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Chapter 159 Part Two
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Chapter 4 Psychological Strategy 4: Perfectly Control the Psychological Game of Others
Section [-] Grasp the propriety and send favors
Mental Wisdom Call:

Emotional investments should be recurring.In people's communication, it is indispensable, and it must not seem to exist, but to focus on the small and detailed, and always fall into the real place.

Skillful in control:

When asking for help and doing things, human relations are very important.But giving favors requires not only knowing how to measure, but also knowing the art.What to send, how much to send, when to send, and how to send are all learned.Whether it is a favor given unintentionally or a favor given intentionally, there is a question of how the other party feels and how to recognize it.The most important thing in giving favors is the feelings of the other party. Although the warmth of a charcoal and the grace of a drop of water in the midst of difficulties may seem small, they are so precious that they are willing to send each other back and repay each other with springs.

We make a living and establish a world in society, and we all have some needs in our hearts, some light, some serious; some urgent, some slow.When we encounter help from others in a difficult situation, we are often grateful in our hearts, and even we will never forget it.Sending a radish when you are on the verge of starvation and a mountain of gold when you are rich are completely different in terms of inner feelings.

Before the Three Kingdoms came to power, Zhou Yu was just a small nest chief under Yuan Shu, equivalent to a county magistrate.

At this time, there was a famine in the local area. The people living in the nest had no food to eat, they could only eat bark and grass roots. Many people died of starvation, and the soldiers also lost their combat effectiveness due to hunger.Zhou Yu, as a parent officer, saw this tragic situation and was flustered, not knowing what to do.

Someone suggested that there was a benevolent rich man nearby, Lu Su. His family was always rich, and he must have hoarded a lot of food, so it is better to borrow from him.

Zhou Yu brought his men to visit Lu Su. Lu Su saw that Zhou Yufeng was handsome and talented, and he would become a great talent in the future. So he laughed and said, "This is a trivial matter, I promise to do it."

Lu Su personally took Zhou Yu to check the granary.At this time, the Lu family had two warehouses of grain, each with three thousand hu, and Lu Su said happily, "Don't worry about borrowing or not. I will give you one of the warehouses." Zhou Yu and his men saw how generous he was. Da Fang was stunned, you know, in a famine year, food is life!Zhou Yu was deeply moved by Lu Su's words and deeds, and the two immediately became friends.

Later, Zhou Yu became a general of the Eastern Wu, bearing in mind Lu Su's kindness, and recommended him to Sun Quan, and Lu Su's life changed dramatically.

We should not only sympathize with those who are in trouble, but also take practical actions to help them tide over the difficulties.This kind of behavior of giving charcoal in a timely manner and sharing worries and problems is most likely to arouse the gratitude of the other party, and then gain precious friendship.But we must also grasp the sense of proportion and skill when sending favors.

First, those who drink enough water from the well tend to leave the well, so you should control it appropriately so that he is always a little thirsty so that he can feel dependent on you.Once you lose your dependence on you, maybe you will no longer be respectful to you.Therefore, it is necessary to achieve "fine water and long flow".

Second, if you are a superior and you have some people under your command, and they all hope to get some benefits from you, how should you give them favors?Give them a little favor often, but not all their desires at once; otherwise, they will not be grateful for the favors you bestow upon them.

Third, the kindness to others is too heavy. On the one hand, it will make him feel inferior because he is unable to repay.On the other hand, it will also make him tired of you.

Fourth, when giving small favors to others, don't let them think that you are trying to curry favor with them.In this way, the favor you give is worthless.

Fifth, when you have to entrust others with troublesome things, it is not worthwhile to rush to give favors. Even if the other party has done the entrusted matter well, the next time you entrust them with something, you will have to send it again. Affection is like buying and selling favors.If the favor given is too stingy and cannot bear the price the other party has to pay, he will often refuse it straight away.

(End of this chapter)