Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 5 Various Manifestations of Study Weariness (1)
The prevalence of school weariness

In addition to teaching, teachers often lament: "The quality of students is getting worse and worse."

Every word up to this point will definitely attract the teachers' approval.Why do students become less fond of learning?Investigate its source "tired of studying" is probably the key reason.

Regardless of elementary school, middle school, or university, "tiring of learning" is a common phenomenon in every school now, and it is even more serious in anonymous vocational schools.How to cultivate students' interest in learning and stimulate their enthusiasm for learning has become a common concern at present.

doze off

Learning boredom is also tired of learning, and tired of learning is often an unconscious psychological behavior.If it is mild, it will cause students to drop their academic performance and lose interest in learning; if it is serious, it will cause them to be pessimistic and world-weary, face life negatively, and even commit crimes.

There are different degrees of weariness from studying. Many students have the problem of weariness. Only moderate and severe weariness is considered a psychological problem in psychology.Although students who are tired of learning can realize the relationship between their learning and their future and destiny, they are always unconsciously tired of learning.

The main manifestations of weariness of learning are: feeling bored with learning, having resistance to learning tasks, lack of interest and enthusiasm for learning, lack of energy in class, dozing off, and lack of concentration.Some students are also bored with teachers and parents, while others are depressed, uneasy, making troubles, and even some students often play truant, get bored with school, run away from home, etc.

The above-mentioned phenomenon is particularly serious in non-famous and non-key schools. If students who are tired of learning are forced to study, they will often feel pain, tension, and impatience, and even lead to their indifferent attitudes and confrontations in language and behavior.

Students compose "Song of Tired of Learning"

There is a long-ago nursery rhyme - "Song of Going to School", whose lyrics have been tampered with by contemporary students into "Song of Weary Learning":
"...carry the dynamite pack on your back and blow up that school to the sky, so that our life will be easier..."

The general growth of children's weariness of learning has become a core issue that primary and secondary education has to face up to.According to the survey, even the so-called excellent students fear and loathe the school life, and those "difficult households" who learn cultural knowledge have reached the point of hating school.

Tired of learning
In a word, children are so disgusted with learning that they are unwilling to go to school, and learning has become their terror.If things go on like this, it will not only affect the development of education, but also cultivate a large number of successors and builders with psychological deviation.

Being bored does not indicate a student is intellectually challenged, and many bored students do quite well in other areas.Just like the diversity of learning-weariness manifestations, the factors that cause study-weariness psychology and behavior are also diverse:
"Ah! School/want to forget/small schoolbag/man wants to grow old/want to sleep in class/but is interrupted by teacher's words/holds book in a daze and smirks at the wall/yawns and eye fatigue/wind fluttering in heart/magic water Tan Botao/Long sigh and secretly laugh/I can’t bear it/When will I run away?” This is a poem written by a student in the classroom disclosed by the media, expressing his serious weariness of studying.

Students' weariness is one of the difficult problems that teachers often encounter in education and teaching work, and this kind of emotion is spreading among middle school students, not only in the underachievers, but also in some so-called excellent students. They are also afraid or disgusted with school life, which may lead to a decline in students' academic performance in mild cases, or cause truancy in severe cases.It can be seen that how to deal with middle school students' weariness has become a serious problem that middle school education has to face up to.

Tired of studying in kindergarten

Jia Jia's mother consultation:

"My son Jiajia has been in kindergarten since last year, and the first thing he says when he wakes up every day is 'Mom, I don't want to go to kindergarten', but in fact, he is not unhappy in kindergarten. The teachers like him very much. The children also love to play with him, eat well, sleep soundly, and perform what they learned in kindergarten every day when they come back. What is the reason for this? How should I deal with it?"

Wan Guobin, director of the Child Psychology Department of Shenzhen Maternal and Child Health Hospital, pointed out:

There are many reasons why young children do not want to go to kindergarten.

(1) Some children are afraid of being separated from their parents. When they are separated from their parents or face separation, they will be in a bad mood, and even have headaches and stomach pains.Such children mainly fail to form a secure attachment relationship with their parents.

(2) Some children develop the habit of satisfying their demands because of their parents' over-indulgence, but they can't meet this requirement in kindergartens, so they prefer to stay at home.

(3) Some other children are timid and withdrawn, and their ability to adapt to the environment is not strong, so they are more likely to suffer setbacks in kindergarten than other children.Once they are frustrated, they take a withdrawn approach to solve it instead of going to kindergarten.

(4) There are also some children who are not unwilling to go to kindergarten at all, but are unwilling to get up in the morning, act like a baby, and use the phrase "Mom, I don't want to go to kindergarten" to get close to their parents or get benefits.Allison may be the case.

If this is the case, Jiajia's parents should not pay too much attention to this matter, but downplay it.You can divert attention, attract him with some events that the child is interested in, pay attention to some of his other benign behaviors and give them affirmation.

Sometimes two situations can be given for the child to choose, such as "Do you want to be delivered by your father or mother today", "Will you walk by yourself or be carried by your mother", no matter which of the two choices he chooses, he will obey You go to kindergarten instead, which avoids the problem of whether or not to go to kindergarten, and makes him fall into your trap virtually and follow your request.

In addition, parents should not just refuse to send their children to kindergarten for a small reason, but let them realize that going to kindergarten is their "job". Just like parents go to work, they must go every day. Once they develop the habit, they will also overcome difficulty.If the child is caused by the first reason, then the child should see a psychologist for psychological counseling and game therapy.

The struggle and cry of being tired of studying
"I'm a sophomore in high school now. I'm under a lot of pressure to study. I'm really bad at math. I don't know what to do! I almost hate math now, but other classes are not bad. As long as I can score [-] or [-] in math, I can still pass the undergraduate exam. There is a chance, but now I have no confidence!
I have no idea about studying, and it hurts when I read the book, I want to learn but I can't, I am always distracted!I think it's a waste of time now!I also don't want to disappoint my parents. Now I don't know whether to study or not, and what to do if I don't study. What kind of school should I go to?
My grades are now in the top 10, and my class is in the top 70. Is it still interesting to continue studying?Can math make up?To be honest, I'm really not interested in mathematics. I like geography and history, and my grades are not bad. I also like foreign languages.

I don't know what to do, I don't want my parents to worry!They are all businessmen, and their family conditions are not bad.

What should I do?Annoyed!My math is poor, not because I don't practice, but my math foundation is not good.The teacher also said that I didn't study hard!I'm really not in the state of learning now, I want to learn, I try to adjust, but it doesn't work, I can't cheer up...

How to do?Is it interesting to read on?Woohoo!help me!Thanks! "

The voice of a child tired of studying
"I, girl, am now in the third grade of junior high school.

I am an only child, and my parents cherish me very much, so my psychological endurance is very poor.

I am introverted and very tired of studying. I was like this in elementary school.Because I was honest, all the girls in my class bullied me, and I dared not tell my parents.

I am in the first grade of junior high school, and I study hard every day, and my grades are not bad.But I was still afraid of going to school, because I was afraid that the teacher would not be able to answer the questions.I cried as soon as I got to school, and I couldn't sleep well at night, always waking up once or twice.In the next semester, I started playing truant.

In the second year of junior high school, I completely lost interest in learning and couldn't learn at all.His grades also plummeted.Of course I don't want to go to school.Started to miss classes often and call in sick.My parents had no choice but to look at me and sigh every day.

In the third grade of junior high school, the grades are already irreparable.I don't want to be on it at all.After all these years, I have had enough.Although I'm about to graduate, I've already reached my limit.

Lying in bed at night, I often cry.I have many dreams every day and wake up very tired.

I think about suicide every day, and I try, but I just can't do it.My parents also said I was scaring them, but I never thought of it that way.I really want to die, but I just don't have the courage.

Before I just didn't want to go to school, I also had a lot of hobbies.However, the only hobby now has gradually disappeared.Now I am not interested in anything, the world is dark to me.

...I haven't been to school for several days.

Now if you don’t take the high school entrance exam and go to a technical school, do you have to go to class differently?I have to face my classmates, I am afraid.

Because I can’t handle interpersonal relationships well, I usually don’t talk much, and I don’t know what to chat with others.So few friends.

What's wrong with me?Is it anorexia?Or something else?Should I go see a doctor?

What should I do next?I am going to collapse! "

good kids hate studying too
A middle school student left a letter to the teacher, expressing his gratitude to the teacher for his years of education, claiming that dropping out of school had nothing to do with the school, but he just didn't want to learn such words, and then jumped out of the wall in the middle of the night.

After the teacher found him and communicated with his parents, he found out that in the eyes of his parents, he was more filial and obedient, and he was also satisfactory in other aspects.Recently, because of one of his elder sisters, she studied hard, but she didn't go to university this year and went to work.In addition, he also has an older brother who is in high school, who has no knowledge and skills, and wants to go out and surf the Internet all day long.

Ordinary teachers are really powerless to deal with such students. Even professional consultants, I don't think it can be dealt with once or twice.It is like the "China Youth Daily" article "Coaxing the Earth Comes, Quickly Gone", just like Teacher Liu Meng's psychological intervention on the people after the disaster. These students have to do long-term work because there is no full-time psychological teacher in the school. Under the circumstances, the teacher has more things to do, so it is really not easy to do this job.

Some of these students have left, and some have stayed because of the effective work of the teachers.There was once a girl in the third year of high school who pulled her schoolbag and quilt outside the school.Just happened to be seen by her teacher, who called her to the office to communicate with her, and finally stayed.Although it is still doubtful whether the girl can be admitted to university in the end, she has completed her third year of high school after all, which may help her in her future life.

Positive guidance, empathy, understanding, and reasoning, to speak with facts, whether it is better to go to college or not, only a change in thinking, these students may be saved.

Students understand a lot of truths, but they just can't arouse their interest in learning.

When it comes to whether going to college is good or not, some counterexamples in society let students see that going to college is not necessarily better than not going to college, because many people who go to college can’t even find a job, while those who don’t go to college have money and cars There is work again.Therefore, these things in reality make the teacher's persuasion seem so weak.

What is the "fire graduation certificate"
A 80-minute video titled "Post-2s College Students Burning Graduation Certificates" once went viral on the Internet.The protagonist of the video, Xiao Zheng, graduated from a college in Hubei majoring in English education in 2005. He has been repeatedly frustrated in his job hunting for five years. In a fit of anger, he burned his university diploma, took a video of the process with his mobile phone, and uploaded it to On the Internet, it caused quite a shock among netizens.There were a lot of followers and discussions about this incident.

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