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Chapter 52 Part [-]
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Chapter 10Interrogation Scene 10: Hidden Rules for Interrogation in the Workplace
In the fourth quarter, the real purpose of the borrower is asked
Mini scene house:
Find out the reality of the colleague who suddenly borrowed money from you.

Question story session:
Xiao Li and Xiao Zhao are colleagues in the same company. Because they are not in the same department, their relationship is not close.But on this day, Xiao Li borrowed money from Xiao Zhao.

Xiao Li: "Brother, I want to trouble you with something, can I do it?"

Xiao Zhao: "If you have anything to say, just say it, we are all colleagues."

Xiao Li: "Okay, I'll just say it. Money is a little tight recently, can you lend me some money?"

As soon as Xiao Zhao heard that he was borrowing money, he made careful calculations in his heart.Borrowing money is not impossible, but usually the two don't have much contact, and they are not very familiar with each other. It is strange to suddenly say that borrowing money, he has to ask clearly.

Xiao Zhao: "Oh, this matter, we are all colleagues, so we can talk about anything. I remember that you were the best in your department last month. You have a lot of bonuses and salary. Why are you suddenly short of money?"

Xiao Li: "How many are there? Not many."

Xiao Zhao: "Is that money for the family, or is there something urgent?"

Hearing Xiao Zhao's question, Xiao Li suddenly faltered.He just said intermittently: "There is something urgent, there is something urgent." But he didn't say what it was.

Xiao Zhao felt that his purpose of borrowing money might not be right. At this time, he suddenly remembered that he had heard people say that Xiao Li had been in contact with female netizens he met on the Internet these days and spent a lot of money every day. It is for this reason.If it was really because of this, Xiao Zhao would not want to lend him money.However, he didn't say it outright.

"Well, I have to save you for something urgent, but there is something I haven't told you yet. I met a few netizens recently, and they played very well, and money is tight. You also know that young people always love to play. Yes, what do you say?"

"That's right, I've been like this recently, and I also met a netizen, who spent a lot of money."

As soon as Xiao Zhao heard it, he understood that he had decided not to lend him money.When Xiao Zhao was trying to figure out how to say this, the phone rang, and he immediately acted like the person on the phone was looking for him urgently.

"Oh, what a coincidence. I have a friend who has an urgent matter with me, and I have to go now. The money matter will be delayed for a few days, or you can ask someone else. It's really a coincidence."

As soon as Xiao Li heard this, he said that it was all right, and left resentfully.

Wonderful question:

Sometimes, it is troublesome to borrow money between colleagues. Whether to borrow or not depends entirely on the intention of the other party and whether you can see his heart clearly.

Xiao Li and Xiao Zhao didn't know each other well, but Xiao Li suddenly asked Xiao Zhao to borrow money. Xiao Zhao asked Xiao Li why he borrowed money, but Xiao Li didn't say it directly. There was a problem.Generally speaking, the party who borrows money will state the purpose and use of the borrowed money in order to dispel the doubts of the other party and successfully borrow the money.But Xiao Li in the story hesitated about why he borrowed money.In order to find out why Xiao Li borrowed money, Xiao Zhao went around in circles to find out his details.

Xiao Zhao first tentatively asked whether it was something at home or something else, and Xiao Li said perfunctorily that it was something urgent.If there is something urgent but you don't say it directly, it means that the matter is either really important, or the other party is deliberately hiding something.Because Xiao Zhao has heard that Xiao Li has gotten very close to netizens recently, so Xiao Zhao guesses that this may be the reason.Xiao Zhao deliberately hypothesized that he had made friends with a few netizens recently, played very aggressively, and spent a lot of money, so he took advantage of the opportunity to ask Xiao Li's opinion on his behavior.Unexpectedly, the other party was caught in the trick and told the truth that the purpose of borrowing money was to be with netizens.

The reason why Xiao Li didn't tell the real reason why he borrowed money at the beginning was that Xiao Zhao knew that he would refuse to borrow money because of netizens, so he kept hiding it.But I didn't expect Xiao Zhao to trick him out of his real purpose by beating around the bush, and he would definitely not be able to borrow the money.

In life, everyone may encounter the matter of borrowing money.In order to borrow money, some people will make up all sorts of strange reasons:
1. "Dude, my money is tied up in stocks, and I'm a little tight recently, can you lend me some?"

When encountering this kind of reason for borrowing money, you must be very careful. First, it is impossible to confirm whether the other party is really in financial distress due to stock reasons; second, if you are trapped once, there is a possibility of being trapped twice. Are you sure you will get back the loaned money? ?

2. "Dude, I'm asking for a friend, are you financially well off now?"

Borrow money under the guise of another person.If it is true that a friend is in need of relief, why does he not lend it, instead of borrowing from others?There may be reasons why it cannot be said directly.

3. "Are we friends?"

Some people don't directly say the reason for borrowing money, but ask about the relationship between the other party and themselves, with the intention of deliberately blocking other people's mouths.Be especially careful when you meet such a person. After borrowing money, he may use other excuses to prevaricate you.

Therefore, when we encounter a colleague borrowing money from us, we must not directly agree, but we must be patient and carefully inquire about the other party's real purpose.If the colleague really has an urgent need, as a friend, it is appropriate to send charcoal in the timely manner.If the person does not know self-love or financial management, do not lend him money.Whether to borrow or not depends entirely on the purpose of the other party. If you can see through his heart, many things will be much easier to handle.

(End of this chapter)