In your 20s, you must understand the wisdom of success

Chapter 18: Successful Relationships (7)
Friends are not life partners, and you cannot ask them to truly tolerate and understand you like parents, brothers, and sisters.In many cases, it is best for friends to maintain an equal and polite partnership, tacitly abide by the same "rules of the game" and carry out the "game" to the end together.More often, you need to be considerate of others and think about them from their perspective.In this way, you may be able to better understand why some things should not be said, and some things should not be known to others.

In addition to the scale of one's own grasp of privacy, how to deal with other people's concern or prying is also an art.For example, when a colleague kindly asks a topic such as "how are you?" during the dinner, what else can you do besides simply saying "it's okay" or "very good"?You know that the other person cares out of goodwill, and you also know that the other person expects you to say something more than "okay" or "good enough" to show that your relationship goes beyond the usual politeness.But in any case, you must keep in mind at this time, don't treat others as a psychiatrist.

While you hope that others will not visit your inner world, you should show your heart to heart, and you should not talk about private matters to get closer to your colleagues.

Keyword perception: privacy
Knowing other people's privacy is a dangerous thing, let alone discussing and disseminating it, and don't tell others your secrets without reservation.

(Chapter 13 Filial Piety - Bringing Happiness Home

We have grown from a delicate baby to a strong young man, and our parents don't know how much effort and energy they have spent on us!Parents not only give us life, but also nurture us to grow up with painstaking efforts. This kind of kindness is something that children will never repay.

Learn to love your family
George is a sensible boy, every weekend he has to go to the woods two miles away to collect firewood.It was a fine day, and George picked up a lot of firewood in a short while.As the sun came up, George felt thirsty.So he found a shady place to rest and eat something, because he couldn't go back until the afternoon.

There is a big tree next to the creek, which is a good place to rest.When he got there, he found some overripe wild strawberries growing there.

"I'm worrying about how to eat these dry bread! It must be delicious to put strawberries in the bread!" George put his hat on the grass and carefully placed the overripe wild strawberries one by one. Put it inside the bread.

"It would be great if my mother could share these delicacies with me! But now she is suffering from illness in a dark room." Thinking of this, George put down the strawberry that was about to be put into his mouth.

"Let's keep it for Mama! She's sick now, and she'll feel better with these strawberries!" thought George.

But those strawberries were so attractive that George thought, "I've been working all day, so I'll have some!" So he divided the strawberries into two piles.But each pile seemed small, so he put them back together again.

"Just one!" he thought.Inadvertently, he picked up the best one, and when he was about to put it in his mouth, he found that it was the best one, so he put down the strawberry again, thinking: "I want to eat the best strawberry." Leave it to mother, no, I will leave all the strawberries to mother."

In the end, George didn't eat a single strawberry, so he went to gather wood again.

He returned home at dusk. When he put down the firewood, he heard his mother calling: "George, please pour a glass of water for mother! I'm a little thirsty." George happily gave the strawberries to his mother.

"Is this what you left for mom?" Mom's eyes filled with tears.

"Yes," said George.

"Mom is proud to have a child like you, God bless you!"

George thought: "It turns out that loving your parents is such a happy feeling!"

There is an advertisement like this: A young mother returns home from work, but she still has to take good care of her elderly mother-in-law, making hot water to scald her feet.The old man was very moved, and compassionately wiped the sweat off her face.Seeing this, the youngest son on the side went to the kitchen to fetch half a basin of water, staggered and brought it to his mother, and said in a childish voice: "Mom, wash your feet..."

What a moving scene!It embodies the core content of Chinese civilization: honoring parents and supporting the elderly.We Chinese pay the most attention to the concept of family and filial piety.

Yes, what parents need most is the love of their children. For them, there is nothing better than the love of their children.

Honoring parents is a virtue, and supporting parents is an obligation.In the family, not only have the right to enjoy parental caressing, but also have their own obligations.For example, obey parents' reasonable arrangements for food, daily life, lifestyle and purchase of supplies, be willing to accept the correct requirements of parents, and participate in some labor within their ability.In such a harmonious family atmosphere, our respect for our parents will naturally develop.

A family is an organization, and each member is an individual that constitutes the organization.If everyone brings home some happiness, the house will naturally be full of laughter; on the contrary, if everyone returns home with troubles and unhappiness, the family will definitely be full of dark clouds and thunder and lightning.

Of course, we are not telling you to "report good news but not bad news" when you go home in the future. Members of the family should share and share with each other. This is one of the functions of the family.But the meaning of sharing is achieved through communication, instead of putting on a straight face all day, throwing the resentment in your heart to other people for no reason, or always feeling that others are sorry for you.

If you are misunderstood and criticized by your boss outside, you can’t vent all your grievances to your boss and your own grievances on your family when you go home, and blame your mother’s steak for being too burnt and your father for messing with you. study.Instead, you should calmly tell them the ins and outs of the matter, and ask them to help you give advice on what you should do in the future to avoid mistakes.In this way, parents can understand your mood and use their own life experience to tell you how to get through the low tide period at work.

Always find opportunities to sit with your family, share and listen to each other.Everyone gets together to find out what each other is doing and what the other person really thinks.You can find out how your family is feeling recently, whether your work is going well, and what you can do to help...

Family allows you to adjust your upset emotions so that you can be in a good mood to share your life with the people you love.This will save you from worrying about small things in study or work, and will not let some small troubles become unsolvable "dead knots".When things come, you can easily deal with them.And by dealing with family affairs, you also learn how to solve problems.

In short, no matter what kind of setbacks you suffer outside, you should show a happy look at home and bring happiness to your family.

Accompanying parents is the greatest filial piety
A lonely old man, childless and sickly, decided to move to a nursing home and announced the sale of his beautiful house.

Buyers flocked after hearing the news.The base price of the house was £8, but people quickly flipped it to £10 and the price kept climbing.

The old man sank deep into the sofa, with a melancholy look on his face. Yes, if it wasn't for his poor health, he wouldn't have sold the house that he had spent most of his life with.

A plainly dressed young man came to the old man, bent down, and whispered, "Sir, I really want to buy this house, but I only have 1 pounds."

"However, its reserve price is 8 pounds." The old man said lightly, "and now it has risen to 10 pounds."

The young man was not depressed, and said sincerely: "If you sell the house to me, I promise you will still live here, drink tea, read the newspaper, take a walk with me, and be happy every day - believe me, I will love you with my whole heart, just like loving my father!"

The old man nodded and smiled.

Suddenly, the old man stood up and waved his hand to signal people to be quiet: "My friends, the new owner of this house has been chosen." The old man patted the young man on the shoulder, "This is the young man!"

Young people know how to care for their parents and elders. In people's eyes, he is not only a filial person, but also a cultivated and polite person. Such a person can easily win the respect of others.

Honoring parents and respecting elders are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation.If we are not filial to our own parents, it is hard to imagine what we can do to others.Therefore, we should cultivate ourselves to have a filial heart, and regard filial piety as a good behavior habit.

Keyword insights: filial piety
The sublime and greatness of "filial piety" is manifested in every bit of life, not in a certain day in the future.People who know filial piety will do what they can for their parents anytime and anywhere.

In the future, we hope that when you go home, you will happily say to yourself: "Throw away your troubles and go home with happiness."

(Chapter 14 Family Affection—Using Love to Connect Hearts

In life, no matter what we encounter, we have a peaceful belief in our hearts-family affection.This kind of constant, unconditional love will change any dilemma in life.

kinship is deep love

At the age of 13, Robin and his family had just moved from Florida to California.Robin, who is in the rebellious period of youth, often ignores the teachings of his parents.I don't care about everything, and I try my best to resist and escape from everything that is not pleasing to the eye.He is even more dismissive of family affection. Whenever someone mentions family affection, Robin will angrily refute them.

One night, Robin came home from outside, rushed straight into the room, slammed the door shut, and lay in bed looking at the flower boards, thinking about the day when everything went wrong and everything went wrong.He reached his hand under the pillow and accidentally touched an envelope.It said on the envelope, "When you're alone, open this." Robin thought no one would know if I'd read it, so he opened the envelope.The letter read: "Robin, I understand that your current life is not going well and is not satisfied. I also know that as parents, we do not do everything right. I know better that I love you with all my heart. Yes, nothing you say or do will change that. Anytime you want to talk to me, I welcome you. If you don’t want to, that’s okay. Just remember, no matter where you are or what you do, I I will always love you, and I will be proud to have you as a son. My heart will always be with you, and I will always love you. Love your mother."

Since then, this "open it when you are alone" letter has often appeared in Robin's life.During Robin's tumultuous years, these letters always reassured him that no matter what he did, his mother's love would never change.Later, Robin recalled the relief he felt each time he found the envelope under his pillow.He thanked God for letting his mother understand what he needs most when he is in the rebellious period of youth.

The trilogy of novels "The Lord of the Rings" created by Tolkien was not for fame or money, but for enjoying life with children.

He gives children rich imagination by creating novels.Whenever his son John couldn't sleep, Tolkien would sit by his crib and make up stories for him.

Father and son have spent many, many, very pleasant hours working together on the fantastic conception of the Lord of the Rings trilogy.Later, the relationship between father and son became closer through frequent exchanges of letters.In their frequent correspondence, the topics they discussed included religious beliefs, wars, and various pains and sufferings suffered by human beings.Tolkien wrote to his children:

"You are the best gift God has given me. When I need it most, you can relieve my sadness and pain in my heart. Since you were born, our father and son have used love to connect our hearts. This is beyond words I am willing to believe that there is an afterlife, and we can still be father and son in the next life, and the fate between us will never end. Be confident, Dad believes that you must not be an ordinary person!"

As long as there is family affection, there will be happiness

At Christmas, Paul's brother gave him a new car.As Paul left the office on Christmas Day, a boy walked around the shiny new car and asked, "Sir, is this your car?"

Paul nodded: "This is a Christmas present from my brother." The boy was surprised, and said falteringly: "You mean this is a gift from your brother, and it didn't cost you half a dime? I also I wish I could..."

Paul thought he was hoping for an older brother who would give him the car, but Paul was shocked by what the boy said.

(End of this chapter)