Natural beauty, inspirational nature

Chapter 51
I think if I were the boss, I would definitely be able to distinguish between the stakes and who is right.

Those who can be the boss are the most intelligent people, even I think the boss must be a woman whose IQ and EQ are far above mine.

In this big game of business management, she is "ruthless" enough (there is no derogatory meaning here, even I can understand that sometimes such a strong hand is necessary as a manager), she understands that I am rare" Talented girl", and girls like me have a very high "loyalty" to the company, and they value "friendship".

But in order to reform the company's management system, she still mercilessly abandoned me and emptied my title of design supervisor, because she knew very well that the marketing manager was unwilling to let me, the design supervisor, "fly solo" Yes, he will tightly control the management right in his hand. She also knows that Xiao Ran is difficult to deal with and refuses to accept my management, so she can only find another male designer outside to carry this "big banner" for her. ".

The boss is from an operation background, and has her own aesthetic preferences and pursuits for the style and tone of design works. The "big banner" contestant she personally selected, if her own design ability is very good, it will be "like a tiger with wings" for her. Her own design ability is poor, and she also thinks it doesn't matter, and it will not affect the "big picture" she has set up.

Because she is more hoping to find a talent who understands overall planning and unified management, so that she can skip Manager Ding and other department leaders and directly connect with the design supervisor.Not surprisingly, that's what she did with the wiring in the first place, and she's achieved her goal now.

It's just that I don't know if she felt a little regret in her heart when she thought of losing my confidant and confidant for a moment when she was satisfied?

I think I've seen that the answer is a capital "NO".

After I helped her turn the tide for Jinqiu's themed project, she didn't seem to care very much. When she bumped into me in the elevator, she replaced the old signature "smile" and enthusiastic expression with "indifference" and silence. call.

At that moment, I deeply realized that businessmen seldom talk about feelings, and they will consider your career value and commercial value from the perspective of interests, and then decide what kind of attitude to treat you, that's all.

No matter how capable you are, in the heart of the boss, the world will not stop turning without you, and HR will naturally help her find someone who is more suitable to replace you.

The reality and cruelty of the workplace is that there are no eternal "friends" or eternal "enemies", only eternal "interests".Especially in large companies with fine division of labor, the most important thing is to maximize the economic efficiency of each fixed position.

Gradually, I became more and more aware that my situation in MG was getting worse, and it could even be described as difficult:
On the one hand, Bao Wenlong is narrow-minded and can't tolerate me. He always wants to overshadow me and create obstacles for me in every way, making it difficult for me to carry out my design work.

On the other hand, personnel also stepped in. The company hopes that the newcomers can fully replace the old ones, so whenever the HR manager sees that I have a disagreement with the director, he will show a look of "watching the fun, I'm afraid it won't make a big fuss." ", often indiscriminately helping newcomers to make things difficult for me and reprimanding me.

I knew very well in my heart that this was because the company didn't want to pay two high salaries at the same time, and was going to deliberately drive me away.

The most chilling thing is the boss's attitude towards me. Since the new design director came, the boss has never given me a good face. The old Bao deliberately said that "this is not good, that is not good". The boss believed everything, and I couldn't help but gasp.

But the company never took the initiative to fire me. I think that if I am willing to swallow my anger like this, I can definitely fight against these "demons and ghosts" until the end of the year, and then find another job next year.

As proud as I am, as self-respecting as I am, I can accept the normal fair competition mechanism in the workplace, but I can't stand these vicious competition mechanisms that rely on low-level methods to subdue opponents.

For me, design was originally a work that integrates creativity, aesthetics, and fun, but now only the bitterness of "intrigue" remains.

Originally, I thought that designers are like a group of ingenious blueprint makers. We use our ingenuity and artistic mind to describe the beauty of the world and build the beauty of the future, so no matter how much hard work we have to pay for this "beauty", I think it's worth the hard work and sweat.Because I feel it is worth it, I am full of energy every moment and welcome the rising of the sun every day with passion.

But now, this vitality and passion has been shattered by an evil spirit of fighting, and the daily work has lost the original simplicity and happiness for me.

I became more and more tired of this kind of meaningless struggle day after day, and finally woke up in a nightmare in a rainy morning, giving birth to the idea of ​​finding another job.

When I woke up, I had a splitting headache. My mother suddenly called me to ask about my work. I didn’t wake up, so I replied in a distracted way: It’s terrible. I probably have to consider changing my home.

My mother became anxious when she heard this, and her tone instantly became stern and severe: "Cheng Yifei, can't you be more stable? This unit has only been in business for more than a year, and you are going to change jobs again. They kicked you out. Or beat you and abused you? I haven't seen you honestly staying in the same unit for ten or eight years in so many years, tossing and tossing every now and then, are you tired?"

I thought to myself that if I didn't dance, I would be even more tired.Every time I hear that I have the idea of ​​leaving my job and changing jobs, no matter what the reason is, my mother will inevitably educate me on the phone.

Because in our family, the brothers and sisters of my mother’s generation are either teachers or doctors and nurses. They have been working in the same position for ten years. Almost no one will give up their iron rice bowl halfway and turn to do business or do something else. What a precedent.

What they have pursued all their lives is the word "stability".So she was particularly dissatisfied with my "frog bouncing" work status of "a small jump in two years and a big toss in four years".

If it weren't for the fact that every time I change jobs, I have a reasonable reason, and the salary will increase a lot, I would probably be a worthless, failed young man in her mind, a proper "LOSER" in life.

My mother has been rooted in the same small town and the same land all her life, and has never lived in a foreign country. She has wandered and worked hard. She doesn't know that most of the working people in this world actually live a life of wandering in other places and making the world their home.

Of course, we are not without a home, we all have a home called "home", but for the dream in our hearts, for a better life, we have to pack our bags and wander around, renting a house wherever we can make money.

Just like my father once, wandering in a foreign land for decades, traveled north and south, went to the snow-capped Heijiliao, and also stayed in the damp and dark alleys of S city.

There are 360 ​​professions in this world. Although it is said that every profession can be a champion, most of the jobs cannot be as stable and steady as teachers, doctors, and civil servants. They can stay in the same place and the same job steadily for ten years. One job is a lifetime.

Designer sounds like a very high-level profession, but it is actually just one of the many hardworking dogs. The only difference is that what we exchange with the boss is not "physical labor" but "mental labor".

But whenever mental work is excessive, what is tested is a person's overall physical fitness, commonly known as physical fitness.

Many people suffer from incurable cervical spondylosis and lumbar spondylosis at a young age due to long-term overtime work and staying up late. There are even individual designers who died suddenly in front of the computer due to continuous high-intensity overtime work day and night. Although it is an isolated case, it is shocking. Don't be alarmed.This also reflects from the side that our industry is not as glamorous and relaxed as the outside world imagines.

I said to my mother: "Everything has advantages and disadvantages. Over the years, I have traveled to many cities like a boy and experienced many hardships, but because of this, I have seen many different life scenery. Zi Feiyu, An Zhiyu's joy ?

If it can be stable, who wouldn't want to stay in the same unit for the rest of their lives? However, those irresistible and unpredictable external factors such as company mergers and acquisitions, internal personnel reorganization, boss breach of contract, etc. , how can you blindly blame me in a single line because I am not stable enough to persist in working well in the same position? "

"When is it? Are you still in the mood to write ancient poems with me?" After hearing what I said, my mother became even angrier: "You still have the nerve to talk about it? Who told you not to listen to my words and not apply for a teacher-training major? What kind of designer do you want to go to university to become? If you listen to me, you won’t have a fixed place to live and wander around. A girl’s family is floating outside all year round. I really worry about you! "

"But that's not my fault. I'm going to find another way out now. I'm trying to stop losses in time. The world is so big that no one is kept here, and I have my own place to stay. With my ability, I am completely qualified for the position of manager. , If I continue to stay here, I will have no future for development, and I will be pissed off every day, I am going to work, not looking for sin." I pleaded aggrieved.

My mother interrupted me angrily, and yelled into the phone: "What kind of future do you want? You are a girl who spends all her time trying to make ends meet. Your current salary is already pretty good, and you still expect yourself to climb higher. Where can I climb? I don’t even think about you. You are in your thirties. If you don’t settle down for me, find a partner, get married and have children early, and you still think about having a better room for improvement? What are you doing? Now that you are gone and lost your job, you have lost a lot of money! Do you want to listen to my words? If you don't listen, don't discuss your affairs with me in the future!"

After all, my mother hung up the phone involuntarily. Listening to the blind tone of "beep" on the other end of the phone, I felt very uncomfortable.

I really want to tell my mother that not everyone can jump to a higher-paying job after job-hopping, and that my daughter can show her talent to the applicant unit with her constantly increasing strength and get better development opportunities, which just proves that her daughter is willing to continue to work hard. A comprehensive talent who learns, keeps growing, and is determined to forge ahead is a so-called blue-chip stock with potential, not an ordinary talent who is content with mediocrity.

Employers do not suspect, suspects do not.Since the boss can give up my "pawn" for what she thinks is a greater benefit, I will also use my actions to tell her that the relationship between the boss and the employees seems to be "upper and lower", but in fact it is also a "cooperative" relationship. If you regard me as a "treasure", I will work hard to shine for you. If you regard me as a "grass", I don't need to be a cow or a horse for you, dedicating my precious years of passion.

Who said women are inferior to men?I secretly made up my mind that one day I will let her know that what she gave up was not an ordinary "little pawn", but a "female general" who has hidden potential and can be fully independent.

Parents will never be able to see clearly on this point, because their ideas are still stuck in the past. Whether it is career or marriage, they only want a stable life, not a grandeur.They would rather let you compromise and live in stealth, and they don't want you to take risks, charge forward, and strive to be a more outstanding person.

And in the secular concept, most people think that girls don't have to work so hard. Compared with you can achieve a great career, they hope that women can do an ordinary job with peace of mind and put more energy on The other half and above marriage and family.

So even though I have been divorced twice, I have suffered so much in these two wrong marriages, and even my life is hanging by a thread several times, my parents and family still believe that only marriage and men are the only safe haven and belonging for women.

And I think it's foolish to bet your future happiness entirely on men.After all, relying on mountains will fall, relying on everyone will run.

Each of us has to be responsible for our own life. Whether a relationship or marriage can be happy depends on the concerted efforts of two people who love each other to jointly manage and maintain it.Instead of relying on the unilateral support of the other half.

Marriage should not be the only way for people to achieve happiness. What "you have to get married when you reach the age of marriage" or "you have to start a family because your parents push you too hard" should not be the reason for marriage.

Marriage for the sake of getting married is the most stupid way, and it is also the culprit for many marriages that "faint" as soon as they are married, and they get married and leave quickly.

Facing the matter of remarriage, I think I must be cautious and cautious to avoid repeating the same mistakes. This is the experience and lessons I have spent in the first half of my life in exchange for blood and tears. Whenever I talk about this point of view with my mother, she never Listen carefully to a word.

Although I am divorced and my mother has suffered a lot with me, the biggest victim of this will always be myself. No one can replace the pain I have experienced, and no one can empathize with it, including the one who loves me the most. Neither can the family.

So every time I face an important juncture in life, I hope that I can think independently, make brave choices by myself, and be responsible for my own decisions.

(End of this chapter)