As a matchmaker, I'm not convinced by anyone

Chapter 493 How Poor Are Marriage Websites?
Tokyo, Japan.

A specialty restaurant.

Li Shuixiu and Jiang Feng were eating and chatting.

Li Shuixiu asked, "Jiang Feng, are you visiting Tokyo?"

Jiang Feng said: "Yes, and no, I am a matchmaker. I came to Tokyo to match a client. Traveling is just a matter of chance."

Li Shuixiu was surprised and said, "Isn't it? Jiang Feng, you are actually a matchmaker? And now you're doing cross-border matchmaking?"

She has lived in China for more than [-] years, and a relative of her family once worked as a matchmaker on a domestic dating website, so she knows everything about the current situation of domestic matchmakers, but she basically knows everything she should know.

Generally, full-time matchmakers are usually married women over the age of 35. There are not no male matchmakers, but the number is much smaller than that of female matchmakers.

As for those matchmakers on dating sites and dating agencies, they are relatively young, but those matchmakers are very different from traditional matchmakers.

Especially the matchmaker on the dating website, it is really cheating people to death. To put it bluntly, it is not much better than those pyramid schemes. The difference is that cheating money does not restrict your personal freedom.

According to her family's relative who worked as a matchmaker on a dating website, they have to undergo training after entering the job, and the content of the training is to listen to how other matchmakers call.

Matchmakers all have a fixed script, which they have to read to each other when they make a phone call, and they also need to make flexible adjustments according to the chat situation. Isn’t this very similar to pyramid schemes?
When making a phone call with a client, the matchmaker’s way of speaking is to tell the other party first: “I see that you have registered with our APP, we pay close attention to you, and feel that your conditions are very good, but the information is not complete…”

Set up other people's information, such as place of origin, work, income, family background, etc., which is the information that is usually asked on a blind date.

When chatting, you have to show enthusiasm, and everything is for their own good. Tell him that there are good people in this industry, and introduce others to build virtue for yourself, and then say that you are more anxious, so that’s why Will contact you for such words.

After explaining this clearly, start the routine, such as first boasting to the other party that you are in good condition, why you are still single until now, and by the way, talk about when you broke up and the reason for the breakup.

The matchmaker is to block the customer's way from work, life, and family during the chat process: for example, ask if there is someone you like at work, and then explain the reason why you are not together, and must lead the direction to you at work Can't find a suitable person in .

Are there any friend introductions in life, and if so, why didn't they succeed, and then block this road.

Then there is no introduction from the family. Generally speaking, if the introduction from the family is successful, you will not be single, so you will tell him that maybe the introduction from the family is not the type you like, just urging you to find a partner.

In this way, the customer's roads are blocked in all aspects in the early stage, and the customer is brainwashed to instill a concept that you will definitely not find a partner in reality. If you don't look for it from us, you may die alone.In this way, if you introduce someone to him later, he will have no reason to refuse.

Next, the matchmaker will ask the customer what type he likes, and immediately tell the customer after finding out: "We just have a new member here", and then describe it as the customer's exact match.

If it is aimed at male customers, the matchmaker will introduce occupations that ordinary families will like, that is, occupations that are relatively easy to marry, such as kindergarten teachers, nurses, bank staff, customer service, etc., which are relatively simpler than the working environment.

In short, the matchmaker will make up a person according to his mate selection criteria. When he first became a matchmaker, he might not be able to make up such a person, but after he becomes a senior matchmaker, he can make up a person by opening his mouth.

For example, if the man is a truck driver, the matchmaker can make up a story: "There just happened to be a girl here who did the information verification. She works as a kindergarten teacher and has a relatively stable job. She looks very gentle and speaks softly. But people No one is perfect, there must be some shortcomings!"

The matchmaker will often make up some shortcomings. For example, the girl may be a little short, a little shorter than you ask, but a little short is actually acceptable to everyone.If everything is in line, customers may instead suspect that there is something wrong, or that it is a little different from his expectations. As long as the gap is not too big, they will believe it.

There are very few customers in small cities, and the matchmaker can only get two or three customers per day. The job of the matchmaker is to make phone calls with these two or three people all day long.

Generally speaking, the matchmaker can call one or two people to the store by phone a day.

And these customers will come, nine out of ten are to meet the girl made up by the matchmaker.

After "cheat" people into the store, there will be another department and personnel to receive them.

This reception is in a small dark room with a sofa, where two people sit face to face and chat.The content of the chat is basically the same as the routine on the phone. They will show some so-called membership information to the guests and block the way in all aspects.

This kind of conversation can generally last for a long time, and it is normal to chat for two or three hours.

During this time, they will constantly create anxiety and rush you all the time.When recommending the package later, I will tell the customer that the price is half of the price paid by the other party. In fact, it is not at all.

The lowest package price is more than 6000 yuan, and the high one is [-] to [-] yuan.

When they lie to customers to sign the contract, they always say that they will help you find it. In fact, the package is that within a certain period, you can see a few people in a month.They don’t care if the person they meet is suitable for you. They just gather together members who have paid for it. If they can’t get together, they can’t help it. Most people can’t find it, and they are just cheated. money.

Therefore, some old members often come to make trouble in the store, which is basically the word "drag", which is the same in the whole industry.When customers come to make trouble, the leader is also quite rogue. If you make trouble, you can make trouble, but how can you get the money back?

There are also customers who are more cautious at the beginning and choose more than 6000 packages, but if they find that your spending power is relatively good, they may not be in a hurry to fool you into paying 6000 to [-] at the beginning, and will let you buy [-] first. , After meeting a few people, I will tell you that the money is not enough. If you pay another sum, there are a few better resources that can be introduced to you to get a second sum.

Sometimes they make up things about themselves, like I'm a single mom and how hard it is to raise kids on my own.Because many customers are divorced, it is easy to be empathized by the salesperson. In addition, if everyone has similar emotional experiences, it is easier to get closer. Many deceptions are based on trust.

Li Shuixiu's relative has a bit of a conscience. When she met a miserable client, she really couldn't bear to lie to him. In addition, her work experience tortured her conscience, and she even cheated to the point of self-loathing. , They simply resigned and quit.

Compared with dating websites, matchmakers in dating agencies are a little more reliable. At least they don’t make up a random person to deceive customers. They just match up with the original resources.

As for whether you will live happily ever after you become one, that's not the matchmaker's business to worry about.

At this time, Jiang Feng had already read Li Shuixiu's matching information, and knew her current situation clearly. He said with a smile: "Sister Li, are you surprised that I am a matchmaker at a young age? After all, I am a matchmaker. The impression is that they are all elderly married women."

Li Shuixiu said: "I'm really a little strange, especially since you have developed into a cross-border matchmaker. Are you a matchmaker on a dating website?"

Jiang Feng shook his head and said, "No, I opened a dating agency in our Gui Province. I have a pretty good reputation in China and have helped many clients find happiness. This client in Tokyo was actually recommended by a friend, and then I personally flew to Gui Province to invite you. I'm here to help her as a matchmaker."

Li Shuixiu praised: "Amazing!" Whether she believed it or not, she couldn't question it face to face.

Jiang Feng knew her current knot, and said: "Actually, besides being a matchmaker, I also work part-time as a fortune teller, and what I'm best at is marriage, so fans also nicknamed me Master Jiang.

I just saw your face, Sister Li, and found that your marital status is a bit unsatisfactory. It is fate that we met in a foreign country.

If you need it, Sister Li, I can help you calculate your marriage in detail and give the best advice. If you don't need it, forget it. "

Li Shuixiu really wondered if she had encountered a liar when she just heard Jiang Feng say that he was also a part-time fortune-teller, especially good at marriage.

But then Jiang Feng said that her marital status was unsatisfactory, and Li Shuixiu was a little uncertain. After all, only she really knew what her marital status was.

Besides, the encounter between her and Jiang Feng was really just a coincidence, and there was no possibility that they would deliberately set up a trick for her to deceive her.

Based on this inference, Jiang Feng probably really knows how to read and tell fortunes, and is quite accomplished, otherwise he would not "brazenly" say that he would help her calculate the marriage in detail and give the best advice.

Thinking of this, Li Shuixiu said: "I didn't expect you to be a master of fortune-telling, what a disrespect! Then please ask Master Jiang to help me calculate my marriage fate!"

Jiang Feng smiled and said, "It's easy to say, please provide me with your birthday horoscope, Sister Li, and I will give you a proper calculation after dinner."

Li Shuixiu nodded, and after reporting her birthday, she warmly greeted Jiang Feng and the others to eat.

After eating almost, Jiang Feng began to help Li Shuixiu "calculate".

After professionally pinching his fingers for 3 minutes, Jiang Feng looked at Li Shuixiu and said, "Sister Li, I have basically figured out your situation. You chose to marry far away to Japan in spite of your parents' strong opposition back then. You thought you would live an ideal life." Live happily, but the life after marriage is not as beautiful as imagined.

You can't follow the Romans and integrate into the Japanese society. You are doted on by your parents. After marriage, everything should be dominated by your husband. You can't adapt to the status of a housewife.

The most important thing is that you find that your husband doesn't love you as much as you imagined, and what you pay for is the other party's cheating, and you feel like a joke.

During this period of time, you have always wanted to divorce, but you have not really taken this step because of various scruples. I don’t know if I am right? "

Li Shuixiu was shocked when he heard that, what the other party said was accurate, as if he had seen it with his own eyes, this is really unbelievable, there is still such a powerful master of fortune-telling hidden in the country?
The key is that this master of fortune-telling is still so young!

Li Shuixiu exclaimed: "Master Jiang, you are amazing. You are absolutely right. My current marital status is like this. I have always wanted to divorce, but I talked too much in front of my parents back then. Now it is really true that I am divorced and return to China in despair." What a shame!
Besides, the child was brought to such an age by me. If I divorced, I would definitely be reluctant to part with the child, but if I take the child away, let alone whether I can win over him, even if I successfully won the custody of the child I'm afraid I won't be welcomed by my parents if I take it back to China.

This is the main reason why I have been hesitant to make up my mind to divorce. "

Both Baili Wutong and Guo Bingbing were accustomed to Li Shuixiu's amazement. They had seen too many times the magical calculation ability possessed by their boss!
Jiang Feng said: "Sister Li, let's sort out the two questions you mentioned one by one. First of all, you are divorced and returned to the country without face to face your parents. I don't think you need to be too strong, Sister Li. In front of your parents What's the shame of bowing your head?

In this world, only parents are the most tolerant to their children. They will choose to forgive you no matter what you do wrong. What's more, you just married the wrong person. They will only feel sorry for how much you have suffered and suffered over the years. Wronged. "

Hearing this, Li Shuixiu's eyes turned slightly red. She knew that Jiang Feng was right. Based on her understanding of her parents, if she divorced and returned to China, her parents would definitely keep silent about her choices back then, and only care about her food over the years. How much suffering and how much grievance.

This is what she is actually afraid of. If her parents choose to scold her or use the old words to make fun of her, she will not feel so uncomfortable.

I just heard Jiang Feng continue: "As for the second question, you are afraid that your parents will dislike their children because they are of Japanese descent. This does make sense, after all, the hatred between Japan and our country is not so easy to smooth out.

But it's useless to avoid this matter. In the end, you still have to choose to face it.

What's more, people's hearts are fleshy. If you bring your child back to China, even if the parents don't like it at first, they will have feelings after getting along for a long time.

And a child grows up in our country and accepts our country's education and culture, then he is an authentic Chinese. "

After hearing these words, Li Shuixiu nodded again and again. The reason why she was unable to make a decision was because she couldn't discuss this issue with her family and friends.

When people are confused, a suggestion from a friend is like a guiding light, and now Li Shuixiu has a similar feeling.

(End of this chapter)