My beautiful boss and I

Lao Li said, "it's like walking in the fog in one's life. Looking from afar, one can't tell the direction, good or bad. However, when you summon up the courage, put down the fear and doubt, and move forward step by step, you will find that every step you take, you can see the next step more clearly. Tell yourself: go ahead, don't stand far away and wait! So you can find your direction.

"Remember, no matter how rich and powerful you are, at the end of your life, everything can only stay in the world, only the soul will follow you on the next journey. Life is not a material feast, but a spiritual cultivation, which makes it more noble at the closing ceremony than at the beginning of the opening ceremony.

"In today's world, material civilization is developed. On the surface, it is the happiest era in history. However, people are busy for the competition of survival, afraid for the destruction of war, and worried for the difficulty of filling the sea. In spirit, it can also be said that it is the most painful time in history. People are inexplicably born, helpless to live, and finally die

Listening to Lao Li's words, I thought hard.

Lao Li looked at me: "my son, Xiao Ke, my father told you that time goes forward, and the clock can't turn backwards, so as long as everything goes by, you can't turn back. In this world, even things that seem like looking back, are always faced with the completion. We can turn around, but we don't have to look back. Even if one day, you find that you are wrong, you should turn around and stride in the right direction, instead of turning back and complaining about your mistake.

"Remember! Life road, can't turn back! According to the book, the age of 17 is a turning point. Before that, all the happiness and sadness have nothing to do with the world, which is what you are born with. After that, you will be gradually ground into a fool. Happiness and sadness are distributed to you by a certain proportion of the world. You are already over 17 years old, you are a fool, now the sadness and happiness are assigned to you by the world, you must be aware of this

I said: "originally, I am a fool."

Old Li Le: "what do you think you are?"

I shook my head: "I don't know!"

Lao Li said: "let me tell you a story: a young man asked Zen master for advice: Master, some people say I am a genius, others call me a fool. What do you think? Zen master said: how do you see yourself? Young people are at a loss. Zen master said: life is like a kilogram of rice, in the eyes of cooks, it is bowls of rice; in the eyes of cake makers, it is baked cakes; in the eyes of wine merchants, it is wine. The rice is still that rice. Similarly, you are still you, how promising you are depends on how you look at yourself Son, do you understand the story? "

I nodded: "understand."

Lao Li said, "you must envy those carefree people, don't you?"

I said: "yes -"

Lao Li said: "envy is the crossroads of life, which leads to complaining on the left, jealousy on the right and happiness on the front. It's not wrong to envy others, but at the same time, don't despise your life. Your life is hard to come by. It also has happiness that other people can't have. Some people feel that they are not happy because they always see what they don't have in their eyes and ignore what they already have. "

I took a deep breath, stood up, stretched my waist, walked back and forth for a few steps, and then stood up in front of Lao Li: "Lao Li - let me ask you a question!"

"Call Daddy!"

"Lao Li -"

"unworthy son, ask!" Lao Li said helplessly.

"How can people live a meaningful life?" I said.

"This is a very conventional old topic. There are countless answers, including dialectical materialism, idealism, nobility and vulgarity. However, in my opinion, if people want to live a meaningful life, there are generally three ways: one is to dig a deep hole, that is, to achieve the ultimate in a field, like Chen Jingrun in mathematics and Yuan Longping The second is to accumulate more grain, which means to experience more life as much as possible. For example, Xu Xiake travels in the mountains and rivers, and Marco Polo walks in the world. The third is to seek development by opening up sources and reducing expenditure, which means to increase income, expand contacts, reduce expenditure and cherish time. " Lao Li said, "it's good that character decides fate, but I think that thought also decides fate."

"Thought decides fate?" I looked at Lao Li and sat back beside him.

"Yes." Lao Li said: "be careful of your thoughts, it will become your language; be careful of your words, it will become your actions; be careful of your actions, it will become your habits; be careful of your habits, it will become your character; be careful of your character, it will become your destiny. So, thought decides fate. "

I nodded in silence.

"A person's heart is tired, usually because he is artificially pressuring his mind. He cares too much about everything: he cares too much about the small friction between friends, too much about the occasional scolding of leaders, and too much about the anger of his family. If he remembers everything in life, how can he not be tired when he carries a heavy load? When we are unhappy with friends and relatives, if we fight each other head to head and try to break each other, it will only make our friendship and family relationship weaker and weaker. A little tolerance, a little light, please people and yourself. "Lao Li continued: "a person living in the world, is to have an ideal, is to have a dream, everyone's heart has a dream, the dream is beautiful, but the road to realize the dream is tortuous, countless people in the road to realize the dream encountered numerous twists and turns, even so, they still stride forward; in fact, a dream is a big goal set by a person We must face it seriously. If we persist and survive, our dream will come true. A person who realizes his dream is a successful person. "

I watched and listened to Lao Li.

Lao Li patted me on the shoulder and said meaningfully, "my son, you must remember that life is really very tired, but it depends on how you taste it. Every day, you can find more happiness and ignore your troubles. In the short period of several decades, why don't you face it smartly. Life has no if, only consequences and results. The reason why people are not happy may also be delayed by themselves. Too dedicated to a person, a love, a thing, how much youth can be wasted

Listening to Lao Li's words, I looked at the distant sea and fell into meditation

After a while, Lao Li said, "sometimes it's a good thing for you that your character is too real and your speech is too straight. But in officialdom, it's not necessarily good. Sometimes, you have to pay for your honesty."

I turned to Lao Li and said, "what do you mean by that?"

Lao Li said, "what I mean by this is that you should learn to tell lies when you are in officialdom."

"Lie?" I looked at Lao Li and repeated.

"Yes," Lao Li nodded.

"Why?" I said.

"For survival and development! For a foothold, for a better climb Lao Li said with a smile.

"Be specific!" I said.

"Call Daddy!"

"Lao Li!"

"Shit, you're stubborn." Lao Li made a helpless appearance and hit me on the head.

I laughed: "tell me, why should I learn to tell lies in officialdom?"

"Since people have learned to speak, the concept of telling the truth without telling lies has always been praised and advocated, and has become a basic standard of life and moral code in any country and society," Lao Li said. However, in fact, the phenomenon of telling lies has never stopped for a day. This is especially true in officialdom. When will the farce not be staged

"Well, it is!" I nodded.

"It's not an isolated phenomenon that people in officialdom don't tell the truth. A leader of the Central Committee once said that it is quite common for some cadres not to tell the truth. The main manifestation is that they talk about more achievements and less problems. Even when talking about problems, some people have obvious reservations, or even regard problems as achievements.

"In fact, it is a collective decision of a leading organ that some officials tell lies. One year, the national environmental protection inspection team arrived at a city in our province. On the one hand, the sewage in the water source protection zone flowed across the river, and smoke billowed from more than 30 coking plants. On the other hand, the vice mayor vowed that there were no industrial enterprises or sewage discharge in our water source protection zone. Later, the investigation found that the report was decided through collective research, and the vice mayor just followed the book and carried out the decision. " Lao Li said.

I laughed: "the group is lying! So why do officialdom lie? "

"In the final analysis, it's because of the official standard and the current cadre selection and assessment system," he said. In the official oriented officialdom, seeking power and status has become the standard for people to measure the success or failure of right and wrong, and the symbol for people to become successful people, celebrities and big figures. If they are not mature and familiar with the world, and are ready to tell the truth and show their personality, they will be called fools and peasants by others, become laughing stock and ignorant of current affairs, and fall into the cold palace.

"although the existing cadre selection mechanism has promulgated the so-called effective system, the situation of absolute truth has the final say. If a person in power wants to unify his personal thoughts, he must eliminate his dissidents. In order to protect their own interests, everyone will speak in the same tone with their superiors. Although they know that they are telling lies, they still need to speak down-to-earth and seriously. Whether it's rhetoric, or calling parents, whether it's money or gifts, or making personal promises, only by fawning on the bole who is a good leader can they make themselves a thousand Li Ma. Since we want to please, then lies are always more agreeable than the truth, and the real situation is not as satisfactory as lies. "

I think of Guan Yunfei, Lei zhengsun, dongkai and others. I can't help nodding: "HMM..."

Lao Li continued: "of course, leaders ask their subordinates to tell the truth. However, it is a request to tell the truth that is beneficial to him. We must not think that the leaders really have an open mind. Just as a woman asks her husband to tell the truth: am I really beautiful and gentle? If you really say that she is a female night fork, or just say the commonness and shortcomings of one two three realistically, I estimate that there will be no earthquake in the family and the cold war will last for several days.

"When the leader listens to the report, what he expects is not a headache for him. What he hopes to hear is the brilliant achievements he has made under his leadership. It's a feat to enter Jinan Prefecture and capture Wang Yaowu alive. The leader went on the investigation. Although he sat on the Kang and held the old man's hand, he seemed to love the people like his son, but it was more symbolic. We all knew whether we could solve the problem or not."Leaders demand to be realistic and pragmatic, but sometimes they can't be. They demand to tell the truth, but sometimes they can't. once they do, both sides will be embarrassed. Therefore, in dealing with such demands of leading comrades, although leaders are allowed to say infinitely correct words and put forward forever correct demands, they can not actually do so. Mutual understanding, Hello, I am good, complement each other. It's like treating an elderly person at home. Let him NAG and make him happy in his own way. "

I said: "you want me to call your father, but also want me to tell lies for peace and happiness, right?"

"Screw you! I really want you to call me dad! " Lao Li said.