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Chapter 186 Part Two
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Chapter 8 Psychological strategy 8: Knowing people with discerning eyes, using people first to see people

Section [-] This is how to establish your prestige
Mental Wisdom Call:

Only by establishing one's own authority among subordinates can one achieve the goal of controlling subordinates.

Skillful in control:

A department manager of a company borrows a company car to attend a meeting.While he was in a meeting, the car parked outside was impounded by the police for obstructing traffic.The manager was petrified because he knew the car would be used the next day and only the head of administration had the authority to issue the fines needed to get the car back.

The leader of the administrative department originally only needed to sign a small cash receipt immediately, but he wanted to take this opportunity to show his authority and let the secretary pretend that he was holding an important meeting so that he would not be disturbed.The department manager had no choice but to wait.The so-called "meeting" was over, and the leader of the administrative department did not handle it immediately, but questioned the department manager for a long time before agreeing to sign.

This use of authority caused a change in the department manager's attitude, and he was no longer as domineering as before.

This story tells us: When others need you, they have no choice.Any opportunity you have the right to say "yes" or "no" is an opportunity to demonstrate your authority. At this time, you may wish to establish your authority by putting on airs.

When it comes to bosses and leaders, most people feel that they are arrogant and full of bureaucracy.Moreover, people are always accustomed to use "high airs" to describe some bosses who are out of touch with the masses and arrogant.However, shelf is not just a negative thing, but has its positive and subtle meaning, and it has become a very effective way for the boss to manage his subordinates.

The shelf can actually be understood as a sense of distance.Many bosses consciously keep a distance from their subordinates to make subordinates realize the existence of power hierarchy and feel the dominance and authority of their bosses.And this kind of authority is absolutely necessary for the boss to consolidate his position and promote his own system and ideas.If the boss is too accommodating and does not pay attention to establishing the authority over his subordinates, the subordinates are likely to be lazy, procrastinate, or even deliberately sabotage because of belittling the authority of the boss.Therefore, it is beyond reproach for the boss to show his power through airs, and then effectively exercise the power. It is also very necessary for the boss to perform his duties well.

Leaders put on airs can make themselves appear more mysterious.Because leaders are at the focus of various interests and contradictions, if they want to achieve their goals, they must know how to hide themselves so that their scheming will not be seen through.If a subordinate can easily figure out the psychology of the boss, he is likely to use it to achieve some purpose of his own, thereby endangering or destroying the realization of the boss's intention.The best way not to expose yourself is to increase the distance with your subordinates, reduce contact, and keep yourself in a state of mystery.

Putting airs in the air is also a way to establish authority.A good way to defeat the other side without showing it is to pretend to be powerless to their demands. This obstructive powerlessness can also create an impression of "power".

"I have no right to...", "It would be irresponsible for me to do this", "I don't think it is appropriate to do this", these three sentences respectively give people the impression of authority, responsibility and decency, and further say , this claim is unlikely to be challenged.

Of course, you don't have to explain your principles in a hostile manner. You should show your regret, and even supplement it with sympathetic tears if necessary.

The following sentences can show your sympathy without losing the principle of doing things:

"Personally, I sympathize with you, but you know the rules..."

"I wish I could help you..."

"I've racked my brains, but I can't do anything..."

"You also know that the regulations in this area are very strict..."

"Unfortunately, we have no regulations in this regard..."

"Sorry, I can't..."

The advantage of these language skills is that they are applicable to all people, and even the lowest subordinates can leave an authoritative impression on the other party.

Only by establishing one's own authority among subordinates can one achieve the goal of controlling subordinates, because only with authority can there be awe and obedience.

(End of this chapter)