FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 23 The Secret Words of Little Actions (3)
Taking hands off the table reflects a person's mentality of wanting to run away.He felt some threats and was unwilling to bear such pressure, so he tried to escape this predicament quietly.The shrinking of the hand movements is because he wants to avoid attracting attention, and keeping his hands out of sight is a true reflection of what he wants to do at the moment.

Soon afterward, the husband was discovered by his wife because of secretly misappropriating the money in the account, and a family war broke out.

contrived show

From junior actors trained in film and television acting, as well as some people who try to lie and deceive people, people can often see some rigid and mechanical movements. information to others.These contrived performances are often a process, they continue to appear, and they are refurbished because their owners believe that this will strengthen the credibility of their own expression.

The reason why the mechanical movement is artificial is that it loses its sincerity and is not smooth as a whole.Genuine people make hand movements so viscerally that they sometimes don't even realize they're making it, and just do it through a knee-jerk reaction.However, the hand movements in those contrived performances are deliberately done, hoping to gain the approval of others through these performances.Different starting points lead to different performances. For actors, they need to overcome this artificial performance, while for liars, they need to go beyond their own hearts.

emotions expressed by arms

Arms, like legs and feet, are very important limbs of the human body, and they share the responsibility of protecting humans from harm.In this regard, the arm is more responsible than the legs and feet. It is not only responsible for defense, but also bears the responsibility of counterattack at the same time.This natural function allows the arms, like the legs and feet, to have faster reflexes than other parts of the body, thus appearing more honest and agile.Unlike facial expressions, which can often be deceptive, arms can express reliable non-verbal behavior. Observation of arms and hands can allow us to understand other people's thoughts and feelings more quickly.

arm extension
Because of its unique structure, the range of motion of the arms is obviously wider than that of the legs and feet. From top to bottom, from left to right, the arms can swing freely and occupy the entire space around the body.And every time people stretch their arms, they will not follow a fixed pattern, and there will always be various stretches.It is also a stretching action for greeting. A shy person will gently raise his arm, swing his wrist, and shake his hand, while a bold person will stretch out his arms and embrace the other party vigorously.Even more intense are those lovers and old friends who reunited after a long absence. When they see them at the airport or station, they will wave their arms to the maximum extent to attract the attention of the other party and at the same time express their excitement and joy. mood.

The biggest difference between children and adults is that they maintain the most primitive mentality of human beings. They laugh when they are happy and cry when they are sad. They are all undisguised.While adults keep imprisoning their hearts and hands because of various social rules, children always have the courage to express their emotions with various actions.

Observing the arm movements of children in life, you will find that their arms seem to be on standby all the time, always half-hanging in the air, and seem to reach out at any time to grab things around them, or push anything that arouses his curiosity.This arm state reflects children's inner curiosity about the world, and the arms are the "tentacles" for them to feel the world.

There is such a strong connection between arm range of motion and our emotions that it cannot be ignored.Through long-term observation, non-verbal behavior researchers have made a division of the range of motion of the arm.Arms that are limited by some factors and cannot be fully extended are considered restrained arms, while arms that seem to be free of any constraints and can swing freely, even the gravity of the earth does not seem to control it, are considered energetic type arm.This division corresponds to different levels of emotion, but there is no strict division standard, and most people's arm width wanders between these two categories.

arms beyond gravity

There seems to be no obvious connection between the movement of the arms and the gravity of the earth, and the human body is affected by the gravity of the earth. In the state of unconscious relaxation, the limbs will always obey the direction of gravity.Gravity's effects can also be very pronounced when a person is sad or depressed.But when a person is emotionally high, whether it is the hands, feet or jaw, there will be behaviors that deviate from the direction of gravity.This kind of non-verbal behavior against gravity is also recognized as a pointer to pleasant emotions. No matter where such movements occur in any part of the body, it can be judged that the person is in a very comfortable state.

When we're happy, our arms don't seem to be bound by gravity.Speakers who feel good about themselves move their arms around the stage with ease and affirmation.Large arm movements will continue to appear in happy and confident people, just like animals are always showing their territory. Humans maintain some living habits in ancient societies, and the extended arms make him feel that his territory has been acquired. protected.

And those who are in an uncomfortable environment, because the brain feels strong pressure signals, they always subconsciously suppress their arm movements and reduce the range of motion of their arms, as if a little more movement range will lead to disaster Same.

Arm Emotional Contagion

As the limb responds directly to signals from the limbic system, the arm's reflexes are very rapid.Due to the long-term labor and the training of a large number of precise movements, the muscles of the arms can perform various movements without difficulty. Even some unfamiliar movements can be realized through brain impression prompts.In terms of expressing emotions, the arms can be said to be the second most powerful tool after expressions. Their expressions are flexible and diverse, and they are very contagious.

The fans on the pitch have always been considered the craziest people. When they watch the game, their emotions are as uncontrollable as the tide.When a player shoots, the fans will raise their arms, clenched their fists, and hold their breath, as if the slightest movement will disturb the player.

When the ball is scored, all the people will wave their arms vigorously, accompanied by screams and whoops.The arms raised high above their heads are the best description of their emotions.And if the referee suddenly ruled that the goal was invalid at this time, the fans would silently put down their arms. While the shoulders lost strength, the hands suddenly lost their vitality.

Among the group carnivals, arm movements appear most often, because the joyful movements of the arms can not only stimulate ourselves, but also infect other people around us.When a person waving his arms expresses emotion, others around him will quickly follow.This kind of group infection is very common when watching football games and concerts.Standing on the stage, singers always like to say "stretch out your hands". This call is also because waving arms is more conducive to driving the atmosphere of the scene and mobilizing everyone's emotions.

imprisoned arm
People with high emotions always raise their arms upwards, but people with low emotions seldom do this action, and most of them are accompanied by the confinement of their arms.After the brain analyzes the surrounding environment, the arm usually has corresponding countermeasures. If the brain determines that there is a threat, the arm is often in a state of preparation.

When the brain is being attacked by negative emotions, the arms will form a prison.Retracting the originally outstretched arm and maintaining an unchanged posture is what is commonly known as arm confinement.Retraction and confinement of the arms are common in young children who have been hurt, and insecure women who feel they are in danger.

crossed arms

On the grass in a park, a group of children were chasing a ball, and they had a great time.But because of the different ages and physiques of the children, some children can always get the chance to play with the ball, while others can only watch from the sidelines.Weaker children sometimes encounter attacks from stronger children, and accidental collisions during sports can also cause them to fall to the ground.

At this time, watching the parents of the children on the edge of the grass, they can clearly observe the confinement of the arms on some people.Mothers always seem very anxious when they see their little one being pushed to the ground by other children, or when he keeps missing the ball.They really want to go up to help or help the children, but the modern education concept makes them understand that at this time, they must rely on the children's own strength to fight for them, so as to cultivate their strong characters.Thus, the struggle between reason and motherhood leaves the mother in a state of great uneasiness.They crossed their arms on their chests because they were worried, and some people clasped their hands on their stomachs, as if they wanted to use the strength of one hand to soothe the other, or let one hand restrain the other from wanting to hug. child's impulsiveness.

Crossing the arms in an anxious state is a manifestation of a survival strategy, which can also be traced back to the living habits of ancient humans.They control and soothe themselves by crossing their arms to calm themselves and cope with the changes around them.

homemade arm

When people's negative emotions accumulate to a certain level, confrontation and anger will appear.In such emotions, few of us deliberately control our non-verbal behavior, so our inner thoughts and feelings will be more authentic.Observe those who are arguing, some people's arms will be stretched out, whether they are pointing at each other or pushing each other, it is considered an attacking action of the arm.However, some people's arms will be retracted. This is not only because they want to protect themselves from harm, but also because their upbringing and habits are still working, allowing them to retain their reason and exercise self-control.

The self-control behavior of the arm is often due to the protection of human beings. The anger of the other party makes us feel that the environment we are in is not safe, and we may be threatened more.Thus, pulling the arms back reflects inner discomfort, which negatively stimulates negative outbursts.

In other negative emotions, the self-control behavior of the arm can be regarded as comfort to oneself.By restricting the movement of your arms, let the brain feel that it is not far away from you. For example, when you have a stomachache, you can withdraw your hands and put them on your stomach, which is an obvious self-healing and comforting.

frozen arm

When the brain is very insecure, the arms will freeze.It tries to narrow the scope of its own activities, or even give up activities, so as not to attract the attention of others.This reduced movement behavior is sometimes like an attempt to become invisible or disappear, avoiding any possible attention. If you can hide your arms, it is best for the arm freezer.

When educational scholars conduct research on abused children, they find that in those children who have been abused by their parents or others, there is often obvious freezing of the arms.This is not an occasional behavior, but out of human instinct.Those children who have been abused always try to escape the disturbing environment, and their panicked eyes are enough to show their fear.To avoid being abused, it is necessary to avoid attracting the attention of others, so as to stay away from harm.They knew that the more they behaved, the more vulnerable they were to abuse, and this experience forced them to give up their childish, restless nature and put their arms in chains.

The freezing of the arm is a self-adjustment made by the limbic system of the human brain, and it is also out of the nature of protecting oneself.In life, strong people always appear very assertive, while weak people freeze their arms.When people always evaluate their children by "shrinking their hands", they should first reflect on whether they have done anything to hurt their children.A child who can completely release his arms and swing his arms freely in the air is a sign of his mental health.

Territory maintenance and physical distancing

All animals have the instinct to maintain their territory. They use various methods to prove their authority within the territory, and sometimes even pay their lives for it.In human society, the sense of territorial competition still exists.Although the integration of society now allows people to share a lot of resources, subconsciously, maintaining one's own territory is a manifestation of a sense of security and authority.In the process of maintaining the territory, the arm can transmit a wealth of information. Through it, it can tell the people around to keep a distance from itself.

rejection behind hands

Put your hands behind your body to form a backhand movement. What kind of people this movement often appears on, I believe that many specific characters will definitely appear in the minds of most people.They may be a leader, or they may be an older person.Few people see young people doing this action, because everyone thinks this action has a certain authority, which is not something young people can do.

The reason why backhand movements frequently appear on leaders is because the primary meaning it conveys is: status.People with higher status often inadvertently make backhand movements to emphasize their differences from others.Secondly, backhand can also give people an attitude of rejection.Even children feel welcome when people open their arms, and if they are confronted by a parent making the gesture, they will quickly throw themselves into their arms.Putting the hands behind the back is equivalent to hiding the hands, and people will naturally subconsciously think that the other party is saying: "Don't come near me!"

In museums or art exhibitions, people enjoy all kinds of artworks very quietly.Observe those visitors carefully, one of their common actions is backhanding.When they came to a delicate artwork to observe carefully, their concentration made them separate from the hustle and bustle of the world around them, as if he and the artwork were the only ones in the world.At this time, his hands will be unconsciously and slowly placed behind him, forming a backhand posture.

People often think that the backhand movement is an expression of thinking, which is not too wrong in itself, because the backhand movement usually occurs together with thinking.But in fact, this action is not a direct expression of thinking, but to create a quiet atmosphere and independent space for thinking, which is equivalent to telling the people around: don't disturb me!

The significance of holding hands

What kind of feeling does it bring to the people around you when a person puts his hands behind his back?After investigation, the researchers found that many people think that people with backhands usually appear indifferent.The appearance of this kind of action is accompanied by the meaning of rejection. What it rejects is people's approach, which itself is a kind of thing that disappoints the rejected person.The touch of a hand or arm represents reassurance and acceptance, which has an important meaning for human beings, and if this meaning is rejected, people will feel very frustrated.

When a child runs to his mother, hoping to get her hug, his heart is full of desire for physical contact with his mother.This kind of contact can make the child feel safe and happy, but if the mother suddenly puts her hand behind her back at this time and looks at the child's expression, you will find that the loss in his eyes cannot be concealed, because in his heart feel very alone.

Animals, like children, show disappointment at rejection of contact.Animal trainers have a lot of experience with this. They have found that when facing a dog, putting your hands behind your back can send a message of indifference, like telling a puppy: I don't want to pet you.The puppy's eyes will suddenly lose their energy and look very aggrieved.

In fact, physical contact with people around is not only of great significance to the person being contacted, but also to the contactor.Scientific research has found that when a child receives physical contact from their parents since childhood, they will quickly gain psychological comfort and become calm, thus maintaining mental health and becoming a cheerful person.When visiting a patient, if the patient is in pain at this time, physical contact will also give them temporary comfort, and stroking the back of their hand can even help recovery.

Not only physical and mental health require physical contact, but even whether human beings can live a long life will be related to physical contact.The benefits of frequent physical contact are innumerable, and both parties gain comfort in the process.People who keep pets like to stroke their pets gently, and doctors have found that some people's heart rate will slowly drop during the process of petting their pets.

maintain one's territory

The arm can be stretched without restriction, which makes it an important weapon for human beings to maintain their own territory. On various occasions, the territory maintenance action of the arm always emerges quietly.Observe the people in the meeting and the people sitting in the chairs, and you can find the territorial maintenance actions they inadvertently reveal.

On a crowded subway, people have to endure close contact with strangers, and this kind of forced contact can make people feel very uncomfortable.At this time, the territorial maintenance of the arms will be particularly prominent. People will inadvertently turn their arms across to block in front of their bodies, or wrap their hands around their chests or abdomen, which can play a role in territorial maintenance. effect.

Except for those environments where you have to be close, in an uncrowded state, or in an office, people don't need to create space for themselves to keep a distance from others, but territory maintenance actions will still occur.Look at those who put their arms on the table, they are also asserting their territory.

Defending one's own territory and warning others to keep a distance from oneself, when the arm performs this duty, is different from the meaning of competing for territory between countries, and the arm's behavior is more of a kind of self-protection and psychological comfort.Observing those confident people, they are most likely to maintain arm territory, whether it is putting their hands on the back of a chair, making a relaxed posture, or putting their hands on someone's shoulders, they are all declaring: "I It's the boss, I have the final say here!"

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