As a matchmaker, I'm not convinced by anyone

Chapter 169 Seeing my wife for the first ten years and my daughter-in-law for the next ten years

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In the mediation room, Jiang Feng looked at Kang Buping and the three of them and said, "After my evaluation, there are too many problems accumulated between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over the years. The difficulty of mediation is high-level, and a mediation fee of [-] yuan is required. Specifically, do you want to accept mediation? You can discuss it first, and call me after the discussion is over."

After finishing speaking, Jiang Feng opened the door and walked out.

As soon as Jiang Feng closed the door, Hu Jinhua couldn't help it anymore, and stared at Liu Lian angrily, "It's all because of you, the mediation fee of 10 yuan, how many years will my son have to work hard to save this money?"

Liu Lian also burst into anger when she heard the words, "I only blame me for everything. Could it be that this is my problem? If you look like a mother-in-law, how can we get to where we are today?"

Hu Jinhua immediately retorted: "Do you still see me as a mother-in-law? If you have the appearance of being a daughter-in-law and respect me a little bit, we will not be where we are today. That is to say, in this era, if we were in the past , a daughter-in-law like you will definitely have no good fruit to eat."

Not to be outdone, Liu Lian said: "Respect is mutual, you don't respect me, why should I respect you? You also know that this is a new era, stop holding on to the old feudal thinking, I don't follow that .”

Seeing that the two were pinching again regardless of the occasion, the veins on Kang Buping's forehead kept throbbing, and he growled in a low voice: "Can you two stop arguing? It's okay to quarrel at home, but come here and quarrel, is it embarrassing? "

Hu Jinhua opened his mouth to say something, but finally swallowed it back.

Liu Lian glanced at her husband, then looked at the crowd in the hall outside through the frosted glass, and shut up wisely, this is indeed not a place for quarreling.

"I have nothing to do with you, I don't think there is any need to discuss it anymore, I will go out and pay the money to accept the mediation, otherwise our family will break up sooner or later." Kang Buping said holding his breath.

After much deliberation, Hu Jinhua still couldn't bear to part with such a large sum of money, and quickly said: "Forget it, even if you work hard for three years, you may not be able to save so much money. It's not worthwhile to use it for mediation. Let's go back, since She doesn't want to see me, so I'll go back and pack my things and go back to my hometown in Guangdong Province to live."

Liu Lian wanted to go back when she heard the words, but she finally endured it.

Kang Buping shook his head and said, "Mom, the house in my hometown in Guangdong Province has long been dilapidated and dilapidated, and I can't live in it at all. How can I rest assured if you go back alone? Let's pay for mediation. As long as you can live in harmony, I will work hard no matter how hard I work. Tired."

Hu Jinhua also knows that it is unrealistic to go back to her hometown in Guangdong Province alone.

After all, it has been several decades since their Kang family moved from Guangdong Province to Jiangxi Province, and the house in their hometown is indeed dilapidated and uninhabitable. When Grandpa Kang Buping and his father were alive, they would occasionally go back to live in Grandpa’s house. .

Since their grandfather and father passed away, the family rarely went back to their hometown in Guangdong Province. The last time they went back was when Kang Buping got married.

It is reasonable to go back to live in the grandpa's house once in a while, but it is definitely not acceptable to live in the grandpa's house for a long time.

Is this money really worth spending?
It's all to blame for this prodigal daughter-in-law, the more Hu Jinhua thinks about it, the angrier she gets, and seeing Liu Lian as a daughter-in-law becomes even more distasteful!
Liu Lian was also distressed by the money, and she also attributed the reason to her mother-in-law, who was also displeased.

Seeing this, Kang Buping had a headache. Anyway, he had no choice but to turn to Master Jiang for help, hoping that his mediation would be effective, otherwise the family would be wiped out by his mother and wife sooner or later.

So, he stopped asking for their opinions, opened the glass door directly, and said to Jiang Feng who was sitting in front of the computer: "Master Jiang, we have already discussed it, please come in."

When Jiang Feng entered the mediation room, Kang Buping directly stated his decision, "Master Jiang, we are willing to accept mediation, but I don't know what to do?"

Jiang Feng nodded and said: "Old rules, let's go one by one first, let's start with Ms. Hu!"

Hearing this, Kang Buping and Liu Lian didn't need Jiang Feng to say more, they opened the door and went out to wait.

After they went out, Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua and said, "Ms. Hu, from what you said before, I heard that you are really dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law. Maybe your original intention was for their benefit, but from my point of view, I think you did something wrong!"

Hu Jinhua was a little dissatisfied and said, "Master Jiang, tell me what I did wrong?"

"Ms. Hu, as the saying goes, 'Ten years to see the wife, ten years to see the daughter-in-law', you must have heard of this saying?"

Jiang Feng looked at Hu Jinhua, and said lightly: "The first ten years can be said to be the most difficult time for a new daughter-in-law and the most in need of help. She is new here, unfamiliar with the place, alone and helpless. Similarly, she was a first-time wife, first-time daughter-in-law, first-time mother, and everything started from scratch.

At this time, as a mother-in-law, she should be more considerate and tolerant, and try her best to help her daughter-in-law integrate into the family.

For example, eating habits, since what you cook doesn't suit her taste and she doesn't know how to cook it herself, don't be too harsh on her ordering takeaway.

Moving from place to place, if you are a daughter-in-law and she is a mother-in-law, she cooks all local spicy dishes, and you can’t eat spicy food. If you order a takeaway at your own expense, she will accuse you of spending money indiscriminately. What is it like in your heart? "

Hu Jinhua was silent for a while, and her heart was somewhat touched. After all, she was also a daughter-in-law for many years, and she also experienced how difficult it is to be a daughter-in-law.

When she was the most difficult and felt the most wronged, she secretly vowed in her heart that she would never make things difficult for her daughter-in-law in the future, and she would not let her daughter-in-law be wronged.

But after she really becomes a mother-in-law, the conflicts that should arise between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will still arise...

"There is also childcare, which is definitely the number one contradiction among mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. According to your daughter-in-law, although you did a lot of things when she was in confinement, she didn't accept your favor. Do you know why?"

Jiang Feng didn't wait for her to answer, and said the answer directly, "Because you didn't look in the right direction, so it's useless to do more. At that time, what you should do is to bring more children so that your daughter-in-law can have a good rest and recover. .

Instead of spending a lot of time every day shopping for food, cooking and cleaning. "

Hu Jinhua said with a full face of grievance: "At that time, the child was young, and she slept when she was full, and she didn't need to take it with her when she woke up. I tried my best to make delicious food for her so that her body could recover as soon as possible. Can you blame me too?"

Jiang Feng sighed: "Ms. Hu, this is the difference in concept between the two generations, and also the difference of the times. When you were in confinement, you may not only have to take care of your own children, but you may also have to do other things.

So, when your daughter-in-law is in confinement, you finish everything and help take care of the children when you have time. I feel that this is the best way. The daughter-in-law should be grateful to you instead of complaining.

This doesn't mean that you are wrong, it can only mean that you didn't grasp the mind of your daughter-in-law.

This principle is the same as cooking. If you work hard to cook a large table of dishes that the guests don't like, the effect is not as good as cooking only one dish that the guests like. "

Hu Jinhua didn't understand it at first, but she didn't realize it until she heard the metaphor of cooking.

"There is also the concept of parenting, which is also the hardest hit area of ​​conflicts. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't understand each other's way of raising children, and the thoughts instilled in the children, or they don't remember gratitude at all when they are well-beared, and only accuse and scold if they are not good. .

The daughter-in-law can't see the mother-in-law's doting on the child, the mother-in-law can't see the daughter-in-law's strictness to the child, and so on.

This is a problem in many families. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can only be considerate and tolerant of each other. After all, the goals of both parties are the same, and they are all for the good of the children. "

Speaking of this, Jiang Feng felt that he had said the same thing, so he made a final conclusion: "Ms. Hu, in short, you must keep in mind this sentence: I will see my wife in the first ten years and my daughter-in-law in the next ten years. If you help me to be young and ignorant , I will make you old and carefree, if you deceive me when I am young and ignorant, I will make you old and have nothing to rely on."

Jiang Feng said this sentence loudly, and Hu Jinhua's expression was moved when he heard it.

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