Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 1 Psychological overview of study weariness (1)
Learning and Learning Emotions

The definition of emotion is "the experience of people's attitude towards whether objective things meet their needs".

When the reality is consistent with one's needs, such as when the test papers are handed out and you get the good grades you expect, it will lead to positive emotions, manifested as joy and happiness.As people usually say: "People are in good spirits when happy events happen." When the reality is inconsistent with one's own needs, it will lead to negative emotions, such as exam papers handed out, failing grades, and thus great disappointment, manifested as sadness and anger.

Positive, good and stable emotions in the learning process are a kind of promotion for learning, which can make students more attentive and active in their thinking activities; while negative and unstable learning emotions make people restless, confused, and unable to concentrate. Concentrate, or even make use of the topic to make trouble, but once you calm down, you will regret it, which seriously interferes with your study.

Many middle school students have been cared for by their parents since childhood, and their needs are easily met from their parents, so it can be said that they are used to it smoothly.After entering middle school, on the one hand, due to the increasing difficulty of learning, I can no longer rely on the help of my parents, and basically have to work hard on my own.Therefore, it is inevitable to keep running into obstacles in the learning process, and learning is naturally not so smooth.On the other hand, in the collective life of middle school, the requirements for middle school students are higher.For example, to obey the principles of collective life.It is difficult to make every student so "smooth".All of this often makes some middle school students feel that the life of the school is not satisfactory, and it is inconvenient to have an attack at school, so they have to be in a sullen negative mood.But when I get home, I often lose my temper.If things go on like this, learning will be greatly affected.

How to make yourself have a good learning mood? ①Constantly improve one's awareness, correct learning motivation, strengthen self-cultivation, broaden one's mind, and improve the tolerance of correctly dealing with setbacks. ②Constantly cultivate your own good qualities, especially self-control ability, so that you can always be in a calm and rational state. ③ It is necessary to continuously cultivate interest in learning and regard learning as a pleasure. ④ Be good at diverting attention when emotions fluctuate, consciously do something meaningful that can divert your attention, and calm yourself down as soon as possible. ⑤ Actively exercise, pay attention to hygiene, and ensure good health.Being out of shape, or not dealing with the physical changes that occur during puberty, is also a big contributor to negativity.

boredom

"Boredom," or "boredom," is an emotional expression of mental fatigue.Therefore, boredom can also be called "mental fatigue".

Why do people get bored?Why are some people more bored than others?All of these can be caused by psychological fatigue.

The sense of boredom varies from person to person, and also from time to time, place and other conditions.Things that bore you may not be boring to others; you are bored with the same thing at this moment, but you may not be bored when you change the situation.Therefore, the causes of boredom are more complex.

Psychiatrists believe that the causes of boredom can be roughly classified into two categories: external and internal:

(1) External reasons.It mainly refers to the poor state of mind caused by repetitive, monotonous and tedious work.For example, when a person lacks interest in the work he is engaged in, it often causes boredom.The so-called "lack of interest" here is probably due to the monotony of the work and the boredom of repeating the same routine every day.

In the same way, things that once interested you, such as delicious food, places of interest, and wonderful books, can cause boredom if repeated over and over again.Chefs, tour guides, and librarians taste and appreciate the delicacies, scenic spots, and strange books that they have been familiar with for several years or decades almost every day, and someday they will feel upset, unhappy, and tired of these external stimuli.

There is also another situation: when a person feels difficult about the job he is currently engaged in, it will often temporarily cause boredom.For example, after switching to a new type of work, I can't adapt to it for a while, the work efficiency is low, the result is half the effort, and I feel very tired and annoying.This kind of boredom is relatively easy to solve. After getting familiar with and getting used to it gradually, the boredom will gradually weaken or even disappear.

The above are the external and objective reasons for resentment.It is relatively simple and easy to solve this kind of boredom. As long as the external and objective factors are adjusted and changed, the boredom will be eliminated naturally.

(2) Internal reasons.This kind of boredom is different from the situation discussed above. Some people have a feeling of powerlessness, or fatigue, no matter what they do.

Why do I feel powerless?Although it may be related to lesions in certain organs of the body, for a healthy person, it is often caused by an internal emotional state; sometimes it may be caused by an allergic reaction to the surrounding environment.For example, seasonal changes, lighting intensity, ventilation equipment, temperature, humidity and other reasons cause psychological fatigue.For example, if you work in a dark, humid, stuffy and noisy workshop for a long time, can you have high work efficiency and not feel bored?A single lamp is like a bean, and the light is insufficient, which not only damages eyesight, but also makes people dull and boring.Even monotonous and endlessly repeated stimuli often cause boredom.For example, in the season of yellow plum blossoms, the continuous autumn rain, the constant patter, "autumn wind and autumn rain worry people", who can not feel depressed and bored?Wouldn't it be annoying to have a grandma nagging in your ear every day?

Some of the boredom manifestations mentioned above are almost all normal boredom.From the perspective of mental health, some people's boredom is caused by spiritual poverty and inner emptiness.The physiological mechanism that produces this sense of boredom, simply put, is that the brain is often in a state of "rest" due to the lack of external stimuli.The more colorful a person's inner world is, the less he will be bored, because they will fill their hearts and leisure time with many meaningful and interesting things.For example, in Shenzhen, my country, the slogan "time is money, efficiency is life" was put forward. People living in such an atmosphere will feel less bored.

It can be seen that the kind of boredom mentioned here is related to the lack of expectations.If a person has expectations, hopes, and pursuits all the time, it will continuously generate excitement centers one by one on the cerebral cortex, keeping him in a state of high spirits and not feeling bored.Clinical observations have proved that people with serious illnesses usually don't feel bored, because they are always looking forward to getting better and recover soon; on the contrary, those who are cured soon often feel bored.

To sum up, to eliminate the boredom caused by psychological reasons, the following points can be listed:

(1) Ideals and beliefs are indispensable.If a young person loses his purpose in life and always feels that the future is bleak and there is nothing to "go ahead", then he (she) will inevitably feel lifeless all day long.There is a Chinese saying: "Being a monk for a day hits the clock for a day." Of course, this is a derogatory saying, accusing those who live in vain.If you lose the desire to ring the bell every day, how can you not be bored?
(2) Physical exercise is very important. There is some truth in the saying "a sound mind resides in a sound body".Generally speaking, people who are weak, ill, and have lost their goals in life tend to be easily bored.There are individual people who, because they cannot bear the suffering of chronic diseases, make life boring and lose the will to live.Of course, around us, there are many aspiring young people who are not intimidated by illness and disability. They work hard and become talented because they have lofty ideals and clear goals in life.

(3) Life is fulfilling and meaningful.Young people who are determined to contribute their talents to social progress and development, and go through fire and water to devote their sweat and blood to the happiness of the public, they will live and fight, and will not feel bored.On the contrary, due to the lack of the spiritual support of lofty ideals, some gangs of young people, whose life goal is only to eat, drink and have fun, often get bored of fooling around with each other, so they can't last long, and this is the same reason.

Let's arrange our lives to be more fulfilling!Be more socially meaningful!

Cultivation and Development of Teenagers' Personality

What is personality?Psychology believes that personality refers to a person's stable, unique and overall mental outlook.A person's mental outlook is very complex. It not only includes the psychological characteristics common to all people, such as everyone has cognitive activities, emotional activities and will activities, and has their own national feelings, cultural traditions and customs. Including the unique psychological characteristics that distinguish each person from others. For example, some people have high visual sensitivity, while others have high auditory sensitivity; some people have good image memory, while others have good abstract memory; Some people are emotionally introverted and withdrawn; some are strong and decisive, some are indecisive; some have broad interests, some are narrow;All these common psychological characteristics and unique psychological characteristics constitute the overall mental outlook of each person, that is, personality.Common psychological characteristics and unique psychological characteristics are closely related.The common psychological characteristics are always reflected in each individual, and the unique psychological characteristics of each individual are formed in the process of the development of the common psychological characteristics.What people usually say about a person's personality mainly refers to the uniqueness of personality.Because people's personalities are different, as the saying goes, "People's hearts are different, each is like its own face", therefore, people's personalities vary in thousands of ways, which is the difference in personality.

Young friends, many people who have made achievements in their studies and careers have a common experience, that is: people should be a little bit spirited.This "spirit" refers to personality.The expression of the value of life is mainly determined by the expression of a person's personality and spirit.If you have a tenacious personality and make contributions to the motherland and the people, your life is worthwhile; if you eat all day long and do nothing, the value of your life is small.The value of life is by no means measurable by money, it should be measured by the contribution to the motherland and the people.In order to develop personality and realize self-worth on the road of life, one must break free from internal and external shackles, get rid of the old self, and create a new self.We must abandon the weak and incompetent side of our personality, aim high, pursue true knowledge, exercise ourselves in practice, and increase our talents.In this way, everyone will find the best position to realize their ideals and life values ​​in social life.

Beethoven

Copernicus once said a famous saying: "The true value of life lies in the pursuit of truth." In the process of development, a person must learn to hold the helm of his own destiny, and not yield to any difficulties and prejudices.Beethoven, a world-renowned musician, lost his father in his early years and his mother at the age of 17. He had a rough life and lost his hearing in his 30s.This is undoubtedly a heavy blow to a musician.But he was not depressed or discouraged, and he persisted in life and creation tenaciously until his death.He once wrote in a letter to his friends: "I want to choke the throat of fate, it is delusional to make me succumb, this is absolutely impossible.... Life is so beautiful, live it for a thousand lives!"

Young friends, the era you live in is far from comparable to Beethoven's era.Today's era is the era of rapid development of science and technology, and the era of socialist economic take-off, which inevitably requires the further liberation, perfection, harmony and all-round development of human personality to meet the requirements of the times.And the socialist system has opened up broad prospects for your personality development. The important thing is to exercise, shape, and improve your personality in practice. Like Beethoven, you can hold the throat of your own destiny and not succumb to difficulties, bad luck, and prejudice. , go your own way, you will all become useful talents for the motherland.Here, I also sincerely hope that the society, schools and families will all pay attention to the cultivation and development of young people's personality, remove unnecessary constraints, prohibitions, arrangements and care, and let them learn to walk and design themselves.Like a young eagle, spread your wings in the air and exercise your wings!
Studying and setbacks

Young students aspire to be admitted to university, they make study plans and work hard in order to realize their wish to be admitted to university.Although they have planned well and made great efforts, they may not achieve the expected goals, end up with poor grades, or lose their reputation. This kind of failure will make them fall into a state of frustration, resulting in a sense of weariness .

Frustration refers to the tension and emotional response that an individual encounters obstacles in the motivational activities of achieving goals, and cannot overcome them.The following conditions are generally required to constitute a setback: ① Must have the necessary motivation and goals, such as going to college. ② Must have the means and actions to satisfy motivation and achieve goals, such as making study plans, listening to lectures, doing exercises, self-study, etc. ③ There must be a setback situation.The so-called setbacks refer to encountering insurmountable or insurmountable obstacles in the process of realizing motivation and goals, such as failing to meet the admission threshold due to test scores, or being admitted due to physical defects.If this obstacle is resolved through artificial effort or by a roundabout method, the frustration situation ceases to exist. ④ The obstacles that constitute frustration must be perceived subjectively, and thus put the individual in a state of tension or produce a corresponding emotional response, such as loss, frustration, pain, etc.

There are various reasons for people's setbacks. Generally speaking, there are the following three kinds:
1. Natural factors
Natural disasters such as typhoons, earthquakes, floods, droughts, fires, various traffic accidents, and other unexpected events cause frustration to individuals.

2. Social factors
Social factors such as political economy, legal ethics, customs and habits can all cause setbacks to individual behavior.Tension among classmates, inappropriate teaching methods of teachers, divorced parents, and unsound rules and regulations can all put individuals in a state of tension and adverse emotional reactions.

3. Personal factors
For example, tall and short stature, fat and thin body, ugly face, dark skin, and birth defects are all causes of frustration.The limitations of individual abilities, personality, ideology and morality, etc. will also become the cause of setbacks. For example, a person who lacks musical talent and is incomplete in tone wants to become a singer. His objective and practical ability limits the realization of his pursuit of goals. The result can only be failure and frustration, because the gap between goals and capabilities cannot be eliminated.

The most common setbacks for teenagers are: they want to pursue self-realization independently but cannot get the understanding of their parents and society; they yearn for love but are restricted by family rules and school rules; .

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