner feelings, the body is controlled by the brain, so the movements are slow and free.But for those who lie, the brain is under tremendous pressure, so it cannot effectively adjust the limbs, resulting in a limbic response.They are often reluctant to make excessive movements, on the one hand because of their nervous and depressed state of mind, and on the other hand because subconsciously, they want to shrink their movements so as not to attract the attention of others.Therefore, the limbic response of the human brain is more real than the direct brain response, and it can more directly reflect the true inner desire.Hand movements are also given great attention in this process.

In the process of conversation, in order to assist one's own language to convey information more accurately, the talker often uses some body language to help express.But because liars want to cover up and don't want to convey some useful information to others, they often take the opposite behavior, subconsciously freeze all actions, and reduce their actions as much as possible.

There is such a criminal case: when the father was shopping with his daughter, he found that his daughter was missing, so he hurriedly reported the case to the police, hoping to get help from the police.As an important person in this case, the police naturally had to question him carefully about the whole incident.While inquiring, the experienced policeman discovered some abnormal behaviors of the father.

For a father whose daughter has disappeared, the emotions are bound to be intense, and the narrative can be disjointed.Those who reported that their loved ones were attacked by the police in the past had similar reactions.The difference is that those people can almost be regarded as barking their teeth and claws when they tell the story. They will keep waving their arms and trying to explain the situation to the police.But the father's hand movements were very cautious. He tried hard to freeze his hands, and just spoke in a flustered tone.

The police did not feel the anxiety that a father should have, because the father gave up using body language to reinforce his statement.Therefore, they began to suspect and investigate the father, and finally discovered that the father killed his daughter himself in an attempt to defraud the insurance.

In this criminal case, an understanding of body language allowed the police to find clues to solve the case.And although the murderer had prepared a full set of rhetoric, he couldn't resist his own marginal reactions, and those imprisoned body language revealed the news, so that he failed to achieve his despicable purpose.

crossed fingers

In an important meeting or conversation, before a major decision is made, or when facing a heavyweight, the gesture of crossing and clasping fingers often occurs.Because whether it is an important conversation, an important decision, or an important person, it requires careful consideration and some response from the interlocutor, so people will unconsciously cross their fingers.On the one hand, this is a manifestation of stress, and on the other hand, it is a comfort to oneself to relieve the discomfort caused by pressure.

Crossed hands have similar meanings all over the world, and it represents a stressed mind.And in some countries and regions, people also think this action is a comforting action.Because in many religions, when people pray, they clasp their fingers together. This gesture has religious meaning.When people make this action subconsciously, it means that he is seeking help in his heart and hopes to be guided by his own beliefs.

Try clasping your fingers tightly together, you will find that your hands are under a lot of pressure, and your fingers may become pale due to lack of blood.If the person you are talking to makes this movement and gradually exerts force until his fingers turn white, it means that he is very unconfident at the moment, and the pressure in his heart has escalated to an almost unbearable level.

hand rub comfort

A stressed mind can cause the body to become restless, displaying various discomforts in movement.But the human subconscious mind is unwilling to bear this kind of pressure, so it will emerge to seek comfort.And comforting actions are often done through our limbs.

When questioned, or feeling unconfident or unhappy, many people will rub their hands together.This action is just a small comforting action, which is the subconscious expression of comfort in people under pressure.This action is often seen in people who are about to make important decisions or are being interrogated.It shows that the owner feels very distressed, but has to face these problems.Hand rubbing is the rubbing of the skin between the hands. This skin caressing action can relax the brain, and when it doesn't soothe, people can appear irritable.

hand caress
When an introvert says something wrong, in addition to blushing, he will also have a very common action, which is to stroke his neck or scratch the back of his head.This action is a very typical comforting behavior, indicating that he feels very unconfident at the moment, or has a lot of pressure to be released.

The movement of the hand doesn't have to be only around itself, it reaches other parts of the body as well.If a hand appears on the neck or the back of the head, it carries comforting commands from the brain.By rubbing the neck and the back of the head, people feel as if they are being soothed, thereby relieving stress.

Colleagues were discussing work in the conference room, and suddenly saw the department leader go out to answer a phone call.I saw him standing in the aisle with his mobile phone, listening to the person on the other end of the phone, but he didn't say a word.After a while, he raised his arm, put his hand behind his neck, and stayed there for a while.

So, someone said: "It seems that the boss is in trouble."

The others were very curious and quickly asked, "How do you know?"

Soon, the department leader hung up the phone, walked quickly into the office and said to everyone: "I'm very sorry, my father suddenly had a heart attack and went to the hospital, so I have to leave for a while, and my work will be delegated to others Bar!"

When everyone looked through the glass, they didn't know what he said on the phone, but a small movement of stroking his neck showed the nature of the matter.What similar behaviors reflect is the subconsciousness of people in stress or trouble. As long as we grasp the meaning represented by this action, it will naturally help us judge the events behind it.

hands in sync with brain

The brain directs our body by issuing instructions, and being able to respond quickly to instructions is what a healthy and flexible limb should do.The long-term life experience has allowed our limbs to quickly respond to every need, and this long-term habit will also reveal some secrets at certain moments because of the synchronization with the brain consciousness.

emergency response

When encountering an emergency, the body often gives the most direct and real response.Because the brain has no time to think and judge, and cannot analyze in time whether to disclose the information, the body can only respond quickly based on past experience.This process is called "subliminal" by many people, and this habit-forming action is the most authentic because it is unretouched.

At a banquet, a gentleman came to everyone with his young and beautiful fiancée. When he introduced this woman, everyone applauded warmly.Everyone's blessings obviously made him forget the age gap between himself and this woman. He felt very happy and happy, so he suddenly wanted to kiss her in public.

This sudden movement made the young girl who was smiling and nodding to everyone just now tense up instantly. Her hands suddenly clenched into fists, and there was a trace of panic in her eyes.Although the girl didn't overreact, keen observers in the crowd have already seen the clues and concluded that this woman doesn't really want to marry him.

Sure enough, it was not long before I heard that the young woman ran away suddenly at the wedding, because she was pressured by her mother to date the gentleman, but she really couldn't convince herself to accept the marriage.

Emergencies often force a person to speak his true thoughts, and the words that come out of his mouth are often the truest.The sudden change of hand movements can also indicate that the implementer of the action is experiencing a rapid change of thought.Although the clenched hand quickly returned to a relaxed state, it has already explained the owner's inner feelings.

slowly changing hands
As a flexible body part, the hand can perform very complex movements.In addition to emergencies, it will also leak various information in some normal events.

At a gathering of friends, everyone was talking about the troubles caused by the financial crisis.Some people complain that their investment has not been rewarded for a long time, and if it continues like this, they will go bankrupt;

While everyone was talking, a woman said: "The stocks we invest in have always been good. Although they haven't risen sharply, they have always made some profits." Her husband was triumphant, his hands on the table. Put on a very relaxed look.But the lady went on to say: "However, something is not going well recently. It seems that the money on the account has been decreasing."

When the lady finished speaking, her husband suddenly stopped shaking his hands, and slowly clenched his hands, and finally withdrew his hands from the table, and quietly placed them on his lap under the table.

(End of this chapter)