FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 35 FBI People Reading Technique: Did He Lie (7)
Because of the shroud of modern civilization, it is even more difficult for people to realize their desire to escape, so they have to use many other methods to replace the action of fleeing.The pointing of your feet, the direction you are facing, and the tense muscles in your legs are all manifestations of the flight response, and the purpose of these responses is to avoid uncomfortable or stressful situations and people.

If you replace the word "escape" with "avoidance", and then search in your life, everyone will find that there are many "avoidance behaviors" in your life.Avoiding strict teachers, avoiding parents who want to punish oneself, avoiding the attention of everyone, and even turning away when children see some small bugs are all avoidance behaviors.Keeping yourself away from something you don't like and the insecurities that come with it is itself an escape.

blocking behavior
With the increase of social experience, many people will consciously cover up their escape response and force themselves to keep smiling even when they feel uncomfortable.It is also a social reality that we have to face when we have to continue communicating with others when some unpleasantness occurs. As the real feedback information of the limbic system of the brain, although the flight response can be suppressed, it will not disappear completely.

In a difficult and intense business negotiation, the two parties started a fierce dispute over the quotation, and refused to give in to each other.As a result, after a long period of bargaining, various non-verbal behaviors appeared on the negotiating table.Some people will keep turning their chairs, so that their bodies face the other side, or lean back against the back of the chair, as if they are increasing the distance between themselves and the other person, and some people are constantly rubbing their eyes, or closing their eyes to rest for a while.All of these behaviors are escape responses when people are in a threatening environment.

Behaviors such as adjusting the body's orientation and leaning the body away from the opponent's side are strong manifestations of the escape response.Although temporarily closing one's eyes is not as drastic as the above methods, the small movement range cannot conceal the essence of the escape response.People block themselves from receiving unpleasant information by rubbing or closing their eyes, so as to obtain a short-term peace.Sometimes, covering your face with your hands is also a way to block information acquisition. Although you can't really see people or things you don't like, the desire to escape in your heart is temporarily relieved. satisfaction.

The battle begins
When people are in a dangerous situation and cannot escape, the combat response is the only option for the limbic system.The anxiety caused by environmental threats will make people's brains in a state of anxiety. In order to get out of this state, people will use their own means to remove those anxiety factors.This is the common behavior of people who take various actions due to anger in life. They turn their fear of the environment into anger, and use this anger to ignite everything around them in order to obtain their inner peace.

Manifestations of the combat response

In the prehistoric era, violence was the only option to express one's anger.Humans respond by attacking other creatures or their own kind.In fact, this is also the initial form of combat response. With the development of social civilization, violence has gradually faded out of people's choice.

In modern society, to get the fighting response in your brain to express, most people will resort to various forms of argument.This method can avoid direct damage caused by violence, and can satisfy the desire to fight.Argument itself is a war. Through debate and discussion, people achieve the purpose of attacking others.

There are many different manifestations of arguments. Some people will use insulting words, while others will slander and sarcasm. These behaviors are all to vent their desire to fight.A more civilized form of combat response is achieved through rebuttals, provocations, and wiser language.

In the past, many countries have achieved combat response through legal duels.Modern society provides a catharsis for people's fighting reactions, and that is the law.It is also the progress of civilization to make people fight and attack through litigation, debate and rebuttal become the best form of combat response, and judge victory or defeat through social rules.

life's battles
In situations where the combat response is very strong, one can feel the other person's anger and aggression.However, there are often many unnoticed reactions in life. These behaviors are revealing the information of combat reactions, but because of their small or relatively hidden magnitude, they often do not attract people's attention.

As a direct response of the limbic system of the brain, the combat response will still find its own outlet in the absence of physical contact and confrontation.People express their displeasure through their body language, their eyes, and even intrusion into each other's space.

Watching someone who has experienced injustice or is angry, the anger in their eyes is hard to hide.Some people will involuntarily expand their chest cavity when facing a threat, let their chest stand up, and while expanding the space occupied by their body, they also show a state of being ready to fight at any time.Including the behaviors of exposing one's own skin mentioned above are very covert responses to combat.When similar actions appear, the observer should know that a small flame of anger has been ignited in the person's heart, and appropriate measures should be taken to deal with it to avoid damage caused by anger.

Negative Effects of Combat Responses

Human beings use various methods to improve their civilization, and through education to continuously improve everyone's ability to control their emotions.Reason allows human beings to keep away from anger and behave more peacefully.Because the consequences of anger are often unpredictable, and the losses are obvious to all, only keeping calm is the best way to solve the problem.It is difficult for a person in the midst of a combat reaction to analyze with a calm mind, and it is even more difficult to make the best response.Therefore, although the combat response is an indelible and important part of the limbic system of the brain, it has always been suppressed.

The combat response is an aggressive command that causes various changes in bodily functions, including increased blood flow and muscle tension.Its most serious effect is confusion of the human mind and loss of concentration.In such a state, human beings lose the ability to evaluate the difficulties they face.To a certain extent, when a human being is in a combat reaction, his sanity will continue to diminish as his anger escalates.

Not all limbic responses are worth advocating, and the combat response requires strong control because of the harm it entails.People are often reminded to "don't let anger take over your mind".These words are just a warning to us to control our combat response and let reason rule the brain.

maybe he needs comfort

Whether in ancient society or modern civilized society, human beings have been pursuing a more comfortable and better life.This kind of pursuit is reflected in many aspects. The material aspect requires delicious food and comfortable clothes, while the spiritual aspect needs to experience pleasant feelings and let oneself be in a safe environment.In order to achieve these goals, people continue to try in various ways, and this pleasure sometimes comes from the outside world, and sometimes comes from inside the brain.

active pursuit of pleasure
In the process of making people feel comfortable, the brain itself is very highly motivated.In the case of survival, the brain is constantly looking for opportunities to make people feel safe and comfortable. It also uses its own advantages such as storing memories and releasing signals to allow humans to obtain internal comfort and feel happy.

The external attacks suffered in the prehistoric era, or some terrorist incidents encountered in childhood, will be deeply imprinted in the human brain.The feeling of being in danger stimulates the brain very strongly, and the brain keeps humans away from the pain by remembering this feeling, so humans will keep away from beasts, and children who have had their hands burned by candles will always be afraid of fire.This way of storing negative information and reminding oneself to escape is itself a pursuit of security. Staying away from these negative memories will make human beings more happy.

As we grow older, many people think that everything they encountered in their childhood has become a passing cloud.But in fact, although reason tells us that we can forget those things, the limbic system of the brain will not do so.A child who was bullied in class will always remember the fat man who bullied him. Even if he meets again at a class reunion 20 years later, he will quickly recognize the fat man who bullied him.When the fat man walked towards him, although his rationality told him to smile, there was still a trace of disgust in his eyes.

The limbic system is so honest, it meticulously registers our every experience, pleasant or unpleasant.When pleasant memories are stored, people will continue to repeat them, thus gaining more pleasure.This is essentially the same as running away from unpleasant feelings.

Soothe the soul
All kinds of comfort behaviors mobilized by the brain play a very important role in our spiritual comfort.Various comforting gestures and hints can help people gain confidence and behave more appropriately when they are hurt or threatened.Nonverbal behaviors have always insisted on revealing the secrets in our hearts: when we are in a negative emotion, this kind of leakage can let the anxiety be vented; when people feel comfortable, this kind of leakage can also pass on the pleasant information Let the people around us feel our happiness.In the process of people conveying joy, the joyful emotions are also doubled.

Comforting behaviors accompany almost all limbic behaviors, especially when people are in negative emotions or threatened, and nonverbal behaviors will express these emotions vividly, and comforting behaviors have also become an integral part of these behaviors.Stressed people stroke their necks or arms and chew gum.Students in the exam unconsciously bite their pencils, which is also a concrete manifestation of nonverbal comfort behavior.

A suspect escaped suddenly during the interrogation, and the criminal police immediately launched a hunt.They targeted the suspect's wife's home, which was quickly surrounded.

After knocking on the door, the criminal police explained the situation to the suspect's wife, who immediately became very disturbed.The criminal policeman asked, "Has your husband returned home?" The lady put her hand on her neck and kept stroking herself gently, and replied, "No."

This small movement attracted everyone's attention, so the criminal police continued to ask: "Then do you know where he will go?" He replied, "I don't know."

Although the answer was negative, through this non-verbal behavior, the criminal police confirmed that the lady was lying.So he immediately applied for a search warrant, and sure enough, the suspect was soon found in his home.

Stroking your neck is a common comforting action for people. When you are under great pressure, stroking your neck with your hands can relax your mind.Hands do so much in comforting gestures, people who frown, people who lean back, and those who fold their arms across their chest will raise their hands to stroke their face or neck because They are all in some kind of negative emotion and urgently need to find peace by comforting themselves.

comforting behaviors in life
People who observe life carefully will find that comforting behaviors also have various manifestations.After summarizing, they can be roughly divided into three different types.

The first category of comforting behaviors refers to those performed with the hands.This action contains a lot of content. Touching one's neck, face, arms and legs are all comforting behaviors performed by hands.Sometimes women like to play with their hair ends, which is also a kind of hand comforting behavior.Under normal circumstances, when people encounter external stimuli or encounter embarrassing problems, the brain will send out signals: I am embarrassed and nervous.Although the stroking behavior of hands at this time cannot completely relieve this embarrassment, it can help people keep calm.Usually men's hand comforting behaviors are concentrated on the face, and they will stroke their chin and other parts; while women's hand comforting is in a wider range, touching their neck and arms, and even clothes, hair, jewelry, etc., can play a role. to the soothing effect.

The second type of soothing behavior refers to soothing movements that relax one's body.When people are in a threatening environment, insecurity hits every corner of the body, so that people's muscles tense and blood flow increases.This response comes from the accumulation of human responses to changes in ancient societies.In modern society, people no longer need to let their muscles fight at any time, so when this kind of reaction occurs in the limbic system of the brain, people will relax themselves to get comfort.The specific performance is to shake your arms to relax your shoulders, or take a deep breath to calm yourself.Sometimes the tongue also plays a role in this kind of comforting behavior. It gently licks the lips to relax the nerves.

The third type of comforting behavior refers to the comforting action with the help of external force.When encountering great pressure, many men will smoke a lot, because they want to relax themselves by smoking.To remove the stimulating effect of nicotine in cigarettes, the act of smoking itself can make people feel relaxed.In addition, similar behaviors include chewing gum and eating large amounts of food.There are also some people who like to play with some things in their hands when they are nervous, such as pens, lipstick or watches.A speaker once taught him the technique of relaxing himself, which is to carry a notebook on stage, and when he feels nervous, he puts his hand on the notebook, and through these external forces, he can calm himself down.

Due to the rich personality characteristics of human beings, the classification of comfort behaviors cannot be generalized, and different people have different manifestations.Some subtle comforting movements are difficult to notice, such as women tidying their clothes, men straightening their ties, etc., are all comforting gestures.In order to obtain real and effective non-verbal behavior information, we must pay attention to every detail in life.

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