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Chapter 53 Part [-]
Previous: Questioning skills: how to speak so that others will listen, how to listen so that others will speak
Chapter 10Interrogation Scene 10: Hidden Rules for Interrogation in the Workplace
Section [-] Consciousness with Reason and Motivation with Emotion: The Emotional Offensive in Rejection

Mini scene house:
How to deal with special requests made by colleagues on the spur of the moment.

Question story session:
Wang Ziming and Li Qiang work in the same company. They have a close relationship and can be called "best friends".Li Qiang's girlfriend is also in this company, and the two have been dating for more than a year, and their relationship is growing day by day.

One day, Li Qiang said to Wang Gang with a gloomy face, "Are we good friends?"

"Yes! What's wrong with you? You look so ugly." Wang Ziming felt bad.

"The director is not human, I want to kill him, can you help me?"

Wang Ziming was startled, and quickly asked what was going on.It turned out that Li Qiang's girlfriend was bullied by the director of the office. Li Qiang, who is full of energy, couldn't swallow this breath, but the director was tall and strong. He was afraid that he couldn't handle it alone, so he came to Wang Ziming for help.Wang Ziming thought that if he refused him immediately, the relationship between the two would be over, but thinking that Li Qiang was impulsive and did not consider the consequences at all, Wang Ziming decided to find a breakthrough to persuade him.

"Do you love your girlfriend?" Wang Ziming asked tentatively.

"Of course I love you!" Li Qiang replied angrily.

"Really? I don't think you love her."

"What?" Li Qiang was so angry that he could hardly speak.

"You don't care about her pain at all."

"I don't want to kill anyone regardless of her pain." Li Qiang roared.

"Joke, do you think you killed because of her? Actually it was because of you, because you felt ashamed. You are better, if you kill someone, you will either be shot or go to jail, leaving her alone and being bullied Do you think you still love her like this?"

Li Qiang couldn't say a word.

"Let's do this," Wang Ziming strikes while the iron is hot, "Go to the court to sue him, I will do my best to help you, and the law will definitely punish him."

Li Qiang finally calmed down, heeded Wang Ziming's advice, and used the law to seek justice for his girlfriend.

Wonderful question:

Wang Ziming cleverly used Li Qiang's psychology of loving his girlfriend deeply and wanting to avenge her, analyzed the possible consequences of his actions, and made him understand that seeking help from the law is the best way, thus giving up his reckless plan.

When a smart person rejects others, he can always make people accept it without hurting their feelings.

Among the three relationships among office leaders, colleagues, and subordinates, colleagues have more opportunities to say "no".Handling the word "no" well is related to whether there is a good interpersonal environment.Generally speaking, there is a certain skill in saying "no", but it is really difficult to say "no" to colleagues who are usually with you all the time.However, sometimes, a colleague's strong request is due to his temporary hotheadedness, as long as he takes a reasonable method to point it out to him, he is still willing to accept it.

Wang Ziming and Li Qiang in the example are like this.Because his girlfriend was bullied by the director, Li Qiang wanted Wang Ziming to help him kill the director in a fit of anger.Usually, when people encounter similar situations, they are always angry, and impulsiveness makes people lose their minds. At this time, Li Qiang is irrational.He always thought of killing the office director so that he could get justice for his girlfriend.What he didn't expect was the consequences of doing so: he became a murderer and was shot; his girlfriend became alone and might be bullied.

It is precisely after seeing this point that Wang Ziming did not lose his rationality with Li Qiang when he faced the angry Li Qiang, but instead asked him whether he loves his girlfriend or not.Li Qiang was very surprised by this question. He had this monologue in his heart: I did this for my girlfriend, otherwise why would I be so angry?
This kind of psychology is reflecting his not sober thinking, he has been dazzled by anger, unable to consider the seriousness of the consequences.In order to make Li Qiang realize this, Wang Ziming pointed out that Li Qiang wanted to kill people just to vent his anger and save face, and asked Li Qiang, did he love himself or his girlfriend?Such words made Li Qiang speechless for a while, and he also realized his mistake.

In fact, Li Qiang's reaction is understandable, any man will be furious when he encounters such a thing.At this time, people's thinking is no longer under the control of reason. How can they keep calm when their most cherished spouse is hurt?It is precisely because they are no longer calm that the person involved temporarily loses the ability to think and is prone to do stupid things.

Therefore, when a person in this state asks you to do things for him, you must not enter the irrational thinking dilemma like him.All you need to do is temporarily act as the other person's brain, think for him, and ask him neglected questions.After the other party calms down, he will think about things with normal thinking, and the problem will gradually be resolved.

(End of this chapter)